Kiss for Ten Minutes
We have reminded you of what kissing was like back in your teenage years, but only in general terms. Now we want to make it personal, so try taking yourself back to that time, no matter how long ago it may have been. Remember the first kiss that did something special to you, the one that absolutely swept you away and opened you up to indescribable sensations. That kiss probably lasted a long time, more than a few minutes. You probably resisted the urge to come up for air and lost yourself completely in the experience. The whole session might have gone on for half an hour or more, and if you are like us, you were left breathless and elated.
That kiss was probably not foreplay. It was not likely to lead anywhere (even if you were hoping it would). Back then, if you are like most people, you were kissing for the sake of kissing.
Whether or not this was part of your adolescent experience, you can bring some of that youthfulness and wonder to your adult erotic life. Kissing may be one of the most neglected erotic experiences for long-term couples, but it is well worth your time and attention. The trick is to take yourself back to that mental state where you were kissing without any goal in mind, without thinking that it was a prelude to sex, and to kiss and keep on kissing.
By keep on kissing, we mean stay in a luscious lip-lock for at least ten minutes, while observing what happens to you. You may notice a change in the quality of your saliva, since it is commingling. Perhaps it will feel more fluid and taste sweeter. The idea that bodily fluids are intrinsically powerful substances is deeply embedded in the human psyche, and while people jokingly refer to kissing as “swapping spit,” it is potentially an alchemical act that produces emotional changes.
You may find yourself getting incredibly turned on, wanting to rip your clothes off and tear into each other. This may happen very quickly, but we encourage you not to surrender to the urge, at least not the first few times you try this practice. Let yourself reawaken the sensations you experienced when kissing was not going to lead anywhere. See what it’s like to limit the encounter to a ten-minute make-out session, with no touching of the breasts or genitals and no further sexual contact until the following day. Once you’ve experimented with this restriction for a while, you can see what it feels like to kiss for ten minutes as foreplay, or better yet, spend a week re-creating those years when there were limits on what kind of touching was allowed—none below the waist for the first couple of sessions, then a little genital touching through the clothes, next under the clothes, and then . . . at last . . . the main event.
You may be surprised by how much satisfaction you find in just kissing, and you are likely to drive each other wild by building the erotic energy gradually over the course of the week. Although there is no way to turn back the clock, and many of us would not want to be teenagers again, prolonged conscious kissing and tantalizing make-out sessions can help recapture some of that youthful passion and desire.