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A

Abuser. See Sexual abuser

Abusive relationship, signs of, 2123. See also Child sexual abuse (CSA)

Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), 174175

Adolescence, disclosure and, 6062

Adults, child’s trust in, 9

Age of consent, 100101

Alexander, Kat, 209

American Psychiatric Association CSA definition of, 910

and nonrecognition of complex PTSD, 186

Anger

dealing with, 193194

validating feelings of, 184

Anonymity, loss of, 97

Assessment, by therapist, 162167

Association for Cognitive and Behavioral Therapies (ABCT), 171

Attachment problems, CSA history and, 141

Awareness, disruptions of, 183184

in PTSD, 151

B

Behavioral control, CSA history and, 142

Behaviors, risky, self-harming and, 158159

Biological problems, CSA history and, 141

Borderline personality disorder (BPD), 2

Boston Area Rape Crisis Center, 176

Breaking the silence, 5891

increased internal distress and, 6368

optimal conditions for, 7077

with peers, 6263

reasons for, 63

reasons preventing, 59

See also Disclosure; Disclosure aftermath

Bystander awareness, teaching, 211

C

Catholic schools (Boston), CSA prevention program of, 209

Chicago Children’s Advocacy Center, 207

Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA), 102

Child protective services, and mandated reports of CSA, 104106

Child sexual abuse (CSA)

acute stress response and, 5051

adult lack of awareness and, 4647

advances in understanding and treatment of, 186187

assessment after reporting of, 113114

beginning stages of, 729

behavioral indications of, 8081

borderline personality disorder and, 2

definition of, 910

disbelief about, 13

epidemic proportions of, 205207

false allegations of, 75, 82

and family/friend desires for retribution, 119120

forms of, 10

and knowledge of child, 8183

lasting effects of, 53

legal issues and. See Legal issues

longer-term harms of, 140141

mandated reporting rules and, 9, 101113

mistaken beliefs about, 12

versus “normal” childhood angst, 6768

and peers as confidants, 6263

prevalence of, 1, 205

prevention of. See Prevention/education

PTSD and, 2. See also Posttraumatic stress disorder

and questioning without corroborating evidence, 82

recovery from. See Recovery

red flags for, 68

resources on, 223229

revelation of, 5

risk factors for targeting, 14

self-injury and, 152155

silence and, 5

societal messages and, 210211

state definitions of, 910

suspected, steps to take in, 6977

symptoms following disclosure, 128129

symptoms following end of, 5051

treatment path for, 149. See also Professional help

understanding versus outrunning impacts of, 170

warning signs of, 23, 37

Child Sexual Abuse: A Social Justice Prevention Model, 207

Childhood trauma, characteristics related to, 51

Circles of Safety for Higher Education, 207

Clergy abuse, 36

Cognitive difficulties, CSA history and, 142

Cognitive processing therapy (CPT), 173

Cognitive restructuring, 171

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), for PTSD, 170, 173175

Committee for Children’s Talking About Touching program, 209

Community-based CSA initiatives and organizations, 213215

Comprehensive Sexual Abuse Prevention Education Act (CSAPEA), 213214

Consent, age of, 100101

Counseling, strength-based wellness, 197. See also Professional help; Psychotherapy

Courage to Heal, The (Bass & Davis), 190

Criminal charges

variations in state guidelines for, 108

victim and family wishes and, 109112

Cutting, by child victim, 152155

D

Denial, resisting, 7172

Dependence, on abuser, 4244

Depression, CSA history and, 140

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), 144, 164165, 167, 178, 181182

commitment strategies and, 169

as first-phase treatment, 168171

Dialogue, open, during recovery, 129

Disclosure

abuser’s interference with, 5960

anticipating fallout from, 7677

child’s emotional state preceding, 75

optimal conditions for, 7077

to peers, 6263

puberty and, 6062

rate and timing of, 4950

school-based prevention programs and, 210

tentative, responding to, 8384

Disclosure aftermath, 92125

and adjustment to new normal, 118119, 128

behavioral changes during, 139

child’s adjustments during, 130131

child’s choices and, 9495

child’s vulnerability and, 9394

emotional turmoil during, 136138

guidelines for talking with child, 98

internal distress signals during, 150

legal issues in, 94, 99113

and loss of anonymity, 9799

police and criminal charges and, 106113

symptoms during, 128129

worsening distress and, 115125

Dissociation

of child victims, 37

CSA history and, 141

in PTSD, 151

Double-self, Herman’s concept of, 38

Doublethink, 36, 37

Doyle, Daniel

arrest, guilty plea, trial, and sentencing of, 109113, 117125, 136

development of Kayla’s relationship with, 9, 1419, 2627

and grooming of family, 1213, 2426, 60, 6970

and grooming of Kayla, 2027

incarceration and post-incarceration restrictions of, 206

and Kayla’s disclosure, 5889, 6465, 8690, 94, 9697, 105106

and sexual abuse of Kayla, 2743, 48, 5458

E

EMDR International Association, 174

Emotional regulation

after disclosure, 136138

CSA history and, 141

preceding disclosure, 75

problems with, 183

in PTSD, 151

Epilogue, 219221

Erin’s Law, 207209

Evidence, corroborating, 82

Exposure-based treatments for PTSD, 171173

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy (EMDR), 170, 174

F

Family

criminal charges and, 109112

and desire for retribution, 119120

and effects of disclosure, 112113

grooming of, 1213, 2226, 60, 6970

incest and, 194195

promoting stability of, 185186

protecting, 4446

role in recovery, 177

See also Parents/caregivers

Family counseling, Kayla’s recommendation for, 195196

Family structure, as risk factor for CSA, 14

Fearless Foundation, 215218

Fears, trauma-specific, 51

Feelings

open dialogue about, 132133

validation of, 184

Feminist movement, impact on CSA, 1

Fighting Back, goals and beneficiaries of, 46

G

Gender, as risk factor for CSA, 14

GenerationFIVE, 217

Girls, empowerment of, 211

Grooming behaviors, 5, 10, 20

common, 1617

escalating pattern of, 2529

family and, 1213, 2226, 60, 6970

knowledge about, 1325

lack of education about, 204

learning about, 12

parental/caregiver recognition of, 2223

secrecy and, 1823

teaching warning signs of, 212

Guilt

feelings of, 127

instilling, 2021

validating feelings of, 184

H

Harrison, Kayla

advocacy work of, 199203, 209, 215218

book project and, 203204

championships of, 198199

Gold Medal wins of, 202203

journal entries of

after disclosure, 9293, 9495, 109112

after restraining order hearing, 127

after seeking professional help, 148, 150, 152153, 156160, 176179

breaking silence and, 5859, 6162

during disclosure aftermath, 105, 106, 115120, 122125

disclosure and, 6162, 6465

in early stages of abuse, 79, 1516, 1829

on ending relationship, 8690

and maintaining silence, 3035, 43, 48

and reconciliation of good/bad, right/wrong, 3840

during recovery, 127, 131134, 136137, 146

reexamination of, 178

tipping point and, 7779

during transition from victim to survivor, 180182, 187, 189200

on turning 16, 8485

while keeping silence, 5456

message for parents, 195196

mother’s concerns and, 25, 56, 6063, 6970, 73, 78

mother’s reactions to disclosure, 89, 94, 105106, 113, 118, 138, 143, 145148, 159160, 165166, 176

Olympics training and, 198199

PTSD and, 128, 143146, 149150, 164165

public speaking and, 199203

suggestions for justice-seeking process, 96

therapist assessment of, 162167

victimization and survival of, 45

Healing

Bass and Davis’s work on, 190

parental help in, 195196

See also Survivor transition

Henry, Fran, 207

Hero Project, 2425

Hopelessness, suicidal thoughts and, 157

I

Incest

healing and, 194195

impacts of disclosing, 4445

responses to, 4546

INCITE!, 217

International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, 173

Interviewing, Kayla’s suggestions for, 96

Intuition, trusting, 60, 62

Ippon, 78

Isolation

by abuser, 4244

of child victim, 4244

development of, 2022

suicidal thoughts and, 157

J

Jenna’s Law, 209

Journaling, as coping mechanism, 188191. See also Harrison, Kayla, journal entries of

Judicial process

information about, 99113

Kayla’s suggestions for, 96

Judo, 79

recovery and, 178179

L

Legal issues

after CSA report, 104106

age of consent, 100101

in disclosure aftermath, 99113

mandated reporting rules, 9, 101113

organizations providing information on, 228

police and criminal charges, 106, 108113

Legislation

organizations providing information on, 228

for prevention/education of CSA, 207208

Love, changing understanding of, 4344

M

Male norms, changing, 210211

Mandated reporting rules, 9

child protective services and, 104106

police and criminal charges and, 106113

state laws and, 101104

McLean Hospital, Kayla’s admission to, 149150

Medical issues, CSA-associated, 53

Medications, in PTSD treatment, 175

Memory(ies)

in PTSD, 151

suppression of, 36

of traumatic events, 51

Merryn, Erin, 208209

Monitoring, during transition to survivor, 182186

Mood swings, suicidal thoughts and, 157

N

National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS), 205

National Institutes of Juvenile Justice, perpetrator identity data and, 11

Neurosequential model of therapeutics (NMT), 174175

Nightmares, 133, 138

Nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI), 153155

common types of, 154

prevalence of, 153

reasons for, 154

signs of, 154

Normalization, 3537

NoVo Foundation, 207

O

OAK Foundation, 207

Offender-management initiatives, 205209

drawbacks of, 206

Office of Child Abuse and Neglect, 102

Open dialogue

maintaining, 132133

during recovery, 129

P

Parents/caregivers

and anticipating fallout from disclosure, 7677

during child’s recovery, 176

and communicating protectiveness, 76

and communicating support for child, 7476

and conversations with possible victim, 62, 6667

and creating conditions for disclosure, 7077

feelings of, 184

grooming of, 1213, 2226, 60, 6970

guidelines for disclosure aftermath, 9596

guidelines for voicing suspicions, 72, 74

intuitions of, 60, 62

Kayla’s message for, 195196

postdisclosure legal issues and, 99113

and recognition of grooming behaviors, 2223

recommended steps for suspected abuse, 6977

resisting denial and, 7172

and responding to tentative disclosure, 8384

and symptoms of CSA, 37

and talking with child after disclosure, 98

working with, 23

Paterno, Joe, 199, 206

Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape, 2425

Perpetrators of sexual abuse. See Sexual abuser

Personal boundaries, lack of understanding of, 4041

Physical exam, reactions to, 159160

Position of trust, violations of, 108

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), 128

after disclosure, 131132

CBT effectiveness and, 170

complex, 141142, 150151, 186

CSA and, 2, 51

diagnosis of, 5152, 150152

diagnostic dilemmas of, 134135

DSM criteria for, 134135

evidence-based treatments for, 135

features of, 52

psychotherapy options for, 167175

short-term symptoms of, 138139

time frame for, 139

watching for symptoms of, 131132

Power imbalance, 35

signs of, 2425

Pregnancy, fears about, 41

Prevent Child Abuse America, 217

Prevention/education, 202218

community-based initiatives and organizations, 213215

Fearless Foundation and, 215218

offender-management versus victim-focused initiatives in, 205209

organizations working for, 217

resources for, 223228

international, 227228

in U. S., 223226

school-based, 210218

Priest abuse scandal, 1, 36

Professional help, 148179

physical exam and, 159160

safety first and, 152159

seeking, 129, 142147

in transition from victim to survivor, 185186

when to seek, 149152

See also Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT); Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT); Psychotherapy; Therapist

Prolonged exposure (PE), 171172, 190

Protectiveness, communicating, 76

Psychiatric disorders, CSA history and, 140

Psychological disorders, possible symptoms of, 68

Psychotherapy

commitment strategies in, 169

for PTSD

cognitive approaches to, 173175

DBT in, 168171

EMDR and, 170

options for, 167175

skills- and exposure-focused phases of, 168

timing of, 172, 181182

Puberty, disclosure and, 6062

Public awareness of CSA. See Prevention/education

Q

Quinn, Jenna, 209

R

Rape, statutory, 101

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN), 217

Recovered memory therapy, 82

Recovery, 5, 126147

after hospitalization, 175179

building mastery and, 196198

feeling worse at beginning of, 128129

making time for, 145147

and movement toward professional help, 142147

natural, fostering process of, 187188

open dialogue during, 129

parental support during, 9596

and possibility of PTSD, 134142

self-efficacy and, 196198

and shift to daily reality, 130131

support system and, 177178

trauma symptoms and, 131134

Red flags, 68

Relationships

disrupted, in PTSD, 152

trusting, support for reestablishing, 185

Religious institutions, prevention-oriented programs for, 207208

Report It, Girl, 209

Reporting rules, mandated. See Mandated reporting rules

Resources

for legal issues, 228

for prevention/education, 223228

for treatment, 228229

Retribution, desire for, 119120

Risky behaviors, self-harming and, 158159

Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, 207

S

Safety

DBT and, 168171

and delayed treatment, 172173

risks to, CSA and, 158159

self-injury and, 152159

Sandusky, Jerry, 199, 206, 209

School districts, prevention-oriented curricula for, 207208

School-based CSA educational programs, 210218

core components of, 212

effectiveness of, 211212

Secrecy

about feelings of shame and self-loathing, 182183

establishing, 1823

loss of, 9798

maintaining, 3057

Self-blame/loathing, 4041, 127, 128, 133

Self-concept, CSA history and, 142

Self-efficacy, role in recovery, 196198

Self-esteem

low, 14, 15

recovery and, 197

Self-image

damage to, 38

feelings affecting, 184

Self-injury, 2

by child victims, 152159

suicidal thoughts and, 157

See also Nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI)

Self-love, and reestablishing trusting relationships, 191192

Self-perception, in PTSD, 151

Sex, child’s understanding of, 3940

Sexual abuse of children

Sexual abuser

bonding with, 1516

characteristics of, 1113

coercion by, 33

concern for well-being of, 128, 129, 151152

conflicted feelings about, 184

dependence on, 4244

distorted perceptions of, 184

family members as, 44

grooming behaviors of, 5, 10, 1326

influence on family, 60

interviews with, 1718

isolation by, 4244

parental relationship with, 7172

secrecy and, 1820

and selection of vulnerable victims, 14

as source of emotional support, 42

statistics on, 12

threats of, 18, 3334

See Child sexual abuse (CSA); Victims of CSA

Sexual assault

statutes of limitations for, 121

transition to, in CSA, 2728

Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), 208

Sexual Assault Intervention Network (S.A.I.N.), 96

Sexual behavior

nontouching, 10

risky, 158

touching, 10

Sexual relationships, and age of consent, 100101

Sexual victimization, as adults, CSA history and, 140141

Sexual violence, societal norms and, 210211

Shame, 4041

validating feelings of, 184

Silence

breaking, 4849

and denial of treatment, 5157

high price of, 4957

reasons for keeping, 3546, 59

trap of, 2123

See also Breaking the silence; Disclosure

Societal norms, lack of understanding of, 4041

Socioeconomic status, as risk factor for CSA, 14

Statutory rape, 101

Stop It Now!, 207

“Stranger danger,” warnings about, 12

Strength-based wellness counseling, 197

Suicidal thoughts, 77, 79, 132, 133, 146, 155158

after disclosure, 152

warning signs of, 156157

Suicide threats, 157

Supervision, increasing level of, 7475

Support system, 177178

parental, 7476

during transition to survivor, 182186

See also Family; Parents/caregivers; Psychotherapy

Survivor transition, 180201

and advances in understanding and treatment of CSA, 186187

and building mastery and recovery, 196198

core beliefs/values and, 185186

and finding and making of meaning, 198201

and fostering of process, 187188

Kayla’s thoughts on, 193198

and need for monitoring and support, 182186

reconnecting and, 191196

and reconstructing, sharing of trauma, 188191

Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP), 217

Suspicions

communicating about, 62, 6667

and knowledge of child, 8183

parental, guidelines for voicing, 72, 74

speaking up about, 7783

Symptom history, 165167

T

Team-assessment approach, 114

Therapist

assessment by, 162167

identifying qualifications of, 160161

questions for, 161

search for, 160167

Therapy, court-ordered, 96. See also Psychotherapy

Threats, by perpetrators, 18, 3334

Tipping point. See Breaking the silence; Disclosure

Touching behaviors, 10

appropriate/inappropriate, 3940

desensitizing of child and, 1618

Trauma

educating parents about, 3

reconstructing and sharing, 188191

understanding versus outrunning impacts of, 170

Trauma and Recovery (Herman), 176

Trauma memories, triggers of, 133134

Trauma symptoms, in disclosure aftermath, 131132

Trauma-focused CBT, 173174

Treatment

organizations offering information on, 228229

silence as barrier to, 5157

See also Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT); Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT); Psychotherapy

Trials, and victims as witnesses, 116119

Trust

in adults, 9

position of, violations of, 108

in untrustworthy people, 35

violation of, 2627

Trusting relationships

reestablishing, 191196

support for reestablishing, 185

V

Victim witness advocates, 99, 117

Victim-focused initiatives, 205209

Victims of CSA

as adults, 121

court-ordered therapy for, 96

criminal charges and, 109112

and decision to break silence, 4849

desensitizing to touch, 1618

and desire to please, 1416, 19

and efforts to protect family, 4446

increased internal distress and, 6368

instilling guilt in, 2021

isolation of, 2022

Kayla’s suggestions for interviewing, 96

and normalizing the abnormal, 3537

and parental expression of suspicions, 62

parental intuition and, 62, 6667

perpetrator’s discrediting of, 60

pressures on, 111112

reasons for maintaining silence, 3546

and reconciliation of “good” and “bad,” 3841

self/blame and shame of, 4041

self-injury by, 152159

and support after disclosure, 9596

and understanding of “love,” 4344

vulnerability after disclosure, 9394

vulnerability of, 1415

as witnesses, 116119

Violence, societal norms and, 210211

Y

Youth organizations, prevention-oriented programs for, 207208