Resources

Books You May Find Helpful

(Keyed to rebuilding topics)

Ahrons, C. 1998. The Good Divorce. New York: HarperCollins. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

Alberti, R., and M. Emmons. 2008. Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships. 9th ed. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Self-Worth)

Ansari, A., and E. Klinenberg. 2015. Modern Romance. New York: Penguin Press. (Relatedness)

Beck, A. 1989. Love Is Never Enough. New York: Harper Perennial. (Relatedness)

Beckfield, D. 2004. Master Your Panic and Take Back Your Life: Twelve Treatment Sessions to Conquer Panic, Anxiety, and Agoraphobia. 3rd ed. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Fear)

Blinder, M. 1989. Choosing Lovers: Patterns of Romance: How You Select Partners in Intimacy, the Ways You Connect, and Why You Break Apart. Centennial, CO: Glenbridge Publishing Ltd. (Relationships, Love, Sexuality)

Bloomfield, H. 2011. Making Peace with Yourself: Turning Your Weaknesses into Strengths. Kindle ed. New York: Ballantine Books. (Self-Worth)

Borysenko, J. 2009. It’s Not the End of the World: Developing Resilience in Times of Change. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House. (Guilt/Rejection)

Bourne, E. J. 2015. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. 6th ed. Oakland CA: New Harbinger. (Fear)

Bray, J. H., and J. Kelly. 1999. Stepfamilies: Love, Marriage, and Parenting in the First Decade. New York: Broadway Books. (Stepfamilies)

Bridges, W. 2004. Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes. Rev. ed. New York: Da Capo Press. (Transition)

Deits, B. 2009. Life After Loss. New York: Da Capo Press. (Grief)

Einstein, E., and L. Albert. 2006. Strengthening Your Stepfamily. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Stepfamilies)

Ellis, A. 2001. Feeling Better, Getting Better, Staying Better: Profound Self-Help Therapy for Your Emotions. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Guilt/Rejection)

Ellis, A., and R. Tafrate. 1997. How to Control Your Anger Before It Controls You. New York: Carol Publishing Group. (Anger)

Fisher, B., and N. Hart. 2000. Loving Choices: An Experience in Growing Relationships. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Relatedness)

Gibran, K. 1923. The Prophet. New York: Alfred A. Knopf. (Inspirational)

Hendricks, G., and K. Hendricks. 2015. Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationships at Midlife and Beyond. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House. (Relatedness)

Jampolsky, G. 2010. Love Is Letting Go of Fear. 3rd ed. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts. (Fear)

Keen, S. 1992. Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man. New York: Bantam Books. (Women and Men)

Kingma, D. A. 2012. Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours. Rev. ed. San Francisco: Conari Press. (Letting Go)

Klinenberg, E. 2012. Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press.

Kübler-Ross, E., and D. Kessler. 2005. On Grief and Grieving. New York: Scribner. (Grief)

MacGregor, C. 2001. The Divorce Helpbook for Kids. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Children of Divorce)

MacGregor, C. 2004. The Divorce Helpbook for Teens. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Children of Divorce)

MacGregor, C. 2005. Jigsaw-Puzzle Family: The Stepkids’ Guide to Fitting It Together. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Children of Divorce)

MacGregor, C., and R. Alberti. 2006. After Your Divorce: Creating the Good Life on Your Own. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

McKay, G., and S. Maybell. 2004. Calming the Family Storm: Anger Management for Moms, Dads, and All the Kids. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Anger)

McKay, M., P. D. Rogers, and J. McKay. 2003. When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within. 2nd ed. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger. (Anger)

Palmer, P. 2000. I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand: A Child’s Guide to Grief and Loss. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Grief)

Palmer, P., and M. Froehner. 2010. Teen Esteem: A Self-Direction Manual for Young Adults. 3rd ed. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Self-Worth)

Paul, J., and M. Paul. 2002. Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You? 2nd ed. Center City, MN: Hazelden. (Love)

Peck, S. 2003. The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth. New ed. New York: Simon & Schuster/Touchstone. (Inspirational)

Perry, L. D. 2007. Drunk, Divorced, and Covered in Cat Hair: The True Life Adventures of a 30-Something Who Learned to Knit After He Split. Deerfield Beach, FL: HCI Books. (Singleness)

Phelps, S., and N. Austin. 2002. The Assertive Woman. 4th ed. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Women and Men)

Rathus, S. A., and J. S. Nevid. 2013. Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity. 9th ed. New York: Pearson Education. (Sexuality)

Rofes, E., ed. 1981. The Kids’ Book of Divorce: By, for, and About Kids. New York: Vintage Books. (Children of Divorce)

Rye, M. S., and C. D. Moore. 2015. The Divorce Recovery Workbook: How to Heal from Anger, Hurt, and Resentment and Build the Life You Want. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

Satir, V. 1988. The New Peoplemaking. Mountain View, CA: Science and Behavior Books. (Relationships, Families, Trust)

Schwartz, P. 2014. Dating After 50 for Dummies. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley. (Singleness)

Sills, J. 2009. Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You’ve Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted. New York: Hachette/Springboard. (Sexuality)

Solin, K. 2015. The Boomer Guide to Finding True Love Online. Pompano Beach, FL: 21st Century Lion Books. (Singleness)

Stahl, P. 2000. Parenting After Divorce. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Children of Divorce)

Temlock, M. 2006. Your Child’s Divorce: What to Expect—What You Can Do. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Parenting, Families)

Turkle, S. 2012. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other. New York: Basic Books. (Relationships)

Walton, B. 2000. 101 Little Instructions for Surviving Your Divorce: A No-Nonsense Guide to the Challenges at Hand. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

Webb, D. 2000. 50 Ways to Love Your Leaver. Atascadero, CA: Impact Publishers. (Letting Go)

Wenning, K. 1998. Men Are from Earth, Women Are from Earth. New York: Jason Aronson. (Women and Men)

Williams, R., and V. Williams. 1998. Anger Kills: Seventeen Strategies for Controlling the Hostility That Can Harm Your Health. New York: Harper Paperbacks. (Anger)

Wilson, C. A., and E. Schilling. 1992. Survival Manual for Men in Divorce: Straightforward Answers About Your Rights. Boulder, CO: Quantum Press. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

Wilson, C. A., and E. Schilling. 2000. Survival Manual for Women in Divorce: 185 Questions and Answers. 3rd ed. Boulder, CO: Quantum Press. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

Wilson, K. K. 2003. Transformational Divorce: Discover Yourself, Reclaim Your Dreams, and Embrace Life’s Unlimited Possibilities. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger. (Divorce and Divorce Recovery)

Wisdom, S., and J. Green. 2002. Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family. New York: Random House/Three Rivers Press. (Stepfamilies)

Zimmerman, J., and E. S. Thayer. 2003. Adult Children of Divorce: How to Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents’ Breakup and Enjoy Love, Trust, and Intimacy. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger. (Adaptation)

Online Resources You May Find Helpful

http://www.rebuilding.org

This site provides more information on Bruce Fisher’s work, on his ten-week divorce recovery seminar, and on locations around the world where the seminar is offered.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/relationships

Most posts to the Psychology Today website (affiliated with the magazine) are by psychologists and other professionals in human services. While divorce recovery is not a specific topic of emphasis, the site has a “Relationships” section with lots of helpful ideas. There is also a “Find a Therapist” section.

http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org

Parents Without Partners (PWP), the largest international nonprofit membership organization devoted to the welfare and interests of single parents and their children, is generally acknowledged to be the granddaddy of support groups. Mainly catering to divorced men and women since it first began in the late 1950s, PWP now offers a resource center open to all, as well as a directory of local chapters and a listing of local and international PWP events.

http://www.divorcemag.com

Divorce Magazine’s online site is packed with divorce-related information and support.

http://www.facebook.com/DivorceMagazine

Divorce Magazine’s Facebook page presents the usual social media info, what’s happening currently and where, and connections with other resources.

http://www.divorcesource.com and http://www.divorcesupport.com

These paired sites—with emphasis on legal issues—provide links for fathers’ and mothers’ rights, domestic violence, publications for more information, bulletin boards, and chats.

http://www.divorcenet.com

Produced by the highly regarded self-help legal publisher Nolo Press, this site has a number of chat support groups, an attorney resource center, and a state-by-state listing of legal provisions, as well as bulletin board discussions on a number of topics.

http://www.singlemoms.org

Featuring a network of local groups, this site is dedicated to providing resources, support, and information for all single parents (not just mothers).

http://www.divorcecare.org

A faith-oriented, highly organized program of divorce recovery support groups, most sponsored by churches. Emphasizes Bible-based “expert” information rather than personal growth.

http://www.stepfamilies.info/stepfamilyprogram

The National Stepfamily Resource Center’s site offers access to a free, video-format, research-based interactive program featuring ten common challenges in stepfamilies. Also offers a library of useful information on topics related to parenting, stepparenting, co-parenting, and managing a healthy couples relationship.

Bruce Fisher, EdD, (1931–1998) developed the ‘rebuilding’ model of divorce recovery nearly forty years ago. As founder and director of the Family Relations Learning Center in Boulder, CO, he personally trained thousands of individuals and therapists in this approach, enriching the lives of hundreds of thousands worldwide. He was a popular divorce therapist, author, teacher, and clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Rebuilding, Fisher’s best-selling guide to surviving divorce, has over a million copies in print in the United States, and editions in ten languages. His other books include Loving Choices, with Nina Hart, and the Rebuilding Facilitator’s Manual, with Jere Bierhaus.

Robert Alberti, PhD, has received international recognition for his writing and editing, often praised as the “gold standard” for psychological self-help. Recently retired from a long career as a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, book author, editor, and publisher, Alberti’s now- inactive professional affiliations include Life Membership and Fellowship in the American Psychological Association, Clinical Membership in the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and more than fifty years of professional membership in the American Counseling Association. His publishing achievements include eight books, newsletters for a number of organizations, dozens of articles, and the editing of more than 100 popular and professional psychology books by other authors. Alberti’s “formal” publications career began in 1970, with the first edition of Your Perfect Right, coauthored with Michael Emmons. Now in its tenth revised edition, Your Perfect Right has over 1.3 million copies in print in the United States, and has been published in translation in more than twenty languages around the world. Alberti collaborated with the late divorce therapist Bruce Fisher on the third edition of Rebuilding, and recently completed the revised fourth edition.

Foreword writer Virginia M. Satir (1916-1988) was one of the most well-loved and highly respected contributors to the field of marriage and family therapy. She is recognized as a founder of family systems theory. Her many books, including her best-seller Peoplemaking, were influential in establishing the framework for family therapy, and comprise a major component of the foundation of the profession as it is currently practiced. Satir wrote this foreword for the first edition of Rebuilding.