Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why

Is this the way love is supposed to feel?

• Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?

• Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?

• Is he extremely jealous and possessive?

• Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?

• Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?

• Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?

• Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?

• Do you find yourself “walking on eggs” and apologizing all the time?

If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist — a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.

In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man’s destructive pattern and the part you play in it.

She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.

BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Susan Forward's Toxic Parents.

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From Library Journal

Forward is a therapist, author, and talk-show host whose specialty is abusive relationships. This book grew out of her realization that her own marriage as well as those of many of her clients followed a pattern. Many men need to control their relationships completely and consequently are mentally (if not physically) abusive. They denigrate their partners, resent them if they have any outside interests, and become furious for trivial reasons. Women with low self-esteem are drawn to these men because they can also be charming and devoted. Forward devotes the first half of the book to an analysis of the problem, the second half to breaking the pattern and getting outside help. No bibliography, but competent and interesting, and sure to be popular. Recommended for public libraries. Margaret B. Allen, M.L.S., West Lebanon,

Copyright 1986 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Review

“Very important and much needed ... This how-to book could be a lifesaver.”

— Abigail Van Buren, “Dear Abby”

“A must read for any woman who has ever been in a destructive relationship.”

— Sonya Friedman, Ph.D., author of On a Clear Day You Can See Yourself

“Required reading for women who are in relationships with angry, intimidating, and controlling men.”

— Howard Halpern, Ph.D., author of How to Break Your Addiction to a Person

Bantam Books by Susan Forward:

**Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them:

When Loving Hurts and You Don’t Know Why

Obsessive Love:

When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go

Toxic Parents:

Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

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