Ugh, this is the worst. As if it weren’t bad enough that you just had horrible prolonged (or, in some cases, not nearly prolonged enough) physical contact, now you have all kinds of anxiety about it. You’re asking yourself all sorts of questions like:
1. Is it going to give you a yeast infection? Or something worse?
2. Was it because of them?
3. Was it because of you?
4. Can it get better with this person or is it over?
5. Is that really the face they make when they orgasm? Is my orgasm face just as bad?
6. Did I do it too early and ruin everything?
7. Have I lost all the power in this relationship?
In our experience, the answers are typically as follows:
1. No, but make sure to go pee right afterward anyway.
2. Probably yes.
3. Probably also yes, but only because you were nervous.
4. It can get better, but sometimes really, really bad sex is indicative of the fact that there’s a mismatch somehow, be it emotional or biological.
5. Yes. And no! You look hot as hell, but go practice in the mirror. You can definitely control how you look when you come.
6. Probably also yes.
7. God! Who knows? Maybe. Who knows? Case-by-case basis.
Whatever the reason, bad sex can leave you feeling empty and unsatisfied. Go home and warm your heart (and your belly) with a cheesy twice-baked potato. You deserve more. Bad sex doesn’t even mean the sex was actually bad; it can be that a false sense of intimacy was created and now you’ve gone home and you’re alone. You were vulnerable with someone who didn’t deserve it. And it feels terrible. It was too soon to do that, but try not to beat yourself up. You’ve learned a lesson, and that’s all you can hope for at this stage in your life. Maybe next time you’ll act differently, or maybe you’ll do the same thing ten more times until you finally change.