3-D Why-Finder Questions, 223, 227
A
action
action habits, 249
employment and, 254
finances and, 254
“Kristen” 250
leadership and, 250
relationships and, 254
“should do” thoughts and, 248
simplifying, 252
summary, 275
weight loss and, 247
Adrian, Nathan, 33
Affleck, Ben, 56
Albert, David, 83
Anatomy of an Illness (Norman Cousins), 191
Angelou, Maya, 256
“Angie,” 133
anxiety
exams and, 155
exercise and, 149
visualization and, 39
approach goals, 114
The Art of Choosing (Sheena Iyengar), 96
The Atlantic magazine, 76
atrial natriuretic peptide (ANP), 149
auditory cortex, yarn and, 71
Augustine (saint), 80
avoidance goals, 114
B
Bankhead, Tallulah, 263
Beck, Julie, 76
Before the Law (Franz Kafka), 251
behavioral-activation (BA) therapy, 251
Binet, Alfred, 238
blindsight, 45
body language
brain and, 135
embodied cognition, 135
employment and, 141
finances and, 141
head-nodding/head-shaking, 136
health and, 141
mirroring, 139
posture and, 136
relationships and, 141
slumping, 134
summary, 273
Bowman, Bob, 34
Braid, James, 58
brain
action and, 249
amygdala, 45
atrial natriuretic peptide (ANP) and, 149
body language and, 136
brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), 148
communication and, 225
dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, 28
emotions and, 127
energy and, 147
fixed mindset and, 239
free radicals and, 148
gamma-aminobutryic acid (GABA) and, 149
growth mindset and, 239
human growth hormone (HGH) and, 149
hypnosis and, 57
insula, 135
judgment and, 124
kinesthesia and, 135
learning and, 160
loneliness and, 174
mirror neurons, 139
negativity bias, 107
pattern recognition, 239
play and, 197
schizophrenia, 98
socialization and, 174
split-brain individuals, 225, 226
stress and, 210
vagus nerve, 128
visual cortex, 38, 45, 47, 49, 71
Brain Rules series (John Medina), 48
Brody, Jane E., 52
Brown, Jonathon D., 70
Brunza, Jay, 56
Bryant, Andy, 60
C
Canfield, Jack, 9, 20, 39, 251, 267
capitalization, 111
“Celia,” 207
Chesterton, G. K., 201
choice
choice overload, 95
employment and, 99
importance of, 94
perspective and, 98
relationships and, 100
summary, 272
Chopra, Deepak, 83
Cialdini, Robert, 252
Cohen, Sheldon, 177
comics
action, 255
choice, 101
conclusion, 269
dreams, 31
exercise, 153
gender, 217
hypnosis, 63
images, 51
judgment, 131
kinesthesia, 143
laughter, 193
play, 203
positivity, 117
quantum physics, 91
reaching out, 181
self-forgiveness, 265
sleep, 167
talent, 245
visualization, 41
why, 233
yarn, 79
The Committee of Sleep (Dierdre Barrett), 27
communication
brain and, 225
gender and, 211
sex and, 214
compliments, positivity and, 113
conscious self
choice, 93
positivity, 103
quantum physics, 81
yarn, 67
Cousins, Norman, 191
D
Dahl, Nikolai, 56
Damasio, Antonio, 72, 126, 127
Damon, Matt, 56
Danner, Deborah D., 76
Darwin, Charles, 135
defensive pessimism, 115
DeGeneres, Ellen, 56
depression
exercise and, 149
gender and, 215
lawyers and, 109
loneliness and, 174
play and, 199
self-delusion and, 70
Descartes’ Error (Antonio Damasio), 127
Descartes, René, 119
Dinges, David, 158
DNA
free radicals and, 148
social integration and, 177
Doidge, Norman, 14
Dostoyevsky, Fyodor, 182
dreams
creativity and, 26
directing, 29
dorsolateral prefrontal cortex and, 28
employment and, 29
finances and, 30
health and, 29
relationships and, 30
suggestions for, 29
summary, 271
vision and, 49
Duchenne, Guillaume, 126
Dweck, Carol, 236, 238, 239, 240, 241, 242
E
Eckhart, Aaron, 56
education
gender and, 211
play and, 198
embodied cognition, 135
embodied self
exercise, 145
judgment, 121
kinesthesia, 133
sleep, 155
Emerson, Ralph Waldo, 234
emotional contagion, 45
employment
action and, 254
choice and, 99
dreams and, 29
exercise and, 151
images and, 49
judgment and, 129
kinesthesia and, 141
positivity and, 115
quantum physics and, 90
reaching out and, 176, 177, 179
self-forgiveness and, 264
sleep and, 165
talent and, 243
visualization and, 39
why and, 231
yarn and, 77
Erickson, Milton, 59
Ericsson, K. Anders, 237
error positivity, 239
exercise. See also health.
atrial natriuretic peptide (ANP) and, 149
brain and, 147
depression and, 149
employment and, 151
finances and, 152
gamma-aminobutryic acid (GABA) and, 149
human growth hormone (HGH) and, 149
motivation for, 151
regenerative effects of, 146
relationships and, 151
sleep and, 165
stress and, 149
summary, 273
F
Fey, Tina, 246
fight-or-flight reaction, 209
finances
action and, 254
animal spirits, 122
dreams and, 30
exercise and, 152
gender and, 216
growth mindset and, 243
“hedonistic treadmill,” 77
hypnosis and, 61
images and, 50
judgment and, 130
kinesthesia and, 141
laughter and, 192
loneliness and, 173
luck and, 90
play and, 202
positivity and, 116
reaching out and, 180
self-forgiveness and, 264
sleep and, 165
visualization and, 40
why and, 231
yarn and, 77
Fitzgerald, F. Scott, 83
food, sleep and, 164
Franklin, Benjamin, 58
free radicals, 148
G
Gable, Shelly, 111
gamma-aminobutryic acid (GABA), 149
Gazzaniga, Michael, 226
gender
“Celia,” 207
communication styles, 211, 216
depression and, 215
education and, 211
fight-or-flight reaction and, 209
finances and, 216
health and, 215
sex and, 214
summary, 274
Glamour magazine, 163
Glenn, Phillip, 187
Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 73
Gottschall, Jonathan, 73
Gould, Glenn, 38
growth mindset, 236, 238, 241, 242
H
Handbook of Personality and Social Psychology (2015), 76
health. See also exercise.
choice and, 99
dreams and, 29
gender and, 215
hypnosis and, 55
images and, 50
judgment and, 129
kinesthesia and, 141
laughter and, 191
play and, 201
positivity and, 115
posture, 136
practices for good health, 243
reaching out and, 179
relationships and, 179
self-forgiveness and, 264
sleep and, 161
smiling and, 141
visualization and, 39
why and, 231
yarn and, 77
Heath, Chip, 74
Heath, Dan, 74
Heller, Robert, 120
Hemingway, Ernest, 240
Herman, C. Peter, 260
Huffington, Arianna, 154
human growth hormone (HGH), 149
hypnosis
celebrities and, 56
finances and, 61
history of, 58
“Kathy,” 55
low-hypnotizables, 54
name origin, 59
self-hypnosis, 61
social interaction and, 61
summary, 271
surgery and, 60
suspicion of, 57
I
Iacoboni, Marco, 139
images
blindsight, 45
blind spot, 48
emotional contagion and, 45
employment and, 49
extrapolation of, 49
finances and, 50
health and, 50
loved ones, 50
optic nerve and, 45
picture superiority effect (PSE), 48
relationships and, 50
sensory interaction with, 47
sleep and, 50
summary, 271
value of appearance, 50
Influence (Robert Cialdini), 252
insomnia, 54
IQ, 238
Iyengar, Sheena, 95
J
Jaws (film), 73
judgment
brain and, 124
emotional influence on, 127
employment and, 129
finances and, 130
health and, 129
summary, 272
visualization and, 123
K
Kafka, Franz, 251
“Kathy,” 53
Kekulé, Friedrich August, 26
Keller, Helen, 102
“Kevin,” 171, 173, 175, 177, 179
kinesthesia
brain and, 135
embodied cognition, 135
employment and, 141
finances and, 141
head-nodding/head-shaking, 136
health and, 141
mirroring, 139
posture and, 136
relationships and, 141
slumping, 134
summary, 273
Kovacs, Jenny Stamos, 163
“Kristen,” 250
L
Lang, Elvira, 60
Lao-Tzu, 266
“Larry,” 15, 16, 18, 20, 195, 198, 200
laughter
contagion, 189
finances and, 192
gender and, 189
health and, 191
punctuation effect, 186
relationships and, 192
social interaction and, 186
subconscious and, 186
summary, 274
triggers for, 185
Laughter: A Scientific Investigation (Robert Provine), 185, 189
Laughter in Interaction (Phillip Glenn), 187
law of attraction, 82, 89, 274
Lean In (Sheryl Sandberg), 208
learned helplessness, 108
Lepper, Mark, 96
Loewi, Otto, 26
logotherapy, 228
loneliness
brain and, 174
mindset and, 173
negative input and, 174
pain of, 174
summary, 273
Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection (John Cacioppo), 173
“Lose Weight While You Sleep” (Jenny Stamos Kovacs), 163
luck, 87
“Lynn,” 17, 222, 227, 228, 230
M
Made to Stick (Chip Heath and Dan Heath), 74
Manczak, Erika, 76
Man’s Search for Meaning (Viktor Frankl), 228
McAdams, Dan, 76
McBride, Kevin, 56
McGonigal, Kelly, 259
McGurk effect, 48
McGurk, Harry, 47
Medina, John, 48
Mendeleyev, Dmitry, 26
Mesmer, Franz Anton, 58
Miller’s Law, 17
Mindfulness (Ellen Langer), 224
Mindset (Carol Dweck), 240
“Miriam,” 67
mirroring, 139
Mirroring People (Marco Iacoboni), 139
Mlodinow, Leonard, 83
N
negative thoughts
action and, 86
believing, 86
brain and, 85
dwelling on, 86
employment and, 90
monitor, 85
operator, 85
self-criticism, 90
sleep and, 164
summary, 272
unsolicited advice and, 86
usefulness of, 86
visualization of, 86
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), 59, 139
Nicklaus, Jack, 28
Nietzsche, Friedrich, 228
Nin, Anaïs, 42
No Limits (Michael Phelps), 34
Norem, Julie, 115
O
onward why, 227
optic nerve, 45
optimism. See positivity.
“organize-by-five” rule, 17
overeating, visualization and, 39
P
Panksepp, Jaak, 198
Patient Sedation Without Medication (Elvira Lang), 60
picture superiority effect (PSE), 48
play
active participation, 200
bonding chemicals and, 197
brain and, 197
depression and, 199
education and, 198
finances and, 202
health and, 201
spontaneity and, 200
summary, 274
Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul (Stuart Brown), 197
Polivy, Janet, 260
Popular Science magazine, 83
positivity
approach goals, 114
avoidance goals, 114
capitalization, 111
compliments and, 113
defensive pessimism, 115
employment and, 115
evolution and, 107
finances and, 116
health and, 115
learned helplessness, 108
practicing, 107
“Roberta,” 103, 107, 108, 109, 112
summary, 272
positron-emission tomography (PET) scans, 27, 28
posture, 136
Presence (Amy Cuddy), 136
Prime-your-mind Quiz
action, 247
choice, 93
dreams, 25
exercise, 145
gender, 205
hypnosis, 53
images, 43
judgment, 121
kinesthesia, 133
laughter, 183
play, 195
positivity, 103
quantum physics, 81
reaching out, 171
self-forgiveness, 257
sleep, 155
talent, 235
visualization, 33
why, 221
yarn, 67
problem-solving
sleep and, 159
Provine, Robert R., 185, 189, 190
punctuation effect, 186
Q
quantum physics
employment and, 90
luck, 87
self-criticism, 90
suppression of negative thoughts, 81, 82, 85
quiz answers
action, 254
choice, 100
dreams, 30
exercise, 152
gender, 216
hypnosis, 62
images, 50
judgment, 130
kinesthesia, 142
laughter, 192
play, 202
positivity, 116
quantum physics, 90
reaching out, 180
self-forgiveness, 264
sleep, 166
talent, 244
visualization, 40
why, 232
yarn, 78
R
Rachmaninoff, Sergey Vasilyevich, 56
Ramachandran, V. S., 32
Ramanujan, Srinivasa, 26
Randall, Lisa, 83
reaching out
DNA and, 177
family and, 177
finances and, 180
group activities, 177
health and, 179
“Kevin,” 171, 173, 175, 177, 179
positive input from, 174
relationships and, 180
social integration, 176
summary, 273
Recollections (Sergey Vasilyevich Rachmaninoff), 56
relationships
action and, 254
capitalization, 111
choice and, 100
communication and, 216
dreams and, 30
exercise and, 151
friendships and, 179
growth mindset, 243
health and, 179
images and, 50
kinesthesia and, 141
reaching out and, 180
self-forgiveness and, 264
sleep and, 165
smiling and, 141
visualization and, 40
why and, 231
wide range of, 176
yarn and, 77
Restak, Richard, 170
“Roberta,” 103, 107, 108, 109, 112
S
Sandberg, Sheryl, 208
schizophrenia, 98
Scientific American, 61
Self Comes to Mind (Antonio Damasio), 72
self-delusions
schizophrenia and, 98
sleep and, 158
yarn and, 70
self-forgiveness
employment and, 264
finances and, 264
health and, 264
relationships and, 264
summary, 275
weight loss and, 263
“what-the-hell” effect, 257, 259, 260
self-hypnosis, 61
Seligman, Martin, 108, 109, 110
sex
communication and, 214
gender and, 214
hypnosis and, 60
“should do” thoughts, 248
sleep
alarms and, 165
alcohol and, 163
breathing exercises for, 164
caffeine and, 163
electronics and, 164
employment and, 165
environment and, 164
exercise and, 165
finances and, 165
food and, 164
genetic activity and, 165
glucose and, 158
health and, 161
memory and, 159
necessity of, 161
negative thoughts and, 164
problem-solving and, 159
relationships and, 165
relaxation and, 164
self-delusion and, 158
self-hypnosis and, 163
summary, 273
timing of, 163
toxicity and, 160
smiling
health and, 141
relationships and, 141
smoking, 56
socialization
DNA and, 177
family and, 177
finances and, 180
group activities, 177
health and, 179
“Kevin,” 171, 173, 175, 177, 179
positive input from, 174
relationships and, 180
social integration, 176
social neuroscience, 172
summary, 273
social self
gender, 205
laughter, 183
play, 195
reaching out, 171
somnambulists, 54
The Sorrows of Young Werther (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe), 73
Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain (John Ratey), 147
Spielberg, Steven, 73
storytelling
biological function of, 69
career and, 77
cause-and-effect resolution, 72
character, 72
conflict, 72
delusions and, 70
finances and, 77
health and, 77
personality and, 76
relationships and, 77
summary, 271
The Storytelling Animal (Jonathan Gottschall), 73
Stowe, Harriet Beecher, 73
stress
exercise and, 149
fight-or-flight reaction, 209
maternal instinct and, 210
psoriasis and, 208
striving self
self-forgiveness, 257
talent, 235
why, 221
subconscious self
dreams, 25
images, 43
kinesthesia and, 134
laughter and, 186
visualization, 33
The Success Principles (Jack Canfield), 20
Szasz, Thomas, 66
T
talent
employment and, 243
praise and, 241
summary, 275
Taylor, Shelley E., 70, 209, 210
Temple of Apollo (Delphi), 16
The Tending Instinct (Shelley E. Taylor), 209
The Brain That Changes Itself (Norman Doidge), 14
U
Uncle Tom’s Cabin (Harriet Beecher Stowe), 73
upward why, 227
V
vagus nerve, 128
visual cortex
blind spot, 49
brain and, 47
images and, 45
visualization and, 38
yarn and, 71
visualization
anxiety and, 39
Basic Drill, 36
effectiveness of, 34
employment and, 39
fantasizing compared to, 35
finances and, 40
focus and, 35
health and, 39
image inspiration, 37
judgment and, 123
negative visualization, 38, 86
overeating and, 39
physical practice and, 34
relationships and, 40
summary, 271
visual cortex and, 38
W
War of the Worldviews: Where Science and Spirituality Meet—and Do Not (Leonard Mlodinow and Deepak Chopra), 83
Wegner, Daniel, 85
weight loss
action and, 247
action habits, 249
comfort zones and, 247
frustration with, 221
self-forgiveness and, 263
Werther Fever, 73
What the #$*! Do We Know? (film), 82, 83
“what-the-hell” effect, 257, 259, 260
Whitman, Charles, 199
why
3-D Why-Finder Questions, 223, 227
choice and, 224
employment and, 231
finances and, 231
health and, 231
meaning, importance of, 224
motivation and, 221
onward why, 227
relationships and, 231
summary, 275
upward why, 227
The Willpower Instinct (Kelly McGonigal), 259
Wilson, Timothy D., 224
Wiseman, Richard, 88
Woods, Tiger, 56
Y
yarn
biological function of, 69
career and, 77
cause-and-effect resolution, 72
character, 72
conflict, 72
delusions and, 70
finances and, 77
health and, 77
personality and, 76
relationships and, 77
summary, 271
You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (Deborah Tannen), 211