Claralee Arnold (1926–2005)
Music and family paint the picture of Claralee’s life. She sang in the choir of Transylvania University and graduated with a degree in music. She continued her musical career by giving private piano lessons in her home. For fifty years, she sang in her church choir, always a highlight of her week. When her mother was having problems with her memory, Claralee would spend hours playing the piano and singing songs with her. They both loved music.
Her husband, Clyde, and their three sons, Stephen, David, and Richard, all Eagle Scouts, were her pride and joy. The family enjoyed bowling together, and some members were golfers. Claralee had a hole-in-one to her credit. She was fun-loving and had been a Best Friend to many.
Gladys Bell (1923–2005)
His Harley Davidson motorcycle was very impressive, but most of all, Gladys was in love with the owner, a young man named Kenneth Bell. After she graduated from high school, they were married by an uncle who was a Baptist minister. Gladys worked during the day and continued her education by taking classes at night.
After a brief tour in the Army, Gladys and Kenneth settled in Lexington, Kentucky. They had two children, Cathy and Bradley. For thirty-five years, Kenneth worked for a standard-bred racehorse firm. They had four grandchildren and one great-granddaughter.
Gladys always enjoyed various kinds of handwork, including sewing, knitting, needlepoint, and quilting. She made several quilts for her children and grandchildren. Gladys and Kenneth were active members of their church. Her husband described her as “getting along with everyone, because of her friendly nature.”
Margaret Brubaker (1907–1996)
Margaret was born in Duluth, Minnesota, and moved to California at an early age. There she graduated from the famous Hollywood High. In an era when many women worked only in the home, Margaret worked in a variety of positions, including a family-owned restaurant and her father’s ice cream company.
Margaret and her husband, Dudley, raised their son, James (“Jim”), in a neighborhood full of his cousins. The Brubakers lived next door to Dudley’s sister and brother-in-law, Lois and Siegfried (“Sig”) Haas, with whom they had a sixty-year friendship. Margaret was proud of Jim and his career as a movie producer and of her grandchildren, Marcei, Susan, and John.
Even late in her illness, Margaret remained interested and involved in the world around her. Her family remembers her as a “take-charge” person with a wonderful sense of humor.
Mary Burmaster (1914–2000)
“My name is pronounced ‘BUR-master’ not ‘Bur-MASTER,’ ” Mary, a quiet, thoughtful person, always made clear. Famous American and English writers were no strangers to Mary because she was often the first to finish a familiar line from one of their works. When her daughter, Betsey, was a little girl, Mary taught her the poem that she learned when she was a little girl. She enjoyed sharing with us the Betsey version: “The North wind doth blow and we shall have snow. What will poor robin do then? He’ll sit in the barn to keep himself warm and tuck his head under his wing. Poor ‘shing’ [instead of ‘thing’].”
Mary knew every word to the songs of the Big Band era. Nothing pleased her more than to sing throughout the day, unless it was to talk about her three children, Lee, Betsey, and Mary Anne.
John “Jack” R. Cooper Jr. (1933–2002)
Serving as a coxswain for four years on the Syracuse University rowing team was a special memory for Jack Cooper. He loved competing with many other college teams and especially hoped to win over Navy. After completing medical school, he served on a military transport ship. During this time, he traveled to many parts of the world. He was a surgeon in private practice.
Jack’s wife and their two children enjoyed family times of golf, tennis, and skiing and once took a three-week trip out West, camping under the stars. Jack was a proud grandparent. Singing songs of the 1950s and familiar hymns, as well as dancing and playing the banjo and ukulele, showed the musical side of this physician.
“Thoughtful, gentle, and caring,” are used by his wife to paint a “word picture” of Jack.
Brevard Crihfield (1916–1987)
Brevard, nicknamed “Crihf,” took enormous pride in being reminded of his past as Executive Director of the Council of State Governments. Friends and family could remember him staying busy in various committee meetings or enjoying a break with a newspaper, a cup of coffee, and a cigarette. Crihf’s early years were spent in Illinois, and he recalled “Ronnie” Reagan attending Eureka College in Illinois while he attended the University of Chicago. Family, his dog Ho, beautiful art books, and favorite poems were always topics of conversation. Another interest was baseball; he played second base like a pro.
Crihf was a very private person. When he enrolled in the Helping Hand Day Center, he approached most activities cautiously; yet, he was a superb dancer and would always embrace an opportunity to dance, especially to the music of Benny Goodman’s orchestra.
Rubena S. Dean (1931–1999)
“The Yellow Rose of Texas” brought a big smile to Rubena’s face as she recalled many happy memories of her childhood in Texas and her graduation from Texas University for Women in Denton. She loved her years of teaching physical education, English, and history to junior high school students.
Rubena enjoyed being part of a large extended family and maintained close relationships with her children, Lynn and Ted, and her grandchildren. Helping people was also a major part of her life. Her community benefited from her generosity; she was president of many service-related clubs, she organized church activities, and she volunteered in nursing facilities. Rubena thrived on hard work. Before the onset of her illness, she enjoyed hobbies such as bridge, piano, and needlepoint.
Letch Dixon (1932–)
Letch was the baby of twelve children. He loves to share the story that his parents “finally found out what was causing all those children!” Letch attended two years of high school and then attended a trade school. He later joined the Air Force and after his tour of duty he worked in a steel mill. Once he met Lenna, he had eyes for no one else and they became the parents of four children, Robin, Sharon, Amanda, and Marvin.
Letch and his family enjoy taking trips to Yellowstone, Canada, and Florida. He and his wife love music, especially bluegrass, and Letch is a clogger. He also likes to fish and hunt and has bagged four elk in Colorado. Letch is easygoing and very witty. He likes to share his funny stories about growing up in such a large family.
Edna Denton Edwards (1909–2003)
Edna was proud to be part of a tradition of three generations of third-grade teachers; she followed her mother, and her daughter, Peggy, followed her. Edna had many talents; she was an artist (her artwork is on the cover of Activity Programming for Persons with Dementia: A Source Book, published by the national Alzheimer’s Association), a pianist, a seamstress, and a good cook, known for making an excellent corn pudding.
After her husband died at a relatively young age, Edna was both mother and father to their daughters, Patricia, Peggy, and Janet. The Immanuel Baptist Church was her tower of strength.
Edna was highly competitive, was a big tease, loved to clown around, and made friends easily.
Hobert Elam (1917–2003)
A “dyed in the wool” Kentuckian, Hobert Elam was proud to be living on his farm surrounded by his Angus cattle. He remembered spending time as a child with his grandfather, and by the time he was10 years old, he was helping his father build houses. He explained, “Life was simple then. We were excited to receive oranges and candy in our stockings at Christmas.”
Hobert served as an engineer in World War II and afterward met his wife, Irene. They had two children and five grandchildren. He was a homebuilder, a real estate investor, and a cattle farmer. He loved singing, especially the hymns of his faith, as well as working on the family genealogy, gardening, and being with his family. Hobert was a “people person.” He could make friends with the young and the old.
Mary Edith Engle (1916–2003)
If Mary Edith hadn’t stood on tiptoe she would never have passed the test for height to become a pilot during World War II as a member of the Woman’s Air Force Service Pilots (WASPs). She ferried planes—from tiny cub fighters to B-29 bombers—from the factory to military bases all over the United States.
Her husband, three daughters, and grandchildren were central in her life. Her many other interests included gardening, music, traveling, boating, training and racing saddle-bred horses, and painting. Mary Edith was often described as “spunky,” and to honor her adventuresome spirit in flying, she was inducted into the Kentucky Aviation Hall of Fame in 1997. She looked back on her life saying, “We’ve had a great life. . . . I don’t think I’d do anything different.”
Patricia Estill (1938–2010)
Patricia was born in Kentucky and remained a staunch supporter of all that is Kentucky. She married her high school sweetheart and they became parents of two girls, Sheri and Paulette. Later her three granddaughters became the “apples of her eye.” She taught school for a while and then became a dental assistant.
Patricia was born an artist and she felt most at home all her life with a paint brush. She enjoyed being an artist to the very end of her life. She was also very musical, loving to dance and sing, especially the hymns of her faith. She had a “thing” for colorful clothes and “one of a kind” earrings. Patricia loved life. She had an irresistible smile, a contagious laugh, and a hug for everyone.
Marydean Evans (1910–1997)
“Did you really ‘pogo’ down Broadway and in the front window of your father’s sporting goods store?” a friend of Marydean’s once asked in disbelief. Marydean’s father had the latest equipment, including the first pogo stick in Kentucky. She and her four brothers and sisters helped publicize this new contraption.
Swimming, dancing (she was known as the best dancer at the famous Brown Hotel’s Roof Garden in Louisville, Kentucky), and preparing fancy food as a caterer were some of Marydean’s accomplishments. Chocolate in any form was a favorite food, and butter was a close second. “Bread is just a vehicle to deliver butter,” she admitted with a grin.
Marydean was a cheerful person. Her children, Betty, Tip, and Ann, and her grandchildren provided strong support. They were proud of her volunteer work.
Henrietta Frazier (1921–2003)
“Our house has always been for everyone.” Henrietta was proud that her house was home base for family and friends. The youngest of six children, she enjoyed all the comings and goings in a close extended family. With a nursing degree from St. Elizabeth’s Hospital School of Nursing, Henrietta served both the private and public sectors in a caring, thoughtful, and dedicated manner.
When she was four years old, Henrietta had to have an eye removed. Despite her vision impairment, she embraced life fully. She had a jolly disposition, with a quick wit.
She and her sister, Mae, traveled extensively and especially enjoyed cruises. Because they lived together, they shared many close friends. Henrietta was an avid fan of basketball and joined many clubs and causes.
Sergio (Serge) Torres Gajardo (1920–1995)
Serge was always a big tease! “I left Chile because one day when I was piloting a small plane, I swooped down over a chicken coop, crashed my plane, and killed all the chickens.” Serge was a second lieutenant in the Chilean Air Force before becoming an American citizen.
His family included his wife, Gertrude; their three children, Roxanne, Suzi, and John; and three grandchildren. They vacationed together in a favorite spot in Mexico and were active in all aspects of their church.
Music was woven into Serge’s life in many ways. He loved to dance to the rhythms of Latin music. He enjoyed a wide range of songs, from Big Band to classical to opera. Playing tennis and Ping-Pong and following the Chicago Cubs and the Green Bay Packers gave him great pleasure. He also liked to fish, hunt, swim, and read. Serge was affectionate, unselfish, and full of fun.
Edna Carroll Greenwade (1916–1996)
Edna Carroll grew up on a farm, the youngest of five brothers and sisters. Edna Carroll enjoyed being teased: “Did your brothers and sisters spoil you?” She denied being spoiled, but in fact had many memories of being the “baby doll” in the family. Her daughter, Katie, grandchildren, and one great-grandson were central to her life.
Helping and caring about others were a great part of Edna Carroll’s life. She was active in her church, helping to cook special dinners. A library of recipes stood ready for her to share a dish of food for any occasion. She enjoyed sewing, quilting, and working with ceramics. A loving person, Edna Carroll was anxious to please, friendly, and fun.
Geri Greenway (1940–1997)
“That is van Gogh’s The Starry Night,” Geri might quickly point out when leafing through a beautiful book of paintings. The worlds of art, literature, and opera were familiar territory for her. Impressively, she read about those subjects in several languages.
After earning a PhD in German literature, she taught at several colleges. She endeared herself to her students with her extensive knowledge and her ability to teach her subjects in a relaxed atmosphere.
Geri was proud of her family, and together they enjoyed traveling, swimming, gardening, and jogging. Adopting a whale named Olympia was just one expression of Geri’s ecological concern. She enjoyed Cajun food, a taste from her birth state of Louisiana. Talented, sophisticated, beautiful, and loving described Geri.
Edith Hayes (1919–2005)
“Here comes Edith, our chief hugger.” And what warm, reassuring hugs she had for everyone! Edith was born on a farm near Corning, Iowa, one of nine children. Her family valued education, and Edith earned her nursing degree at the University of Missouri. She put this training to good use as the college nurse at Alice Lloyd College in Kentucky where her husband was president. Their five children would also tell you that she practiced her nursing on all of them.
Simplicity in all of life describes Edith. She delighted in birdsongs, rejoiced in the first spring flowers, was a prolific note writer and made her own cards, and loved being with her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.
James Holloway (1927–2002)
Being president of his fifth-grade class showed Jim Holloway’s early love of school and education. Enlisting in the Army after high school graduation opened up many opportunities for him to further pursue this interest through the G.I. Bill. He attended Howard and Vanderbilt Universities and later received his PhD from Yale University. While at Yale, he met his wife to be, Nancy. They were the parents of three children.
Jim taught philosophy and religion at the university level. He was a biblical scholar, loving to spend hours discussing the views of the great religious writers through the ages. He spent a year in Basel, Switzerland, studying theology under Karl Barth, one of the great theologians of the twentieth century. He cherished keeping up with some of his friends from his days at Yale, as well as traveling and visiting art museums.
Frances (Annie) Holman (1933–2002)
Summer on the farm with her grandparents was a fun time for Annie, a city girl. She loved riding her bicycle in the wide-open spaces. After graduating from high school, she attended a four-year nursing program and became a surgical nurse.
It was love at first sight on a blind date, and Annie and Jack Holman were married within the year. They had three daughters and four grandchildren. They both enjoyed traveling, bowling, and dancing—from line dancing and clogging to ballroom. Their church and their family were central in their lives. Annie endeared herself to those around her with her contagious smile and affectionate manner.
Dicy Bell Reed Jenkins (1902–1991)
Born in the Oklahoma Territory before Oklahoma became a state, Dicy liked to recall her early childhood living in tents and covered wagons. She bragged that she could do everything her eight brothers did, including chopping and hauling wood and working in the fields.
Dicy amazed everyone with her catalog of old sayings. When asked how she was feeling, she always said, “A little better than a blank.” Other expressions that she used often were “No fool, no fun,” “mother wit,” and “there’s no fool like an old fool.” Feisty at times, shaking her cane to make a point, Dicy endeared herself to everyone. Dicy and her husband, Lawrence, had two children, Lawrencetta and Edward, and raised two granddaughters, Nawanta and Nelvean. Dicy lived with Nawanta during the last years of her life. A devoted family and a strong faith in God sustained Dicy through good and bad times.
Leota Kilkenny (1903–1994)
“St. John, Kentucky. That’s close to Louisville.” Leota enjoyed recalling her early years on the farm near St. John. The boys milked the cows, and the milk was shipped by train to Louisville. She had vivid memories of being invited to ride to the station and watch as the milk was loaded on the train. She loved the farm, especially the animals and the woods near the house, where she played with many brothers and sisters. Leota graduated from high school at nearby Bethlehem Academy.
A full-time homemaker, Leota was a dedicated wife and mother of three children: Ann Marie, John, and Mary Jane. She and her family were active in the Roman Catholic Church. Always ready to give a hug, she was kind, thoughtful, and fun-loving.
John Lackey, (1944–)
John is the only child of an only child of an only child. He enjoys talking about how special it has always been to have so much attention. It was love at first sight when he met his wife to be, Sherry, while still in high school. They married at a very early age and became the parents of three children—Jeff, John, and Jennifer. He majored in education in college and became a teacher for the rest of his working life. In 2006 John retired after teaching for forty years. While teaching he did some coaching in football and basketball, and even coached the school chess club.
John loves working on his family’s genealogy and an occasional trip to Las Vegas. John is an artist at heart. He sees joy in the miracles of nature and loves nothing better than a beautiful sunset, often calling the family to a “sunset alert.” He is also an artist at being a kind, gentle, and loving friend.
Masanori (Mas) Matsumura (1937–2008)
Born in Santa Monica, California, “Mas” Matsumura was the oldest of three children and part of a close-knit family. He was five years old when his family was interned in Manzanar, California, during World War II. Notably, the photographer Ansel Adams took his portrait during that time. As a young man, Mas was very athletic and motivated.
He was married to his wife, May, for over forty years. They had three children, Cindy, Donna, and Riki. Before retiring in 1993, Mas worked in a commercial nursery business that specializes in gardenias.
His children say that Mas was always there for them. “A friendly and gentle spirit” is a description that comes to mind whenever one thinks of Mas.
Willa Lee McCabe (1915–1997)
“Sometimes the little ones cried on the first day of school. I just hugged and hugged them.” Willa, a first-grade teacher for thirty-two years, knew exactly what to do. Children, including her grandsons, Greg and Jason, were the light of Willa’s life.
Willa enjoyed talking about the past, including the fun she had walking to school with her friends, taking her school lunch in a straw lunch basket, and playing games at recess. She also enjoyed talking about her special hobbies, including raising a vegetable garden and making quilts, listening to music, singing, and taking long walks. Willa’s face showed a contagious burst of joy when greeting friends. She lit up the room, energizing the people around her.
Ruby Mae Morris (1912–1999)
A life of hard work did not dampen Ruby Mae’s love of having a good time. She was a prankster and always loved a good joke. Her love of children and animals was evident: “God gave them to us to love and care for,” she reminded us often. Her family, her church, and caring for others were central to her life. Ruby Mae insisted that she did not mind hard work: “Just get the paint, and I’ll paint your house all the way to the roof. I can do lots of things that you don’t know about.” She loved to sing and dance and stayed dressed in her best clothes, “camera-ready,” for her picture to be taken.
Her daughter, Dolores, praised her: “She’s a very special rose in our garden, and God will pick her for an eternal garden.” She had a sweet, sweet spirit.
Harry Nelson (1946–2012)
Harry was born in New Orleans, Louisiana, and liked to celebrate his Cajun upbringing by enjoying spicy food, music, and having fun. He attended Loyola University where he met his wife, Joan, the love of his life. After spending time in the Army, he practiced dentistry. He loved telling about making their wedding bands himself, a skill learned from his work as a dentist.
Harry was a family man and adored their two children and a grandson. He always loved the outdoors, hiking in the parks across the United States, kayaking, and gardening. Harry was a lover of music and a great dancer. He enjoyed nothing more than finding a good dance partner and losing himself in the rhythm of the music. He was a very witty and super social person.
Jerome (Jerry) Ruttenberg (1908–1987)
A series of small strokes could not steal all of Jerry’s sense of humor and amazing intellect. He had a pun for almost every occasion, and his quick wit brought joy to all. Once, when he heard the song “Cruising Down the River” being sung off-key, Jerry was quick to say, “Lifeboats, please, we’re sinking.” In answer to the question “What do you remember about being twelve years old?” he quipped, “Waiting to be thirteen.”
He named his favorite dog Sooner, telling all that he chose this name because the dog would “rather eat sooner than later.” Dancing, singing, card games, and word puzzles were relaxing to him. Jerry was an outstanding businessman, a humanitarian, an avid reader, and most of all, a devoted husband and father.
Maria Scorsone (1922–2005)
Born in Balestrate, Sicily, Maria had vivid memories of a childhood view—she could look out the bedroom window of their beach house and see the ocean. Music had always been a very important part of Maria’s life. She had piano lessons as a child and became an accomplished pianist, a skill she enjoyed all of her life. She also enjoyed horseback riding with her father during her growing-up years.
Maria and her family lived in Argentina for many years. When the family moved to the United States, Maria finished her PhD at Syracuse University and taught Spanish and Italian at the University of Kentucky and Eastern Kentucky University. Beautiful, regal, caring, and devoted to her family described Maria.
Emma Simpson (1921–2003)
Emma was one of the younger daughters in a family of sixteen children. She was born and raised in rural Russell County, Kentucky. She had to quit school at sixteen to go to work to help support her family. At nineteen years of age she married Leslie Simpson and eventually had two children, a girl and a boy.
Emma had always been known for her wit and sparkling personality. She regretted her lack of education and earned her GED when she was in her fifties. In addition to working for the state government, Emma found time to do volunteer work in the community. After her retirement, she and her husband spent much time at the Senior Citizens’ Center in Frankfort, Kentucky, organizing dances, potluck dinners, and exercise classes, and teaching reading in an adult literacy program.
Robert Steele (1936–)
Robert (Bob) Steele was born in the Philippines where his father, a colonel in the U.S. Army, was stationed at the time. Bob spent much of his early life with his aunt and grandmother. After high school he enrolled at UCLA. Much to his father’s disgust, he flunked out and was faced with an ultimatum to either go to work or join the military. Bob likes to tell this story. He enrolled in the Naval Academy and served with honors in the U.S. Navy.
He enjoys talking about all the places he visited while in service. He and his wife, Darlene, love to travel. A twelve-day cruise on the Rhone River is one of their favorite trips. Bob also likes Civil War history and all kinds of sports. He is easygoing and likes kidding around.
Tap Steven (1923–)
Tap was born of missionary parents in a small medical station on a mountainside in China. He left China at age three, but never lost his passion and interest in world affairs. He later earned a PhD in International Education at the University of Southern California and devoted much of his working life to international dispute resolution, including thirteen years working with the Saudi Arabian government.
Within two years of retiring to Santa Barbara in 1996, Tap and his wife, Frankie, began noticing his lapses in memory. They have both faced his diagnosis with Alzheimer’s disease head on, continuing to stay active in their retirement community, Vista del Monte. Tap also teaches for the local Adult Education program and continues writing poetry. He says, “It’s important not to withdraw into the secret corners of our life, but to risk making mistakes and to keep on reaching out to friends—to partake in a full life.”
Evelyn Merrell Talbott (1913–1992)
Evelyn was known as a bookworm even as a little girl; as she grew up, her books were her best friends. She turned this love of books into a degree in library science from the University of Kentucky. She enjoyed working as a librarian for many years. At the day center she would often announce, “I brought a new book for us to enjoy today.” Soon she would be immersed in a book, such as The Wonders of the Underwater World.
Evelyn’s dog, Willie, was very much a part of her family, which included her husband, Bob, and their daughter, Susan. Willie even traveled with the family on their favorite trip to the beach. Evelyn loved music and dancing. She was always friendly and appreciative.
Frances Tatman (1935–2007)
Frances’s husband, William, admits that when he got to know her at activities at their church, “She caught my eye.” They were married in 1953 and had four children—Laura, Amy, Theodore, and Michael—and seven grandchildren.
Frances always enjoyed the simple things in life. As a teenager, Frances delighted in being invited to visit her grandparents who lived on farms. She and her family traveled to various state parks for family picnics. Her church was an important part of her life, and the choir benefited from her beautiful voice. Frances could whistle in tune with any song and amazed her friends with her clear, bell-like solos. Frances’s husband described her as being “much a lady” and a good wife and mother.
Dorothy Troxel (1923–2008)
Dorothy Troxel was born in Vancouver, Canada, but lived much of her young life in Hong Kong. Her family lived a privileged life there until everything changed after the city fell to the Japanese in World War II. Along with the rest of the British colony, the family was interned during the war but survived to start over in Montreal. Dorothy married her husband, Fred, a career Air Force officer, and enjoyed a wonderful fifty-year-plus marriage that took the two of them all over the world.
Dorothy was an elegant, always well-dressed lady who spoke several languages and had many friends. She loved hosting a fancy tea party, sipping her favorite Earl Grey tea. She was very proud of her son, David, and his career supporting persons with dementia.
Emma Parido Woods (1921–1992)
Emma grew up with three brothers who took good care of her when she was a little girl. After high school, she worked in the tobacco industry in the “re-drier” (where tobacco was processed for shipping) and as a timekeeper. That was hard work—Emma could attest to that!
On June 4, 1950, Emma married Howard Woods. Together they raised eight children. The parental terms of endearment given to them by the children were Big Momma and Big Daddy. Emma became a full-time homemaker, and their house became the gathering place for all, including grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Emma was devoted to her family. She also maintained a strong religious faith, enjoying listening to and singing hymns.
Nancy Zechman (1928–1992)
A very athletic person during her youth, Nancy chose to major in physical education at Miami University in Oxford, Ohio. Her athletic interest and ability continued throughout her life, and she had a special skill and flair for tennis.
Nancy was also an artistic person, creating a beautiful home for her husband, Fred, children, Rick and Jami, and her cats, Marilyn and Monroe. She volunteered on a regular basis at a local hospital and pursued many other interests, including attending art classes and workshops, gardening, playing cards, doing needlework, and playing sports of all varieties. Nancy’s infectious smile and love of people kept her surrounded with “friends aplenty.”
Phil Zwicke (1949–2007)
Phil Zwicke displayed an early talent for engineering when he took apart a faucet at age three. He went on to earn a BA, MA, and PhD in electrical engineering and enjoyed a successful career that included many patents and awards. He married Karen in 1991 and was dedicated to her and his two sons. After his diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease at age 49, he continued to enjoy his passions for windsurfing, long hikes with his dog, travel, and, above all, time spent with family. Phil and Karen also renewed their wedding vows, traveled to Hawaii, spent a month in Europe, and visited places they had never been, including Las Vegas and Yellowstone. Phil remained a gentle soul and was a popular member of his early-stage dementia support group.