Pleasure Your Partner
Inside and Out
By now you should have been able to locate the G-spot and the prostate, and your explorations have probably brought you much pleasure. As we have already pointed out, the G-spot and prostate gland are anatomical analogues that developed differently in utero. As you may recall, from an esoteric perspective they are trigger points for the second chakra or sex center. It is certainly true that for most people, direct stimulation of these areas is intensely erotic, provided the person receiving the stimulation has been sufficiently aroused in advance. Combining oral sex with prostate or G-spot massage can transform the intensely erotic into the explosive.
Before going any further, we want to reiterate something that probably cannot be restated often enough. If you are hesitant about having your prostate massaged, you are missing out on a lot of potential pleasure. You are also missing out on experiencing what is probably the closest approximation to what sex is like for a person with female genitalia. Of course, the approximation is somewhat crude, but it is one of many ways you can play around with your anatomy and with your perceptions about gender polarities. Similarly, this is an opportunity for people who don’t have penises to do the penetrating. Developing the broadest possible spectrum of bodily experience and knowledge affords us the opportunity to become freer human beings, less constricted by socially determined roles.
A few other general reminders may be of value at this point. The best way to stimulate both the prostate and the G-spot is by making a come-hither gesture with your middle finger. Some receivers may prefer two fingers, especially for G-spot massage, in which case the middle and index fingers are probably best. Review our advice about fingernail care and gloves in Part Six, chapter 39. We recommend gloves for all prostate massages and for those who are not fluid-bonded.
Be sure to spend a good deal of time on the external parts of the genitals first. The more arousal you can build, the more receptive and responsive the receiver will be. For some, a few clitoral orgasms can serve as foreplay. Also be sure to use a lot of lube, especially for prostate massage, since the anus doesn’t produce any lubrication of its own. It’s a good idea to keep towels on hand, as this can be one of the messier forms of sexual play.
Giving oral sex and internal massage simultaneously may be a bit of a challenge at first because it requires hand-mouth coordination. This kind of multitasking is probably less familiar and a little more awkward than trying to coordinate both hands during manual-digital stimulation. If you are the receiver, be sure to give both encouragement and helpful feedback. Also, you may find that touching yourself on another part of your body adds a third point that will give you even more pleasure. Playing with your own nipples can work well, and so can applying pressure just above the pubic bone, the trigger point we described in Part Six, chapter 37.
Once you’ve become adept at combining oral sex and digital stimulation, and it really shouldn’t take long, try chanting Om while doing so. If you become skilled at this form of multitasking, you are likely to take your partner to new heights of ecstasy.