Notes

Chapter 1: If You Like Fight Club, You’ll Love Marriage

1.  Brittany Wong, “We Asked Divorced People to Share the Fight That Ended Their Marriage,” Huffington Post, August 3, 2018, updated January 4, 2021, https://www.huffpost.com/entry/divorced-fight-that-ended-marriage_n_5b633831e4b0de86f49f15c5.

Chapter 2: A Full Heart Won’t Fill an Empty Bank Account

1.  Elizabeth Cole, “Money Ruining Marriages in America: A Ramsey Solutions Study,” Ramsey, February 6, 2018, https://www.ramseysolutions.com/company/newsroom/releases/money-ruining-marriages-in-america.

Chapter 4: Great Sexpectations

1.  Mike Birbiglia, Spotify, track 7 “Sex, Tennis, and Pandas,” Two Drink Mike, 2006.

2.  Stephen Waldron, “Couples Who Have Sex Weekly Are Happiest,” Society for Personality and Social Psychology, November 17, 2015, https://www.spsp.org/news-center/press-releases/sex-frequency-study.

Chapter 6: Marriage Is About Balance, but Sometimes It Gives You Vertigo

1.  Lea Rose Emery, “7 Tips for Creating a Balanced Relationship with Your Partner,” Bustle, April 25, 2018, https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-create-a-balanced-relationship-with-your-partner-8882248.

2.  Wendy Klein, Carolina Izquierdo, and Thomas N. Bradbury, “The Difference Between a Happy Marriage and Miserable One: Chores,” Atlantic, March 1, 2013, https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/03/the-difference-between-a-happy-marriage-and-miserable-one-chores/273615/.

3.  Garson O’Toole, “Youth Is Wasted on the Young,” Quote Investigator, last updated February 6, 2019, https://quoteinvestigator.com/2015/09/07/young/.

Chapter 7: Our “Footprints in the Sand” Are on Different Beaches

1.  Richard Asa, “Religion and Relationships: Changing the Tenor of Your Faith Can Take a Toll,” Chicago Tribune, March 17, 2015, https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-fam-0324-faith-changing-relationship-20150317-story.html.

Chapter 8: We’re Both Fat, but Only One of Us Is Pregnant

1.  Robert G. Wood, Brian Goesling, and Sarah Avellar, “The Effects of Marriage on Health: A Synthesis of Recent Research Evidence,” Office of the Assistant Secretary for Planning and Evaluation, June 30, 2007, https://aspe.hhs.gov/reports/effects-marriage-health-synthesis-recent-research-evidence-research-brief.

Chapter 9: The Baby Is Two Days Old. Is It Time to Schedule the Vasectomy?

1.  Sarah Szczypinksi, “The ‘Happiness Gap’: What Having Kids Really Does to Your Marriage,” Today.com, June 27, 2017, https://www.today.com/parents/does-having-children-destroy-happy-marriage-t113028.

2.  Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray (SDE Classics, 2019), 57.

Chapter 10: Kids Are Always at “the Hardest Age”

1.  Elizabeth Scott, “Coping with the Stress Children Add to a Marriage,” VeryWellMind, updated March 8, 2021, https://www.verywellmind.com/coping-with-stress-that-children-add-to-marriage-4121318.

2.  Elyssa Kirkham, “A Breakdown of the Cost of Raising a Child,” Plutus Foundation, February 2, 2021, https://plutusfoundation.org/2021/a-breakdown-of-the-cost-of-raising-a-child/.

3.  Joseph Nolan, “How Anger Will Unravel Your Relationship,” The Healthy Marriage, February 28, 2020, https://thehealthymarriage.org/how-anger-will-unravel-your-relationship/.

Chapter 11: Love the One(s) You’re With

1.  Lumineers, “Ophelia,” by Wesley Schultz and Jeremy Fraitese, in Cleopatra, Dualtone Records, 2016, album.