Doggy Style
and Some New Tricks
Doggy style is another familiar and fairly conventional sexual position. Because it gives access to the back, it offers a number of interesting opportunities for stimulating additional erogenous zones and making energetic connections. Try some of these, and see how they work for you.
Stimulating the sacrum (the five fused vertebrae at the base of the spine, often called the small of the back) in this position can add to your partner’s arousal. This area is very sensitive. The sacral nerves run from the sacrum to the genitals, as well as through the legs to the soles of the feet. These nerves play an important part in the orgasmic response, and stimulating them electrically has shown promise as a treatment for people who are unable to experience orgasm.44
The best way to engage the sacrum in this position is to tap gently at first with the fingertips of one hand. (You’ll need the other to keep your balance and continue thrusting.) Next you can move into gentle percussion with the knife-edge of your hand, a soft karate chop. Check in to determine what feels best. You can also place the palm of your hand on the sacrum and rub, producing friction, or hold it in place and vibrate it. All of these methods can produce an intensified state of arousal.
Shiva can also lean forward and blow upon, kiss, or bite the back of Shakti’s neck. Many species of animal bite the back of the neck when mating. This is another important erogenous zone, and stimulating it impacts the parasympathetic nervous system. Think of baby mammals relaxing completely when picked up by the scruff of the neck. So try this if things are getting overheated, or if you simply want to invite your partner to surrender even more fully to the experience. You can also grab the hair at the nape of the neck and pull it gently.
If Shakti is being penetrated vaginally, Shiva can stimulate the anus at the same time, either externally or internally. While we don’t generally recommend using the thumb for digital anal penetration, it is perfect for anal play in this position. Just applying the pressure of a well-lubricated thumb on the outside of the anus can be intensely pleasurable. You can go further and use it to penetrate, if that works for you both. As you know, the thumb is also an erogenous zone, so stimulating the anus with the thumb is yet another way of creating an additional energetic circuit while having penetrative sex.
Finally, Shakti can take a vibrator and stimulate Shiva’s perineum. To do this, you will need to support yourself with one arm or shoulder as you reach around. It may be a bit of a challenge to keep the vibrator in place if you are highly aroused or if Shiva is thrusting vigorously. But it will be worth the effort. Chances are it will intensify the experience for both of you, especially if the vibrator is a strong one, since you will both feel the sensations. Save this one until Shiva is ready to have an orgasm because the stimulation can be very intense and is likely to push many people over the edge.
The possibilities for bringing additional erogenous zones into play during penetrative sex are virtually unlimited. We’ve given you a few basic suggestions. You can review the section on erotic trigger points, and explore stimulating them during intercourse in whatever position you like. Treat it as a creative venture; have fun, and be playful.