In this chapter you will complete your Exposure Inventory Worksheet: a detailed plan for how to stop safety behaviors and systematically expose yourself to what you’ve been avoiding. Your inventory builds on all the work you have done to this point: listing your feared situations and experiences, examining your safety behaviors in detail, and putting numerical values on the negative distress you feel and the positive values by which you want to live your life.
To further refine your inventory you will add a plan to stop safety behaviors, as well as “predicted outcomes,” and “percent probability” to each of your feared situations. On the following worksheet, write down one of your feared situations, your associated safety behaviors, the subjective units of distress (SUDS), and the relative value ratings you made in the previous chapters. (This worksheet is available to download at http://www.newharbinger.com/34749.)
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
In the third column, make a plan for stopping your safety behaviors and exposing yourself to what you have been avoiding. There are two ways to do this: the cold turkey plan and the gradual plan.
In this plan, you immediately stop the distraction, reassurance seeking, procrastination, and so on—all the things you have been doing to soften or postpone facing your anxiety. And you immediately do the things you have been avoiding doing. You dive right into the cold water of the feared situation.
Remember Eileen, the equestrian who became anxious about riding her horse? She made a cold turkey plan to handle many of her feared situations:
Feared situation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Cantering |
Holding saddle horn |
Hold reins, don’t touch saddle horn |
60 |
3 |
||
Visiting horse |
Procrastinate, say “Good boy!” constantly |
Visit twice a week, no “Good boy” |
30 |
3 |
||
Remembering the fall |
Distraction |
Plan on four 20-minute sessions recalling accident and hospital stay |
50 |
4 |
||
Talking about the fall |
Avoiding any mention of it |
Get Mom to listen to the whole story—30 minutes |
45 |
4 |
||
Walking horse in corral |
Seeking reassurance from instructor |
Send instructor out of earshot |
35 |
3 |
||
Thinking about difficult trails |
Distracting with iPhone |
Think about them for 15 minutes without distraction |
45 |
5 |
The second way to discontinue safety behaviors is to reduce them more gradually. You can create a hierarchy that goes from full use of the safety behavior, to partial use, and incrementally to no use. The trick is to devise two to five steps that can cushion the shock of a cold-turkey plunge into zero safety behaviors. Plan a gradual lessening of safety behaviors if you sense that your anxiety will be too overwhelming with a cold turkey approach. Of course, there is a downside to gradual plans: they take a lot longer.
Here’s how Eileen made gradual plans for riding the Meadow Loop Trail and overcoming panic sensations on steep trails:
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Riding Meadow Loop Trail |
Procrastinating, avoiding, or riding only with instructor |
Ride with instructor leading the way Ride with instructor behind me Ride alone with instructor on speed dial Ride alone |
75 |
4 |
||
Panicky feeling when horse thrusts up on steep trails |
Avoiding, postponing, saying maybe I’ll ride with instructor |
Stand at foot of grade and watch instructor ride it Ride the grade with instructor watching Ride the grade with instructor on speed dial Ride alone |
100 |
5 |
Here are some other ways to gradually eliminate other typical safety behaviors:
The false alarms that have plagued you and driven your struggle with anxiety can’t be overcome with reasoning. You can’t argue away your fears. You’ve no doubt tried—or others have—and the alarm reactions just keep happening. When it comes to anxiety, and the belief that certain things or situations are dangerous, you can’t think your way out of it. Only real, disconfirming experiences can change deeply held beliefs. This is true for all of us—we literally have to be shown that our beliefs about danger aren’t true before they can change. We have to experience the thing we’ve feared and have something other than what we expected happen.
The mismatch between the harmful thing you expect and actual outcomes is critical to new learning. And the more your expectation is contradicted by direct experience, the more powerfully your old beliefs about danger will be disconfirmed. Overcoming false alarms, and all the avoidance they generate, involves predicting that a particular aversive outcome will occur (from an exposure) and then carefully comparing actual outcomes to the prediction.
In the sixth column of your Exposure Inventory Worksheet, for each of your plans, you need to make a prediction: what are you most afraid will happen if you follow your plan and stop your safety behavior? This prediction should be expressed as observable behavior—yours or others’—as opposed to your feelings and internal experiences. For example, individuals who fear elevators might predict that the doors will close and they will be stuck between floors. Or that the cable will break and the elevator will start to drop. Or that they will have a heart attack while riding the elevator. Notice that the prediction doesn’t include how the individual will feel, but rather focuses on a worst-case scenario of what is expected to happen.
While there is no point predicting that you’ll feel anxiety—because you will—you can predict your own behavioral responses. Returning to the elevator example, a behavioral prediction might look like this: “I’ll be so overwhelmed, I’ll push the button for the next floor, get off, take the stairs down, and go home.” You can also predict other people’s behavior in response to your tests. For example, a socially anxious woman, who is afraid of asking questions, predicted the following: “When I ask department store clerks about the quality and durability of a particular item, they’ll get a contemptuous look, say (in so many words) my question is ridiculous, and walk away from me.” Notice the prediction doesn’t center on how the clerk feels or what the clerk thinks. There’s no way to observe and know that. The prediction is based entirely on outcomes you can see—they either happen or they don’t.
Go back and write in your worst fears and exactly what will happen if they come true.
The next step in the prediction process is to assess how likely it is that the feared outcome will take place. For example, you might assess that there is “an 80 percent chance that standing next to a dog will result in getting bit.” Or that there is “a 70 percent chance I’ll cut myself or someone else if I use a chopping knife.” Or that there is “a 90 percent chance I’ll be so scared I’ll have to get off the subway before reaching my stop.” For each of your worst-case outcomes, note the percent probability in the last column.
Notice that the percent probability isn’t based on actual odds, but on what your fear tells you. For example, you may know rationally that millions of people use knives every day without mishap. But your assessment of the probability of injury should be based on your feeling of danger and your subjective belief about likely outcomes if you use a knife.
Continue listing all your feared situations on your inventory, with safety behaviors, plans, and so on, until all columns are filled in. Take your time and do a thorough job. Remember, the basic solution to anxiety is simple: avoid what you usually do, and do what you usually avoid. But the implementation can be complex, layered, subtle, and time-consuming.
To help you figure out how to make better exposure plans and outcome predictions, the rest of this chapter consists of detailed examples of other people’s inventories. There is at least one example for each of the six anxiety disorders. Some disorders have more than one example, to show the widest possible range of options in filling out an exposure inventory.
Look through all of the examples, even if you don’t suffer from the particular type of anxiety exemplified. You will learn different ways to structure your inventory to create a list of doable exposure experiences. Notice how others:
Stephan struggled with a harsh “worry voice” that plagued him with frequent rumination about his health, his job, money, and crime. Notice that his feared situations all have the excessive worry component so typical of generalized anxiety disorder. Note that Stephan highly valued learning to face medical fears and getting free of constant worry about his symptoms.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Thinking doctor is wrong and stomach pain is not just gas |
Lots of online medical research |
Just stop cold turkey |
85 |
5 |
Undetected stomach cancer will make me keep getting sicker. |
65% |
Worrying I’ll lose everything when stock market goes down |
Constantly check Dow and S&P, call broker for reassurance |
Check twice today, once tomorrow, skip a day, once more, then stop cold. Call broker only once a quarter. |
75 |
4 |
Market will tank soon and I’ll be wiped out, homeless. |
50% |
Assuming if I buy a new Buick it will be a lemon |
Rechecking Consumer Reports, procrastinating, frequent test drives, reassurance seeking with friends |
Drive each of five models once, then decide |
60 |
2 |
I’ll pay high end for a car and just keep pouring money down a bottomless pit. |
70% |
Antonio is lonely. His last girlfriend was six years ago in college, someone who asked him out. His fear of being judged or rejected has kept him from:
Antonio’s exposure inventory for social anxiety is typical in that it involves two types of exposure:
Notice that Antonio highly values any exposures involving contact with Irene, someone he likes at work.
Fearedsituation | Safety behaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Talking to others |
Avoid it, keep quiet, don’t go to parties and other events |
Say “hello” to Irene at her desk |
50 |
5 |
She’ll shrug, avoid eye contact, and look away |
60 |
Put up online dating profile |
60 |
3 |
Too scary, won’t finish it and hit “submit” |
80 |
||
Go to “Save the Earth” Meetup group |
65 |
4 |
No one will talk to me |
70 |
||
Start a conversation with Irene about her vacation |
70 |
5 |
She’ll look away and ignore me |
70 |
||
Go to singles bar—30 min. |
70 |
2 |
No one will talk to me |
85 |
||
Go to after-hours office party—30 min. |
75 |
2 |
I won’t talk to anyone, they won’t talk to me |
80 |
||
Respond via e-mail to 5 interesting profiles |
75 |
3 |
No one will respond to me |
90 |
By now you should have a pretty long Exposure Inventory Worksheet, probably rewritten a few times as you revise your plans for stopping safety behaviors and exposing yourself to your feared situations. In the next chapter you will finally get a chance to put your inventory to use, and start solving your anxiety problems with positive actions.
Mary feared harming her two-year-old daughter or her husband with a sharp implement such as a knife, serving fork, scissors, or needle. She reached the point where she was afraid to cook or sew, particularly if her daughter or husband were anywhere near. Her exposure inventory included holding and then using sharp implements, as well as visualizing accidentally cutting her daughter with a knife. Notice that items involving shared activities with her daughter are highly valued.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Picking up paring knife or carving knife, especially near husband or daughter |
Avoid it, wait until they’re gone |
Holding carving knife—1 min. |
60 |
2 |
Drop knife or cut myself |
70 |
Holding carving knife—3 min. |
70 |
2 |
Drop knife or cut myself |
80 |
||
Holding paring knife—1 min., husband across kitchen |
70 |
2 |
Cut husband |
60 |
||
Holding paring knife—3 min., daughter across kitchen |
80 |
2 |
Cut daughter |
75 |
||
Holding carving knife and fork, daughter across kitchen |
80 |
2 |
Cut or stab daughter |
75 |
||
Holding carving knife and fork, daughter near cutting board |
90 |
2 |
Cut or stab daughter |
85 |
||
Chopping |
Avoid it, buy precut veggies |
Chopping 5 carrots, salad, daughter across kitchen |
85 |
3 |
Cut daughter |
80 |
Annalea had struggled with a fear of germs since her college roommate contracted mononucleosis and had to drop out of school. She became increasingly vigilant in looking out for any possibility of contamination. She avoided touching doorknobs, railings, toilets, floors, chair seats, paper money, and other people—particularly their hands. When Annalea touched something she believed to be contaminated, she suffered extreme anxiety until she washed or showered. Washing rituals could last up to several hours, and on bad days Annalea spent much of her time compulsively “de-germing” herself. She strongly valued her relationships, as you’ll see in exposure items involving family and friends.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Touching doorknobs |
Avoiding, washing |
Touching inside doorknob for 10 seconds, washing only 3 min. after toilet and before meals, no other washing |
40 |
1 |
Sick by bedtime |
60 |
Touching outside doorknob for 10 sec., washing only 2 min. after toilet, before meals, no other washing |
60 |
3 |
Sick by bedtime |
80 |
||
Being near sick people |
Avoiding, washing |
Visualize seeing roommate in hospital |
40 |
4 |
Can’t stand it, have to stop |
60 |
Touching floor |
Avoiding, washing |
Both hands on living room floor for 30 sec., washing 2 min. only after toilet, before meals |
65 |
2 |
Sick by bedtime |
70 |
Touching other people |
Avoidance |
Shaking hands with friends at a political meeting, washing 1 min. after toilet, before meals |
80 |
4 |
Sick by bedtime |
95 |
This example showed Annalea’s inventory for exposing herself to her contamination fears and discontinuing her safety behavior of prolonged hand washing. While not fully shown in her inventory, she also systematically reduced the time she spent showering. In the end, she tapered down to showering once a day for ten minutes and washing her hands for only thirty seconds before each meal and after using the bathroom.
Morgan, the son of missionaries, lost his girlfriend in a car accident when she was only thirty-one. At the funeral he had the sudden thought, I hate God. The thought was so disturbing and unacceptable that he tried to banish it from his mind. But the more he tried to avoid the thought, the more frequently it appeared. As a way of undoing or neutralizing the thought, he whispered, “Sorry, sorry, sorry,” each time it occurred.
Morgan’s inventory first worked on stopping his ritual “Sorry, sorry, sorry” safety behavior, then concentrated on tolerating the I hate God phrase as a thought alone, as a thought in certain situations, when said out loud, and when written down.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Thinking my I hate God thought |
Ritual: whispering “Sorry, sorry, sorry.” Trying to avoid the thought |
Shorten to two sorries for a day, then one sorry for the next day, then no sorries thereafter |
80 |
3 |
I won’t be able to stop. If I do stop, God will physically strike me down. |
75 |
Think my thought once alone |
55 |
1 |
Physically struck down |
60 |
||
Think it 10 times |
70 |
1 |
Physically struck down |
65 |
||
Think it 50 times |
85 |
1 |
Physically struck down |
70 |
||
Think it while talking to clients |
70 |
3 |
They’ll know, and will cancel their contract |
90 |
||
Think it while with parents |
90 |
3 |
They’ll read my mind |
60 |
||
Think it in church |
100 |
1 |
Physically struck down |
100 |
Sergio had his first panic attack in a hotel, following a turbulent and stressful plane flight. The physical symptoms included feeling dizzy/light-headed and flushed, rapid heart rate, a sense that he couldn’t get enough air, and weakness in his legs. Subsequent panic attacks were at first rare, occurring only when he traveled far from home. As time went by, they began to happen on public transportation, in crowded places, on long drives, and when caught in traffic, always preceded by one or more of his physical symptoms. If you look at the values column in Sergio’s inventory below, you’ll see that his fear of panic attacks kept him from enjoying activities he valued very highly, such as movies, eating out, and spending time with friends.
Note that Sergio’s inventory contains situational, interoceptive, and imagery-based exposures. His panic disorder was typical in that what he dreaded was not so much certain situations, but rather the interoceptive physical sensations of panic that he might feel in those situations. For exposure to work in treating panic disorder, it helps to design safe, controllable experiences that will reproduce similar physical sensations. Sergio recreated the interoceptive experiences as follows:
Panic symptom | Interoceptive equivalent |
---|---|
Rapid heart rate |
Running in place |
Flushed/hot feeling |
Running in place with heavy coat |
Dizziness/light-headedness |
Very rapid breathing |
Difficulty breathing |
Breathing through a straw |
Leg weakness |
Holding a “half squat” until legs feel weak/shaky |
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Driving more than a few miles |
Avoidance: stay home, get rides |
Drive to San Rafael—30 min. |
45 |
2 |
Panic, have to stop |
60 |
Drive to Napa—60 min. |
55 |
2 |
Panic, have to stop |
70 |
||
Drive to Clear Lake—2 hrs. |
70 |
5 |
Panic, have to stop |
75 |
||
Thinking about my first panic |
Distraction, drinking, Internet |
Visualize 1st panic— 2 min., then 5 min., no distraction or numbing |
45 |
1 |
Can’t stand it, have to stop |
60 |
Taking public transportation |
Avoidance |
BART train to Oakland |
50 |
1 |
Panic, have to get off |
60 |
BART train to S.F. |
70 |
3 |
Panic, have to get off |
60 |
||
Bus to Sacramento |
80 |
4 |
Panic, have to get off |
75 |
||
Bus to Reno |
90 |
5 |
Panic, have to get off |
95 |
For even more details on designing interoceptive exposures, see Appendix IV at the end of this book.
Specific phobias can arise in connection to virtually any object or situation. Common phobias include insects, animals, heights, closed spaces, driving, injections and other medical procedures, public speaking, water, and many others. Developing items for a phobia inventory typically involves manipulating:
The following inventory documents the exposure plan for Sophia, a professional gardener who was afraid of bees. She cared deeply about her job, as you’ll see in her value ratings.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Reading article about bees |
Avoidance |
Read article about someone attacked by bees |
85 |
2 |
Too scared, put magazine down |
90 |
Hold a picture of a bee |
40 |
1 |
Will drop it |
60 |
||
Look at picture of someone with multiple bee stings |
80 |
2 |
Too scared, put picture down |
90 |
||
Videos of bees |
Avoidance |
Looking at a video of bees on computer |
50 |
1 |
Will turn it off |
60 |
Listening to recording of many bees buzzing |
45 |
1 |
Will turn it off |
65 |
||
Flower gardens with bees |
Avoidance |
Stand halfway to my dahlias (lots of bees) for 1 min. |
65 |
3 |
Will be stung |
60 |
Stand halfway to my dahlias for 3 min. |
75 |
3 |
Multiple stings |
70 |
And here is another specific phobia inventory, this one by Stan, a newly diagnosed diabetic who was afraid of needles. As you can see from his value ratings, he had a strong value about staying healthy, which required him to learn to administer his own insulin injections.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Being around injection stuff—vials, syringes, etc. |
Avoid, distract, ask for reassurance |
Sit in doctor’s waiting room |
55 |
2 |
Leave immediately |
60 |
Look at picture of syringe |
45 |
2 |
Stop, put it down |
60 |
||
Watch a video of someone getting a shot |
50 |
2 |
Can’t stand it, turn it off |
90 |
||
Watch nurse demonstrate injecting an orange |
80 |
4 |
Leave immediately |
80 |
||
Smell alcohol on cotton ball |
55 |
1 |
Stop immediately |
60 |
Laura was the victim of a nighttime break-in during which she was slapped awake by her assailant and sexually assaulted in her bed. Since the attack, she’s suffered flashbacks, surges of anxiety, and sadness, and she has an overwhelming fear of being alone at night.
Recovery from PTSD symptoms involves two very different kinds of exposure:
Laura has strong values about facing the pain in her life and maintaining her independence, as you’ll see in her inventory.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Remembering the attack |
Avoid, distract, mental rituals |
Record the story of the attack on my phone—15 minutes long |
85 |
5 |
Can’t stand it, will have to stop |
95 |
Listen to 5 minutes of the recording on my phone, during which I describe everything that happened during the attack |
80 |
5 |
Can’t stand it, will have to stop |
80 |
||
Listen to 10 minutes of the recording |
75 |
5 |
Can’t stand it, will have to stop |
75 |
||
Listen to all 15 minutes of the recording |
70 |
5 |
Can’t stand it, will have to stop |
75 |
Three years ago, Aaron was in the second car of a high-speed commuter train when it left the tracks and plowed into a warehouse. Passengers flew through the air and there were four dead in Aaron’s car. Survivors were trapped for more than an hour while rescuers and paramedics tried to reach them. While waiting for help, Aaron was in great pain with a broken leg and ribs.
As noted in Laura’s case, PTSD must be treated with both imagery exposure (a recorded description of the event) and situational exposure for current, associated fears. In Aaron’s case, he retained a morbid fear of trains, planes, and buses, and had been forced to quit his job because it required significant travel. Note that his valued exposures all involve increasing his ability to travel.
Fearedsituation | Safetybehaviors | Plan to stop safety behavior and to expose | SUDS 1–100 | Value 1–5 | Predicted worst-case outcome | Percent probability |
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Remembering the derailment |
Avoiding, taking tranquilizers, drinking too much, distraction |
Making an 18-minute recording of the accident—what I saw, heard, smelled, thought, and felt emotionally and physically |
90 |
1 |
Have to quit |
80 |
Listen to recording once on day 1—no drinking, drugs, or distraction |
85 |
1 |
Have to quit |
80 |
||
Listen to recording twice on day 2—no d, d, or d |
80 |
1 |
Have to quit |
80 |
||
Listen to recording 3 times on day 3—no d, d, or d |
65 |
1 |
Have to quit |
70 |
||
Listen to recording 4 times on day 4 —no d, d, or d |
60 |
1 |
Have to quit |
70 |
||
Listen to recording 5 times on day 5—no d, d, or d |
50 |
1 |
Have to quit |
65 |
||
Read article about the derailment—no d, d, or d |
50 |
1 |
Have to quit |
65 |