WHO SAID WHAT, WHERE
I’m Sorry You’re Here . . . No Wait, I Take That Back
1. Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy (New York: Knopf, 2017), 10.
Chapter 1 Rubbish We Believe When the Poop Hits the Fan
1. Maria Furlough, Breaking the Fear Cycle: How to Find Peace for Your Anxious Heart (Grand Rapids: Revell, 2018), 17.
2. Martin E. P. Seligman, Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life (New York: Pocket Books, 1991), quoted in Sandberg and Grant, Option B, 16.
Chapter 2 The Truth We Need When Our World Is Rocked
1. Ann Voskamp, The Way of Abundance: A 60-Day Journey into a Deeply Meaningful Life (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2018), 80.
2. Rick Warren, “Your Ministry of Reconciliation,” Daily Hope with Rick Warren, November 8, 2015, https://www.crosswalk.com/devotionals/daily-hope-with-rick-warren/your-ministry-of-reconciliation-daily-hope-with-rick-warren-nov-8-2015.html.
3. Timothy Keller, Walking with God through Pain and Suffering (New York: Penguin, 2013), 58.
4. I heard Robert Madu say this in a talk at the Holy Trinity Brompton Leadership Conference, May 4, 2015.
Chapter 3 Practice Makes Better, Not Perfect
1. From Leta Wither’s memorial order of service, July 12, 2016. Reproduced with permission.
Chapter 4 Choose Brave
1. Becky L. McCoy, “My Story,” Becky L. McCoy (blog), https://beckylmccoy.com/about/.
2. https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/1270897-courage-doesn-t-mean-you-don-t-get-afraid-courage-means-you
3. Lysa TerKeurst, “Choosing Grace,” First 5 Bible Reading App, http://first5.org/plans/1-2%20Samuel/ff_samuel_25/.
4. Private email correspondence with the author, August 6, 2016.
Chapter 5 Trust God
1. https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/mike_tyson_382439
2. https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/marshall_mcluhan_130541
3. George MacDonald, Phantastes (London: Smith, Elder & Co., 1858), 323.
4. Private email correspondence with the author, July 19, 2017.
5. Phone call with the author in Fall 2016.
6. Erin Brown Hollis, Cheers to the Diaper Years: 10 Truths for Thriving While Barely Surviving (Savage, MN: Broadstreet, 2018), 61.
Chapter 6 Find Community
1. For more on this idea, see Tracy Wilde, Finding the Lost Art of Empathy: Connecting Human to Human in this Disconnected World (New York: Howard Books, 2017).
2. Eric Dregni, “Why Is Norway the Happiest Place on Earth?,” Star Tribune, June 11, 2017, http://www.startribune.com/the-height-of-happy/427321393/#1.
3. Susan Pinker, “The Secret to Living Longer May Be Your Social Life,” TED Talk, April 2017, https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_pinker_the_secret_to_living_longer_may_be_your_social_life.
4. L. J. Ferris, J. Jetten, P. Molenberghs, B. Bastian, F. Karnadewi, “Increased Pain Communication following Multiple Group Memberships Salience Leads to a Relative Reduction in Pain-Related Brain Activity,” PLoS ONE, September 22, 2016, http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0163117.
5. Sandberg and Grant, Option B, 128.
6. Kristen Strong, Girl Meets Change: Truths to Carry You through Life’s Transitions (Grand Rapids: Revell, 2015), 153.
7. See Matt. 27:56; Mark 15:40; Luke 8:2–3.
8. Brené Brown, “The Power of Vulnerability,” TED Talk, January 3, 2011, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o&t=259s.
Chapter 7 Be Vulnerable
1. Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (New York: Avery Press, 2017), 37.
2. Ferris et al., “Increased Pain Communication.”
3. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (Center City, MI: Hazelden Publishing, 2010), 49.
Chapter 8 Embrace the Journey
1. Michael Rosen and Helen Oxenbury, We’re Going on a Bear Hunt (New York: Little Simon, 1997).
2. Susan David, “The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage,” TEDWomen 2017, https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_david_the_gift_and_power_of_emotional_courage/transcript?language=en.
3. David, “The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage,” 15:28.
4. See Isa. 41:10; Deut. 31:6; Matt. 28:20.
5. A reference to chapters 15 and 16 of C. S. Lewis, The Last Battle (New York: HarperCollins, 1956).
Chapter 9 Practice Gratitude
1. Amy Morin, “7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude That Will Motivate You to Give Thanks Year-Round,” Forbes, November 23, 2014, https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2014/11/23/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-of-gratitude-that-will-motivate-you-to-give-thanks-year-round/&refURL=&referrer=.
2. Corrie ten Boom, The Hiding Place, 35th anniversary edition (Grand Rapids: Chosen, 2006), 210.
3. Corrie ten Boom, The Hiding Place, 220.
4. Bekah Pogue, Choosing Real: An Invitation to Celebrate When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned (Uhrichville, OH: Shiloh Run Press, 2016), 143.
5. Morin, “7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude.”
6. Robert Emmons, “How Gratitude Can Help You Through Hard Times,” Greater Good Magazine, May 13, 2013, https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_gratitude_can_help_you_through_hard_times.
Chapter 10 Reach Out
1. From the scene “Galadriel,” in The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey, directed by Peter Jackson (MGM, 2012), DVD, 1:40:29.
Chapter 11 Now What?
1. Charles R. Swindoll quotes, https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/5139.Charles_R_Swindoll.