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ACP (Association of Child Psychotherapists) 150
acupuncture 106–8, 151
adults, sleep patterns 8, 9, 11
advice see handling advice
age of baby
and ability to sleep 62–4
and sleep needs 1–3
and waking at night 5
alarm clocks, and early risers 136
allergic babies 60, 104–5
alternative sleep cues 52–3, 56–7
anger, and crying babies 73–4
angry babies 78
anxiety
and crying babies 74, 76
and nightmares 137
articles (in books and journals) 154–6
Association of Child
Psychotherapists (ACP) 150
autistic children 67
baby massage 84–5, 151
baby monitors 37
baby swings 88, 152
babygros 81–2
back to bed 128–9
back to bed and close the door 130
backpacks 84
bed wetting (enuresis) 141–3
training programme 143–4
bed-sharing 13–14, 15, 16, 32, 35, 36–45
advantages and disadvantages 38
and babies liking their own space 43
benefits 36–9
and breathing patterns 36–7
having to share 44–5
in Japan 42
making more space 39
move to baby sleeping alone 19, 45–7
reasons for 42–5
safety of 40
and sleeping position 37–8, 45, 86
tips for co-sleeping 47
Bed-Side-Beds 39, 46
suppliers 152
bedclothes, and safe sleeping 33–4, 40
bedtime routines 28–30, 96–7
and behaviour management 111, 114–23
late bedtimes 132–4
and nightmares 137–8
behaviour management plans 23, 62, 64, 69, 76, 110–55
and babies with disabilities 66–7
back to bed 128–9
back to bed and close the door 130
bed wetting 141–4
and bedtime routines 111
cold turkey 114–15, 128–9, 130
cueing 111
daytime naps 133–4
door fixed ajar 130
early risers 132–3, 134–6
extinction 111
gradual withdrawal 122–3
kissing game 118–21
late bedtimes 132–3
and positive parents 78
reinforcement 111
shaping 111
and sleep clinics 102–3
and sleep diaries 112–13
and sleep therapists 102
star charts 111, 126–7, 136, 144
see also controlled crying technique
biological clocks 28
birth trauma see difficult births
black-out blinds 135
blind children 67
books 153–4
in the evening 51
shortening the feeds 56
and sleep equation 49, 50
stopping at night 117
boundaries, discovering 18–21
brain-damaged children 66
breakfast time 26
breaking point 91, 100
breastfeeding
and crying babies 75
during the night 48, 53–5
falling asleep at the breast 32
giving a bottle in the evening 51
men’s resentment of 58
and obtaining REM sleep 10
shortening the feeds 56–7
and sleep equation 49, 50
stopping 124–5
breathing monitors 33–4
breathing in sleep 4, 36–7
brief psychoanalytic therapy 103, 150
caesarean births 65, 107
car travel, driving around in the car 87–8
carrying the baby around 84
slings 84, 87, 152
CFCC (Child and Family
Consultation Clinics,
formerly Child Guidance) 103
chamomilla 88
child psychotherapists 20–1, 103
Child Psychotherapy Trust (CPT) 150
climbing out of bed 128–31
clinics, sleep clinics 102–3
co-sleeping see bed-sharing
cold babies, and acupuncture 106–7
cold turkey plans
back to bed 128–9
back to bed and close the door 130
door fixed ajar 130
settling at night 114–15
colic 79
company, babies’ need for 85–6, 146
complementary practitioners 151–2
confidence 12
constipation, and allergies 104–5
Continuum Concept, The (Leidloff) 13, 27, 84
controlled crying technique 54–5, 76, 102, 109, 115–18
back to bed 128, 129
back to bed and close the door 130
door fixed ajar 130
failure to work 125–6
getting it wrong 116–17
cot death 36
and safe sleeping 33–4
cots
Bed-Side-Beds 39, 46, 152
bedside the parents’ bed 38
‘foot to feet’ position 40
gradually moving to the baby’s bedroom 123
toys in 80–1
see also sleeping alone
CPT (Child Psychotherapy Trust) 150
cradleboards 83
cradles, swinging 88, 152
cranial osteopathy 57. 65, 108–9
craniosacral therapy 151
crying 72–9
as an adaptation to change 73
crying things through 79
distracting yourself from the cry 73
doing nothing 75–6
and early risers 134
identifying the baby’s needs 77–9
leaving the baby to cry 64, 96, 99, 110
listening to the cry 73
and passing out 126
as a protest 77
soothing by music and movement 86–8
surprised crying 76–7
tearful babies 68
and vomiting 125
see also controlled crying technique
cuddly toys 80–1
cueing 111
cultural differences
and bed-sharing 41–2
and wrapping babies snugly 83–4
daytime
active and drowsy periods 9
avoiding feeding when baby is tired 53
and behaviour management 114
naps 26, 27, 121, 133
routines 26–8
sleep and age of baby 3, 4
deaf children 67
delicate babies, and acupuncture 106–7
desmopressin 144
‘detached naps’ 136
developmental stages, and ability to sleep 62
diaries, sleep diaries 102, 112–14, 126, 131
diazepam 139, 141
diet
and acupuncture 106, 107
and allergies 104–5
and hyperactive children 104
difficult births 59, 60, 64–6, 107
and cranial osteopathy 108, 109
and crying babies 79
disabled children 60, 66–7
and bed wetting 141–2
and behaviour management 128–9
door fixed ajar 130
Down’s syndrome children 66
dreaming 8, 9–11
nightmares 137, 138
driving around in the car 87
drug treatment 100–1
bed wetting 144
and night terrors 139
and sleepwalking 141
dummies 56, 57
baby using mother as a dummy 48
early risers 132–3, 134–6
enuresis (bed wetting) 141–4
families, handling advice from 98–100
fathers see partners
feeding 48–58
and bed-sharing 40
before parents’ bedtime 51
as a cue for falling asleep 52–3
and falling asleep in the evening 32
new-born babies 49
night-time
and help from partners 50, 57–8
stopping 53–5
shortening the feeds 56
and sucking 56–7
see also bottle-feeding;
breastfeeding
feelings towards the baby 20–1, 72–5, 89–92
first-born babies 70
and confidence 12
expectations of 6
food-related allergies 104–5
‘foot to feet’ position 40
Foundation for the Study of
Infant Deaths (FSID) 33, 34, 40, 150
frantic babies 78
friends and family, handling advice from 98–9
frightened babies
and acupuncture 106
and the kissing game 120–1
FSID (Foundation for the Study
of Infant Deaths) 33, 34, 40, 150
GPs (general practitioners)
and acupuncture 106
advice and support from 99–100, 102, 103
and allergy tests 104–5
and babies who pass out
when crying 126
and bed wetting 142, 144
and symptoms of pain 104
gradual withdrawal 62, 122–3
back to bed 128
Green, Dr Christopher, Toddler Taming 130
handling advice 98–101
from friends and family 98–9
from health professionals 99–101
health professionals
advice and support from 99–101
and sleep clinics 102
health visitors
advice and support from 31, 99
and allergy tests 104–5
and the kissing game 121
and sleep clinics 102
and sleep therapy 109
heat see temperature
homoeopathy 88, 151
hospital admission for sleep
problems 99
hot babies
and acupuncture 106
see also temperature
hyperactive children 60, 104
and allergies 104, 105
and sleeping drugs 100, 101
Hyperactive Children’s Support Group 105
independent sleep see sleeping alone
individuality, developing a sense of 41
Internet 156
intrinsic development 67, 151
Japan, attitudes of dependency 42
kissing game 62, 118–21
back to bed 128
late bedtimes 132–3
leaving the baby to cry 64, 96, 99, 110
see also controlled crying
technique
leaving the baby to sleep,
behaviour management
plans 110, 114–23
Leidloff, lean, The Continuum Concept 13, 27, 84
light 83
turning off lights 30
listening to the baby 14–15, 21–4
listening to yourself 15–16
lone parents see single parents
loving and letting go 21–4
lullabies 52
lying down with the baby 122–3
Meet-A-Mum Association (MAMA) 97, 149
mental stimulation 67
mobiles 80
mothers
feelings of 20–1, 72–5, 89–92
needs of 17–8
obtaining REM sleep 9, 11
and a sense of certainty 13–14
talking and listening to the baby 14–15, 21–4
see also parents
movement 87–8
music, and crying babies 31, 73
naps
daytime 26, 27, 121, 133
and early risers 135–6
giving up 133
National Childbirth Trust (NCT) 97, 157
needs
identifying needs of crying babies 77–9
of parents and babies 17–18, 23
new-born babies
and bed-sharing 36–7, 38
and body temperature 36
feeding 49–50
in Japan 42
and REM sleep 8
waking at night 5, 60
night lights 83
night terrors 137, 138–9
and sleepwalking 140
night-time
amount of sleep needed, and age of baby 3
feeding 48, 53–5
and help from partners 50, 57–8
settling in the evening,
behaviour management plans 114–23
see also bedtime routines;
waking at night
night-time feeding, stopping 53–5
nightmares 137, 138
noise 82, 86
NREM sleep 7, 8–9
older children 137–44
bed wetting (enuresis) 141–4
night terrors 137, 138–9, 140
nightmares 137–8, 139
sleepwalking 140–1
organizations 149–50
pain
babies crying in 78–9
babies sucking to relieve 56–7
sleep problems as a result of 104, 128–9
Parent Network 149
parent and toddler groups 97
parents
acceptance by 145–7
of children with sleep
problems 61, 68
feelings towards the baby 19–20, 72–5, 89–92
positive 78
support groups 103
partners
and bed-sharing 47
and bedtime routines 29
help from 10
and night feeding 50, 57–8
relationships with 58, 94–5
sharing the load with 93–7
sleeping alone 41, 95–6
talking to 92–3
Phenergan 100, 101
physical problems, and bed wetting 141–2
positive parents 78
postnatal depression 15, 59, 90
practical problems 16
practical tips 80–8
company 85–6
for getting through the night 147
heat 81–2
light 83
music and movement 86
noise 82, 86
for sharing the load 94
touch 84–5
toys 80–1
wrapping snugly 83–4
premature babies 62
and body temperature 36
breathing pauses 36
and REM sleep 8
waking at night 60–1, 79
promethazine 100
psychoanalytic therapy 103, 150
pulsatilla 88
‘reassurance principle’ 96
reflex therapy 67
relaxing, and crying babies 75–6
REM sleep 7, 8, 9
deprivation 10
rocking 88
routines
establishing a routine 13, 59, 114
and night-time feeding 54–5
organizing the day 26–8
support with establishing a new routine 96, 97
see also bedtime routines
sad babies 78
safe sleeping 33–4
bed-sharing 40–1
with door fixed ajar 130
and sleepwalking 141
self-fulfilling prophecies 68
self-help groups 103
separation anxiety 60, 62, 63–4, 75, 78
and behaviour management 111–12
Serene 149
severe learning difficulties, children with 67
sexual relations, and co-sleeping 38
shaking a baby 91
sharing the load
single parents 97
with your partner 93–7
siblings
babies sleeping in same room as 85–6
and behaviour management 112
single parents
asking for support 97
and bed-sharing 43
and behaviour management 119–20, 131
and new routines 55
of twins 69
six-week old babies, and bedtime routines 28, 96–7
sleep associations 31–2
sleep clinics 99, 102
sleep diaries 102, 112–14, 126, 131
sleep equations 49–51
sleep gates/windows 9
sleep goals 45–6
sleep needs, and age of baby 1–3
sleep problems 5–6, 59–70
and age of baby 62–4
characteristics of babies with 60
characteristics of parents 61, 68
and difficult births 59–60, 64–6
and disabled children 66–7
and feelings of mothers 20–1
and first-born babies 70–1
passed down the generations 59–60
and tearful babies 68
and teething 70–1
and twins or more 69
see also waking at night
sleep rhythms 2–4
sleep therapists 63–4, 102, 108–9, 129
sleeping alone (babies) 4, 13, 18–9, 35
and cultural attitudes 41
and fourth or subsequent children 70
move towards goal of 45–6
for part of the night 41
tips for independent sleep 47
and twins 69
sleeping alone (partners) 41, 95–6
sleeping bags 81–2
sleepwalking 140–1
slings 84, 87, 152
smokers, and safe sleeping 34, 40
songs 86
South American Indians, baby-carrying 83–4
stair gates 130, 141
star charts 111, 126–7, 136, 144
stress 89–92
and bed wetting 142
sucking 56–7
summertime, and light nights 83
suppliers 152
surprised crying 76–7
swaddling 83, 87
swinging cradles 88, 152
talking to the baby 14, 21–4
and controlled crying 116
talking to your partner 92–3
tearful babies 68
see also crying
teddies 80–1
teething 70–1
temperature
and bed-sharing 36–7
and Down’s syndrome babies 66
keeping warm 81–2
regulating the baby’s temperature 4–5, 33, 34
therapy
brief psychoanalytic therapy 103, 150
sleep therapists 64, 102, 108–9, 129
tips see practical tips
toddlers
climbing out of bed 128–31
going to parents’ bed 136
and star charts 126–7
see also older children
toys 52, 80–1
transitional objects 81
trimeprazine 100
twins (or more) 69
night-time feeding 48–9
and sleep problems 59–60
vacuum cleaner noise 86
Vallergan 100, 101
vomiting 125–6
waking at night 5, 9, 11, 59–71
and bed-sharing 42–5
and behaviour management 110–31
and crying 78–9
see also sleep problems
waking early in the morning 134–6
weekends, and behaviour
management plans 114
Wilson, Dr Olwen 121
womb music 86
wrapping snugly 83–4