Please complete the following sentences. From your answers you will gain new insights into your thoughts and feelings.*
1. When I hear from others that you have complained about me, I:
2. When some other interest seems more important to you than I do, I:
3. When you seem to hold back something from me, I:
4. When I hold back something from you, I:
5. When you look at other men/women with obvious interest, I:
6. When you are late and I have to wait for you, I:
7. When you have a strong interest which I cannot share, I:
8. When I try to convince you of something and you can’t accept it, I:
9. When you seem to be rejecting my feelings, I:
10. When you praise or compliment me, I:
11. When I am confronted with or think of that which I fear most, I:
12. When I think you are judging me, I:
13. When you become angry with me, I:
14. When I have to admit that I am wrong, I:
15. When I think you are taking a superior role in our dialogues and discussions, I:
16. When I do not seem able to reach you, I:
17. When you frown at me, I:
18. When you are being too hard on yourself, I:
19. When you smile at me, I:
20. When you reach out and touch me, I:
21. When I think of praying with you, I:
22. When you make a sacrifice for me, I:
23. When others notice our closeness, I:
24. When we appear as a partnership, not as individuals only, I:
25. When I reflect that you love me, I:
26. When you seem annoyed with me, I:
27. When I have the opportunity to be alone and enjoy some solitude, I:
28. When we have been separated a long time, I:
29. When I reflect that we are growing in mutual knowledge, I:
30. When we are holding hands, I:
31. When we are making plans together, I:
32. When I am buying you a gift, I:
33. When I reach out and touch you, I:
34. When you interrupt me in conversation, I:
35. When we are in some form of competition like cards or an athletic contest, I:
36. When you say no to one of my requests, I:
37. When I think I have hurt your feelings, I:
38. When you apologize to me, I:
39. When we can spend a quiet evening together, I:
40. When you help me locate my feelings, I:
41. When I hear from others that you have bragged about me, I:
42. When others look at you with obvious interest, I:
43. When you cry, I:
44. When you are sick, I:
45. When I think about your death and what life would be without you, I:
46. When we hear “our song,” I:
47. When you ask me to help you, I:
48. When I have to apologize to you, I:
49. When you surprise me with something nice, I:
50. When you seem to appreciate me, I:
51. When you laugh at my jokes, I:
52. When I think you are not recognizing my needs, I:
53. When I make a mistake and you point it out, I:
54. When you are holding me in your arms, I:
55. When our routines are different and our interests separate us, I:
56. When I am late and you have to wait for me, I:
57. When I reach out to touch you, I:
58. When I think you don’t believe me, I:
* These insight questions are reprinted from John Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love (Niles, IL: Argus Communications). Used by permission.