List of Exercises

Chapter 2. Practices of Somatic Intelligence

NEW CONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

2-1. Mini Breath Meditation

2-2. Affectionate Breathing

2-3. Focusing on the Soles of the Feet

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

2-4. Hugs

2-5. Energize Your Heart Center

2-6. Hand on Heart

2-7. Savor a Moment of Connection

Level 3. Too Much

2-8. Equanimity for Two

2-9. Join or Start a Support Group

RECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

2-10. Savor a Moment of Relief

2-11. Progressive Muscle Relaxation

2-12. Yoga — Child’s Pose

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

2-13. Friendly Body Scan

2-14. Forest Bathing

Level 3. Too Much

2-15. Skillful Distraction

2-16. Pendulation —Toggling between Tension and Ease

DECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

2-17. Belly Botany

2-18. Memories of a Soothing Natural Landscape

2-19. Creating a Safe Place

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

2-20. Soften, Soothe, Allow

2-21. Focusing

Level 3. Too Much

2-22. Taking Refuge

Chapter 3. Practices of Emotional Intelligence

NEW CONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

3-1. Attending

3-2. Attuning

3-3. Making Sense

3-4. Taking Action

3-5. Attuning to and Conveying Basic Emotions

3-6. Feeling Empathy for Fellow Human Beings

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

3-7. Sharing Kindness

3-8. Practicing Gratitude for the Web of Life

3-9. Awe Practice

3-10. Taking In the Good

Level 3. Too Much

3-11. Meeting Your Compassionate Friend

3-12. Priming the Flow of Compassion

RECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

3-13. Doing One Scary Thing a Day

3-14. Sure I Can!

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

3-15. Giving Yourself a Self-Compassion Break

3-16. Recovering from a Shame Attack

3-17. Cultivating Compassion with Equanimity

Level 3. Too Much

3-18. Rewiring a Negative Emotion through Movement

3-19. Power Posing

3-20. Creating a Wished-For Outcome

DECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

3-21. Resting in Well-Being

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

3-22. Holding Turbulent Emotions in the Equilibrium of Well-Being

Level 3. Too Much

3-23. Just Rest

Chapter 4. Practices of Relational Intelligence within Yourself

NEW CONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

4-1. Identifying Personal Traits of Resilience

4-2. Deep Listening to Core Strengths

4-3. Taking In the Good, Reprised

4-4. Working with Symbols of Traits of Resilience

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

4-5. Seeing the Goodness That Others See in You

4-6. Allowing Inner Parts to Be There

4-7. Finding a True Other to Your True Self

4-8. Expressing Loving-Kindness Even for Unlovable Parts

Level 3. Too Much

4-9. Meeting with the Inner Critic

RECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

4-10. Carrying Love and Appreciation in Your Wallet

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

4-11. Loving and Accepting Yourself, Even Though . . .

4-12. Turning Enemies into Allies

4-13. Sifting and Shifting Parts

Level 3. Too Much

4-14. Writing a Compassionate Letter to Retire the Inner Critic

DECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

4-15. Cultivating the Wiser Self

4-16. Befriending the Many Parts of Yourself

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

4-17. Singing Your Song Back to You

4-18. Imagining a Good Inner Parent

Level 3. Too Much

4-19. Dialogue between Your Wiser Self and Your Inner Child

4-20. Empowering Your Inner Child to Evoke Your Wiser Self

Chapter 5. Practices of Relational Intelligence with Others

NEW CONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

5-1. Deep Listening to Develop Resilience

5-2. Moments of Meeting

5-3. Monitoring the Rhythm of Resonance

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

5-4. Reaching Out for and Offering Help

5-5. Circle of Support

5-6. Communicating without Shame or Blame

Level 3. Too Much

5-7. Getting the Most out of a Relationship Workshop or Support Group

5-8. Compassionate Companion

RECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

5-9. Comfort with Closeness and Distance

5-10. Negotiating Change

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

5-11. Setting Limits and Boundaries

5-12. Repairing a Rupture

5-13. Us versus Them

Level 3. Too Much

5-14. Dismantling the Drama Triangle

DECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

5-15. Walk a Mile in Their Shoes

5-16. Just Like Me

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

5-17. Forgiveness

Level 3. Too Much

5-18. Honoring Shared Humanity

Chapter 6. Practices of Reflective Intelligence

NEW CONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

6-1. Steadying Awareness

6-2. Noticing Going Into and Out of Awareness

6-3. Tracking Shifts in Experience

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

6-4. Identifying Thought Processes That Derail Resilience

6-5. Climate Change

Level 3. Too Much

6-6. Checking In

6-7. What Story Am I Believing Now?

RECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

6-8. Creating Shifts

6-9. Recognizing Past Shifts

6-10. Change Every Should to Could

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

6-11. Changing ANTs to PATs

6-12. Rewiring Complete Thought Processes

6-13. Shifting Mindsets

Level 3. Too Much

6-14. Finding the Gift in the Mistake

6-15. Creating a Coherent Narrative

DECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

6-16. Letting Go of Thought Patterns

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

6-17. Letting Go of the Self — Breathing into Infinity

Level 3. Too Much

6-18. Letting Go of Control — Hanging On to Your Intentions

Chapter 7. Full-On Resilience

NEW CONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

7-1. Recipes for Integration

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

7-2. Expect the Unexpected

Level 3. Too Much

7-3. At Least I Can Still . . .

RECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

7-4. “What’s Right with This Wrong?”

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

7-5. Rewiring Regret about Lack of Resilience

Level 3. Too Much

7-6. Creating a Timeline of Resilience

DECONDITIONING

Level 1. Barely a Wobble

7-7. Morning (Mourning) Pages

Level 2. Glitches and Heartaches, Sorrows and Struggles

7-8. I’m Here; I’m Not Here

Level 3. Too Much

7-9. Nesting Dolls

Chapter 8. Caring for and Nourishing Your Amazing Brain

EXERCISE AND MOVEMENT

New Conditioning

8-1. Four-Minute Brain and Body Workout

8-2. Life Is a Gym: Exercising through Daily Activities

Reconditioning

8-3. Neuromovement

Deconditioning

8-4. Dancing Your Brain to Health

SLEEP AND REST

New Conditioning

8-5. How to Get Enough Good Sleep

Reconditioning

8-6. Give Your Brain a Mini-Break

Deconditioning

8-7. Deep, Deeper, Deepest Sleep

NUTRITION

New Conditioning

8-8. Choosing Healthy Foods for a Healthy Brain

Reconditioning

8-9. Choosing More Juice, Less Junk

Deconditioning

8-10. Savor a Raisin Meditation

LEARNING SOMETHING NEW

New Conditioning

8-11. Give Your Brain a Workout

Reconditioning

8-12. Unlearning

Deconditioning

8-13. Exercise Your Curiosity

LAUGHTER AND PLAY

New Conditioning

8-14. Relearning How to Play

Reconditioning

8-15. Savoring Joy, Even in Grief

Deconditioning

8-16. Future Fantasies

HANGING OUT WITH HEALTHY BRAINS

New Conditioning

8-17. Breaking the Ice

Reconditioning

8-18. Taking Stock of Healthy Social Connections

Deconditioning

8-19. Communities of Silence

DIGITAL VACATIONS

New Conditioning

8-20. Practice Your Practices

Reconditioning

8-21. Digital Detox

Deconditioning

8-22. Digital Vacation