Imagine Your Way
to a New Dimension
As you may recall, the word prana refers not only to breath but also to the energy that pervades the universe. The study of prana is quite complex, and there are various subtypes, but in the context of visualization, all you need to do is think of it as something invisible that surrounds you and that you can take in through your nose and mouth. Oral sex is a particularly fertile arena for incorporating visualization because it is so primal and because we do in fact take in energy through our mouths, at the very least in the form of food.
It is important to distinguish between visualization and sexual fantasy. Both are imaginative acts, but the purposes are quite different. We can use fantasy to arouse or distract ourselves, and it certainly has a place in sexual activity, whether solo or partnered. Sexual fantasies usually involve calling images to mind, and understanding that fantasy is a form of visualization will help you become more skilled at painting mental pictures; however, the purpose of visualizing in this particular context is not to build arousal or to help you reach orgasm. The purpose is to make the sexual encounter richer and more psychologically layered.
Visualization is also a tool for increasing the mutuality of your lovemaking. As we have already observed, from the Tantric viewpoint, all sexual activity, even very casual sex, engages the heart. From a Western perspective, this can be understood as being due in part to the post-coital release of oxytocin. Thus, every sexual encounter involves some degree of bonding between (or among) partners, although some go to great lengths to resist, reject, or ignore this element. When both partners visualize that they are exchanging energy, the bonding process is strengthened. Each is facilitating the other through a creative, imaginative act.
The process of doing this is simple, and you have already had a taste of it if you tried visualizing in conjunction with exploring the oral G-spot. The receiver should picture drawing prana in through the top of the head and down and out through the genitals. The giver imagines sucking this energy in through the receiver’s genitals.
People have different capacities for and ways of visualizing. For some, imagining colored light (gold is usually best) or wisps of smoke or mist can be the most effective way to see prana in the mind’s eye. Others may prefer to imagine the tingling sensation of an electrical current or a sound vibration. If you find yourself struggling, you can simply tell yourself mentally that you are drawing in and exchanging energy.
Once you have mastered the basics of this visualization, you may want to elaborate on it by imagining that the energetic exchange is a closed circuit rather than an open one. In this more advanced version, the giver should imagine that the energy drawn in through the mouth is flowing out the top of the head, and the receiver should visualize that current entering through the crown. The current flows in a circular motion from receiver’s genitals to giver’s mouth, from crown to crown, and back out through the genitals. By visualizing this exchange, you are establishing yourselves as two bodies in energetic communion, wrapped in a flow that is potentially endless. If you can truly surrender to this imaginative experience, you are likely to feel a deep sense of connection.
Oral sex is powerful and primal. In some ways performing it evokes infancy and therefore can take the giver into a deeply focused, altered state of consciousness. For the receiver, it is potentially the most pleasurable form of sexual contact. At the very least, bringing consciousness to your oral encounters is likely to deepen your bond. It may even give you a glimpse of sex at its most transcendent.