Notes
1
Think Shell, like a seashell, but place a T in front and sneak in a C somewhere in the middle—Tschell—or just call him K-jello, but don’t tell him it was my idea.
2
In his book Kantian Imperatives and Phenomenology’s Original Forces, Randolph C. Wheeler writes about Immanuel Kant referring to the hand as the human’s “outer brain.” Cultural Heritage and Contemporary Change, Series I, Culture and Values, Volume 3, 2008.
3
A phytobezoar is one of millions of unnecessarily complicated terms for med students to learn, which is typically seen under the rarest of circumstances: over-ingestion of persimmons, which, in large quantities, are so fibrous the stomach can’t process and pass the contents, which then sit inside the stomach, like a hairball in a cat’s stomach, causing nausea, vomiting, decreased appetite, and feeling full after eating small amounts of food. Trichobezoar, in case you’re now wondering, is the medical term for “hairball.” And yes, humans can get them, too.
4
If your gut is telling you Nina actually can control how she’ll cope down the line, your instinct is right. However, for her to start imagining future scenarios (a son’s wedding, the possible failure of her marriage, losing her job) and then trying to figure out how she is going to cope without her dad’s advice or financial support in those scenarios is counterproductive and encourages catastrophic thinking—inventing the worst outcome in a lose-lose game of “what ifs.” The point is, Nina can’t control the future at all, nor can she accurately predict how she’ll feel facing various potential life circumstances without her dad. In this moment, the future is not under her control.
5
Not really a scientific term, but I use it all the time, and I’m a scientist, right?
6
Mindfulness is the key to starting the engine of Step Four.
7
You can review external versus internal locus of control in the “Pinpoint What You Can Control” chapter.