Chapter 1: Marriage
1. Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better off Financially (New York: Broadway Books, 2002), 19.
2. Ibid., 47–67.
3. Ibid., 2–3.
4. Ibid., 192.
5. Rick I. Johnson, “Is There a Difference in Educational Outcomes in Students from Single Parent Homes?” Thesis presented to the graduate program in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of Master’s in Education, Concordia University Portland, 2009.
6. “No. 70: Live Births, Deaths, Marriages, and Divorces: 1950–2002,” http://www.census.gov/prod/2004pubs/04statab/vitstat.pdf; M.L.Munson and P. D. Sutton, “Births, Marriages, Divorces, and Deaths: Provisional Data for 2004,” Table A, “Provisional Vital Statistics for the United States,” National Vital Statistics Reports, vol. 53, no. 21 (Hyattsville, MD: National Center for Health Statistics. 2005), updated Feb. 15, 2006, http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr53/nvsr53_21.pdf; Glenn Stanton, “Divorce,” Focus on the Family, http://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges/relationship_challenges/divorce.aspx?p=1.
7. Family Law: Separation, Divorce & Child Custody, “How Long Does the Average Marriage Last in the United States,” January 17, 2013 (gathered from US Census Bureau data), http://familylawdivorceonline.wordpress.com/2013/01/17/how-long-does-the-average-marriage-last-in-the-united-states/.
8. “Why Married Parents Are Important for Children,” For Your Marriage, http://www.foryourmarriage.org/married-parents-are-important-for-children/.
9. Kay Hymowitz, W. Bradford Wilcox, and Kelleen Kaye, “The New Unmarried Moms,”Wall Street Journal, March 15, 2013, http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323826704578356494206134184.html.
10. Statistics gleaned from Johnson, “Is There a Difference in Educational Outcomes?”
11. Benjamin Scafidi, The Taxpayer Costs of Divorce and Unwed Childbearing—First-Ever Estimates Report for the Nation and All Fifty States (New York: Institute for American Values, 2008), 5, 17.
12. R. E. Mueller, “The Effect of Marital Dissolution on the Labour Supply of Males and Females: Evidence from Canada,” Journal of Socio-Economics, vol. 34, no. 6 (2005): 787–809.
13. M. D.Turvey and D. H. Olsen, Marriage and Family Wellness: Corporate America’s Business? (Minneapolis: Life Innovations, 2006).
14. Waite and Gallagher, The Case for Marriage, 115.
Chapter 2: Communicating with the Other Sex
1. Robert Redford and Delle Boton, Jeremiah Johnson, directed by Sydney Pollack (1972; Burbank, CA: Warner Home Video, 2007).
2. Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2000), 162.
3. Susie Davis, “On Marriage and Muddling Through . . . ,” blog, April 3, 2013, http://www.susiedavis.org/2013/04/on-marriage-and-muddling-through/.
4. Thomas, Sacred Marriage, 154.
5. Gleaned from David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (New York: W. W. Norton & Co., 2009), 336–38.
6. Ibid., 169.
7. Ibid., 341–42.
8. Laura Schlessinger, The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage (New York: HarperCollins, 2007), 242.
9. Ibid., 170–73.
Chapter 3: Love
1. Portland Relationship Center Newsletter, August 2012, https://mail.google.com/mail/u/1/?shva=1#inbox/13926af0b3d0971e.
2. Aubrey Andelin, Man of Steel and Velvet (Pierce City, MO: Pacific Press Santa Barbara, 1972), 54–55.
3. Thomas, Sacred Marriage, 49.
4. Jancee Dunn, “Is Your Marriage Normal or Nuts?” Reader’s Digest, May 2013, 132.
5. Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage (Minneapolis: Bethany, 2006), 41.
6. Eric Metaxas, “The Kids Are (Not Quite) All Right: Millennials and Narcissism,” CP Opinion, May 28, 2013, http://www.christianpost.com/news/the-kids-are-not-quite-all-right-millennials-and-narcissism-96786/#yCbc0skjmzz4TZXi.99.
7. Thomas, Sacred Marriage, 48.
Chapter 4: Romance and Intimacy
1. Marcus Brotherton, The Marriage Manifesto: 10 Simple Commitments Husbands Can Make That Lead to Stronger Marriages, ebook, 2013, 17.
2. Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage, 26.
3. Dennis Rainey, “5 Romantic Needs of a Woman,”FamilyLife, http://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/romance-and-sex/5-romantic-needs-of-a-woman#.UddZGjvVB2U.
4. Schlessinger, Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage, 214.
5. Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 199.
6. Benedict Carey, “Evidence That Little Touches Do Mean So Much,” Health, New York Times, Feb. 22, 2010, http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/23/health/23mind.html?_r=2&.
7. Family Resource Association, “Hand Holding Connects,” August 14, 2013, http://d69fra.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=136:holding-hands-connects&catid=40:family-life-articles&Itemid=224.
8. Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 102.
9. Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage, 103–7.
10. Thomas, Sacred Marriage, 101.
Chapter 5: Sexuality
1. Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 75–81.
2. Waite and Gallagher, The Case for Marriage, 79–91.
3. Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 132–34.
4. Luke Gilkerson, “10 Surprising Porn Stats,” Covenant Eyes, Breaking Free Blog, September 10, 2013, http://www.covenanteyes.com/2013/09/10/10-surprising-pornography-stats/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=facebook.
Chapter 6: Our Woundedness
1. “Child Maltreatment 2011,” US Department of Health & Human Services, Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Children’s Bureau (2012), ix. Available from http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/research-data-technology/statistics-research/child-maltreatment.
2. Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 51.
3. Ibid., 56.
4. Ibid., 69.
5. Ibid., 60.
6. Ibid., 60–61.
Chapter 7: His Needs (for Her)
1. John Bene, “I’m Always Angry,” Third Option Men blogspot, May 25, 2012, http://www.thirdoptionmen.org/blog/hulk-smash/.
2. Rick Johnson, The Marriage of Your Dreams (Grand Rapids: Revell, 2012), 148.
3. Bene, “I’m Always Angry.”
4. Scott Haltzman, The Secrets of Happily Married Women (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2008), 19–21.
5. Ibid., 19–21.
6. Shaunti Feldhahn, “Feeling Disrespected Evokes Anger in Men,” blog post, 2/27/13, http://www.shaunti.com/2013/02/feeling-disrespected-evokes-anger-in-men-2/.
Chapter 8: Her Needs (for Him)
1. Patricia McGerr, “Johnny Lingo’s Eight-Cow Wife,” Woman’s Day, Nov. 1965.
2. Steven Smith and David Marcum, Catalyst: How Confidence Reacts with Our Strengths to Shape What We Achieve and Who We Become (Highland, UT: Veracity, LC, 2014), 5.
3. Lucille Zimmerman, Renewed (Nashville: Abingdon Press, 2013), 4.