Setting Up The Special “Venus Butterfly” Date
The “Venus Butterfly” date actually begins long before you physically touch each other. To accomplish the intensity, duration, and pleasure of experience that is possible, it is mandatory that total attention be focused on just one of you at a time.
It is more reasonable for the woman to be taken on the “Venus Butterfly” date first. However, since many women will read this book before their partners, there is nothing wrong with the man being taken on the “date” first. The following instructions assume that the man will be taking his partner on the “date.”
To start, tell your partner that you are taking her on a special romantic adventure, and announce the date and time. Tell her in such a way as to begin to get her excited. Make sure you have her undivided attention when you tell her about the “Venus Butterfly” date.
Do this now, and write down exactly when you have scheduled your first date: _________________________
Next, if the date is far enough off, leave her love notes so she will get more and more excited about the date. Put the notes where she will stumble across them, such as on the refrigerator door or on her pillow.
If you have time, mail her a romantic card or note. The note could say something like, “Our date will be one that you will never forget.” “I’m going to take you to heights you have never been to before,” or, “Remember, our date is only a few hours (days) away.” You can even remind her of a special moment you once shared and tell her this time is going to be even better. Include a “Thank You” for something she has done for you and remember to tell her what she means to you.
Send or leave her small presents or flowers with a card attached.
Make an unexpected phone call just to say how much you love her and how much you are looking forward to your date.
Prior to the time the date, make sure that all details are taken care of: Use the following checklist to make sure you don’t leave anything out. This makes it easier for you to pull everything together. Start on your list now and add to it as you think of more items.
Her favorite romantic music,
Candles,
Something wonderful for her to drink and munch on,
Body lotion or massage oil,
Vaseline,
The room perfectly arranged, and
Your fingernails manicured so that they are rounded with no sharp edges.
Write down anything else you need to do, and the time it needs to be done.
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As your “Venus Butterfly” date approaches, you will most likely run into a few snags or even some resistance. Not to worry. Just make believe that everything that happens is perfect. You need not force or hurry anything. Just let events unfold at their own pace, even if it means slowing things down or postponing the date so that neither of you feels rushed or pressured. But, once you have promised the “Venus Butterfly” date, go through with it no matter what.
For example, she may be preoccupied with something else and may treat the date with something less than wide-eyed excitement. In that case, it may be a good idea to talk to her about rescheduling the date. Don’t do this in a heavy-handed way or else she may blow up at you. Stay light about it. The main thing is for you to stay in charge and totally confident that everything will happen at the right time.
For this ““Venus Butterfly” Date” to work perfectly, you must put her at “total effect,” which means that you are “doing” the “Venus Butterfly” technique to her and she is being “done” without expending any energy.
Lovingly stop her if she tries to help at any point during the date. You handle all decisions, phone calls, emergencies, and everything else that comes up in a way that you know will please her.
Your homework will involve completing this chapter and reading the sections in Chapter 7 that apply to your partner. Men will read here in the Sexercises For Men Only section, and women will read here in the Sexercises For Women Only section.
Become very familiar with the body parts of your partner which are described in these sections. Pay special attention to the individual parts of your partner’s genitals. Get to know them and their names as well as you do the parts of your own body.
If you are a man, go to the next chapter and proceed to follow the instructions.
If you are a woman, skip the next chapter and go the Chapter 11 entitled Doing The “Venus Butterfly” To Him.