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Adler, Laure, 15
Air France safety video, 42–43
Allen, Woody, 117
Amélie (2001), 120
America and Americans
and BLTs, 54–55
consumerism of, 163
dancing in, 49–50
dating scene in, 7–8
flirtation in, 95
French perspectives on, 60–61
and GIs of WWII, 132–33
independence of, 154
passionless couples in, 7
private lives lived publicly in, 155–56
style in, 32–33
voices of, 120–21
antiquing in Paris, 174–75
Apfel, Iris, 29
appearance
and importance of dressing nicely, 6, 158
and romance in marriage, 165
architecture of France, 28
Armistice Day, 147–48
art
attending exhibitions for, 20
colors in, 89
attractiveness
and personal interests, 20
and romance in marriage, 165, 166–67
Auvillar, France, 70–71
ballet, 42
Beauce Plains (Breadbasket of France), 65
Beauvoir, Simone de, 14
beef bourguignon recipe, 131, 132–33
Belle Inspiration Magazine, 171
Biclou Baguette & Camembert event, 127–28
BLTs, American, 54–55
blue (color), 87–88
blue cornflowers, 148
Blue Room (Chambre Bleue) salon, 102–3
Bonjour, Happiness! (Callan), 136
books and reading
Belleville on, 16
and cultivating an intellectual life, 18–20, 21
as objet d’art, 19
in public spaces, 18–19
Bordos, Marine, 79
bread, no-knead, 130n
Café de Flore, 14
capitalism, standards of, 163–64
careers, new, 60
casquettes, 114
challenges, French women’s love of, 5
Chambre Bleue (Blue Room) salon, 102–3
Chanel, Coco, 107
change les idées, 175–76
Chase, Abbe, 103–4
Château de Versailles, 86
chocolatiers, 85
Cicero, 65
classes, attending, 20
clothing
and color combinations, 94
emotions prompted by, 32, 34, 35
and importance of dressing nicely, 6, 158
noticed by men, 32
quality and workmanship in, 26
and signature colors, 87–88, 91, 92, 156
and social status, 88–89
and stylists, 24–27
See also style
Colette, 111
colors, 79–94
appreciation of, learned from mothers, 89, 90–91
blue, 87–88
and branding, 81
and color of Parisian skies, 85
emotional responses to, 90
and family history, 90
flattering, 91
of French cars, 92
grays/blacks, 85
and home accents, 93–94
and light quality in Paris, 85
pink, 92–93
power of, 86
and romance, 91
and sensuality, 83
and social status, 88–89
yellow, 79–80
comfort zone, moving out of, 20
commerce and community, 163
community activities, participating in, 157
confidence
and color choices, 93
and dinner parties, 140
and dressing well, 158
instilled by ballet, 42
and sense of mystery, 34
and style, 34
Coty (French perfumier), 121
cultural experiences
cultivating, 20–21
travel as way to experience, 62
Cunard, Nancy, 29
dancing, 37–51
in Air France safety video, 42–43
ballet, 42
of Edith and Marcelle, 38–40
language of, 40
and muscle memory, 40–42
at the Paris plages, 49
of Renata, 46–48
swing dancing, 42
and Zumba, 45–47
dating
of Aloïs, 26
in America, 7–8
French attitudes toward, 138–39, 179
See also love and romance
daube recipe of Dubernet, 131, 132–33
differences, embracing, 187
dignity, 155
dinner parties, 123–41
and attractiveness in marriage, 165, 166–67
beef bourguignon recipe for, 131, 132–33
and Biclou Baguette & Camembert event, 127–28
developing charm in, 140
and essentials for the kitchen, 129–30
hosting, 140–41
Jim Haynes’s soirées, 124–26
paella recipe for, 134, 135–36
and romance, 138–40
and value of waiting in line, 126–27
dress codes, 88–89
Dress Like a Parisian blog, 23
Duvelleroy, 103–6
eating alone, 154
Edith’s Paris tours, 12
emotions
prompted by articles of clothing, 32, 34, 35
and reactions to colors, 90, 93
Epictetus, 23
excess, eliminating, 151
existentialism of the French, 144
experiential pleasures, emphasizing, 159
family
and birthright, 35
and flirtation of previous generations, 108–9
honoring history of, 30–31, 36
old photographs of, 35
and personal style, 29–32, 33, 35
and reactions to colors, 90
Fauchon, 85
flirtation, 95–109
accessories used in, 103–6, 109
alone with a man, 97
in America, 95
Belleville on, 16
and color choices, 93
and commerce in America, 163
and dinner parties, 140
with eyes only, 108
and fans, 103–6
and flowers, 73–75
and formality, 99
and French salons, 102–3
and group activities, 97
importance of, 96
and intimacy, 99–100
of Madame M., 97–98
and principles of seduction, 99
and private moments in public spaces, 101–2, 108
purpose of, 96
and romance in marriage, 162–63, 165
trifecta of, 74–75
wit and intellect in, 16, 96–97
See also love and romance
flowers, 65–77
and family history, 71–73
and flirtation, 73–75
and kitchen essentials, 130
power of, 76–77
“put a flower on it” perspective, 6
zinnias, 72–73
foods and flavors
beef bourguignon recipe, 131, 132–33
and eating alone, 154
and kitchen essentials, 129–30
and romance/seduction, 124, 128–29, 138
sensuality of, 83
See also dinner parties
formality, 160
freedom, celebrating, 128
French language, 119–20. See also language and voice
French Women Don’t Sleep Alone (Callan), 5
furniture, 158
genders, celebrating differences in, 166
glasses, women in, 16–18, 21, 107
gray colors in Paris, 85
grooming, importance of, 6
guarantees, absence of, 148, 150, 151, 176
Guérin, Anna, 147
happiness, 93
Haynes, Jim, 124–26
heartbreak
and change les idées, 175–76
finding love after, 169–75
healing your heart after, 175–77
See also love and romance
Hediard, 85
Hepburn, Audrey, 169
historic neighborhood tours, 20–21
history, cultural, 28–29
Hôtel Particulier, 114–15
independence, 154
infidelity in France, 146, 148, 150
intellectual life
cultivation of, 18–21
French emphasis on, 14–15
and French salons, 102–3
and glasses on women, 17
and importance of reading, 18–20, 21
intimacy, 99–100
intrigue in romance, 155–56
jewelry, 36
joie de vivre (joy in living)
and color choices, 91
and flowers, 130
and living in the moment, 150–51
loss of, 4
kitchens
essentials for, 129–30
open, 82
Ladurée, 85
Lagerfeld, Karl, 107
Lahey, Jim, 130n
language and voice, 111–21
of Americans, 120–21
French, 119–20
and listening, 118
loud, 120–21
lowered, 116
mystery generated by, 120
power of, 111–12
secretive quality to, 113, 120
seductive power of, 111, 118–19
struggles with language skills, 81–82
swearing, 121
word painting with, 118–19, 121
La Perle des Dieux, 118
La Rentrée, 11
Le Carreau du Temple, 37–39
L’Éclair de Génie, 100–101
lectures, attending, 21
Le Jardin du Port (the Garden of the Port), 70
less-is-more attitude, 151, 159
light quality in Paris, 85
lingerie
and Kemp-Griffin, 67
and sensuality of food, 83
worn in public, 155
listening, power of, 118
living in the moment, 150–51
loneliness, 148
Lost Generation in France, 145
love and romance, 179–92
and colors, 91
and dinner parties, 138–40
exercising patience with, 174
and experiential pleasures, 159
at first sight, 7
and home decor, 158–59
importance of mystery in, 155–56, 157
of Jessica, 188–91
keeping tension in, 155–56, 157
of Krystal, 180–82
and “my love story” expression, 179
of Nicole, 186–88
of Ondine, 183–86
patience with, 174
planning a dinner for, 128–29
priority placed on, 149
pursuers/pursuees in, 95
role of rituals in, 156–57
saying yes to, 191
and standards of capitalism, 163–64
three ingredients for, 157
and travel, 63
your love story, 192
See also dating; marriage; seduction
Lyons, Jenna, 17
Ma Collection Marchande de Saveurs, 80, 82
madeleines, 123–24
marriage
and attractiveness to others, 165
and celebrating gender differences, 166
communication in, 161
experiential pleasures in, 159
familiarity in, 155
formality in, 160
French attitudes toward, 148, 150, 179
and home decor, 158–59
keeping wonder alive in, 161
lessening of romantic tension in, 157
maintaining mystery in, 155, 156–57, 166
and passionless couples, 7
three ingredients for strong love in, 157
men
and celebrating gender differences, 166
and clothing, 32
and cooking, 131
and dancing, 50
and dinner parties, 138–40
and finding love, 76
and flowers, 74–75
and happy women, 93
heroic hearts of, 74–75
holding intrigue of, 156–57
and intellects of women, 14–15
Madame M.’s lessons on, 3
sensory associations of, 156–57
and speaking styles of women, 118
See also love and romance; marriage
mentor, role of, 30
Midnight in Paris (2011), 117
Miller, Henry, 125
mistresses, 146
Monroe, Marilyn, 70
murals in stairwells, 112–13
muscle memories, 40–42
My Bread (Lahey), 130n
“my love story” (expression), 179
mystery
and confidence, 34
and glasses on women, 17
and hand fans, 17
instilled by ballet, 42
role of, in romance, 155–56, 157
and senses of men, 156–57
and speaking styles of women, 120
nature
appreciating the beauty in, 77
and French fashion, 80
going out in, 77
in your home, 77
naval officer’s jacket, 30–32
Nin, Anaïs, 53
Nyong’o, Lupita, 17
pantry essentials, 129–30
Paris
antiquing in, 174–75
color of skies in, 85
Mimi’s romance in, 171–75
and Paris plages (Paris beaches), 49
personal tours of, 11–12, 116, 174–75
Parisbreakfast blog, 84
Paris Undressed (Kemp-Griffin), 67
passion, 81–82
perfectionism, 192
perfume, 156
Personal Paris tours, 116
Pilates, 40–41
pink (color), 92–93
poppies worn on Armistice Day, 147–48
potlucks, 140, 141. See also dinner parties
pragmatism of the French, 150
private lives
lived publicly, 155–56
private moments in public spaces, 101–2, 108
Proust, Marcel, 153
questions, impertinent, 56
rationality of the French, 150
Ray, Man, 29
reading. See books and reading
reinvention allowed by travel, 55–56
Remembrance of Things Past (Proust), 123–24
“Remembrance Poppy Day,” 147–48
ribbons worn to honor causes, 148
rituals in romance, 156–57
romance. See love and romance
Rouen, France, 127–28
Rue des Abbesses, 117
Salon du Vintage, 37–40
salons, 102–3
Sand, George, 143
The Second Sex (Beauvoir), 14
secrecy, 99
Secret Garden Party, 67–69, 70
The Secret Life of France (Wadham), 15
seduction
language of, 107
planning a dinner for, 128–29
principles of, 99
role of color in, 89
role of food in, 124
self-reliance, emphasis on, 150
sensory associations, 156–57
sensuality, 83
sex, 8
shy people, flirtation for, 103–6, 107
signature colors
choosing, 92
and sensory associations of men, 156
smiling, 99
social activities of French women
active participation in, 157–58
and importance of dressing nicely, 158
and intellectual lives, 18–21
social status and color choices, 88–89
sounds, 99
Spanish influenza, 145
spiritual sustenance (secret gardens), 57
stairs, taking, 112–13
style
American, 32–33
and color choices, 93
and cultural history, 28
and personal history, 29–32, 33, 35
previous generations’ influence on, 29–30
and principles of seduction, 99
and unexpected combinations, 36
and your terroir, 33–34
See also clothing; colors
surprise, 99
swearing, 121
swing dancing, 42
tassels, 158–59
Tautou, Audrey, 120
terroir, body as, 33–34
tours, personal
for antiquing in Paris, 174–75
Edith’s Paris tours, 11–12
of historic neighborhood, 20–21
Personal Paris tours, 116
tragedies
and change les idées, 175–76
finding love after, 169–75
healing your heart after, 175–77
travel, 53–64
after heartbreak, 175
and asking impertinent questions, 56
and change les idées, 175
and French perspectives on Americans, 60–61
and holidays in France, 62
life-changing power of, 58–60, 61
and marriage, 166
and new cultural experiences, 62
and new perspectives, 54–55
reinvention allowed by, 55–56
and “secret garden” metaphor, 57
and self-discovery, 62
in youth, 62
Tropic of Cancer (Miller), 125
uncertainty, 155
Veuve Clicquot, 85
Virginia Center for the Creative Arts, 70
Vivonne, Catherine de, 102
voices. See language and voice
Voltaire, 179
vulnerability, importance of, 20, 76
Wadham, Lucy, 15
waiting in line, value of, 126–27
watercress bouquets, 69–70
weather of Paris, 85
Wintour, Anna, 106–7
wit and intellect in flirtation, 16, 96–97
women of a certain age, 1, 103
The Women Who Read Are Dangerous (Adler), 15
workshops, attending, 20
World Citizen at Home in Paris (Haynes), 125
World War I, 144–48
yellow, 79–80
youth, travelling in, 62
Zumba, 45–47