Hygge and More Cozy
Cultural Ideals
What does living a cozy life mean to you? To me it means a warmth within my home, within my being and between my family and friends. It is a close feeling of happiness and joy. In this chapter, we’re going to go over some of the different cultural practices from around the world that bring about a feeling of contentment with life. To start, let’s focus on the Danish practice of hygge.
Hygge (Danish) Definition,
History, Danish Roots
Hygge (pronounced HUE-guh) is used as a descriptive term in the Danish culture that reflects the Danish lifestyle. Because it describes various qualities of their way of life, it doesn’t have one specific definition. The term hygge originated in Norway during the sixteenth century, where it first appeared in some Danish writings. It comes from the Norwegian term hygga which means “to comfort.”
If you wanted to explain hygge to someone, a good description would be that it is a Danish custom of finding pleasure in the simple things, of making the ordinary extraordinary, of adding more meaningfulness to every aspect of your day, and to make each moment special by actually being present in that moment. It is a feeling of well-being that gives those who practice hygge a cozy feeling of deep satisfaction and contentment. It is the celebration of warmth, companionship, respect for others, family, and grace. It is an increased awareness of your inner self, the people, and the world around you. It is creating an enjoyable atmosphere that feels safe, comfortable, and emotionally warm. Experiencing hygge enriches your life and brings you more happiness through the celebration of the ordinary, everyday moments that are often overlooked during the hustle and bustle of a busy day.
In Scandinavian countries, especially in winter, there is less daylight and it can be bitterly cold. In some areas, the temperature can be as low as -50 degrees Fahrenheit. If you’ve ever been stuck inside during a snowstorm, or any other type of bad weather, then you know it’s easy to get cabin fever but if it is 50 degrees below zero outside, then the warmth of a fire, a hot cup of coffee or tea, and the coziness of home is much more desirable. The practice of hygge is thought to have come about to bring more warmth, light, and happiness during the cold, dark winters so that being stuck inside became more bearable. It helped to alleviate any feelings of sadness or depression by replacing them with feelings of coziness, warmth, and the appreciation of a simple life through a positive state of mind. In other words, it helped people get through difficult winters. Over time, the practice of hygge expanded to all seasons and at any time during the day or night. It is still a preferred practice during the darkness of winter, when it’s easier to obtain a feeling of warm coziness as a cold, windy, winter storm is happening outside.
Hygge takes people back to times when things were simple, back to the good old days when there was less stress, more companionship, and more understanding. When the world wasn’t easily accessible through the internet, you had to think of ways to enjoy your life without relying on technology, computers, or smartphones. It’s based in making your environment welcoming, warm, and hospitable. Connecting with others is also the basis of hygge. In the past, it was the telling of stories while sitting around the fire having refreshments. When you remember times like these, it gives you a bond to the coziness of hygge and the creation of an aspect of culture. You don’t have to be Danish to experience hygge. You can find peace, contentment, and enjoyment of the little things, the special moments, wherever you live in the world.
How to Recognize Hygge
How do you know when you’re experiencing hygge? In the beginning, it may be a little difficult to determine what is hygge and what isn’t, but with a little practice you’ll be able to recognize hygge immediately. One thing is certain though—you can’t buy hygge in any store or from any person. It has to be experienced.
Hygge is a feeling. You can also think of it as an emotion, mood, or state of mind. When you’re experiencing hygge you feel safe, warm, and cozy. Hygge brings about a sense of empowerment because you feel the truth of the moment at a soul level. Hygge can bring all parts of your being together in one moment. You may physically be in an environment that you find appealing; you may be emotionally satisfied, and mentally relaxed.
Let’s say you’re in a restaurant with cozy lighting at an intimate booth where you aren’t really aware of all of the other people around you, and you’re dining alone because you were bombarded by people all day at work and need some downtime by yourself. This is a good time to mentally relax and let go of any emotional stress you’ve been feeling. As you wait for your meal, you sip whatever you’ve chosen to drink and let the day melt away from your mind, body, and spirit. You feel connected to the joy and happiness of simply being. Now let’s say you tell a friend about your dinner alone and how it gave you time to think, released the negatives and embraced the positives, and recharged you. Because you told your friend, and they see a calm relaxation in your eyes that wasn’t there yesterday, now they may want to try the same thing so they can feel the same calmness. They want to experience hygge too. This is how it spread from Denmark throughout the world. People visited Denmark and experienced it firsthand, then took that experience back home with them in their hearts and recreated it in their homes and lives. Hygge is warm and inviting lighting, spending time with those you love enjoying the simple pleasures in life, good food, good drinks, warmth, and togetherness. It is wrapping up in a blanket and snuggling into the corner of your couch with a good book and a fire crackling in the fireplace.
You’ll know that you’re experiencing a hygge moment because suddenly you’ll feel completely in the now of that moment. You’ll have a heightened sense of awareness of what is happening and the people around you. Sometimes it might feel as if time is in slow motion and you focus on only one thing even though a lot is going on. It’s an aha moment where everything clicks together and makes complete sense. You’ll feel as if you’re wrapped in a blanket of appreciation, comfort, and joy. It can be a bit overwhelming at times and make you sit back and simply think wow.
When you’ve experienced that deep cozy feeling of hygge, you’ll seek it out because it calls to you on a soul level. You’ll probably start creating your own moments of hygge instead of waiting for it to come to you. When you create it, you can encompass everything you desire in that moment or during an event and share what hygge means to you with others.
Spiritual Growth through Hygge
As the guardian of your individual path and purpose, you are responsible for learning and achieving the lessons you set forth for yourself. You are responsible for your own path; you have free will to improve your spiritual essence through the earthly experience. The growth, or non-growth, that you create here is what you’ll take with you, on a soul level, when you return home.
Purposefully creating hygge in your life and looking for naturally occurring hygge moments will help make your journey easier and will allow your soul to experience spiritual growth. It’s when you get too caught up in the physical, in obtaining the material, and neglect soul growth that you can walk a difficult path. Now that doesn’t mean you’ll never experiences difficulties—you will because some lessons chosen prior to birth are hard—but it does mean that focusing on soul growth while experiencing hygge creates feelings of peacefulness, calmness, and thankfulness.
Any growth, increased awareness, and balance you experience during this lifetime will become a permanent, eternal part of you. Experiencing hygge enables you to cherish your soul by immersing yourself in your daily adventures. Nurturing hygge feelings is like shining a flashlight down a dark path, bringing to light all that is unseen so you may walk an illuminated path unafraid and with a sense of calm wonderment.
As you take a look at yourself, do you see a need for more hygge in your life? Can you make improvements by changing your attitude so you’re reducing your stress and finding simpler, more grounded approaches to the situations you encounter? If so, then make internal changes by changing your thought patterns first and your actions second. Can you let go of a need for constant perfection and any insecurities you may be holding on to and simply enjoy being yourself? By working within first, you’re working with your subconscious mind and your soul connection, which will bring about changes in your physical world because of your new thought patterns and beliefs.
Being aware of the hygge surrounding the change will strengthen it even further. Be sincere in your desires, and wondrous blessings will result. If you’re not sure where to start, maybe just sitting in a quiet, dimly lit room, staring into the flickering flame of a candle can help you begin or you could play a fireplace video on your television if you don’t have access to a real one. Ponder where you’ve been and where you want to go. Plan different hygge situations that will create opportunities for spiritual growth. Maybe you could host a hygge function with friends or join different groups online that practice hygge or maybe you can find hygge events in your neighborhood to attend. At the midpoint of this chapter, there’s an exercise to help you slow down with hygge.
Hygge enhances all we are and all we do. It means accepting things and finding delight in life instead of wishing for something else. Overlooking hygge moments are missed opportunities to connect to the true nature of ourselves.
You can find the coziness of hygge all around you. The more you notice it, experience it, and use it to grow spiritually, the better your life will be. You will feel more positivity even if there is a ton of snow outside. Look for ways to enhance your spirit with hygge.
Similar Cultural Concepts of Cozy
The concept of coziness is seen in many cultures. Let’s take a brief look at some cultural concepts that are similar to hygge. Like hygge, some of the terms are difficult to translate into English because they mean multiple things or are more of a descriptive term rather than a straightforward definition.
Fika (Sweden)
In Sweden, there is a tradition called fika (pronounced fee-kah), also known as the Swedish coffee break. It is a core part of the Swedish lifestyle that includes snacks, drinks, and feeling content. In Sweden, you can experience fika around every corner. It’s a time to slow down, to relax, and to enjoy quiet time with yourself or cheerfulness with other people. Fika means hanging out, talking, catching up, or making plans, all while having refreshments. You can also experience fika by yourself whenever you take a break. Fika was created around the Swedish thought that you shouldn’t work any longer than you absolutely have to work. And then, you take a break. You might go back to the work or you might be finished for the day, but taking fika breaks throughout the day is necessary in the Swedish culture. Fika means taking things in moderation and making time for family and friends. Like hygge, it’s all about slowing down and enjoying the good things and special moments of life, except fika is about a particular moment.
Friluftsliv (Norway)
Whether you go cross-country skiing, dog sledding, or running, or you simply take a walk, you’re participating in what Norwegians call friluftsliv (pronounced free-luufts-leav). It is being in the great outdoors and connecting with nature. The term friluftsliv means free air life. To Norwegians, it’s much more than just being outside. It means that being present in nature is good for the mind, body, and spirit. When you participate in friluftsliv, you experience a sense of spiritual wellness, a heightened level of consciousness, and a deeper connection to your own spiritual self.
Breathing in the fresh air, feeling grounded as you walk across the land, and feeling as if you’re part of something bigger than just your physical body is all part of friluftsliv. It is a lifestyle of becoming one with nature to increase your own wholeness of spirit. Getting away from the stress of your work week by being outside and appreciating the world around you is relaxing to your mind, energizing to your physical body, and rejuvenating to your core soul essence.
In Norway, friluftsliv is a lifestyle that is taught to children when they are young and continues throughout a lifetime. There are many ways you can experience friluftsliv even if you don’t live in Norway. Anytime that you go outside you are embracing the experience of being part of nature, whether you’re gardening, meditating, camping, hiking, walking, running, or taking pictures of your surroundings. There are many ways you can experience friluftsliv alone or with family or friends. Maybe you decide to make sandcastles at the beach and are aware of the feeling of the grains of sand, the sound of the water lapping against the shore, and the sun on your skin. Friluftsliv relaxes you and gives you a sense of coziness by being part of nature.
Gemütlichkeit (German)
The Germany concept of gemütlichkeit (pronounced guh-MYOOT-lik-kyt) is used to describe a feeling of warm, cozy, companionship. You’ll often hear this word used more during the winter months because, like hygge, it describes the way the Germans create atmosphere within their homes, work environments, and during social events—especially when it’s cold outside. Gemütlichkeit differs from hygge in that it also means to have increased productivity or to be profitable in business. Some believe that the concept of hygge actually originated from the German word gemütlichkeit and was originally a German cultural concept that worked its way into the Danish culture.
If you’re lingering after a meal just to hang out and enjoy the company of the people you’re with while experiencing good cheer, happy times, and friendliness, that’s gemütlichkeit. It is playing classical music and drinking tea while spending times with friends or loved ones. It is feeling a safe peace of mind while enjoying quality time in the company of others.
Gemütlichkeit means to give your undivided attention to those around you. It can also be experienced when you participate in your favorite activities, whether it’s some type of sport or simply reading a good book. The lighting of a room is also important to obtain gemütlichkeit—dim and warm makes a room look more inviting. Lots of candles add more presence and a sense of coziness, which is perfect for creating this environment. If it’s a holiday, then the decorations associated with that holiday can add to the feeling. Beautiful presentations of food, snacks, and decorations in addition to the lighting can truly add a wonderful sense of gemütlichkeit to your next get-together.
Gezelligheid (Dutch)
Gezelligheid (pronounced geh-zel-lyg-hide) is a term that is difficult to translate. It can mean socializing with friends, having fun with loved ones, togetherness, or being friendly to strangers. It goes beyond simply being in a cozy atmosphere, although that is part of gezelligheid, and can mean relaxing, getting comfortable, enjoyment, and being extroverted and outgoing. For the Dutch, it means to get out and about to spend time in old-fashioned shops, boutiques, or a brown café.
Feelings of warmth, companionship, happiness, and love for family and friends are central to gezelligheid. It is snuggling up with your significant other to watch a movie with a warm cozy blanket. Going to a music concert where you sit on the lawn is also gezelligheid. It is going with friends for a night out that includes dinner at a nice restaurant, a movie, and then stopping by a local establishment for tea, coffee, or drinks.
Gezelligheid is a lifestyle that is lived year-round. In the summer, it means doing lots of outdoor activities like going to the beach, camping, watching the sunrise or sunset, going out on a boat, or having a picnic. In the winter, gezelligheid is brought indoors with warm cozy lighting, especially candlelight or small lamps that give off a warm glow instead of bright, florescent lighting. It is gathering around the dinner table for a holiday feast.
You can practice a gezelligheid lifestyle in any location, implementing social coziness into your life and taking it with you wherever you go.
Koselig (Norway)
When you think of warm and fuzzy coziness in every aspect of daily living, think of the Norwegian word koselig (pronounced KOOS-uh-lee). Koselig is similar to hygge in that it means to use warm lighting in your home, have friends over, and to experience happiness and joy through togetherness. However, in Norway, koselig is a term that is applied to everything from your kitchen dishes to the sweater you’re wearing or what you plan to do on the weekend.
Koselig is vaguely translated as cozy, but it is coziness without borders. It surpasses winter and goes into summer. It can’t contain itself within your house or work environment. It is anywhere and everywhere, you just have to know how to look for it, how to experience it, and how to create it for yourself. Koselig is a way to seize the moments of friendship, comfort, trust, happiness, joy, togetherness, and even quiet, reflective times. One word encompasses it all and is applicable to everything from a person, a conversation, or the atmosphere of a place. It’s important in Norway to take advantage of good weather because it can change unexpectedly, but they don’t complain about the snow either. Norwegians have a positive mind-set, which helps them get through the roughest of winters.
Some of the ways you can create koselig in your life, even if you live in a tropical climate, is to develop an appreciation for everything and everyone around you. When you can look at the details, notice the small things in life, and feel the warmth, happiness, and joy that the thing or person brings into your life, then you’re practicing koselig.
Mys (Sweden)
In addition to the Swedish coffee break, the people of Sweden also have another concept of coziness called mys (pronounced mee-s) that is practiced year-round. Mys means to intentionally create comfort and coziness in your home, similar to hygge. For example, Fredagsmys or Cozy Friday, is the celebration of mys every Friday to relax and create some downtime after a hectic week at work. In Sweden, it is celebrated with junk food galore (especially chips), candles, warm blankets, pajamas, pizza, soda, wine and beer, along with a movie or watching television as a family until you fall asleep on the couch. Singles may have a similar get-together with friends at someone’s home to do the same sort of things for Fredagsmys.
While not all Swedish people participate in Fredagsmys, most do enjoy mys by creating a cozy living environment, by being increasingly more mindful, and by having an awareness of being in the moment. They savor the warmth of mys during special occasions, holidays, or even for no reason other than to connect to their own sense of quiet calm and inner joy.
Practicing mys means that it is completely fine, and expected, for you to have a lazy night all cuddled up in front of the television with a snack. It keeps you calm when you start to feel locked down and bored. It’s finding joy through the simple pleasures in life like reading a book. Mys means it’s okay to slow things down to almost a halt, to embrace a slower and simpler lifestyle. To be okay with not rushing to and fro in a hectic blur but instead to sit calmly and peacefully, enjoying the mys of the moment, the people you’re with, and the atmosphere you’ve created.
Try It Now Exercise
Hygge can be practiced at any time and for any reason. Life can sometimes get very hectic and, when it does, you might feel like you’re running full steam ahead with no end in sight. This can lead to stress, anxiety, or feeling completely overwhelmed. If you find yourself in this type of situation, then it’s time to have a hygge experience, to look for the simple things, to get cozy and first take some time for yourself, and then spend some quality time with friends and family.
For this exercise let’s start with you. Let’s say you’ve just gotten off work and it’s been a difficult day. On your way home stop and pick up food from your favorite restaurant so you don’t have to cook. Instead of calling it in ahead of time, wait until you get there to order the food. While you wait, have something to drink and maybe an appetizer. Imagine letting go of all of the stress that’s accumulated within you. Pay attention to the moments happening around you. Look at the people around you; notice their moods and what they’re doing. Do you see any awe-inspiring moments between people? If so, think about how seeing their interactions make you feel. As you sit there, purposefully imagine the positivity of white light moving through your frequency, your own personal vibration, the energy of all that you are. Imagine it removing any negativity that has gotten stuck in your energy. Imagine the white light flowing out of you, either through the top of your head, the bottoms of your feet, or out the tips of your fingers, taking any negativity with it, leaving you feeling relaxed, grounded, and stress free. When the to-go order is ready and you’re on the way home, keep this positive, relaxed feeling within you.
Once you’re at home, put on some of your favorite music at a low volume. Change out of your work clothes into something comfortable. Plan to have a movie night with your family or friends and include your favorite snacks and drinks. After dinner, turn off all the lights and enjoy the movie with those you love. Or, if you prefer to skip the movie, get out some board games or cards and have fun playing them together. Turn on lamps instead of the overhead lights to create a cozy atmosphere.
Choose your preferred entertainment. The point is to have a cozy, relaxing evening with people you’re close to. While I’ve given you a sample exercise, you can also create a night of hygge for yourself in the same way to feel stress free and happy as you connect to its spirit.
If you’re not in the mood for company, you might choose to take a long, hot shower or soak in the tub and then get into your pajamas. Select a good book, snuggle up on the couch or in bed, and immerse yourself in the story. Stay up as late as you want or go to bed early to catch up on your sleep.
Cozy-Adjacent: Additional Cultural Concepts for Wellness
In this section, I want to introduce you to some cozy-adjacent ideas. These are cultural concepts and practices you can use to add an additional layer of coziness to your life. They are different and unique. They deal with repairs, business, doing everything in moderation, forest bathing, walking in the wind, and finding beauty in imperfections. Check them out and decide if you’d like to implement some of these practices into your life.
Jugaad (India)
If you’ve ever had to come up with a creative way to repair something, even if it’s only for the short term, you’ve participated in a cultural concept called jugaad (pronounced dzu-GAHD). In Hindi, the word jugaad means “an ingenious fix.” It is often a frugal repair, like using tape to temporarily cover a hole or to hold something in place. It’s a way to get by with less, to make do with what you already have, and to figure out a way to do something that is creative and innovative.
While fixing things doesn’t seem like a cozy activity at first, it can be. If you gather up things that need repair around the house and get everyone in the family to participate in doing those repairs, then it can be a fun and cozy way to spend time together. Play to each person’s strengths when assigning the repair jobs so it’s fun instead of a chore. Work together and get creative. It will give you a sense of accomplishment when the job is done. Add some snacks and drinks and put on music at a low volume in the background and you’ve just created a hygge environment around your jugaad event.
If you’ve ever watched a secret agent movie, you’ve seen the character come up with unique solutions or create gadgets from ordinary things that will get them out of danger. That’s the heart of jugaad. You can also find jugaad in the business world where corporations look for ingenuity and creativity in coming up with new ways to solve daily problems. Jugaad can often lead to wonderful new inventions when approached from the perspective of frugality and innovation.
Kaizen (Japan)
There is a Japanese concept called kaizen (pronounced keye-ZEN), which is primarily used in business, that means to practice continuous improvement in the workplace. Kaizen means that all employees, regardless of their position within the company, are encouraged to submit any ideas they have that will help make the business run better. Usually these are just small improvements about things the employees encounter daily—for instance the way things are run in the lunchroom. Employees can share the idea whenever they get it instead of waiting to submit ideas monthly or during a yearly evaluation. The ideas are then implemented by the company to see if they do indeed make things run more smoothly. This process is a fantastic idea because it makes employees feel as if their opinions matter and that they are a valued part of the company (which they are or kaizen wouldn’t be in place) and when you have happy employees, the company runs much better overall.
The concept of kaizen can also be applied to your own life to bring about more happiness and positivity. The best way to use kaizen personally is to get organized and make small changes that will help you reach the overall goal. If you want to become more spiritually enlightened, then create a long-term plan that outlines the topics you want to learn about, then, as you learn about each one, keep a journal, daily planner, or calendar where you can note your daily progress (or weekly if you’re short on time). You can also make notes on your phone or computer if you prefer to use technology over writing something down in a journal or notebook. Each change you make, each improvement, aids you in obtaining your goal of becoming more spiritually enlightened. You’ll find that using kaizen in your personal life helps eliminate stumbling blocks, keeps your life running smoothly, and gives you a sense of well-being and overall happiness.
Lagom (Sweden)
The Swedish idea of lagom (pronounced LAH-gom) means being moderate in everything. The idea of lagom is often expressed as “not too little, not too much, just right.” When you practice lagom, it means that you should have a moderate personality (not too dull but not too flamboyant and outgoing), you should have middle-of-the-road point of views that don’t take one side over the other, you should dress moderately (not dull and plain but not flashy or extravagant either) and you should have a good time but not too much fun. Lagom is about only taking or experiencing what you need—no more and no less. It is about having self-restraint, living simply, and being happy with what you have. Practicing lagom can help you lead a more balanced life.
Practicing lagom keeps arguments to a minimum and lends itself to helping people feel more contentment with their lives just as they are. When you practice lagom, there isn’t a constant desire for more. You’re quite content with what you have. If you do decide to go over the top at an event and dress a little on the extravagant side, like wearing a brightly patterned piece of clothing, or make a gourmet dish, like shrimp and lobster instead of mashed potatoes or bread, because you’re hoping for a reaction about how nice you look or what a great dish you brought, you will probably be met with no response from others … as in not a mention, no reaction whatsoever. Why? Because it’s not important to make a big deal over something that doesn’t fit with the lagom ideal of being moderate. If it’s not important, then just ignore it. Lagom is always positive, whether you’re eliminating clutter, enjoying a lagom meal, creating a sense of space in your home, adding to your wardrobe, buying a new car, fixing something that has broken, planning a vacation, or pretty much anything you do in life. Lagom is doing the essential, necessary, things in life and knowing when you’re about to cross the line into doing the unessential and stopping at that point.
Shinrin-Yoku (Japan)
In Japanese medicine, shinrin-yoku (pronounced shin-rihn-yo-koo) is crucial to both healing and preventive health care. It means “forest bathing,” which in turn means if you spend time in the forest, you will lower your stress levels. Since stress can cause all kinds of illness, if the stress is eliminated your health will be better. Plants also produce phytoncides, which protects the plant from fungi, insects, and other types of bacteria. When people are exposed to plant phytoncides, it has a positive effect on our bodies. They can help us feel less stress, can lower blood pressure, or have other health benefits. Some plants produce more phytoncides than others (for example, an onion), and these types of plants are often used in aromatherapy and holistic medicine.
In order to obtain the most benefit from shinrin-yoku, you should enter the forest relaxed and in tune with your inner self. Practicing shinrin-yoku can help reduce your blood pressure, boost your immune system, have shorter recovery times when you’re sick, elevate your mood, and help you focus. When you’re in a forest connecting with its energy, you can also experience an increase in your own intuition, obtain clarity of purpose, and connect with your higher self or your core spiritual essence. Shinrin-yoku is considered therapy for mind, body, and spirit through the connection with the earth and the plants and animals that live on Earth.
When you’re practicing shinrin-yoku, it is more than just walking through the woods. If you take time to connect to the flow of energy of the forest by taking a few minutes to sit quietly on a rock or against a tree, then you can truly feel its life essence, which has a quieting and steadying effect that can help you heal, refocus, and gain purpose in your life.
Sisu (Finland)
The people of Finland have been practicing the idea of sisu for hundreds of years. For the Finnish, it is a cultural life philosophy that helps them endure impossibly difficult situations; it’s what keeps them going through hard times and what enables them to see bad situations through to a resolution.
Sisu is the Finnish art of courage—an attitude within us that enables us to persevere and to be resilient and stoic in our thoughts and actions. It is the reserve of power within us that fuels our spirit when we think we can’t endure anything else. It is an unwavering determination when faced with adversity, it is incredible courage when we don’t think we can be brave, it is jumping in with both feet even when the possibility of failure is great, and it is having hope and faith that everything will work out okay even when everything suggests otherwise. Sisu means that within each person there is a well of strength that we don’t even realize that we have but that we can call upon in the darkest of days to get us through.
When faced with challenging situations, whether they are physical, mental, or emotional, sisu is the psychological competence that enables us to overcome and move forward. It means to have humility, honesty, and integrity during the tough times. In other words, it means to have the guts to do what needs to be done, even if we think we can’t accomplish the tasks at hand.
Embracing sisu can help you go beyond what you think you’re capable of doing. It enables you to keep going when others may think you should quit; it is the will to succeed when others think you will fail. Sisu helps you to surpass what you think you can accomplish by enabling you to push yourself beyond your limits by connecting to your internal well of power, strength, and courage.
When you’re one with the sisu energy within you, there is no doubt that you will succeed during difficult times. You press on, move forward, knowing without a doubt in your mind, body, and spirit, that you will endure any difficulties through determination, courage, and your own inner strength, and in the end, you will be successful.
Uitwaaien (Dutch)
The Dutch concept of uitwaaien (pronounced out-vwy-ehn) means “to walk in the wind.” It also means to get out into the country to clear your head, get some fresh air, and let go of anything that is worrying you. If you live in the city and all you can do is take a walk in the park, then do that. If there aren’t any parks around, then you can still feel the wind as you walk down the sidewalk. The point is to get outside and connect to the energy of the wind.
Most times, uitwaaien is something you do alone, so you can connect to your core essence, find your balance as you consider what worries you, and decide how to release those worries and move forward in life. Sometimes you just need to take a break from other people and get outside to feel the wind on your face, the earth beneath your feet, and smell the scents of the natural world. This doesn’t mean you can’t experience uitwaaien if you’re with someone else. If you’re both quiet and reflective on the walk and individually experiencing uitwaaien, then it will work for both of you. It’s harder to experience it with someone else if you’re engaging in conversation, though.
If you live near a beach, there’s nothing better than taking a walk in the sand and feeling the water lap at your toes as the wind blows against your body. You feel the dampness of the air and the salt sticking to your skin (and sometimes the sand) as the wind creates wondrous new hair styles for you. It is during this time that you can make important decisions, consider your life and where you want to go, or to connect with your own spirituality. While uitwaaien is a Dutch concept, it can be practiced anywhere and everywhere because wind is something we all can experience regardless of where we live.
Wabi-Sabi (Japan)
Not only is wabi-sabi (pronounced wah-bee-sah-bee) a fun word to say, it’s also an excellent concept of appreciation that the Japanese embrace. Wabi-sabi means to celebrate the beauty in the imperfections of age and wear. A wooden chest may have chips or cracks so that it’s not perfect, but then again, nothing ever is. It’s those chips and cracks that give it character, that are representative of what the chest has been through since it was created, it is what makes it unique. Wabi-sabi can also be your favorite item of clothing that has tears or holes in it but you just can’t throw away. Now this doesn’t mean to see broken things as wabi-sabi when they’re actually trash. It’s being able to tell the difference and to appreciate the imperfections in worn things and the natural beauty that surrounds us. It is an appreciation of things that are handmade from natural materials instead of being perfectly made by a machine without flaws or any uniqueness.
Wabi-sabi means to embrace our life experiences that have given us scars, wrinkles, and other imperfections on our body. It is realizing that the inner changes you’ve made in your life are what makes you the person you are today. Wabi-sabi is acceptance of all things, yourself, and other people, with all of their defects, faults, and imperfections. Within imperfection, we can find the perfection of our souls. By appreciating the uniqueness of the old, it makes us less inclined to go out and buy the new, which leads to more attention to the details of what is currently in our lives. Practicing wabi-sabi means to be humble, appreciative, and to see the beauty within.
The Soul Connection
of Coziness in Any Culture
No matter the culture, when you think of coziness, you probably think of comfort, safety, atmosphere, and enjoying special times with friends and family. That being said, there are also soul connections associated with the forms of coziness in different countries around the world. In order to connect with the spirit of cozy, you first have to connect to the spirit of you.
Your soul connection is what makes you distinctively you. You will have shared interests with others during your life, but your own path is unique and special. Both our conscience and our conscious mind are part of our spiritual being. Before birth, we are in our spiritual body of energy and exist with our soul and our subconscious mind. After birth, we still have our soul and subconscious mind, which are the eternal parts of our being that we are never without, but now we also have a physical body and a physical mind that allows us to exist on the earthly plane in order to learn lessons that will allow us spiritual growth so that we may progress to higher spiritual realms.
As humans, our conscience is what guides us to do right instead of wrong and our conscious mind makes us pay attention and be more aware of the world around us instead of being oblivious to our surroundings. Because we are individual and different souls, this uniqueness of spirit is what allows one person to experience coziness in their home with warm lighting and allows someone else to experience a moment of coziness when they notice and focus on the hum of the air conditioner or heater during a meeting at work.
This special soul and frequency connection increases awareness, which is one of the core principles of experiencing a cozy situation in many cultures. We are guided by our inner voice, higher self, and spiritual being, all of which are parts of our soul essence. When we let our soul connection within ourselves guide us, it can help us see coziness in situations where we may not have noticed it before.
When you are aware of the coziness around you, then you can connect with it, appreciate it, and cherish the experience, which also allows you to better connect to the truth held within your divine soul. As you uncover your own truths, and nurture those truths, then you’ll begin to experience even more coziness in your daily life. It’s an awesome circle of acknowledgment, appreciation, discovery, and spiritual growth.
Remember that hygge is about experiencing the little things, the niceties in life, as well as the big events. As you begin to live a cozy life, start your morning with a few moments of being thankful for your spiritual path, the people who love and care about you, the accomplishments you’ve made, and the things surrounding you. Then as you move throughout your day, when someone does something nice or unexpected for you, or any little thing that makes you feel joyful, take a moment to acknowledge and to appreciate the experience. The more you look for cozy moments, the sooner it will become an ingrained habit, a heightened awareness, and an integral part of your spiritual being.
As you experience coziness along your individual soul path, always remember that you are a spiritual being and the truth of your soul is within you. It attunes you to the awareness of everything cozy. The more you strengthen your foundation in this lifetime, through responsibility and understanding of your spiritual journey, the closer your connection to your soul and the more often you’ll have cozy moments. When the connection is close, then it’s easier to progress in forward motion to attain the goals you’ve set for yourself in this lifetime.
Try It Now Exercise
Connect with Your Core
Spiritual Self through Coziness
Before you begin this meditation exercise, first create a cozy setting for yourself. A small nook area or a corner of a room will work for this purpose. This area is your cozy corner. Some of the things you may want to put in your cozy corner are:
• A comfortable chair or big pillows to lean against if you’re creating the space in an alcove or nook area.
• A blanket that you can curl up inside of or throw over you.
• A little table so you can place your drink on it.
• If you can, put a few little potted plants in the area that will increase the cozy effect.
• Make sure the lighting has a warm and cozy feeling as well. You can use dim lighting in the corner of the room from a lamp or hang some string lights in the nook area.
Once your cozy corner is all set up, you’re ready to begin working on connecting to your core spiritual self. Start by feeling the coziness you’ve created around you. If you’re angry or upset prior to starting this exercise, then take deep breaths, with each inhale imagine pure positive energy flowing into you, with each exhale imagine all the negative energy leaving your body. Even if you’re not feeling out of sorts, the breathing technique will help you get in balance, feel calm, and connect to the coziness you’ve created around you.
Now close your eyes. Imagine your spiritual body within your physical body. See the whirling spirals of energy that make up the chakras (the seven energy centers of spiritual power in the human body) within you. Follow the flow of this energy; feel the love within it as it moves through you. Now, imagine a swirling pathway that leads to your core spiritual self. Follow the energy to that place. You might see it as a room or as the blackness of space filled with stars. In this space, you see your spiritual energy. You may see yourself as a swirling beacon of light, filled with many beautiful colors, or you may see yourself in human form, glowing with white light.
Use creative visualization to imagine your core spiritual self in your cozy corner with you. Once you both are comfortable, start a conversation with your core spiritual self and ask if there are any important messages you should know at this time. Trust in any impressions you receive, anything you hear clairaudiently, and know you are in communication with your true soul essence. When you feel the conversation is at an end, follow the energy path back to the spirals of chakra energy within your physical body, then, when you feel reconnected to your physical self, open your eyes.
It’s a good idea to write down the messages you received during this exercise so you can refer back to them as you move forward on your spiritual path. Any time you desire, you can repeat this exercise to obtain more knowledge about spirituality from your core spiritual being, to find the source and reasons for fear in your life, and to discover more about yourself on a spiritual level. Anything you need to know in this lifetime, you already know at your core spiritual essence. All you have to do is connect and ask for help in understanding.