A few years ago, my successful, materialistic life unraveled one thread at a time. I fell ill, my French husband moved out, and I lost my high-paying executive job. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. Up until then, it seemed I’d been doing everything by the book—working hard, making money, creating a solid marriage, and living a jet-set life with a dream job that required international travel. I lived in a sea-view apartment in Antibes on the French Riviera, surrounded with beautiful things, and I thought life would continue forever more or less the same. But God had other plans. All of these things would disappear over the next years until almost nothing of my old life remained. The shattering and death of the familiar and comfortable world opened the door for a deeper, more vibrant and joyful experience of life. But it didn’t feel like it at the time. I felt mostly scared, confused, and hurt and didn’t know where to turn to find something enduring.
Inside, I felt world-weary and sick of all the material pursuits that led to more and more desires and discontent. The more money I earned, the more I wanted, and the farther happiness seemed out of reach. My soul cried out, Is this it? Is this all there is? Will I ever be at peace? This crisis opened the door to my wandering in search of meaning. I traveled to Virginia Beach and the Association for Research and Enlightenment, Buddhist retreats in France, and an ashram in India. In my yearning for answers, I attended Tibetan rituals and Catholic masses, explored sacred texts from the Bible to the Vedas, and learned that truth is truth regardless of the source. It resonates with an inner knowing and recognition.
At the time I flinched at the word “God.” It had come to mean an entity separate and apart, like the image of Michelangelo’s Adam reaching out to a bearded image of God on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Some of the people I’d grown up with held a view of God as a being separate and apart and threatening punishment and passing judgment. Their God lived in a narrow, exclusive world with rigid laws and admitted only a select few. I rejected this idea, but kept my eyes and heart open to help me understand something that I suspected was far more expansive. Something told me that if God is omniscient and omnipresent, that his presence must be no farther away than my own heart and breath—and must be everywhere.
On my search, I observed Catholics in Antibes who saw divinity in the graceful gilded statue of Mother Mary. They lovingly carried it down from the Chapel of the Garoupe on the Cap d’Antibes to the cathedral in the old town for a celebration. Their reverence and piety moved me as I watched the fishermen dressed in blue and white uniforms walk barefooted down the sharp stone “path of the cross,” carrying her on a simple platform on their shoulders. In the Camargue of southern France, the Roma—gypsy people—traveled from across Europe to converge on Saintes Maries-de-la-Mer to worship the Black Sarah of Kali. I joined the procession to see Sarah, dressed in her beautiful robes in the claustrophobic vault of the cathedral where her splendid obsidian face glowed in the light of hundreds of candles. Followers touched her feet and their lips moved in silent prayer for healing and guidance.
In Bangkok, I heard the greeting Namaste for the first time from a smiling woman at the airport. I later learned it means “I bow to God within you.” I watched from my hotel window as the Buddhists carried daily offerings of mangos and pigs’ heads to the shrine on the street corner by the mall, and their prayers seemed to waft upward like the smoke of the incense. In discourses from a Tibetan lama, I heard no mention of God or anything separate or distinct from nature, but his teaching pointed to that thing which cannot be understood by the mind. In India, the notion of God became so vast that it encompassed everything—the deities in the trees, Kali, the Goddess with a necklace of human heads; the five-headed Gayatri; elegant Saraswati, money in the form of Goddess Lakshmi, Brahman, the Indivisible Supreme Absolute, and in Sanskrit, “sath, chith, ananda”—being, consciousness, bliss. As a guest in an Indian household, even I was the embodiment of God and served with kindness and reverence.
And finally I experienced God in nature high in the Swiss Alps. I listened to a small bird and a surge of love flooded my heart; the barriers broke between what I had imagined to be “me” and the bird. In an instant, we merged and I felt its heart beating as it/we/I sang a joyous song until my frightened mind jerked me back into my little self. Later, the same happened with human hearts as I felt them breaking, perceived their fears, and shared the joys of friends and strangers as my own. In this state of being, all simply “is” and all hearts beat as one. God is all of this. I am that essence that reaches beyond words—constant integrated awareness. As one teacher said, “I am God. You are God too only you have not realized it yet.” In India this is sometimes referred to as realizing the “One without a second.” It’s a profound experience that leaves no space for separation or division. This is what “God” refers to in the practices that follow.
What I found on the journey was not new, but it brought solace and a profound sense of acceptance and peace. Most wisdom traditions believe that hard times serve to move us inward and bring us into deeper contact with our spirits. Without the crises, we may continue comfortable and asleep. The trials break us open and the light that enters falls on the seeds of love and peace inherent in human nature, and they can start to grow. The challenges we face are opportunities for awakening and learning. They’re there to help us.
This book is the result of those many years of searching and practicing what I garnered from teachers and sacred texts. The exercises have lit the way for seekers for millennia and continue to help us today. They help us embrace the challenges and use them as opportunities to grow. The wisdom in the practices reminds us of our vast inner resources, and that the best place to look for answers is within our own hearts. They connect us to each other and help us overcome the fears and anxieties that plague us in difficult times.
Inspired by many spiritual traditions and wise teachers, these 108 practices provide anchors for the mind and spirit during tough challenges. They require effort, but when used, they build inner strength, improve character, and tighten your relationship with God in whatever form or name you choose. They help to integrate the sacred of the heart with the profane of everyday life, which we cannot avoid. They can enrich your spiritual connection and help you bear the natural hardships of life with fortitude and patient perseverance. Above all, cultivating them will help you rediscover joy.
What are spiritual practices, and why 108? Spiritual practices promote awareness of the divine in and all around you. They subdue the ego, tame the wild mind, and encourage focus on the essential and eternal. We may think that outside of Sunday worship or sitting in puja (a place of worship) in a Hindu temple, a cathedral, or a mosque, integrating the deep experience of the sacred in daily life seems virtually impossible. But each moment of each day offers rich opportunities to strengthen faith, expand awareness, and love more. The number 108 represents spiritual fulfillment, and this is the ultimate aim of the practices.
The Buddhists say we have 108 desires to transcend to merge with the Buddha nature; some Japanese temples have 108 steps to climb before reaching the altar. The number 108 is most used in relation to japa malas, the 108 sacred prayer beads used by Hindus, Buddhists, some Japanese priests, and Jains. A Sikh equivalent in the form of beads or a knotted rope also uses 108 knots to anchor the mind. Fingering each bead on the strand while reciting a mantra or prayer to the end symbolizes the completion of a cycle.
My favorite interpretation of 108 describes the 1 as symbolic of the God-Self, Oneness, and merging with Love. The 0 represents the emptiness necessary to be in union with God. The 8 is perceived as the sign for infinity, which links us to our true nature as infinite, peaceful, and blissful beings. The spiritual practices help to clean, purify, and empty the heaviness and obstacles that stand between us and the gems of peace and joy waiting inside us.
Some malas, or prayer beads, are made up of navaratana, nine precious gems that protect and balance body, mind, and spirit. The practices here are organized into nine gems with the aim of doing the same. They include self-discovery, heart opening, peace of mind, relationships and sharing, purification, discovering God at work and in the world, inner transformation, and cultivating Oneness. It divides neatly into twelve exercises per section.
These 108 practices will assist you in making life spiritual seven days a week. They will anchor your spirit through encouraging you to watch your speech, mend your mind, and feed your soul with beauty, sacred thoughts, and images. The exercises will enrich your spirit regardless of your faith or religious tradition and give more meaning to your life by transforming it into a walk with the divine. Many of these practices come from ancient traditions and have been renewed and renovated for today’s fast pace. All of them point to deeper self-understanding. These simple, non-sectarian tools will give you the opportunity to become more deeply aware of the interconnectedness of all life. They especially act as refuges in troubled times, helping you to stay focused on the inner life. Most of the exercises require no special tools and take place within you. They will help you to make your world a better place simply by encouraging you to be more present, aware, and peaceful.
Choose any single one and practice it for a moment, a day, or a week. Come back to it again and again and let it expand. If you cultivate any of these practices and sincerely yearn for a connection with Spirit, then you will learn and grow. The practices are like seeds—your effort is the earth, and divine grace is the light that makes them grow. Plant some seeds and watch yourself expand in new and unexpected ways. Ultimately, these practices can help you open your heart and mind until the barriers fall away and move you into a deeper sense of Oneness with all of life.
How to Use the Practices
Find a practice that appeals to you and set the intention to explore it by actually doing it throughout the day. Be bold and go for something that challenges you. If you choose a practice like “Catch Dreams” or “Merge in Silence” as your focus, read about it, and then hold it in your awareness and put it into action at every opportunity. While the practices may appear simple, they require conscious effort. It helps to take the work to heart and set a discipline. Explore how it broadens your awareness and at the end of the day examine how you feel. Are you satisfied with yourself? What would you like to improve? Would you like to repeat it tomorrow or move to another practice? Take stock of yourself gently; don’t beat yourself up. Spiritual work is like cutting and shaping an exquisite, priceless diamond. It takes slow and careful exertion to achieve the brilliance of perfection. The work can’t be rushed.
If you balk at the use of the word “God,” replace it with the name that rings true to your heart—Higher Power, Everywhere Spirit, Christ-consciousness, Love, or any other name. Childhood memories or concepts used by others to judge and demean may have interfered with and denied your divine Self-expression. Our minds can lock us into limited ideas of an experience that is far more vast and incomprehensible. Choose the word or name that works for you—one that expresses the all-inclusive, mystical wisdom and power—know that the word you choose can only point to that which defies description and encompasses everything.
In spiritual practice, the perspective shifts from “out there” to “in here,” and from trying to change others to focusing on self-transformation and what happens in the mind, emotions, and heart. Remember that spiritual practices are like laundry. It’s never done once and for all. It comes back again and again. The laundry might be less dirty the next time around, but it will still come back. The practices here are not one-shot activities that you succeed at in one day and then graduate onto the next. They require effort and perseverance.
As you work with them, your understanding will grow and the same practice will reveal deeper levels. Little by little, these tools will help you transform and grow you into a more tolerant, kindhearted human being. The work moves you into a more conscious union with the divine. Turning everyday life into a conscious, spiritual practice will make it a worthwhile and purposeful existence. It may be challenging in the beginning, but in the end it will bring you a quiet bliss.
Initiating a spirit-focused life is much like giving birth to a new baby; you may need to nurture and protect it before exposing it to others. Unless you’re in a community of like-minded family and friends who are also engaged with you, it will help you to keep spiritual pursuits as your private joy. If you publicize your practices to people who are not interested in spiritual matters, then you may open yourself to jeers and sneers instead of the hoped-for support. The tests may be tougher, or the ego may puff up rather than diminish. Exposed to hostile and unfriendly forces too early in its new life, your spiritual baby may die an early death. Most of the practices listed here can be done without anyone realizing your aim. Let others discover the subtle transformations in you over time. You’ll find there’s no separation between the material and spiritual, between the sacred and profane. All intermingles. What makes life spiritual is your chosen perspective and intentions.
Setting goals in the spiritual life may move the focus away from the divine Self and back to the small, separate “you” that thinks it can achieve nirvana or enlightenment by getting somewhere else. The atma, or God-realized Self, is whole and present in you now. It’s not necessary to go out and seek it anywhere. It’s wherever you are right now. But to connect with it requires both individual effort and grace. Practices help to break away the barriers, open the doors, and make this treasure hidden in your innermost room conscious.
When you set a discipline, you will begin to cultivate awareness and move the mind into the presence of the divine. It’s essential to realize that the little “you” is not the doer and transformer of your experience. That essence which makes your heart beat and your pulse quicken without any effort on your part also initiates the process of transformation and makes it happen. The practices help you to awaken and merge with it.
One final note: In the beginning when one fully commits to living life from the inside out, from the spiritual Self first, the changes seem difficult. An Indian saying proclaims that spiritual life is bitter in the beginning and sweet in the end, while material life is sweet in the beginning and bitter in the end. There’s no quick fix. It requires hard work to gain spiritual treasures like peace, but it’s the only kind of work that will bring lasting satisfaction. Hang in there and make the effort. You’ll gain a deep sense of contentment and joy as you become more even-minded and less affected by the world’s inevitable ups and downs. It’s well worth it.
Occasional experiences that enter the realm of the mystical arrive like little gifts, but they can also become distractions as seekers yearn for them rather than the daily experience of Oneness. These esoteric experiences, like a cool breath, scents of flowers, seeing colors, or perceiving energies appear through the mind and senses, but they’re not the end in themselves. On the contrary, they shouldn’t lead to a sense of feeling special or separate. To identify with the One in all things and dissolve the sense of borders created by body identification and ego is the greatest gift. Dreams, meditation, chanting, and prayer are a few pathways to realizing the Oneness that unites us all in breath and heart. They’re not the end in themselves. Stay on the path and stick to the yearning for liberation from desires and ego. Be practical and balanced, and your wisdom heart will light and guide your way.