abdicating, vs. delegating, 195
accountability, 241–242
accountability group, 233–236
ACTS method of prayer, 103–104
Adam and Eve, 56
addiction, 56–57
adoration in prayer, 103
anger, 214
apprentice, 182, 196
EGO issues, 206
needs of, 185–188
Peter as, 186–188
assumptions about people, 174
attitude, change in, 249
authority, God as, 77–78
awkwardness from change, 252–253
Barrett, Colleen, 118
behavior, 42, 210
change in, 249–250
Being Habits, 37–38, 85–87, 247
abiding in God’s love, 89–94
and EGOs Anonymous 12 steps, 266
knowing and applying scripture,
105–113
prayer, 99–104
solitude, 95–98
supportive relationships, 115–122
beliefs, 36, 39–41
Blanchard, James, 44–45
both/and approach, 138–139
bring-me-a-rock syndrome, 161
Buford, Bob, Halftime, 162
Cain, Burl, 146–147
called people, 71
Cardone Industries, 236–237
carpenter, Jesus as, 173–177
Cathy, S. Truett, 228
Chambers, Oswald, 100
change, xiv, 23, 239–240
in attitude, 249
in behavior, 249–250
in cultural norms and
expectations, 250–252
God’s love and, 93
heart and, 42, 73–83
in knowledge, 248–249
levels of, 248–252
limits to, 254
positive, 247–257
reasons for difficulty in leading,
252–257
children with parents in prison, 147
choices, 152–153
coaching, day-to-day, 168, 169–171
Collins, Jim, Good to Great, 79
Colson, Chuck, 163
community, 210, 231–238
EGOs Anonymous and, 263–264
comparison, with others, 61, 63
confession, in prayer, 103
confidence, God and, 78–81
conflict, in leader-follower
relationships, 202–203
consultant, Jesus as, 19–20
controllers, 58
core values, 32, 130–132
costs, 174–175
courtesy, 150
cultural norms, change in, 250–252
culture
of community, 237
of organization, 142
day-to-day coaching, 168, 169–171
decision-making, 120–121
HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely,
Tired) and, 68
delegating, vs. abdicating, 195
dependence on self vs. God, 66
discernment, 224
disciples, Jesus’ transformation of, 179
Disney, Walt, 144–146, 149–150
distortion, 62–63
do-nothing bosses, 59
Doing Habits, 37–38, 209–210, 247
community, 210, 231–238
and EGOs Anonymous twelve
steps, 266
encouragement, 210, 227–230, 231
example, 232–237
forgiveness, 210, 217, 221–225, 231
grace, 210, 217–220, 231
driven people, 70–71
Drummond, Henry, 173
The Greatest Thing in the World, 213
dynamite, 128
Edging God Out (EGO), 50–52, 81,
199–210
admitting problem, 263
in leader-follower relationships,
200–201
in learning stages, 205–208
pride and fear, 53–58
summary, 63
warning signs, 65–72
efficiency, 150
EGOs Anonymous, 259–267
twelve steps, 264–265
80/20 rule, 133
empowerment, 29
encouragement, 210, 227–230
Erickson, Doug, 146
Exalting God Only (EGO), 73–83
admitting problem, 263
taking first step, 259–267
expectations, change in, 250–252
exploitation, in leader-follower
relationships, 203
faith, 18
and work, 45
family, 170
environment of love, 212
forgiveness in, 222–223
leadership in, 30
organization in, 32–33
vision for, 160–161
FEAR (False Evidence Appearing
Real), 62
fear (self-protection), 1, 53, 55, 56–58,
62, 63
of intimacy, 61
in leader-follower relationships, 203
results of, 58–64
feedback, 117
negative response to, 69–71
final exams, 161–162
Ford, Leighton, Transforming
Leadership, 69
forgiveness, 210, 221–225, 231
withholding, 217
formula, Everything – Love = Nothing,
xiii, 172
freedom, xi
future, picture of, 128–130, 145–148
Ghana, 251
goals, 10, 133
establishing, 153–154
involving others in, 169
vs. life purpose, 126
vs. vision, 147–148
God. See also Edging God Out (EGO);
Exalting God Only (EGO)
abiding in love of, 86, 89–94
as authority, 77–78
dependence on self vs., 66
Edging God Out (EGO), 50–52
guidance from, 15–16
Jesus’ focus on pleasing, 142
listening to, 98
obedience to, 78, 211–215
separation from, 59
time with, 87
worshipping, 73–75
grace, 210, 217–220, 231
Grier, Rosey, 120–121
habits, 37–38
aligning with hearts, heads, and
hands, 35
HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), 68
hands, 37, 247
aligning with hearts, heads, and
habits, 35
of great leader, 165–166
of Jesus, 165–166
heads, 36, 123–124, 247
aligning with hearts, hands, and
habits, 35
core values, 130–132
goals, 133
vision development, 125–134
hearts, 36, 247
aligning with heads, hands, and
habits, 35
change, 73–83
of great leader, 39–42
importance of, 41
and motivation, 49
posture in prayer, 101
heaven, 232
Hersey, Paul, 11
Holy Spirit, 176
humility, 205
God and, 78–80
Hybels, Bill, 11
I factor, 65–68
identity, description, 26
influence, of leaders, 4
internal change, xi, 2, 39
intimacy with God, 60–61
isolation, in leadership, 119
Jesus
as carpenter, 173–177
and change, 246
disciples’ transformation, 181
followers’ understanding of
mission, 136
forgiveness by, 224
Great Commission, 195
leadership effectiveness, 10
as leadership role model, xii
Mount of Transfiguration, 115
prayer in Gethsemane, 100–102
priorities, 149
relationship with Peter, 180
relationships with, 209
relevance of teaching, 17
servant leadership, 166
transfiguration, 188
vision of, 135–139
wilderness temptation, 25–26, 109
Joni and Friends, 32
journeyman, 182, 196
EGO issues, 207
needs of, 189–191
judgment, 224
Kennedy, John F., 148
King, Martin Luther Jr., “I Have a
Dream” speech, 148
knowing scripture, and applying, 105–113
knowledge, change in, 248–249
Lead Like Jesus ministry, values, 150–151
leader-follower partnership, 196–197
Edging God Out (EGO) in, 200–201
ideal, 201–202
improvement potential, 204–205
ineffective, 202–204
leaders
challenge of, 66–67
core values, 32
importance of, xi
influence of, 4
life role leadership, 160
personal statement, 240–243
positional power of, 157–158
raw materials of, 174
roles, 142–143, 160
roles, and learning stages, 196–197
view of, 1–2
vision of, 161–164
Leadership by the Book, 118–119
leadership domains, 35–38
leadership role model, xi
Jesus as, xii
sharing, 240
Leading like Jesus
beginning to apply, 239
next steps, 245–246
next steps checklist, 269
next steps resource list, 271–274
learning stages
Edging God Out (EGO) in,
205–208
and leader roles, 196–197
life purpose, 125–128
life role leadership, 4–5
Lincoln, Abraham, 66–67
listening
to God, 98
to truth, 117
loneliness
from change, 253
in leadership, 119
loss, sensed from change, 253
Louisiana State Penitentiary, 146
love, xii–xiii, 43
and action, 211–212
God’s unconditional, 211–215
grace and, 219
importance of, 28
leadership based on, 44–45
mother’s selfless, 45–46
of parent for child, 91
and relationships, 91
MacArthur, John, Twelve Ordinary
Men, 180
MacDonald, Gordon, Ordering Your
Private World, 70
Malachi Dads program, 147
management, 143
management by wandering around, 11
manipulation, in leader-follower
relationships, 203–204
marriage, 214–215
Mary (mother of Jesus), as servant, 6
master/teacher, 182, 196
EGO issues, 207
needs of, 191–195
Peter as, 192–195
Mazza, Doug, 32
McGee, Robert S., The Search for
Significance, 51
meditation on scripture, 111–113
memorization of scripture, 108–111
Meyer, Paul J., 248
micromanaging, 57
MINE perspective, 68–69
mission, Jesus’ followers and, 136
mission statement, 144–145
mother, selfless love of, 45–46
motivation, 49
Nobel, Alfred, 128
normal distribution curve, 168
novice, 181–182, 196
EGO issues, 206
needs of, 182–184
Peter as, 183–184
obedience, 18
to God, 78, 211–215
obituary, 128–129
organization chart, and leaders, 3–4
organizational leadership, 4–5, 31–33
Ortberg, John, 9–10, 232
The Life You’ve Always Wanted, 35
others
comparison with, 61
as priority over God, 51–52
separation from, 60
parable of the sower, 106
parents, love for child, 91
patience, 186
peace, 86–87
Peale, Norman Vincent, 79, 80
performance coach, 185
leader as, 167–172
performance evaluation, 168
performance planning, 168
personal relationships, transformation
and, 24
Peter, 17, 27–28, 179–181, 255
as apprentice, 186–188
as journeyman, 189–191
as master/teacher, 192–195
as novice, 183–184
relationship with Jesus, 180
Pharisees, 78, 159
Philip, 255
positional power, of leaders, 157–158
possessions, of driven people, 71
prayer, 99–104
ACTS method, 103–104
Jesus in Gethsemane, 100–102
preemptive, 102
pride (self-promotion), 1, 53, 54–55, 63
in leader-follower relationships,
202–203
results of, 58–64
priorities
and God, 50–52
of values, 148–149
purpose, 135
clarity of, 169
of vision, 144–145
pyramid hierarchy, 156–157, 159
readiness for change, 255
reasons for actions, heart and, 39
relationships
with Jesus, 209
of life role leaders, 5
small-group fellowship, 118–120
standard for, 175–176
supportive, 115–122
trust and, 29–30
truth tellers, 116–118
repentance, 227
resources, worry about, 254–255
respect, 1
responsibility of leaders, 155
Ridge, Garry, 170–171
role models, 4
safety, 150
Schuller, Robert, Hour of Power, 10–11
scribes, Jesus and, 78
scripture. See also separate Scripture
index
knowing and applying, 105–113
meditating on, 111–113
memorization, 108–111
reading, 107–108
studying, 108
security, from God, 75–76
self
dependence on God vs., 66
separation from, 60
self-esteem, 80–81
self-examination, 25–27
self-focus, vs. servant heart, 199
self-interest, as motivation, 50
self-promotion, 1
self-protection, 1
self-sacrifice, 1
self-worth, 76
separation, 59–61, 63
servant heart, vs. self-focus, 199
servant leadership, 2, 6, 142–143
investment in followers, 167
Jesus and, 13–16
and pyramid hierarchy, 156–157,
159
service, 35
Situational Leadership, 11, 297n1
Situational Leadership II, 300n3
small-group fellowship, 118–120
Smith, Fred, Breakfast with Fred, 80
solitude, 95–98
spheres of influence, 24–33
leading another, 27–28
leading organization, 31–33
leading others, 29–30
self, 25–27
standards, setting, 175
studying scripture, 108
success, 85
succession planning, 69
supplication, in prayer, 104
supportive relationships, 115–122
Synovus, 44
tasks, stages of learning, 181–182
team/organizational vision, 141–154
thanksgiving, in prayer, 103
Thomas, 255
Tozer, A.W., 39
transformation, 23–33
trust, 25, 195, 236
of followers, 138
in God, 74
in Jesus, 14–15
in relationships, 27–28
in something other than God, 51
truth tellers, 116–118
ultimate authority, 25
understanding, testing, 248
values
making tough choices, 152–153
in vision, 148–151
vision
developing, 125–134
vs. goals, 147–148
implementing, 155–164
of Jesus, 135–139
leadership and, 143, 161–164
parts, 144
picture of future, 128–130, 145–148
purpose, 144–145
servant leadership and, 163
team/organizational, 141–154
values in, 148–151
vulnerabilities, disclosing, 118
Warren, Rick, The Purpose Driven
Life, 87
WD-40 Company, 170–171
wisdom, God as source, 77
work, and faith, 44
workaholic, 57