* Pamela, in 1960, married the theatrical producer Leland Hayward (South Pacific, Call Me Madam). In 1971, shortly after both Hayward and Marie Harriman died, Averell, seventy-nine, and Pamela, fifty-one, married at a tiny ceremony with Ethel Kennedy as one of their witnesses. Pamela became an important fund raiser and activist for the Democratic Party, and the two were still happily together some fifteen years later.