How Mediumship Works
Before we delve into the nuts and bolts of developing mediumship, let us define what a medium is. The NSAC Spiritualist Manual defines a medium as a person “whose organism is sensitive to the vibrations from the spirit world and through whose instrumentality, the people in the spirit world are able to convey messages and produce the phenomena of Spiritualism.”1
I love this definition, because it makes it clear that for spirit communication to occur, three components must be in place: (1) a person in the spirit world with a desire to communicate; (2) a person in the physical realm who desires to hear from his or her deceased loved ones (I’ll call this person the sitter or the recipient); and (3) a person called a medium who is able to facilitate contact between earth and heaven. In other words, mediumship is always cooperation among medium, sitter, and spirit world. If one of these components is missing, there will be no spirit communication.
The ability to connect with the people in the spirit world distinguishes a medium from a psychic. All mediums are psychic, but not all psychics are mediums. Mediums connect with the spirit world through mental mediumship, a phenomenon where the medium holds a live conversation with the spirit people. Mediums receive pertinent and uniquely identifying information about the spirit communicator through the spiritual senses (chapter 5, “The Spiritual Senses” ). They do not use tools such as Ouija boards, runes, crystal balls, or tarot cards to facilitate dialogue with the spirit people. Psychics, on the other hand, often use tools to access general information regarding the life of their sitter.
The purpose of mediumship is to bring evidence of the survival of consciousness beyond the change called death, and to thus bring healing and comfort to the bereaved. Mediums provide this evidence when they supply detailed insight and information about the spirit communicator that only the spirit person and his loved ones on earth would know (chapter 11, “Evidence and Spirit Messages”). And of course, once people realize that physical death is not the end of existence, they begin to live more consciously, and their awareness shifts from matters like the daily rat race and competition for material goods to what really matters in life.
Spirit Communication Is Said to Be Like Radio
Radio waves are invisible, electromagnetic waves that travel at the speed of light through space over great distances. Mediums, like radio receivers, pick up the unseen vibrations from the invisible spirit world that surrounds us. Just as you have to turn the dial of your radio for optimum reception of your favorite station, mediums have to shift their awareness from their ordinary consciousness and concentrate on receiving information from the spirit world.
Radio wave frequencies are categorized as short-, medium-, and long-range. Mediums, based on how developed their gift is, also have a certain range of spirit communicators with whom they are able to connect. Mediums can only communicate with spirit people who are “broadcasting” at an energy frequency that the medium can receive. That explains why no medium, no matter how gifted, can connect with all the spirit people.
Also, keep in mind that radio waves cannot penetrate very dense matter and thus can be blocked. The same is true for spirit communication. The spirit people are unable to broadcast through dense matter such as negativity, fear, doubt, and heavy emotions. Mediums can be blocked from connecting with the spirit world when they hold certain fears, attitudes, anger, or negativity.
As a beginning medium, you will have a much narrower range of reception than those who have been sitting in development circles for a number of years. You might count yourself lucky if you are able to give a couple pieces of information about your spirit contact. Often, though, you might find that you cannot perceive the spirit people with great precision. And after delivering a short message, your energy is probably spent, and you are done for that session. This is because it takes great concentration and focus to hold a connection with the spirit people.
Expanding Your Range
With time and experience, you will be able to communicate across a wide range of the spirit realm. Mediumship is very much like a muscle that gradually builds and gets stronger. Physical muscles are fueled by the food we eat. Your mediumship, on the other hand, is fueled and nourished through spiritual practices, including prayer, meditation, and correct application of the natural laws that govern spirit communication.
The Foundation of Mediumship Is Natural Law
It is important to realize that even though the spirit world is all around us, the spirit people, too, struggle in their attempts to communicate with a medium. The following passage, attributed to psychical researcher Frederic W.H. Myers, illustrates his difficulties as he attempted to convey information from the spirit world to three gifted mediums on different continents:
“I am trying amid unspeakable difficulties. It is impossible for me to know how much of what I send reaches you. I feel as if I had presented my credentials—reiterating the proofs of my identity in a wearisomely repetitive manner. The nearest simile I can find to express the difficulty of sending a message [from the spirit world] is that I appear to be standing behind a sheet of frosted glass, which blurs sight and deadens sound, dictating feebly to a reluctant and somewhat obtuse secretary. A feeling of terrible impotence burdens me.”2
When you first apply for a learner’s permit, the Department of Motor Vehicles makes sure that you know the traffic laws so that you and others will travel as safely as possible as you venture onto the roads of your neighborhood. Likewise, before venturing further into your ability to communicate with the spirit world, it is important that you understand the natural laws of mediumship. Application of these laws will help you create favorable conditions that keep you safe, nurture your gifts, and allow the spirit people to transmit pertinent information efficiently.
Following the description of most of the natural laws is a practice to help you apply it to your mediumship practice. As the word “practice” implies, I encourage you to incorporate these methods into your daily life so they become second nature. You might like some practices more than others, but I encourage you to work with them several times a week for at least three or four months. Record the results of each practice in your journal.
Occasionally, if you feel stuck in your development, or if for some reason your enjoyment of your gift has gone stale, review the laws of mediumship. Often you will find that you have forgotten to honor one of the natural laws. As soon as you start to apply them in your life, your mediumship will flow again.
The Law of Conservation of Energy
This law explains that the total energy of a system is constant, even though the system itself experiences internal changes. Water, for example, can assume liquid, frozen, and vapor states. With regard to mediumship, this law explains the continuity of life beyond physical death.
When a person dies, the physical body decomposes and its minerals return to the soil. The spiritual aspect that had inhabited the physical body and loved jazz, chocolate croissants, and T.S. Eliot returns to the spirit world. In other words, the spark of life that animated the physical body is neither lost nor destroyed—and it does not forget its personal identity or life experience.
This is important, because in life you are a spirit, just as are the people in the spirit world. The only difference between you and them is the fact that your spirit is currently cloaked in a physical body. But you are not your body. You are spirit. As spirit you can access the spirit realms, though chances are that no one has ever told you that.
The Law of Vibration
Communication between people on earth and the people in the spirit world functions through the Law of Vibration: everything in the universe exists in varying degrees of vibration or motion. The physical realm, by its dense and solid nature, is characterized by a lower-energy frequency, called “vibration,” than the spirit world. When the spirit people want to communicate through a medium, they have to lower their energy. The spirit people accomplish this by thinking about life on earth. As a medium, on the other hand, you have to raise your energy so that you can peek through the proverbial veil that separates the two worlds. You basically have to create a lighthearted, joyful, positive spiritual atmosphere inside yourself that helps you transcend the boundaries of the physical realm. It is easier to connect with the spirit world when your life is stable and when you feel good about yourself, because it places you in a naturally higher vibration.
Occasionally, I have met people who want to develop mediumship primarily because they are desperate to stay in touch with a close loved one who has recently died. Although their urgency is understandable, I sometimes have to tell them to wait awhile before attempting to learn mediumship. When you are recently bereaved and heartbroken, you are often sad, even depressed. Such emotions create what I describe as a kind of energetic fog that makes it virtually impossible for a person in this state to connect with the spirit world. A third-party medium, though, would have no problem connecting with your spirit loved ones on your behalf until you are in a more energetically balanced state.
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. For some people, bereavement can act as a catalyst that opens up their ability to perceive the spirit people. This tends to be true for people who already have at least a rudimentary spiritual practice, even if that practice is decades old. Grief pulls us closer to God. During the most wretched moments of our lives, as we reach for God in prayer, we can experience a sense of upliftment and comfort that is beyond understanding. As we pray, we find that suddenly, magically, the veil between the two worlds has lifted and we are suddenly aware of the presence of our spirit loved ones.
Practice: Monitor Your Vibration
through Self-Observation
For the next week, throughout each day, every hour, briefly stop what you are doing and check in with how you are feeling. For example, do you feel happy, joyful, lighthearted, anxious, frustrated, depressed, tense, peevish, or angry? Name the feeling and assign a number to it ranging from positive ten (+10) to negative ten (-10). Let zero simply be neutral. Give positive feelings a positive rating, and assign a negative value to unpleasant emotions. Record the feeling and the number you’ve assigned in your notebook. At the end of the week, review your notes. You will find that positive feelings correspond to a high vibration and negative feelings to a low vibration.
If you find that you have been spending significant amounts of time experiencing low-vibration feelings, don’t despair. Continue to practice self-observation and continue to apply all the natural laws listed below. In addition, imagine switching the dial on your “inner radio” and selecting an “inner channel” that plays a positive program. Eventually you will be able live in a vibration that is conducive to easy spirit contact.
However, should you find yourself permanently depressed or stuck in a negative pattern, please seek medical care. Therapy and medication can go a long way toward helping you break out of a despondent pattern. And no, medication will not interfere with your ability
to communicate with the spirit world.
The Law of Attraction
Beginning mediums always want to know whether it is safe to open up to the spirit world. What about “bad” spirit people who might want to attach to them, follow them home, and make things go bump in the night?
Due to the Law of Attraction, most people do not have to worry about attracting unpleasantness from the spirit world. The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. People who share similar qualities and interests are drawn to one another. This is true in the physical realm as well as in the spirit world.
The fact is that you will attract only spirit people and helpers that are like you in some way and with whom you have something in common: in the physical realm, for example, a lot of my friends are mediums with a deep commitment to spirituality. Years ago when my children were small, the majority of my friends were people who had small children.
The same is true for the spirit people. If you are a kind person with integrity who tries to live a healthy and conscientious life, devious, mischievous, or malicious spirit people of the lower astral realms (appendix A, “Earthbound Spirits and Conducting Spirit Rescue”) won’t find you attractive. Your spiritual energy would not be a match for them and they would not be interested in latching on to you.
Water seeks its own level. Like attracts like. So what would cause a person in the physical realm to draw in an earthbound negative influencing spirit? There has to be a commonality between the influencing spirit and the incarnated person. It usually is a habit that creates vulnerability and lowers the defenses of the incarnated person, such as alcoholism, drug abuse, S&M sex, vengefulness, etc. The influencing spirit is attracted to a person with such habits so that he or she can vicariously re-experience the thrills of physical life.
Your best protection against negative spirit influences is to be a person of integrity. Build your spiritual foundation and follow the guidelines presented in this book. Abstain from drug use, and don’t hang out in places where people use and inebriate. Treat yourself with kindness and respect. Do not hurt or seek to control others. Refrain from manipulating and trying to bend others to your will. Conversely, don’t blame others for everything that is wrong in your life. Take responsibility for yourself. Take charge of your life.
If you think that you might have picked up an errant spirit who is exerting an undue influence over you, I would suggest a round of self-clearing following Diana Burney’s instructions from her book Spiritual Clearings: Sacred Practices to Release Negative Energy and Harmonize Your Life. You could also contact teachers from the Foundation for Shamanic Studies and schedule shamanic depossession.
The Law of Attraction also determines which types of spirit guides (chapter 7, “Spirit Guides and Helpers” ) you will attract. Spirit people elect to work with mediums who will present their messages in a manner that is in harmony with their own spiritual development. You will attract high-level spirit helpers when you do your best to live in accordance with high ethical standards and when you treat others as you would like to be treated.
However, if you are currently experiencing extremely negative life circumstances, or if you are going through severe antagonism and strife, it would be prudent to postpone commencement of your mediumship development until your life has become more balanced.
Until then, application of the natural laws combined with a regular prayer and meditation practice (chapters 3 and 4) will help you navigate your life challenges, lift your spirits, and prepare you for the time when you are ready to connect.
Practice: Review Your Connections
Take out your journal and pen. Think about a time when your circle of friends suddenly changed. What precipitated the change? Did you perhaps outgrow one another? Think about your current circle of friends. What drew you together, and what continues to connect you? Examine your relationships with significant people in your life and see if you can detect patterns of the Law of Attraction. Record your insights in your journal.
You have control over the Law of Vibration and the Law of Attraction not only through your interests and actions, but also through the choices that you make according to the Law of Free Will, as well as through your thoughts and attitudes as expressed through the Law of Thought.
The Law of Free Will
This law establishes that human beings have free will and that no spirit person is allowed to interfere with yours. No spirit person is able to possess or control you against your will. Over the past eleven years since I became disciplined about unfolding my mediumship, I have had contact with thousands of people who have sought me out for my spiritual services. During this time, only four cases of severe negative spirit interference came to my attention. All of them were caused by collusion, as the persons flat-out refused to send the possessing spirits away.
When I inquired into the reasons behind the refusals, one person said she had grown fond of the possessing spirit person and would feel lonely without her. Another sheepishly admitted that she would then have to take responsibility for her bad decisions and it was so much easier to blame her problems on an entity named “Ralph.” A third person admitted that she enjoyed the drama and how she got to be the center of attention when she had one of her episodes with the controlling spirit. A fourth person confessed that her collaboration with an extremely nasty spirit kept her on disability payments so she didn’t have to go to work. In other words, all four of them derived benefits from keeping the negative spirit around.
It is entirely up to you to choose the spirit company that you keep. If you don’t like the company of a particular spirit person, then exercise your free will and firmly order this individual to go away.
The Law of Thought
You are probably not aware of it, but the people in the spirit world communicate through thought. If they want to go somewhere, they just think about where they want to be, and there they are. Because spirit communication is through thought, you must accept that your own thoughts are also fully visible, open, and accessible to the spirit people. There is no such thing as a private thought as far as they are concerned. Positive and encouraging thoughts lift your spirits and your vibration. Negative thoughts lower your vibration. Sadly, a lot of us are in the habit of engaging in depressing and negative self-talk. This kind of talk can very much get in the way of connecting with the spirit people.
The following practice is wonderful for helping us improve our self-talk and thoughts. Please note that you only have to be willing to release fear-based thoughts, harmful attitudes, and painful memories, and you can purge them from yourself. Repeat as often as you like.
Practice: Release Fear-Based Thoughts, Attitudes, Memories, and Experiences
Sit down, find a comfortable position, and close your eyes. Relax your body and your mind. Once you are in a state of relaxation, call upon your spirit helpers, the angels, and the Divine to assist you. Bring to mind a fear-based attitude that you are now willing to release—perhaps fear of not having enough, or fear of not being good enough. Ask yourself if there are some hurtful events or memories from the past that you are now willing to release. Once you have identified what you are willing to release, visualize or imagine that you are putting all these things into a box. Put a lid on the box and hand it over to your spirit helpers, angels, and God. Then, in the future, if you find your mind going back to these fears or memories, stop yourself and say: “I continue to release this situation. I will no longer dwell on it.”
The Law of Thought states that thought is a powerful creative force. If a given thought is held long enough, it will eventually manifest in the physical realm. You should always tell yourself that you can learn and master anything that you put your mind to. You should always hold positive expectations and think well of yourself and your spiritual gifts.
Practice: Make Positive Affirmations
Take out your journal and create a list of positive affirmations that you are a medium, even though right now you might not yet be sure of it. Keep your statements simple, positive, and in the present tense. For example:
Read your list of statements aloud five times a day, and do so for several months. Any time doubt sets in, go back and read your affirmations aloud.
Get in the habit of thinking well of other people and develop the habit of giving others the benefit of the doubt. The people in the spirit world are drawn to mediums that are compassionate and nonjudgmental. You will be more attractive to the spirit people when they feel safe to express honestly who they were in life: human beings with human shortcomings.
Practice: Observe Yourself
During the next several weeks, practice some self-observation. Notice how you feel inside when you think kindly of someone. Conversely, notice how you feel when you are thinking negative or judgmental thoughts. What thoughts make you feel lighthearted and good about yourself? Can you find a way to replace the negative thought or attitude with a positive one or with one that gives the other person the benefit of the doubt? Record your observations in your journal.
While your mediumship skills are unfolding, the Law of Thought also stresses the importance of always seeing the proverbial glass as half-full! In our modern world of high-speed Internet, text messaging, and instant gratification, a lot of beginning mediums are impatient to get results. Sadly, that often means they aren’t happy with the amount of spirit information that they receive. They might receive two or three very valid pieces of evidence, but then express deep disappointment that they are “only” receiving “so little.” Instead, get in the habit of acknowledging and celebrating the smallest impressions you receive from the spirit world. If you approach mediumship with an attitude of “Wow, I am receiving so much good information,” then your enthusiasm and happiness will open the gateway toward receiving more.
The Law of Service
This law states that our purpose on earth is to assist and serve humanity. Your purpose as a medium is to bring healing by providing evidence of the survival of consciousness beyond physical death. As long as your motivation for mediumship is to be an instrument for Spirit and to help others, you can be sure that your gift will unfold and that your spirit helpers will support your effort.
If your main motivation for developing mediumship is the lure of fame and fortune, think again. I can assure you that there are many better ways to get rich than being a medium.
It takes years to fully develop your gift and even then, mediumship can be fragile, as it depends on the cooperation among the medium, sitters, and the spirit people. Upsets in your health or personal life and difficult sitters can affect the quality of your work and your ability to support yourself as a medium. Besides, motivation for financial gain will not nourish your spirit during times when your ability takes a nosedive (15, “The Natural Cycles of Mediumship Development).
If you are motivated by a desire to be a light in the world and to help others, the Great Mystery will put you to good use. And if you are very lucky, fame and fortune might become accidental byproducts of your service to others.
Practice: Discover Motivation
Take out your journal and explore in writing your motivation for wanting to become a medium. What is stirring this heart’s desire in you? In what ways can you begin to be of service to Spirit while you are developing your gift of mediumship?
When my mediumship falls into a rut, it is often because I have fallen behind in service to humanity. As an ordained Spiritualist minister, one of my duties includes preparing and giving the homily in our morning service. This is to be done on a regular basis, but without a strict schedule. Sometimes life gets in the way, and I don’t get around to serving as speaker. I find that when I cut back on serving as speaker, my mediumship suffers. As soon as I sign up to speak, my mediumship again flourishes.
The Law of Service is about our willingness to be God’s instruments, but without stipulating the terms of our service. We must seek to serve others not only through our mediumship, but also through performing other kinds of services that add value to others. Doing something positive for the sole purpose of doing it, instead of focusing on what’s in it for you, will change your life in many positive ways.
Practice: Incorporate Service into Your Daily Life
What small actions—unrelated to mediumship—could you take in your daily life that would make life better for others? Get out your journal and write a list of numbers from one to twenty. Quickly fill in your ideas, without thinking too long and hard about each one. Work from your gut. For example:
Commit yourself to doing something positive with a caring heart for at least one person every day.
The Law of Love
This law affirms that love is the key that opens the door to spirit communication. Love makes it possible for a spirit person who had a difficult relationship with the sitter to find the courage to come into the reading to make amends. Love can break the ice of resentment. While sitters might initially feel ambiguous about hearing from spirits who hurt them in life, they invariably experience profound healing when the spirit people are given the opportunity to have their say. As a medium, the spirit people are always drawn to you when you send them love and when you approach your sitters with a loving heart.
Practice: Locate Unconditional Love
Turn off the television and silence the telephone. Go into your sacred space, light a candle, and begin to relax.
Remember a time in your life when you experienced unconditional love. It could be the love you felt for your newborn baby, for a beloved parent, grandparent, or pet. With each breath, fill yourself with unconditional love. Let it fill your heart. Extend the feeling of unconditional love beyond your physical body into the room around you, and to all the people in your life. You can take this exercise a step further and extend your unconditional love to Mother Earth and all of life. Spend as much time as you like inhaling and exhaling unconditional love. Afterward, record your experience in your journal.
Repeat this exercise as often as you wish.
The Law of Cause and Effect
This law reminds us that every action, good or bad, produces a reaction. We reap what we sow. You will get out of your mediumship what you put into it. Just like you won’t learn how to draw unless you draw regularly, you won’t develop mediumship if you don’t invest the required time and effort.
Practice: Track Efforts and Results
Think back to a time when you achieved a goal that you worked hard for. How much effort did it take? How long did it take to accomplish your goal? How did your attitude help you achieve your goal? What helped you persevere through times of difficulty? Can you see the connection between cause and effect? Record your reflections in your journal.
Also, because mediums are naturally sensitive, you must be mindful of the energies that you send out into the world, because what you send out will come back to you. Mediums are easily affected and shut down by discord and disharmonious conditions in their lives. My experience shows that the best policy—though not always the easiest—is to live by the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It avoids a lot of unnecessary conflict and helps you live a good life. When friction with others remains at a minimum, our ability to open to the spirit world flourishes.
The Law of Control
This law affirms that mediums are always in control of their mediumship. As mediums, we purposefully connect with the spirit world. When we are finished with a reading or a public demonstration, we purposefully close the connection. This way, we can enjoy our life in the physical realm without constant intrusions from the other side. When I go out to dinner with friends, walking in Rock Creek Park, or to the grocery store, I don’t want to be bothered by anybody’s spirit people. Because I exercise control over my mediumship, my spirit helpers know that unless I’m giving a reading or am about to teach or give a public demonstration, I am not to be contacted by the spirit people.
One thing mediums don’t have control over is whether a particular spirit person is going to come through for a sitter. This is because the spirit people have free will, just as you do. If your Aunt Marge invites you to a party, you can either accept or decline the invitation. The same can be true for the spirit people.
However, you do have control over whether or not you wish to engage in contact with a spirit person. You can always terminate a spirit contact, if you wish.
Practice: Find the On/Off Switch
Whenever you wish to connect with the spirit world, imagine that there is a little invisible switch at your temple. When you flip the switch to the “on” setting, it’s time to receive spirit contact. When you flip the switch to the “off” position, the connection to the spirit world is terminated until you turn it on again.
The Law of Correspondence
This law aligns with the Law of Thought. It states that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world, and vice versa. Another way of putting it is, “As above, so below.”
Please know that as you take steps toward spiritual growth and your mediumship unfolds, the Great Mystery and your spirit helpers will meet you more than halfway. It is my experience that whatever it is that we would like to do in life, Infinite Intelligence supports us and helps create conditions that assist us in our endeavor. When you are aligned with the Law of Correspondence, doors open and opportunities present themselves.
You will set the Law of Correspondence into action when you hold a strong desire to be a medium and when you pull closer to the Great Mystery through praying and meditating. The next three chapters will help you implement a regular prayer and meditation practice.
Common Beginner’s Concerns and Setbacks
Application of the natural laws combined with the other practices discussed in this book will go a long way toward opening your natural ability to communicate with spirits. However, beginners often harbor attitudes and fears that tend to get in the way. Here are the most common concerns:
Fear of Coming Out of the Psychic Closet
Beginning mediums often worry that family and friends will think they are crazy when they hear they are learning mediumship. Some fear their fiancées or spouses would dump them if they knew.
It is true our significant others, friends, and family members might not understand why we suddenly want to talk to dead people. My ex-husband used to wonder, “Aren’t there enough people in the physical world that you can talk to?”
Beginning mediums often discover their relationships begin to change as a result of opening up to the spiritual realms. It is up to you to decide how much you want to share about the unfolding of your gifts with your family and friends. There is a verse in the Bible that warns, “Do not give that which is holy to the dogs, nor cast your pearls before the swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn around and tear you in pieces.”
So don’t proselytize about life after death. And never try to prove yourself to a skeptical friend or loved one. Instead, apply your spiritual knowledge to improve your own life and to help others. Become a better friend and a more compassionate partner. In time, your friends will notice you have changed. Remember, even when people are curious, you don’t owe them an explanation.
Fear of Lack of Ability and Fear of Failure
Another very common beginner’s worry is that out of all the people in the world, you are the only one who totally lacks any sort of psychic and mediumistic ability. Sometimes the fear of failure is so deep-seated that the fear itself becomes a fortress that keeps the spirit vibes from piercing through.
Creativity teacher Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity, reminds us that in order to succeed, we first must be willing to fail. The same is true for mediumship.
If you want to be a medium, you have to be willing to experience times where nothing happens or where you get things wrong. So don’t let fear of failure stop you. Instead, give yourself full permission to be the least talented medium in the world, and plunge ahead anyway. It might take months, but unless you give it a try, you will never know the gifts that lie dormant within you.
Great Ambition and Unrealistically High Expectations
Closely related to the fear of failure is enormous ambition and impossibly high expectations. Don’t get me wrong: I am not saying that you shouldn’t desire to become the best medium you could possibly be. But you must be careful not to set the stakes too high.
Occasionally, I have a student who expects to perform at a stellar level every time from the first try onward. When such ambitious beginning mediums get something wrong or when they are not progressing as fast as they think they should, they berate themselves and get very frustrated. This, of course, takes the joy out of mediumship and makes it miserable.
If you were just starting to learn how to play the piano, you wouldn’t expect yourself to flawlessly play an entire Beethoven concerto after your first piano lesson. And you certainly wouldn’t expect to practice without hitting bum notes. Mediumship is no different. Check your expectations, keep an open mind and a positive attitude, and know that with time you will progress.
Trying Too Hard
Some students tell me when they first started to take my classes they often tried too hard and the very act of trying so hard created a block for them. When they decided to stop trying and just let things happen, suddenly the block disappeared and they connected with the spirit people.
This is true for all mediums, beginners and professionals alike, myself included. Sometimes when I lead a development circle at the end of a long, tiring day I think: “Tonight I will only facilitate and coach my students, but I’m not going to bring through anyone’s spirit people. I just don’t have the energy for it.” Sure enough, that’s usually the night when, against all of my expectations and without even trying, I experience wonderful spirit contact full of phenomenal evidential information.
When we let ourselves off the hook, we create the relaxed atmosphere within us that allows mediumship to flourish. When we give ourselves space and get out of own way, spirit contact occurs spontaneously.
Attitude Matters
It is best to cultivate a positive attitude toward yourself and your ability to connect with the spiritual realms. Always keep an open mind and an open heart. Develop a lighthearted and fun-loving attitude toward mediumship development.
It is important to remember that spirit communication is not so much about doing something or forcing things to happen. It is about being calm, relaxed, passive, and open so we can notice the presence of the spirits.