february 13, 1980

twenty-one years of my life you have been

the lost color in my eye. my secret blindness,

all my seeings turned gray with your going.

mother, i have worn your name like a shield.

it has torn but protected me all these years,

now even your absence comes of age.

i put on a dress called woman for this day

but i am not grown away from you

whatever i say.