Nipples
Now we’re moving on to more obvious and familiar trigger points. They relate directly to the ever-popular breasts and genitals. They may be obvious and familiar, but that doesn’t mean we know all there is to know about them. There’s a lot more pleasure to be gained if you arouse them deliberately, understand what you’re doing, and learn a couple of new tricks.
Although the nipples are well-known erogenous zones, people often touch them mechanically and without paying much attention. Some may rely exclusively on grabbing the entire breast (not a recommended seduction strategy), pinching the nipples, or sucking or biting them. When we teach about nipple stimulation, we sometimes find it difficult to get students to slow down, focus, and be methodical.
If people approached the breasts with the devotion we’d like them to bring to oral sex, they might come to equal the genitals as an erotic destination. While society makes a fetish of the breast, the attraction tends to be visual, which is one reason surgical augmentation is so popular. Some associate large breasts with sexual responsiveness, even though it is not uncommon for people to lose some degree of sensitivity, and sometimes most of it, after having the surgery. Recent improvements in surgical techniques have reduced but not eliminated the potential for nerve damage. There are certainly circumstances in which surgery is appropriate, but the potentially negative impact on sexual pleasure is frequently overlooked.
Indeed, many people can have orgasms through nipple stimulation alone, and while it is something of a taboo to say so, it is not uncommon for nursing mothers to orgasm while breastfeeding. A smaller number of male-bodied people also have the ability to experience orgasm in response to breast play, and most people enjoy nipple stimulation regardless of anatomy; however, not everyone does.
You can use your hands, mouth, lips, and teeth in a variety of ways. Try licking the nipples and then blowing on them, as you did with the nape of the neck. The nipples contain erectile tissue, so the cooling effect is likely to make them hard. You can also try pinching, rolling, and tugging. Moisten your fingers with saliva first, and use your thumb and index and middle fingers to tease the areolas and nipples. Since the nipples have more nerves than the areolas, sliding from areola to nipple again and again can build and intensify arousal. For some lucky people, this alone will be enough to produce an orgasm.
People’s breasts and nipples vary a lot in terms of size, shape, and responsiveness. Pregnancy, nursing, and the menstrual cycle can also influence sensitivity, as can your level of sexual arousal. For some, the nipples are almost always very responsive and can function as “on buttons.” Others, by contrast, don’t like their nipples touched until they are highly aroused.
Some people enjoy light touch that others might find irritating. Some like to have their nipples stimulated in ways that may seem painful to others. Thus, it is important for the receiver to communicate clearly and for the giver to pay attention to the response. Experiment with different types and styles of touching, and you’re likely to come up with one or two that work. Take some time and linger on the breasts; they’re not just a way station as you head for the genitals. They’re a wonderful source of pleasure in and of themselves, so enjoy them to the fullest.