THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES
Profile for Husbands

You may think you already know your primary love language. Then again, you may have no clue. The 5 Love Languages Profile will help you know for certain which love language is yours—Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch.

The profile consists of 30 pairs of statements. You can only pick one statement in each pair as the one that best represents your desire. Read each pair of statements, and then, in the right-hand column, circle the letter that matches up with the statement you choose. It may be tough at times to decide between two statements, but you should only choose one per pair to ensure the most accurate profile results.

Allow at least 15 to 30 minutes to complete the profile. Take it when you are relaxed, and try not to rush through it. Once you’ve made your selections, go back and count the number of times you circled each individual letter. You can list the results in the appropriate spaces at the end of the profile.

Your wife may not do some of these, but if she did, which would you prefer?

 

 1

I wish my wife would send me a love note (or text or email) for no special reason.

A

I would like more hugs from my wife.

E

 2

I would like to spend more time alone with my wife, just the two of us.

B

I enjoy working around the house with my wife.

D

 3

Receiving special gifts from my wife makes me happy—I wish she would do it more!

C

One of my favorite things is traveling with my wife.

B

 4

I would like my wife to run errands or put gas in my car.

D

I wish my wife would touch me more.

E

 5

I wish my wife would sometimes put her arm around me when we are with others.

E

Every now and then I’d like to get a surprise gift from my wife.

C

 6

I like going places with my wife—even the grocery store!

B

I like to hold my wife’s hand.

E

 7

I value the gifts my wife gives me.

C

I would love to hear my wife say the actual words “I love you” more often.

A

 8

I wish my wife would sit close to me more often.

E

I feel loved when my wife tells me, “You look good.”

A

 9

I wish my wife and I could spend more time together.

B

Even the smallest gift from my wife is important to me.

C

10

I would love it if my wife could say, “I’m proud of you.”

A

When my wife cooks a nice meal for me, I feel very loved.

D

11

No matter what we do, I love doing things with my wife.

B

I wish my wife would say more supportive things to me.

A

12

Little things my wife does for me mean more to me than things she says.

D

My wife and I need to hug more.

E

13

I would love to hear more praise from my wife.

A

It means a lot to me when my wife gives me gifts I really like.

C

14

I wish my wife and I could spend more time together.

B

I would like a back rub from my wife sometimes.

E

15

I wish my wife would be more enthusiastic about something I’ve accomplished.

A

I wish my wife would help me with tasks, even those she dislikes.

D

16

I never get tired of my wife’s kisses.

E

I wish my wife would show more interest in things I like to do, even though they might not be her “thing.”

B

17

I would like my wife to work with me on projects.

D

I wish my wife would get more excited about gifts from me.

C

18

I love it when my wife compliments my appearance.

A

I wish my wife wouldn’t jump in to criticize my ideas rather than hearing me out.

B

19

I can’t help but touch my wife when she’s close by.

E

I wish my wife would now and then run errands for me when I’m busy.

D

20

At times, when I’m feeling swamped at work, I wish my wife would see that and do more around the house.

D

If my wife gives me a gift, I would like her to put thought into choosing it.

C

21

I wish my wife would give me her full attention when we’re talking, and not look away or check her phone.

B

Keeping the house clean is an important act of service.

D

22

I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for my birthday.

C

I know my wife loves me, but I wish she would tell me more often what I mean to her.

A

23

It would be nice if when my wife takes a trip, she would bring me a little gift.

C

I wish my wife would sometime surprise me by helping me with a chore I dislike.

D

24

It bothers me when my wife interrupts me.

B

I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife.

C

25

I want my wife to help me out when I’m tired.

D

I wish my wife was as enthusiastic about going places as I am.

B

26

I love having sex with my wife.

E

I like it when my wife goes to the store and picks up little things she knows I’ll like.

C

27

I wish my wife would be more encouraging.

A

I love to watch movies with my wife.

B

28

If I received a gift from my wife, I would feel appreciated.

C

I just can’t keep my hands off my wife.

E

29

I know my wife is busy, but sometimes I would love it if she would help me with things I have to do.

D

I would really like it if my wife sometimes said, “I appreciate you.”

A

30

I love embracing my wife after we’ve been apart for a while.

E

I want to hear my wife say she believes in me.

A

A: _____ B: _____ C: _____ D: _____ E: _____

A = Words of Affirmation; B = Quality Time; C = Receiving Gifts;

D = Acts of Service; E = Physical Touch

INTERPRETING AND USING YOUR PROFILE SCORE

Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are “bilingual” and have two primary love languages if point totals are equal for any two love languages. If your second highest scoring love language is close in score but not equal to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any one love language is 12.

You may have scored certain ones of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your wife may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand this about her.

In the same way, it will benefit your wife to know your love language and express her affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. Every time you or your wife speak each other’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, improved romance.

If your wife has not already done so, encourage her to take the 5 Love Languages Profile for Wives, which is available on page 209. Discuss your respective love languages, and use this insight to improve your marriage!