part IV
Introverted Kids at Play
Social dynamics are challenging for introverts. This section examines social dynamics and the introvert, including tips related to developing social skills and helping the child discover her unique place in the world.
Western culture often measures social success in terms of the number of friends you have, your ability to interact in social situations, and your ability to “sell” yourself in any given situation. For the introverted child, trying to live up to these ideas may be an act of futility. Parents often feel like a failure when their introverted child is unable to cope with the social pressures placed by a culture that negates the real needs of the introvert.
This section looks at social dynamics and the introverted child, examining the pressures to interact socially and the ways introverted children can connect without sacrificing their need for solitude. Development of strong social resiliency, as well as ways in which technology can enhance the introvert’s ability to connect are also examined. The section ends with advice for parents on assisting their children in embracing their strengths and thriving in an overwhelming world.
As we begin this section of the book, I want you to reflect on your feelings about social dynamics and the pressure to fit in. Take a couple of minutes to answer the questions on page 139 before you read the upcoming chapters.
Ideas About Social Dynamics and the Introvert
1. My introverted child does well socially in terms of … (complete the sentence).
2. My introverted child struggles socially in terms of … (complete the sentence).
3. My biggest concern for my introverted child socially is … (complete the sentence).
4. I wish my introverted child was more outgoing. True or False
❑ True ❑ False
5. My introverted child has a strong sense of self. True or False
❑ True ❑ False
6. If I answered “false” above, I think the biggest obstacle is … (complete the sentence).
Once you are finished, take a moment to reflect on your answers and consider the following questions: What is your biggest worry when it comes to your child and his or her social development? What is your child’s best strength in terms of social development? What is his or her biggest obstacle?