Missions: Your Life’s Purpose
Missions are the soul’s way of giving each lifetime a focus. The purpose of any life can be discovered by investigating its missions.
—THE AUTHOR’S CAUSAL GUIDES
What is your purpose? The answer is simple: you’re here to live the life your soul intended. The secret, of course, is figuring out just exactly what it is your soul wants.
As you step through the Door to Achievement, you’ll discover that every one of us is on a mission. In fact, we’re on more than one. We all have a primary mission, and one or two secondary missions. This ensures that every single life, no matter how mundane, has a purpose.
So, where do these missions come from?
Again, they’re part of your life plan. Before you were born, your soul reviewed lessons learned and those still to be learned, and chose specific goals for this lifetime. Your missions are the “big lessons” it hopes to learn this time around.
Your missions are with you from the day you’re born. During that time, they’ll affect everything you do. Ken, whose primary mission—Exploration—we’ll explore later in the chapter, told me that when he was four his mother found him in the neighboring stockyard at the top of a five-story ladder. “I could have died a thousand times,” he said of his childhood. Without that particular mission, he’d never have taken such extreme risks.
By selecting different missions for each lifetime, your soul ensures that you get a well-rounded education. If you were planning to be an academic, you might choose a mission of Examination. If your soul saw the possibility of you running your own company, it might have selected a mission of Control.
Most of the planet was dragged into World War II by a Level 5 soul on a mission of Change. Like many messianic leaders, Adolf Hitler was a Spiritualist type (remember the risk of obsession?), and like almost everyone with this mission, he was driven to make the world a different place. (It probably goes without saying that he was completely caught up in the Illusion.)
His soul type imbued him with the ability to inspire. The mission of Control gave him the desire to remake the world according to his vision of how it should be. Together they created a monster.
Yet this combination is anything but rare. Many people have this soul type and mission, and don’t end up causing the death of millions. That’s because missions can be used for both selfish and altruistic reasons.
Hitler had a soul, just like everyone else, and no soul ever wants to take another human life. But Hitler, being so blinded by the Illusion, ignored his soul’s guidance. He could have used his power to make the world a better place. Instead, he chose to act from a place of aggression and self-interest.
You choose your missions for one simple reason: experience. That’s what motivates your soul. Missions are its way of achieving its goals.
• The mission of Change
• The mission of Exploration
• The mission of Examination
• The mission of Flow
• The mission of Control
• The mission of Connection
• The mission of Reliance
• The mission of Healing
• The mission of Avoidance
• The mission of Love
As you read through the descriptions of the ten missions, don’t just look to find yourself, but see if you can identify your family and friends, too. By figuring out everyone else’s missions, you’ll see where you are in relation to them—and that will help you better understand yourself. (Everything, as they say, is relative.)
Though we may each appear to be following many different paths at once, each of us has just one primary and one or two secondary missions. Your primary mission tends to be more outwardly focused and permanent, and your secondary mission, which is also one of the ten, tends to be more internal and may “float.”
The Mission of Change
Advantage: Improvement
Risk: Novelty
Change is one of the most outwardly focused missions. People with this mission can make indelible marks on the world. But it also has a strong internal aspect. It creates the need for continual forward movement. And it encourages you to look for ways to correct flaws, real or imagined. If you have a shelf full of self-help books, it’s a good indication that Change is your mission.
Eleanor is a Thinker type who sat down for our session and, quite typically, pulled out a notebook. What was not quite so “Thinkerly” was her body language. Some of my Thinker clients display their emotions with a level of abandonment most often associated with cigar-store Indians. Eleanor, however, expressed herself using superlatives accompanied by appropriate hand gestures.
What I was seeing was a Thinker type with a very strong Creator influence—a combination often found in those, like Albert Einstein, who combine linear thinking with the ability to make huge leaps of imagination.
I could tell immediately that she was a mathematician. And, seeing she had a mission of Change, I said, “I bet you want to leave the world a better place.”
Eleanor stopped writing. “I really do!” she said. “I think about it all the time.”
Being an older soul, and also having a Spiritualist influence, Eleanor is drawn to helping others. “In third grade I began tutoring other kids in math—I was done with my own work so quickly,” she said.
“So you chose a career in math pretty early?” I asked.
“Math chose me,” she said, “not vice-versa.”
Eleanor’s mission of Change has helped her spot a gap in the market for math primers. She plans to change the world by introducing a more creative and interesting way to teach math to children.
Since Eleanor’s mission also has an internal aspect to it, I said, “I expect you’ve bought quite a few self-help books in your time.”
She just laughed and said, “Oh yes.”
The advantage, improvement, is designed to prevent complacency. No matter what you achieve, you’ll never rest on your laurels for very long before the need for change will have you moving forward again.
Regardless of your soul type, if you’re on this mission you’ll run into a risk. It’s a thirst for novelty, or the “thrill of the new.” Whether it’s a business or a relationship, you might neglect the old in favor of what seems fresher or more interesting.
The Mission of Exploration
Advantage: Empiricism
Risk: Dissipation
A mission of Exploration is chosen to give your soul the maximum opportunity for having real-world experiences. In fact, some younger souls with this mission literally become explorers. The advantage is empiricism: learning about the world for yourself.
Regardless of the age of your soul, if this is your mission, life will never be dull. If you’re looking for tranquility, you may have to wait until next time.
On the downside, the risk, dissipation, means that without a clear focus you can end up seeking out new experiences without considering whether or not they’re useful to you. You often see it in the person who wants to do so many things that their energy becomes dissipated or watered down.
The Danger of Dissipation
As a guitar-obsessed high-school student with a mission of Exploration, Jonas won the prestigious Louis Armstrong Jazz Award, while also becoming an expert in martial arts, boxing, and baseball, and taking the number two spot in the state for wrestling.
In college, he won more major awards for his virtuoso soloing and played in orchestras, jazz bands, and musicals, and did a stint with the Tommy Dorsey band.
He’s been a session musician, a roofer, a composer, an arranger, a groundskeeper, a carpenter, a guitar teacher, a pool cleaner, and has even built laser/hologram machines.
And that’s the problem.
Like many people with a mission of Exploration, Jonas (a Level 10 Creator) has encountered the risk: dissipation. He’s meant to be a musician. It’s what his soul planned for him in this life. However, spreading himself too thinly has prevented him from fully capitalizing on his amazing talent.
With my Causal guides’ support, he’s working on becoming fully engaged in his life plan, which is to be a musician and performer.
Not many of my clients with a mission of Exploration still live where they were born. That’s because travel, even at an early age, is an urge few of them can resist.
Ken came to me with what he described as “hundreds of questions.” His biggest, however, was what to do with his retirement—something that was looming large on the horizon.
When I saw Ken had a mission of Exploration, I knew he wasn’t ready for a life of leisure. Then my spirit guides showed me Ken sitting in a pavement café in Siena, Italy.
“You’re going to travel,” I said, and I told him what I saw.
Ken was excited. It turned out this was exactly what he wanted to do—though he had to admit he was meeting some resistance. Only a few days before, a friend of his had raised all sorts of obstacles, such as what would happen if he got sick or even died while in another country.
“From what I can see, you’re far more likely to die climbing the campanile in Venice than in bed in the United States,” I said.
Ken smiled and leaned forward. “Then, as I told my friend, I’ll die happy,” he said.
My spirit guides gave these parting words: “Be happy, don’t worry, renew your passport.”
Ken laughed out loud. “They’re right,” he said, “My passport has expired!”
When I last spoke to him, Ken was completing arrangements for a six-month trip through Central America.
Early Signs of a Mission of Exploration
One of the first things my daughter learned to say was, “My do it by my own.” Like any child with a mission of Exploration, she wants to figure out things for herself.
On a transatlantic flight to the UK, I could see my little six-year-old Thinker type was struggling with the remote control for her video screen. I leaned over and tried to point out that she had it stuck on game mode. Quite typically, she held the remote as far away as possible from me and told me she had the situation well under control.
I pulled one side of her headphones away from her ear and said, “Sweetheart, why is it you never do a thing I tell you?”
In typical Thinker fashion, she thought for a second or two then said, quite unaware of the rhetorical nature of my question, “Because I can usually think of a better way to do it myself.”
Advantage: Understanding
Risk: Indecision
Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” This might be the motto of those whose mission is Examination.
Focused inwardly, it will inspire you to investigate your thoughts and actions to give your life meaning. Focused outwardly, it will give you a thirst for knowledge and a desire to make sense of the world. The advantage is understanding, which is why Examination is a popular mission with writers, academics, philosophers, and scientists.
Your soul type will affect how you express this, or any other mission. A Thinker type will examine the world intellectually; a Spiritualist type will come at it from a more emotional angle. A Creator type might choose to examine art, perhaps as an historian.
One side effect of this mission is that you may accumulate knowledge regardless of its use. The risk associated with Examination is what one of my clients termed analysis-paralysis: where options are weighed up to the point where no decision is made.
Lynn’s life has been dissected, examined, reexamined, and reassembled. She’s a typical Thinker on a mission of Examination. She continually analyzes herself and every aspect of her world. And when it comes to making decisions, she gets so wrapped up in the pros and cons she finds she can’t take action.
Toward the end of the session, she asked for help with a letter she was writing to her lawyer. She read it to me.
“It sounds fine,” I said. “What’s the problem?”
She thought the second paragraph sounded a little aggressive. I told her that perhaps it did, so she changed a few words and felt better about it.
Two days later, I got a call. She wanted to reread the letter to me. It hadn’t changed much since we’d last spoken. I suggested she should send it as it was. Unfortunately, by this time, the risk, indecision, had set in.
That weekend I got yet another call. Now she was convinced the wording was too casual. At this point, I should mention that the letter was not about a huge custody case or some other life-and-death matter. It was about her lawyer overcharging her fifty dollars or so on a bill from months before.
“Perhaps you should just send it?” I suggested.
She agreed.
The next time I spoke to Lynn, I asked her about the letter. She said she’d decided just to drop the whole matter.
The Mission of Flow
Advantage: Acceptance
Risk: Inertia
A mission of Flow lets you move smoothly through life. The purpose of its advantage, acceptance, is to help you learn to take life as it comes. Doors will open and opportunities will present themselves without great effort on your part. The secret is to recognize the opportunities when they come along.
This mission is almost always chosen to compensate for several consecutive lifetimes of struggle and hardship.
One of my clients, a recently retired scientist with a mission of Flow, conceded that she’s lived a “charmed life.” She sailed through school and college, was offered a job before she’d even finished her training, won promotion when she needed it, and never had any problems finding funding for projects she worked on. She felt that help from others had always been available.
There is an old story that you’ve probably heard before, but it illustrates the risk associated with this mission.
It’s about a man who gets caught up in a flood and climbs onto the roof of his house for safety. As the waters rise, he prays to God who promises to save him.
Soon, a rescue team in a boat arrives. “Jump in!” they shout.
The man refuses to get on board saying, “No thanks, God will save me.”
An hour later, as the waters threaten to engulf him, a helicopter hovers overhead and drops a rope. Once again, he refuses the offer of help. “No thanks, God will save me,” he shouts.
Minutes later, he drowns.
The next thing he knows, he’s standing at the Pearly Gates. He sees God and says, “What happened? I thought you were going to save me.”
And God replies, “I sent you a boat, I sent you a helicopter . . .”
The risk for anyone with this mission is inertia. They may fail to recognize opportunities when they present themselves, or let them pass by rather than taking action.
Children with a mission of Flow are often the ones we describe as easygoing or even passive. But what about those who are less open to submitting to the will of others?
The Mission of Control
Advantage: Authority
Risk: Intransigence
When a mission of Control is focused internally, it gives people the need to have a huge say in their destiny. They won’t want others making decisions on their behalf, or telling them what to do.
And when it’s focused outwardly, they have the need to run things. Being in charge comes from their soul, and gives them a natural air of authority. When they tell you something, you get the sense it’s coming from someone who knows what they’re talking about.
In some ways, they can appear like Leader types. The only thing that gives them away is their absence of the Leader’s characteristic charisma.
Laurel’s fifteen-year-old daughter, Kerry, has a mission of Control. I asked Laurel what raising a child like her had been like.
“Right from the beginning, she’s never taken no for an answer. When she was small, I had to sleep with her every night for a whole year. If I didn’t, she’d scream the house down.
“Sometimes if I won’t let her have her way, she’ll fly into a rage and get violent. One time, we had to stop her from throwing a brick through the car window.”
Running the Show
A person with a mission of Control differs from a Leader type in that theirs is a way of acting rather than a way of being. Having this mission allows all soul types the opportunity to take on positions of authority.
A Performer type with this mission will be every bit as good at running things as a Leader type. They’ll simply do it a little more flamboyantly.
Laurel is a Level 10 Creator type. As such, her “path of least resistance” approach causes her to concede arguments just to keep the peace. “For Kerry, it’s really important to be right. Even when I know I’m right, I’ll sometimes let things slide because I simply can’t convince her she’s wrong.”
Raising a child with this mission is always hard. Control may have been chosen by Kerry’s soul to help her run a corporation when she’s in her forties. However, getting to that point may be tough.
The mission of Control can be hard on Kerry, too. “She’s afraid to show any kind of vulnerability,” Laurel said. “She has to have A grades all the time. There is no pressure from me. I’ve told her it’s okay to get a B.”
Like a lot of people with this mission, Kerry likes routine. Controlling her environment is as important as controlling herself and those around her.
“She hates it when we change our car, and she got very upset when we didn’t take our regular annual trip to California,” Laurel said. “Kerry’s a pack rat. She still has the same little snuggle toy from when she was born. It looks like a threadbare blob, but she can’t let go of anything.”
There is one serious risk. In both children and adults, a mission of Control can lead to intransigence: a refusal to take the advice of others, or to consider changing a decision once it’s been made.
Some wit once said he felt honored to know his teenage son while he still knew everything. His son might well have been on this mission.
The Mission of Connection
Advantage: Intimacy
Risk: Identification
Touch is vitally important to human beings. The reason is that close physical contact allows intimacy (the advantage of the mission of Connection) between souls. It’s why babies need hugs, why massage is good for us, and one of the major reasons why, according to the Mayo Clinic, married couples live longer and are healthier and happier than singles.
For those with a mission of Connection, touch is as essential to their survival as oxygen. Without it, they can literally wither and die. From babies in orphanages to prisoners in solitary confinement, the people who will suffer most are the ones with this mission.
And here’s a statistic that may surprise you: over 80 percent of us have Connection as our primary mission.
It’s why so many of us need the company of others. Human beings are not meant to be alone. Without a mission of Connection, a person may be reasonably comfortable without a partner. But the majority of us are meant to be in intimate relationships, and we’ll suffer a kind of separation anxiety when we’re denied the comfort that comes from having another soul with whom we can share our lives.
Multiple Missions
Connection, being so common, actually transcends missions, but is considered one of the ten when it comes to describing a person’s purpose.
Someone with a mission of Connection will always have two secondary missions. Those who fall into the 20 percent who don’t have Connection as their primary mission will have only one.
Connection pushes you out into the world to make contact with people on a soul level. It will give you a natural ability to relate to others, and a desire for unity and harmony.
Nadia’s social calendar is full to the point where she can’t meet all the demands made on her.
“I’ve got people around me all the time, so why am I so lonely?” she asked me.
I said, “Because of your mission of Connection, your soul is crying out for intimacy. It wants close one-on-one contact with other souls. You’ve got genuine friends, but you’re too busy to nurture your relationships with them. And they feel undervalued because you have so little time for them.”
Nadia could see the problem immediately. “My last boyfriend left because he was fed up with having to make appointments to see me,” she said.
Much of the conflict in her life comes from a past-life-related fear of loneliness. To counter the fear, she surrounds herself with people.
Yet what she really needs to both overcome the fear and complete her mission is deeper friendships. Her soul is going to be a lot happier having a candlelit dinner for two, where intimacy can be reached, than making small talk in a crowded room.
Certain people with a mission of Connection, especially the more outgoing types like Performers, want to make sure those around them are connecting, too. If they see someone standing alone at a party, they’ll take it upon themselves to strike up a conversation or introduce them to someone else.
While we spoke, Nadia displayed the most common risk associated with this mission: overidentifying with other people’s suffering. As she told me about a friend’s struggles with the immigration authorities, tears trickled down her cheeks.
It’s important to remember that there is a difference between expressing empathy and feeling someone else’s pain to the point where it affects you as much or even more than it does them.
Advantage: Tranquility
Risk: Isolation
In total contrast to the mission of Connection is the mission of Avoidance. Alexandra is someone whose soul chose this after several very dramatic lifetimes. To put it simply, her soul needed a rest.
Like many people with a mission of Avoidance, Alexandra has a natural air of sophistication. Sitting in my office wearing a simple blouse and pants, she exuded the kind of elegance that wouldn’t seem out of place on the boulevards of Paris.
I’d met her a number of times before, but on this occasion she looked completely worn out. Several years before, she’d taken over a café. To begin with, she was excited and inspired, but after she split up with her husband, and he withdrew his support, the long hours and stresses of working seven days a week began to catch up with her. The initial enthusiasm had long ago worn off. Now all she wanted to do was sell the business and go traveling.
“You’ll find a buyer—a woman—but it may take some time,” I told her.
Alexandra looked deflated. “It’s gotten to the point where I really can’t face being behind the counter anymore.”
I wasn’t in the least surprised. With a mission of Avoidance, she was never meant to be out in the world this much. She agreed wholeheartedly.
I asked her if she’d always recognized her soul’s need for tranquility.
“Oh, yes,” she said. “After I left college, I traveled to Europe. I lasted a couple of months in London before I became overwhelmed by all the people and the noise. I escaped to a cabin by a lake in Norway. That was when I realized just how much I needed tranquility.
“For years after that, I’d go to a cabin on my own every six weeks. Sometimes I’d just pull down the shades and sleep for two or three days. And every time I came back, I’d be totally restored. I’d have to do it. If I didn’t, I’d get sick.”
It took Alexandra a long eighteen months to find a buyer (a woman), and when she told me the news she was like a different person. It would be another few weeks until the deal was completed, but her mind was firmly fixed on the future.
“What do you plan to do now,” I asked.
“Next stop is a hammock in Hawaii!” she said. “I plan to sleep for a week.”
Tranquility is the advantage in the case of a mission of Avoidance. Without it, someone like Alexandra can suffer terribly from continual overstimulation. The risk is that of isolation. When I told Alexandra that, she admitted there had been times when she’d felt like retreating to her cabin in the woods and never coming out again.
The Mission of Healing
Advantage: Recovery
Risk: Obligation
Healing is a common mission for those in the medical, caring, or teaching professions. Mother Teresa, a Level 10 Hunter type, had this mission, as did Florence Nightingale, a Level 6 Helper.
The goal of this mission is to learn about healing in the broadest sense. Outwardly, it’s achieved by making others better. Inwardly, it’s about healing trauma from this lifetime and ones in the past. The advantage is recovery: helping to return yourself or others to a normal or improved state.
In this lifetime, Anne, a Level 9 Spiritualist type, has chosen, as she has many times before, a mission of Healing.
I asked her if she’d always known her mission. “I knew in second grade that I wanted to be a doctor,” she said. “But it wasn’t until I had a seeing-the-light experience that I knew for sure. I was sixteen, and I was in the choir at midnight mass. I saw a warm, creamy white light come streaming through the stained-glass window. I don’t know how long it lasted, but I felt a message that my purpose was to heal, and when the light was gone, I had total clarity about my future.”
Yet it was only after author and psychic Judith Orloff described her as a “healer” that she began to see her purpose as broader than just being a doctor.
“I spoke to her after a lecture she gave,” Anne said. “I praised her for her writing, and said how important I thought it was for people to learn the importance of spirituality in medicine. She signed my copy of her book, but it wasn’t until I got home that I saw she’d written: ‘To Anne—a healer. Love, Judy.’
“The idea of being a healer scared me. I was trained as a scientifically minded surgeon, but that one word helped me face my own reality. It was a wake-up call. I realized I had to accept who I was. To own it; to use it.”
Anne’s empathy has always been one of her strongest talents. She describes her secret as, “Touch, talk, and listen.” As her career developed, she found that she had a way with cancer patients and those who were dying. “I’ve helped many patients, even babies, cross over. One of my elderly patients wouldn’t die until I was with her.”
Like many people with a mission of Healing, Anne has had to learn to deal with the risk, which is obligation, that causes many healers to feel they have a duty to help others. A few years ago, with my spirit guides’ encouragement, she cut back from a grueling six-day week to one that allows her more time to relax. Now she meditates twice a day, and does two to three hours every Sunday morning.
When I asked Anne if being in such a high-pressure career was an effort for her, she said, “I can’t not do it.”
And I believe that’s right. Anne is on a mission of Healing, and it would be impossible to imagine her doing anything else.
The Mission of Reliance
Advantage: Dependence
Risk: Obduracy
Simon is eleven years old. He was recently rushed to the hospital, where he lay unconscious in the intensive care unit for several days. The reason: a severe allergic reaction from a single bite of a cheese sandwich.
Simon was born with brain-bleed and his right temporal lobe missing. He’s also virtually blind, though his difficulty in communicating makes testing impossible. In his first few years of life, he had as many as forty seizures a day.
He was given a series of heavy-duty medications, which put a temporary stop to the seizures until, pretty soon, they began to lose their effect. His mother, Jennifer, told me what eventually happened.
“The medication robbed him of his personality. It made him really vicious, and on top of that, he’d be vomiting all the time,” she said. “And then he started having night terrors.
“One night he woke up screaming, and was literally climbing the wall. It was terrifying. He was like a wild animal. I had to peel his fingernails from the wall to get him down. At that point I was going crazy. I had a new baby and was totally sleep-deprived.
“I thought that if it kept up I’d strangle him. He was so disruptive, demanding, and miserable. Then I met someone who told me about food allergies, and how a change in diet had stopped the seizures in her son.”
Jennifer spent the next few weeks weaning Simon off his medications and experimenting with various foods. Within a month, the seizures and night terrors had stopped.
“I finally got the real Simon back,” Jennifer said. “Once he was off the medications and avoiding dairy and wheat, he was a different child.”
Then came the incident that ended up with Simon having convulsions when someone left a cheese sandwich within his reach. He was released from hospital a few days later, and Jennifer was pleased that for the first time no one had suggested putting him back on medication. “They don’t even try any more,” she said. “I’m informed and insistent. He used to be a zombie, but without the meds he’s finally learning to speak.”
Jennifer reminded me of something my spirit guides told her several years ago when we first spoke. They said that she and Simon had an agreement on a soul level. She was to help him learn important lessons in reliance, and he was helping her learn about love.
“When you told me that, I felt a surge go through me—a surge of remembrance. It was like I had a sudden consciousness of my purpose,” she said. “I decided that if this was my job, I’d embrace it. I found that Simon is like a reflection of my moods. The happier I am, the happier he is. He chose a mom who won’t drown in unhappiness. Understanding that has made it all much easier.”
I asked her what else she’d learned from being with Simon. “Staying present—without a doubt,” she said. “If you humor him or pretend to give him attention, he’ll wallop you. You can’t fool him!”
For anyone who can’t take care of themselves, the advantage connected with a mission of Reliance is dependence, where they allow others to care for them. The risk, obduracy, can be seen in those who desperately need help, but can’t let go of responsibility for themselves.
Next we’re going to explore the mission Jennifer chose to help her through this challenging lifetime.
The Mission of Love
Advantage: Compassion
Risk: Ingratiation
A mission of Love is about learning to become a compassionate human being. By continually colliding with issues related to love, people on this mission get the chance to discover the importance of love.
They exude warmth and friendliness. They’ll welcome you into their home, they’ll make sure you’re comfortable, and they’ll want to get to know you better.
Their need for love in their lives is a two-way street. They want to both give and receive. What their souls seem to be saying is, “I love you; please love me.”
The risk is that they may try too hard to be liked, by ingratiating themselves to others. Paradoxically, the harder they try, the more likely they are to push people away by appearing insecure, needy, or even insincere.
Theresa is on a mission of Love. “It’s something I feel all around me,” she said. “The problem is that because I’m so full of love, men often get the wrong idea. All through my life, I’ve had to deal with guys suddenly hitting on me.”
During the session, we talked about some of the mixed signals she was giving out. As a very open and friendly person, Theresa exudes an air of empathy. But she also has the ingratiation that commonly results from the desire to be accepted by others.
I helped Theresa choose a new lawyer to better deal with her child custody issues. She called me a week or two later. I asked how the new lawyer was working out. She giggled nervously and said, “It was fine until yesterday. I was sitting in his office when he started hitting on me. I didn’t know what to do.”
What is she doing to attract all this unwanted attention? The underlying issue is her need to be loved. Her lack of self-acceptance makes her feel she has to appear “extra nice” in order to be accepted.
Theresa agreed. “All my life I’ve struggled to accept myself. I’ve never felt confident about my weight or appearance. It’s only now that I’m finally coming to grips with who I am.”
By trying too hard, she is seen by men in particular as flirtatious. The cure is to learn to accept herself for who she is.
The advantage associated with a mission of Love is compassion. It’s a goal that may take many years and a great deal of effort to achieve, but the spiritual rewards are enormous.
Determine Your Mission
The following statements will help you to work out which of the ten missions you’re on. Remember, there are two. Your primary mission is usually the stronger and will affect others, while your secondary mission is usually less outwardly noticeable but will have a more personal impact. (And, don’t forget, if Connection is your primary mission, you’ll have two secondary missions, the second of which floats.)
Enter into a meditative state, and call in your spirit guides. Ask them to help you identify your missions. Use the following reminders of the advantages and risks to help you.
Change: The desire to move the world forward; the search for novelty
Exploration: The desire for first-hand knowledge; the urge to do everything
Examination: The need to understand how the world works; difficulty making decisions
Flow: The ability to accept life as it unfolds; the failure to grasp opportunities
Control: The desire to assert control or lead; reluctance to take advice
Connection: The desire for intimacy and deep relationships; overidentification with others
Avoidance: The desire for tranquility; the tendency to become insular
Healing: The desire to make yourself or others complete; becoming fixated on helping another person
Reliance: The need to depend on others; the refusal to accept help
Love: The need to give and receive love; the tendency to try too hard to be liked
Primary Mission:_____________________________________
Secondary Mission/s:_________________________________
Still in a meditative state, call in your spirit guides. Ask them to support you in embracing your missions. Repeat the following:
“I call upon my spirit guides, acting in my highest interest, to help me embrace my missions and allow me to live the life my soul intended.”
When you’ve finished, thank your spirit guides and tell them, “Session over.”
If you can identify and embrace your missions, you’ll take a giant leap along your soul’s evolutionary path. You’ll be rewarded for your efforts by the sense of contentment that comes from your Physical Plane self and your soul walking hand in hand into a more purposeful future.
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Now that you have your soul age, your soul type, and your missions, you have everything you need to live the life your soul intended.
Don’t you?
Not quite. At this point, you’ve gained an understanding about the nature of your soul and why it chose to be here. But that’s just one part of the picture.
As you continue on your journey, you’re about to pass through the Door to Recovery, into a region of the Soul World where you’ll discover how your soul’s past affects the life you’re living now.