Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head · The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies

Based on the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies, and drawing on the

author’s twenty-five years of clinical practice, this “anatomy of secret

desire” does for sexual fantasy what Kinsey did for sexual behavior. However,

unlike Kinsey’s books, which were almost unreadably dense and data-driven,

_Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head?_ features narrative accounts of sexual

fantasies and the author’s own insightful interpretations of how those

fantasies affect our lives. Kahr reveals the astonishing truth behind secrecy,

shame and taboo, and demonstrates how sex fantasies exert a more powerful

influence on our emotions, behavior, and relationships than we ever imagined.

Kahr’s insights are liberating. He tells us the story of Margaret, who, in

mining early sexual abuse for arousing and satisfying sexual fantasies:

“succeeded brilliantly in turning a childhood trauma into an adult triumph.”

He explains how he helped a young man who couldn’t get turned on by his

beautiful girlfriend but only by dominatrix-themed porn, and how numerous men

and women used fantasy to become more intimate with their partners-or to be

unfaithful or even cruel to them instead. Ultimately, by unmasking the myths

and destroying the guilt and ignorance surrounding sexual fantasy, Kahr offers

readers a chance to lead richer and less conflicted lives.