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Surrender, Accept, and Flow
Imagine you are swimming in the ocean, a mile out. The sky is blue and the world feels beautiful. But a minute later, everything changes. Where did these clouds come from? you think. Why is the water so rough? You start to fear for your safety, and you start to fight. You kick and flail and use every ounce of energy to stay afloat. In the first five minutes you have exhausted yourself, and now your head is barely above water.
What would happen, though, if you changed your approach? What if you surrendered to and accepted your current reality? I am in a scary ocean. These waves are big. I cannot swim against them at the moment. I am doing the best that I can. I want to fix this, but I can’t right now. What if you turned on your back, stared up at that big, angry sky, and just let go?
Do you know what would happen?
I do. You’d float. And then you’d flow more easily in any direction.
There is something that always happens when you surrender and accept exactly where you are, find a way to be okay with it (and yourself), and stop fighting. You release yourself from at least half the hard work you’ve been doing. You have the energy to be with yourself through it. You have the opportunity to soften up and relax. You give up the “fight,” and because of it, you actually start to be free with far less effort than ever before.
In part one, we will be exploring the importance of surrendering to where you currently are, even if you aren’t where you want to be. You will learn why it’s essential, and techniques to help you actually do this. You’ll be able to use this space you create to work gently with yourself, and to build a solid foundation for your healing. You cannot hate your way to anywhere, especially healing. You just can’t. Once you give up the fighting energy, you will have a new and more grounded starting point for yourself. You will also discover how to take baby steps in directing your thinking about where you are, which will aid you in making things feel so much more comfortable until you can reach where you really want to be.