Luscious Lips, page 24It’s that time. You’re starting to think about a certain person in a certain way, and you’re on your way to getting naked and touching each other in some deliciously delightful places. In this chapter, you can:
--- Find adventure in the erogenous zones such as lovely lips, delicious nipples, and below the belt.
--- Survey sensual areas like the neck, the thighs, or anywhere else that’s often overlooked.
Adventures in the Erogenous Zones!
What do you think when you hear the term erogenous zones? Most people immediately think penis or vulva, but tend to forget about all the other deliciousness going on. You have numerous nerve endings connected to pretty much every single part of your body. We’ll get into some of the even less commonly thought of areas in the next section, but let’s talk sensual zones. Where do you want to go first?
Luscious Lips, page 24
Delicious Nipples, page 24
Below the Belt, page 25
Luscious Lips
Your lips (the ones above your waist … yes, the ones on your face, not between your legs) are full of nerves just aching to be stimulated. Kissing is great, but rather than just a few pecks here and there or some tonsil hockey happenings, consider making love to your lover’s lips. Gently caress and stroke them with your own lips, with a finger, with a dripping ice cube — feel free to get super creative. Nibble them nicely … or naughtily, however you (and they) prefer. Catch their bottom lip between your teeth and pull back gently until you hear your partner moan. Don’t just kiss ’em and leave ’em alone — show their lips, and yours, that you know exactly how delightful they can feel when they’re properly used.
Delicious Nipples
And how about the nipples? True, not everyone loves to have their nipples touched, but a lot more people do than you might think. While we tend to think of women’s nipples as sensual, they’re usually just a quick stop for a little “come in Tokyo, come in Moscow” radio-dial action on the way down the treasure trail, and when it comes to men’s nipples? Pshaw! You’d think that they didn’t exist for all the lack of lip service we give them.
Don’t Just Do a Flyby
No matter your sex or gender, nipples are chock-full of nerve endings (unless you’ve had surgery that might affect this), and many of these endings wind up ending right between your legs. So playing with the nipples and giving them a little bit of air time, rather than just dusting over them on the way to the genitals, is going to get both of you much more fired up.
Don’t just go in for “the kill” (a.k.a. the radio-dial twist — which, to be honest, few people like just by itself). Endear yourself to those passionate peaks. Circle around them, explore them. Use your fingers, your tongue, some feathery goodness, ice cubes, whipped cream — anything you can think of, give it a go, and really get to know both sets of nipples, yours AND theirs. You can play with your own nipples to give your partner a little bit of a sensual show, and then return the focus back to theirs. Flick nicely, pinch a little, lick, suck, nuzzle, blow on, circle, stroke — figure out what feels best, and do a lot of that sandwiched between a bit more exploring. Once they’re even more revved and raring to go, then, and only then, should you desert these mountainous peaks and travel farther south.
Below the Belt
Now you’re finally nearing what you might have thought of as your goal all along. Do NOT get too excited yet. We’re not going to dive in for the cherry on top too soon — there are so many fun and delicious things to do between the legs before you start focusing solely on the vulva or on the penis and testicles.
Spend some time on the pubic bone. Everyone has some epic sensations running just below this area — some folks may call it a “mons pubis,” and others have different names for it, but all that you need to know is that it’s awesome, and highly sensitive. Run your palms on it, lightly at first, and then put a bit more pressure on it, pulling up toward the stomach. Now, don’t press too hard, but what you’re doing is stimulating the nerve endings for the genitals in a new and unique way. Pretty cool, right? In fact, much of our sexual sensation occurs INSIDE the body, instead of just on the outside! Now use your fingers and gently trail them along the areas where the legs meet the rest of the body, along the outside of the outer lips or at the base of the penis where it connects to the body. These areas are highly sensitive, and because they’re frequently ignored during sexual playtime, they’re highly primed with some stimulation. Give it to them before you continue on.
Survey Sensual Areas Often Overlooked!
You little tease, you love giving your partner all kinds of pleasure, especially anything not traditionally connected to the genital region. Good for you — it takes some terrific talent to hold back from the main course in order to tenderize and tantalize your willing victim.
Now, you’ve probably heard this fact before, but maybe not in such a sensual and sexual context. The skin is your largest organ. This means that anywhere you touch is going to end up with tons of nerve endings firing back pleasure signals to the brain saying “Holy cow, this feels amazing!” Yeah, sure, the genitals may have more nerve endings per square inch, but since when did we decide to take quantity over quality? Touch can feel absolutely amazing wherever it is, and it’s up to you to figure out the spots that drive your partner absolutely wild and vice versa! Where would you love your partner to spend some extra time tonight?
The Neck, page 25
The Thighs, page 26
Everywhere Else, page 26
The Neck
The neck is the easy one. Ears too. Almost everyone (the key word here is almost; it’s OK if you or your partner is not part of the majority here) enjoys having their neck or ears touched, nibbled, licked, and so on, so go for it. Notice that I said nibbled and not eaten like a rabid dog. People sometimes get a little too aggressive here, and that can result in unintended hickies. Given that turtlenecks are out of style, this could cause some awkward moments. Rather than suck away like a … well … sucker fish, or bite like your life depended on it, gently lick the neck and blow on the area for a little temperature play. Nibble with your lips gently to give them a tingle or two down the spine. Softly bite their earlobes — this area is much harder (though not impossible) to accidentally bruise. Use your fingers, your tongue, your lips, the tip of your nose — think outside the box and nuzzle up to them in various ways.
The Thighs
Once you’ve taken care of the neck or ears, it’s time to explore other oft-neglected areas that can be a huge turn-on. Many people love having the area on and around their hip bones kissed, and this is a great way to tease your partner, since it feels so close to their genital area without getting into the “it” zone. The same goes for licking, kissing, nibbling, and sucking the inside of the thighs. There are tons of nerve endings, so close to the hot zone, but it’s definitely a bit of a tease because you’re not diving in to the action quite yet.
Everywhere Else
Think about places that don’t receive touch regularly — try kissing from the inside of the wrist, up to and past the inside of the elbow, and even along the underside of their upper arm. This skin is soft and subtle, but doesn’t get much love. It frequently feels incredible. Ditto goes for starting at their ankles and kissing all the way up past the area behind their knees to their thighs. Inside and behind joints (wrists, elbows, knees, ankles) may be particularly sensitive, and even ticklish to touch and kissing — if your partner is super ticklish, you can always move to another area.
The Erogenous Zone’s Connected to the Hip Bone
Other areas that might love a little extra attention are the sides of the body, all the way down to and including the hip bones. Again, these areas don’t usually get any touch, especially not soft and sensual touch, so it can feel truly incredible to have them gently touched, licked, kissed, and so on.
Get Their Digits
Don’t forget the fingers and toes (and the hands and feet to which they’re attached). Some people love the idea of gently taking clean fingers (or toes) into their mouth and sucking on them. To some, this is super gross. Still others couldn’t care less either way. Figure out where you are, and decide this before you’re in the moment.
If you decide to go for it, start out gently. You can always increase pressure, add suction, swirl your tongue around their digits, and so on. Sometimes people like to suck on a finger or lick it in a way that mimics oral sex — it might just be a super-hot way to turn someone on, or it could even be a precursor of things to come (pun oh-so intended). You can also combine massaging hands and feet with orally stimulating them, or choose to just give a nice foot or hand massage. If you decide to go that route, just remember that while some people find hand and foot massages to be sexually arousing and even invigorating, others find them to be wonderfully relaxing … so relaxing, in fact, that they might fall asleep after your absolutely amazing massage. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with this (after all, helping your partner get into such a relaxed and destressed state is an awesome skill to have), but it can be a little disappointing if you’re in the mood to get it on, and your lover’s in the mood to be counting sheep. Just think ahead.
Anywhere Your Heart (and Loins) Desire
Of course, there are many more areas that can feel wonderful. The small of the back, the scalp (as in a scalp massage — you may not want to lick their hair … or maybe you do!), the armpits (some people love being that close to the pheromones that get them going), the belly button, and the list goes on. If it’s covered in skin, it can enjoy touch. This means pretty much the whole body. Just remember, different people enjoy different types of touch, and in different areas of their body, so experiment and explore to figure out where and how YOU like to be touched, as well as the same information for your partner, and suddenly, a few kisses here and there have turned into a professional turn-on session, and you’re golden!