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Create Your Unique Map
for Healing
Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see
the whole staircase, just take the first step.
—martin luther king jr., let nobody turn us around
You’ll recognize this big, beautiful tree (you!) from earlier. Now that you’ve learned about each aspect of my approach to healing, I’m offering you this Healing Tree illustration as an awesome tool to streamline the whole process of healing. This is your map for becoming who you really are. In this chapter, you will learn how to use this illustration in conjunction with the techniques you learned in part three. This simple process will be your new guide.
At the end of this chapter, you will learn how to establish a new routine using techniques you’ve already learned, to help anchor all this great work you are doing.
Use the Healing Tree Illustration
You now have the knowledge and understanding to do great healing. By using the Healing Tree illustration, along with muscle testing and three simple questions, you’ll have a new guide map.
If you are not yet confident in your muscle testing, simply look at the Healing Tree illustration (instead of using the muscle testing laid out in the following section) and use your gut to guide you. Trust what is calling to you and you can’t go wrong.
Question 1
Ask via muscle testing: “Would it be most beneficial for me to work on _______?”
Fill in the blank with something from either the top section or the soil section of the Healing Tree illustration. Either one is totally fine, but you need to start with one or the other. You’ll see why in a minute.
Here are some examples of ways you could start (choose only one):
“Would it be most beneficial for me to work on an organ?” (Top section of the tree.)
If you get a “yes,” start asking about organs. Example: “Would it be most beneficial for me to work on my liver?”
“Would it be most beneficial for me to work on my bladder?” (Top section of the tree.)
Did you get a “no?” Okay, then try again.
“Would it be most beneficial for me to work on my liver?” (Top section of the tree.)
OR
“Would it be most beneficial for me to work on a belief ?” (Soil section.)
OR
“Would it be most beneficial for me to work on a past experience?” (Soil section.)
OR
“Would it be most beneficial for me to work on a gland?” (Top section of the tree.)
Get the idea here? There isn’t any specific order to go in. If you have recurring bladder infections, you might want to just start with your bladder. If you are working on reversing an autoimmune process, you might choose to ask about your immune system first. Thyroid troubles? Try that first. Panic attacks? Look for fears, harmful beliefs, and unprocessed experiences first. You can refer to Chapter Six for some ideas, too.
Do remember, though, that with any condition or challenge, there are various contributing components of that larger issue. For example, if you want to work on something like low-functioning adrenals, it is likely that there are other imbalances in your body linked to that, perhaps nervous-system stress and low thyroid function, among other things. You’ll be most successful if, in addition to working on the larger challenge, you also “think small” and work on a more detailed scale as well. Again, just follow your body’s lead. Do you remember the story of my client with digestive issues who lost her fear of speaking on the phone without us ever addressing that fear directly? Let it serve as a reminder that seemingly unrelated-to-your-biggest-challenge things are beneficial to work on, too. Clearing energy linked to anything you see on the Healing Tree illustration will help you move in the right direction. And remember, you won’t need to clear it all in order to heal.
Once you have determined where you’ll start, you’re ready for your next step. You need to get more clues so you can find something specific to work on. Just knowing you want to start with a belief or your bladder isn’t quite enough yet. You need more details.
If you started with the top section of the tree, you’re basically now going to find out what from the soil section of the illustration is causing an imbalance in that area of your body.
If you started with the soil section of the illustration, just hang tight. You’re set for now.
Question 2
If you started with the top section of the tree illustration, muscle-test this question: “Is there a _______ (insert something from the soil section) causing stress on my bladder?”
When you find out what it is—a belief, an unprocessed experience, fear, or an unhealthy emotional pattern—you just need to ask one more question before you start.
Question 3
We always have to give the body a chance to let us know why something is an issue. You will remember doing this in previous chapters. Ask and muscle-test this question: “Do I need to know more about this before I clear it?”
If you get a “no,” your body is saying it’s ready to clear this, pronto. If you get a “yes,” just know that this is part of the acknowledgment process your body requires in order to let it go. This will require a bit of detective work. You can basically just ask questions of yourself, like you would to a friend if they had this issue. Just guess what could be connected to the issue.
To get to that information, you can ask questions like this: “Is it linked to _______?” (You can also use the words “connected to,” “triggered by,” or anything else fitting for you.) Here are some possibilities for how to fill in the blank:
• a person (family member, friend, teacher, colleague, neighbor)
• career
• school
• a place (a certain house, a city, etc.)
• a thing (a food, a car, etc.)
For each clue you come up with, you should repeat that question, if you are using muscle testing: “Do I need to know more about this before I clear it?”
When your body says “no,” or you can’t come up with any more clues by using your conscious thinking, you’re going to head off armed with that information. You can now flip to the appropriate chapter and do the clearing. You may be able to clear all of it at once, or you may have to come back at different times, working slowly as your body is able.
Remember, when you are done, double-check that the issue is clear from your system. Ask something like, “Is _______ still causing stress in my body?”
When you’re done, come back to the Healing Tree illustration.
Breathe.
Repeat.
Tip: I’ve mentioned briefly before that if you are comfortable with muscle testing, I recommend asking your body which of the five main techniques would be most beneficial to clear with. As a reminder, the five techniques are: Thymus Test and Tap, Emotional Freedom Technique, The Sweep, Chakra Tapping, and the 3 Hearts Method.
To figure out which technique will work best, you can ask, “Would it be most beneficial to clear this _______ (insert issue) with _______ (insert technique)?” Keep guessing until you get a “yes.”
You may need to layer techniques to gently clear the energy, so be open to coming back and asking that question again if necessary. You can tweak the technique to fit your specific situation and explore what works for you, and when. That’s exactly how I developed my own effective protocols. I just kept trying new things and revising.
A Healing Tree Example
Here’s how using the concept of the Healing Tree illustration supported me in helping a client with severe and persistent migraines.
When Janet first came to me, she had no idea what was triggering recent headaches. Janet was a high-powered executive, and while the headaches were a new symptom, her stress levels were long-standing. I thought of some clues her body could be offering (from Chapter Six). We identified that she was constantly “doing her head in” wondering what other people thought of her. Even though she ran this huge company, she still worried incessantly about judgment from clients and even her own employees.
Working with that plausible idea, I intuitively chose an element of the Healing Tree illustration to start with. I often use muscle testing, but my intuition sometimes takes over and I just go in that direction first. Never be afraid to use your intuition, as it will become more accurate as you become better attuned to your body. I thought it was probably an unprocessed experience (from the soil section of the illustration) and then muscle-tested it for confirmation: “Are the headaches linked to an unprocessed experience?” (If you don’t have any idea of which one to choose first, just guess one by one). Her body responded with a “yes.” So we set off to find the experience. We asked if the experience was linked to a specific age. We got a “no.” Then we asked if the experience was linked to a specific person. We got a “yes.” After more guessing and muscle testing, we traced the experience back to a teacher she’d had in both first and second grade. The teacher had made her go in front of the class to read a story she wrote and then asked the other kids to give the story a grade. Janet still cringed when she thought about this. We now had an unprocessed experience to work with. We cleared that using Thymus Test and Tap and Emotional Freedom Technique, and then just kept going—asking and clearing.
Additional Questions to Unlock Your Healing
As you practice the concepts and techniques you’ve learned in this book, you will become more relaxed and less methodical. You will see there is a very organic unfolding to all of this, and it needs no organization or order. All roads lead you to healing. Your intuition will kick in more often, and you may not need to use the Healing Tree illustration every time. Things will pop into your head (this is often your subconscious pushing forward ideas for you), and you’ll have more of your own leads to follow. You might use some of the following questions to ignite your intuition. In time, you will find you have your own set of questions that help you get just the answers you need for your healing.
• “Do I have a belief causing stress on my immune system?” You can substitute “immune system” with “adrenal glands,” “nervous system,” etc.
• “Do I have a belief causing dysfunction in my _______ (name an organ, muscle, or gland of your choice)?”
• “Is there an experience from my past that is making it difficult for me to heal?”
• “Is there an unhealthy relationship in my life causing stress on my body?” Note: It’s important to know that while a person in your life may seem like the problem, it’s most likely your reaction to that person that is causing the problem for you. For example, the fact that your brother refuses to listen to you about how to raise his kids does not mean your brother is a problem. The real issue causing distress is your reaction to your brother. You can clear beliefs, unprocessed experiences, and fear patterns triggered by certain people with the various techniques you already know.
• “Do I have a belief that makes me feel I need this _______ (state the illness, problem, or challenge)?”
• “Is my difficulty healing linked to a specific negative emotional pattern?” Ask about each pattern we covered, individually.
• “Is my _______ (state the organ, muscle, gland, or part of the body that is manifesting symptoms) trying to give me a message?”
• “Is there a specific experience that my body is storing that is keeping me in fight, flight, or freeze mode?”
• “Do I need to forgive myself for something from my past in order to heal?”
• “Is there a benefit to this _______ (state the illness, problem, or challenge) that is making it difficult for me to heal?”
• “Is there an experience I need to heal in order to raise my body’s vibration?”
• “Is there a frequency in my body that is a match for _______ (parasites, viruses, bacteria, etc.)?” Note: This question fits in with the concept of the law of attraction. Releasing any emotional energy that is an energetic match to the parasite, virus, bacteria, etc., will help you to heal from it.
• “Am I holding generational energy that is having a negative impact on my body?”
• “Am I holding past-life energy that is having a negative impact on my body?”
• “Would it be beneficial to release energy related to _______?” Here are some possibilities for how you could fill in the blank:
• a person (family member, friend, teacher, colleague, neighbor)
• career
• school
• a place (a certain house you lived in, a city, or anything else you can think of)
• a thing (a food, a car, etc.)
Between using the Healing Tree illustration process, the additional suggested questions I’ve offered, and your own developing intuition, you have a plethora of ideas to work with. Now it’s time to learn how to encourage a new positive pattern in your body.
Create a New Routine
You now know that a huge part of healing is about releasing negative energy from our systems. As we make a dent in that work, we are slowly building ourselves back up in the way we were intended to be. Creating a routine in order to help establish a positive pattern is just as important as clearing a negative one.
Routine has never been a strong point of mine. I’m more of a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-flowy-skirt kind of girl. But I’ve learned that setting up some routine practices can be hugely beneficial in helping us stay on the right track. Just as I’ve always found it easier to maintain my weight than to gain weight and have to lose it later, I’ve had a similar experience with healing. It’s far easier for me to keep on top of this energy-balancing business than to allow myself to slip backward and end up with a big pile of stuff to dig through again.
I’ve learned this lesson more times than I can count—on both hands. It goes like this. I’m on a roll. I feel good. I get busy. I think I don’t need to do anything to remain in this flow of awesomeness. But then, little by little, I start to ignore small things, I overwork instead of allow myself the time I need, I skip doing things that are important to me, and so it goes. I start to feel a little rickety, and then a little more. Eventually, I always end up thinking, Wow, that would have been way less annoying if I’d just done what I knew I needed to do in the first place. Now, this doesn’t mean I’ve been perfect at this even with these reminders, and it’s unlikely you will be either. That’s completely okay. Life is about sometimes slipping up, staying up too late, reminding ourselves that we’re not completely invincible, and having too much fun, chocolate, and wine. This certainly doesn’t hurt unless it becomes the new routine. Don’t beat yourself up. Just say, “Oh, there it is again. This is very human!” Then start again.
If you have some of your own practices, like yoga, meditation, or deep breathing, then consider using them along with any bits and pieces of techniques you’ve learned in this book. These will ideally be simple things instead of, say, the entire version of a clearing technique. Many things can even be done in the shower, so there’s really no excuse not to drop them into your schedule. When you’re just sitting watching TV, see if you can work one in. During a bathroom break, take an extra few minutes to do something calming or healing. This doesn’t have to feel like a big chore or project. Your only mistake is doing nothing at all. You can do some of these before you get out of bed in the morning.
I’m all about integrating these techniques into your life instead of adding them to your to-do list. You can find a few practices and do them all together as a morning ritual, turn them into a before-bed routine, or scatter them throughout your day.
Here are a few suggestions of techniques to integrate into your day:
• Grounding
• Tracing around the eyes
• Thymus tapping
• Tapping through the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) points
• A few minutes of chanting
It doesn’t matter what your new routine consists of; it just matters that you create one that feels good to your body. This practice of creating healthy energy patterns by using a routine is like a retraining process for your body. It will return rewards far bigger than the effort.