Male Multiple Orgasm (MMO)
The Ultimate Guide on Becoming a
Multi-Orgasmic Man
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Disclaimer
T here’s no guarantee that these exercises will give you the expected results. Keep in mind every person’s body is different and that there are certain routines which may work for some and not so much for others. It’s a matter of trial and error on your part and through this process, you should be aware of the risks. Failure on your first, second or even third attempt is a part of the learning process and should not be considered as a demotivator. This book serves as your guide and will possibly help you come up with a routine that will work best for you. This books contains warnings and will not be held responsible for anyone hurting themselves in any way.
Contents
o Multiple orgasms feel amazing!
o Say goodbye to premature ejaculation
o Be more confident than ever!
Male’s Sexual Arousal: Physically and Psychological
Different Types of Male Orgasms
Quick Tips for Multiple Orgasms
The Muscles of the Pelvis and Perineum
o Supine
o Standing
o Sitting
o Walking
Designing a Routine That Suits You
Multiple orgasm is commonly associated with women and is regarded to be a fact however with men, there are still a number of confusions that make it hard to distinguish myths from facts and make people think “Are men really capable of multiple orgasm?” For us to have a clearer answer to this question, let’s go into the details of it one by one, starting with the basics.
Particularly in men, multiple orgasm, as the term suggests, refers to having several orgasms in a single erection or in other words, without losing one’s sexual arousal between orgasms. This can be that there is some time between orgasms, but it can also be that they are consecutive orgasms, occurring one after the other without gaps.
The c oncept of multiple orgasms, isn’t that hard but there’s a lot to learn before one could fully understand it. However, the hardest part of it, is putting this learned information into practice. For this, I think learning how to achieve multiple orgasms needs to be tackled step-by-step.
The orgasm, also known as climax, is the peak of sexual excitement which may be accompanied by a series of involuntary muscle contractions of the genitals and ejaculation of the semen in males. On the other hand, ejaculation is simply the act of expelling the semen from the male urethra.
Usually, men have this common misconception that ejaculation and orgasm are the same process and that these terms are interchangeable. Well in fact, these are separate processes which mean one can occur without the other but for most cases, these occur at the same time.
Why bother with all these exercises & becoming a multi-orgasmic man? It’s because of the following reasons.
Orgasms make a man feel good. So, having multiple of it can give you a feeling of intense pleasure, satisfaction and can even become euphoric.
Aside from the pleasure you are getting from having multiple orgasms, it can also benefit your partner by being able to last as long as you want. This can as well satisfy your partner and this can sometimes be a factor in having a stronger relationship. Couples which share multiple orgasms can reduce chances of your partner committing adultery obviously because you are able to satisfy your partner more completely.
Being a multi-orgasmic man can also build your confidence. Knowing that you are able to please your partner or any woman better than any other guys out there is a great feeling. Your ability to achieve multiple orgasms is considered as an edge against other guys. Remember that psychic elements can influence your sexual activity so the lack of self confidence can even worsen your condition while having a good self confidence can enhance sexual activity.
Sex is also considered an exercise. Thirty minutes of sex can burn at least 85 calories. Since MMO prolongs sex, you can definitely burn a lot of calories. Other than the fact that it can help your burn calories, it can improve heart health as it lowers blood pressure and can reduce stress levels.
During sexual activities, our bodies undergo several changes, physically and psychological. A short overview of these changes will be presented in the context of the different phases of sexual arousal particularly in males.
First is the arousal or the excitement phase. To avoid confusions, we’ll use the latter, excitement phase. In male, this phase is most obviously characterized by penile erection which may be caused by either physical elements such as kissing or direct stimulation or psychological elements such as sexual dreams and thoughts. When the body is subjected to these sexual stimulations, certain excitatory signals from the brain cause bodily changes. The penile tissues become filled with blood thus the penis enlarges and becomes harder. In addition the testes, just like the penis, may also increase in size and may be slightly elevated in this phase. Aside from these changes, breathing also becomes more rapid, heart rate and blood pressure will also rise, there may also be an increase in muscle tension and nipple erection though this may vary for some men.
On the second phase, known as the plateau phase, the same changes from the previous phase are experienced however, these are intensified and maintained at a certain level with continued sexual stimulation. The penis, for instance, becomes firmer and skin color may also darken. A clear, viscous fluid or better known as pre-ejaculate secreted by the Cowper’s or bulbourethral glands may also start to come out from the penis. This pre-ejaculate prepares the urethra such that it’s well lubricated for efficient passage of the sperm as well as eliminates foreign substances and traces of urine and sperm within the urethra. The testes may continue to increase in size and are drawn more closely to the abdomen. Heart rate and blood pressure continue to shoot up and muscle tension becomes intensified.
The next phase is known as the orgasm or climax. In this phase, a series of spasms are felt not only in the sexual organs but throughout the body. The body also flushes and heavy breathing occurs. These involuntary muscle contractions may lead to ejaculation, however this may only be true for some. It is possible that men can delay ejaculation and have multiple orgasms of course with the aid of certain exercises such as kegels which will be further discussed later and also its relation to the pelvic and perineal muscles. One common technique in preventing ejaculation and have multiple orgasms include squeezing of the urethra.
The Point Of No Return (PONR) is sometimes also called “ejaculatory inevitability”. This describes a certain phenomenon in man wherein he has already reached the peak of his sexual excitement and ejaculation has become inevitable. In this so-called phenomenon, the body prepares itself for ejaculation as the prostate and seminal vesicles start to contract, moving the semen toward the urethral bulb, ready for expulsion through the urethra. At the same time, the bladder sphincter closes to prevent outflow of the urine and the inflow of semen to the bladder.
The fourth and last phase of the sexual cycle is the resolution phase. Immediately after an orgasm, men experience a refractory period. During this period, the body starts to shift from an excited state to the unexcited state which means that further sexual stimulation during this period will not trigger another erection or orgasm. The refractory period vary among individuals and has been found to be proportional with age, lasting for a couple of minutes in young males while hours and even days for older males. In females, the refractory period occurs rapidly that their bodies are capable of reverting back to the orgasm phase when further sexually stimulated and for this reason, having multiple orgasms is a lot easier for females than for males. During the resolution phase the body diverts back to its normal state gradually. The penis starts to become flaccid, testes regain its normal size and may descend back to its normal position. The rate of breathing, blood pressure and heart rates normalizes and muscle tension slowly decreases and finally becomes fully relaxed. At this phase, the person somehow feels a certain level of satisfaction and might feel drained at the same time.
There are two types of wave orgasms, the soft wave and the hard wave orgasm. Wave orgasms are also called rolling orgasms. These types of orgasms are consecutive waves-like orgasms of which the greater intensity is felt in the pelvic area.
Soft wave orgasms can be described as the pleasurable waves right before you’re about to ejaculate or have a dry orgasm (more about dry orgasms later) and having these waves one after the other, often during edging. Sometimes people don’t realize they are having these orgasms because they feel a lot less intense then normal orgasms. Some argue whether or not these types of spasms can even be considered orgasms. But they are pleasurable nonetheless.
Hard wav e orgasms are basically series of consecutive dry orgasms. As the name suggests hard wave orgasms are a lot more intense than soft wave orgasms, intensity is more similar to regular orgasms but a succession of them which means very a long intense pleasure.
Whole body orgasms are comparable with the female G-spot orgasms. In both cases intense pleasurable waves will be felt through your whole body, unlike regular and wave orgasms which are mainly felt in the pelvic area. This often results in involuntary convulsions of the entire body. Whole body orgasms can be achieved with or without ejaculations. This type of orgasm won’t be discussed in this book but if you know how to achieve this type of orgasm you can apply the techniques taught in this book to achieve multiple whole body orgasms which is possibly the most intense and pleasurable kind or orgasm achievable by a man.
Here are some quick tips that will eventually help achieve male multiple orgasms:
When you have mastered the previous tips, you can have another orgasm. This time, it can either be another dry orgasm or an orgasm with ejaculatio n, this is up to you.
If you can accomplish this consistently, congrats, you call yourself a multi-orgasmic man.
Practice is the key in achieving multiple orgasms, first practice it solo, then whenever you are ready, you can try it out with your partner. As you get better at it you’ll be able to keep on going as long as you want and have as many orgasms as you wish.
Muscles in the pelvis or better known as the area between the abdomen and the lower extremities are divided into two groups. The first group is consist of the Obturator internus and the Piriformis muscles, both of which are muscles of the lower extremities while the second group includes the levator ani and the coccygeus muscles which are specifically muscles of the pelvic floor found directly below the pelvic cavity. The levator ani, in turn, is composed of two muscles, the iliococcygeus (IC) and pubococcygeus (PC) muscles.
The muscles that compose the perineum, also known as the outlet of the pelvis or the area below the pelvic floor, can also be divided into two groups namely the muscles that are located on the anal region and the other are those that are found in the urogenital region. The anal muscles are the corrugator cutis ani, sphincter ani externus and internus. The urogenital muscles are the transversus perinei superficialis and profundus, bulbocavernosus (BC) and ischiocavernosus.
Before we go into the kegel exercises proper, we should first learn on how to locate the muscles being utilized during kegel exercises.
Before we start with the exercises, let us first get to know the different movements of the pelvic floor and perineal muscles and how to identify these muscles as well as the various positioning of the body which will be helpful in learning kegel exercises.
There are two ways to locate you’re the muscles. First, by stopping your urine midstream and second is by contracting your voluntary anal sphincter, the external anal sphincter. For the second one, you can check it by inserting your finger in your anus while you are contracting the external anal sphincter or by simply stopping the process of defecation though I think the former one better confirms it. Be sure that while you are doing these, you don’t contract muscles other than the pelvic floor and perineal muscles like the muscles on your abdominals, thighs and buttocks because if you do so, you are doing it in a wrong way. So, I assume at this point, you already know what muscles are responsible for these movements as it was clearly discussed earlier.
The following are the different kegel movements:
It is the contraction of the muscle found between the testicles and anus or the PC muscle. You can identify the muscles that are responsible for kegel movements by stopping your urine midstream or by bobbing your penis while it is erect. Again, these are just ways of identifying the muscles and are not part of the kegel exercise proper.
If kegel is the contraction of muscles, this one is the relaxation of the muscles. Its goal is to relax or stretch the muscles to make it more flexible. This movement involves inflation of the lower abs or if you want to describe it in medical terms, the hypogastric region as well as the PC muscle. You can identify the muscle responsible for this movement when urinating by speeding up your urine.
It is done by contracting and relaxing the voluntary sphincter of the anus, the external anal sphincter. During defecation, you can identify the muscles responsible for this movement by contracting the anal muscles to stop the process of defecation.
It refers to the relaxation of the pelvic floor muscles. Unlike in the back kegel which involves both contracting and relaxing of the external anal sphincter, the reverse back kegel movement only involves relaxing of this sphincter. Defecation is a way of identifying the muscles for this movement by simple allowing the external anal sphincter to relax thus favoring defecation to occur.
All positions can be done when doing kegel exercises but for amateurs, the ideal positions would be the supine position but basically there are variations in the positions which you could actually try depending on your level of expertise in doing these exercises.
The following are the different positions in doing the kegel exercises:
This is the recommended position especially for amateurs. This is done by lying on your back, with knees bent (about 45 o angle). Bending your knees in this way will decrease the pressure on your pelvis thus making it easier to perform kegel exercises.
This is one of the most convenient positions in doing kegel exercises because obviously you can be at this position when doing kegel exercises anywhere. However, not all men have reported this position being beneficial in doing kegel exercises. Beneficial, in a sense that doing kegel exercises on this position will be a lot easier because in fact, some men are having a hard time doing kegel exercises on this position.
In general, this position is seldom recommended. As an exception, with men encountering problems when doing reverse movements, this position may be helpful. As a tip, when you want to lessen the pressure between your testicles and anus, you can elevate or lift your knees.
Seriously, this position is also possible and it can even strengthen some exercises. This is somewhat like an experimental position and it will challenge you on how you are able to manage doing exercises in a stressful environment, having a lot of distractions along the process.
Aside from the four variations in positions described above, there is also a so-called pelvic lift variation which is a bit more complex however, this is very helpful especially for those having a hard time to isolate specific muscles for a certain exercise or routine. Be sure not to overwork because if you do so, you will most likely experience adverse effects rather than the beneficial effects.
Here’s how to do it:
Lay on your back such as in a supine position with your knees bent (about 45 o angle). Place your hands at the sides, close to your hips on the floor with palms down.
Raise your hips with your hands still placed on the floor for support or if your are having a hard time, you can place both hands at your lower back as you raise your hips for support.
Hold on to this position and be sure your back is straight from the shoulders down to the knees.
While maintaining that position, you can do your desired kegel exercise
So before doing another set of exercise, it wouldn’t harm if pause and take some rest first. After you finish your first set of exercises, you can lower your hips back on the floor and relax for a while before proceeding to the next set of exercises .
As you go along the different kegel exercises, you will notice that these exercises are tailored according to a certain level such as beginner, intermediate and advanced. To eliminate confusions, here follows a description of each level. You’ll also see different states (such as: Flaccid, Erect, Post ejaculation, etc) mentioned after in parentheses which let’s you know which states are allowed for that particular level. If no state is mentioned, it means that they are all allowed.
This exercise is used to strengthen and balance the pelvic floor. In addition, it can also enhance erection quality (EQ).
Level : Any (flaccid, post ejaculation).
Note : This exercise should be coupled with reverse kegel exercises in the routine to prevent pelvic floor and perineal muscles imbalance.
1. Do an incremental kegel going from 0 to 8 strength-wise in a 2 second period.
2. Relax your PC muscles for a same amount of time then you can do another one
3.
You can start off on your first day with as many crescendo kegels you can comfortably do then you can increase the number as your pelvic floor gets stronger, until you reach the maximum recommended which is 50 repetitions. When you are able to do 50 you should advance to other exercises.
You might encounter the following:
This exercise is used t o strengthen your pelvic floor as well as balance them.
Level : Beginners (flaccid, post ejaculation) and intermediate.
1. Contract your anal muscles in an incremental way for 2 seconds.
2. Release and rest for the same amount of time before you continue.
3. Contraction should neither be too strong nor too weak (moderate strength).
4. Just the same with the crescendo kegel, start with as many repetitions you can comfortably do then increase it gradually until you reach a maximum of 50 repetitions in just one session.
You might encounter the following:
This exercise is done to strengthen and balance the pelvic floor as well as to kill involuntary kegels and increase your EQ. For instance, when involuntary kegels occur during edging, the crescendo kegel is converted to a kegel hold thus can stop involuntary kegels. It should be included in everyone’s routine at some point.
Level: Intermediate (flaccid) and advanced.
1. Do a regular kegel but hold it for 5 seconds.
2. Moderate to hard strength is applied and done at a slow pace, meaning there are longer rests in between each kegel hold.
3. This should be done at a maximum of 10 repetitions. Doing more than that will tire your muscles so instead of increasing the number of repetitions, you should focus more in increasing the duration of your kegel hold.
4. Don’t forget to breathe normally and properly when doing a kegel hold
Note: Make sure you are breathing normally and not tensing any other muscles like your abs and such. A kegel hold so be the same intensity throughout the hold. It should not be fading and you shouldn’t be reapplying the hold.
This is a combination of crescendo kegel and kegel hold and is done to strengthen, fine-tune and balance the pelvic floor.
Level : Intermediate (flaccid) and advanced.
1. Do a slow 3 second crescendo kegel.
2. Then don’t release but do a kegel hold for 3 seconds.
3. Now do a 3 second release.
4. Now rest and do it again.
5. These should be slow pace and with moderate to hard strength The maximum recommended repetition is 15. You can increase the 3 seconds to 5 seconds when you feel comfortable.
This is a kegel type of exercise and is done to strengthen the pelvic floor and perineal muscles as well as balance these muscles. It can help enhance erections and conditions the muscles for a dry orgasm.
Level : Advanced.
1. Do a kegel hold for 5 seconds with a moderate strength.
2. After 5 seconds, do not release, instead continue with the kegel hold and increase the strength and maintain it for another 5 seconds.
3. After a total of 10 seconds, still continue the kegel hold with a maximum increased strength of hold for 5 seconds.
4. Relax the muscles.
5. Start with 5 repetitions then increase it until you reach the maximum recommended repetitions of 15. Please take note that going beyond this will cause pelvic floor imbalance.
This is an advanced exercise is to strengthen and balance the pelvic floor and especially enhance EQ (erection quality). It’s a kegel hold with a twist. You must be fully erect with this one and have a towel handy.
Level : Advanced (erect)
1. Make your penis fully erect.
2. Hang a towel onto your erect penis.
3. Raise the towel by doing a kegel and holding it for 5 seconds.
4. Relax and repeat.
5. Start with 5 reps and don’t do more than 20 reps. When 20 gets too easy increase the duration from 5 to 10 seconds. When that gets too easy increase the weight of the towel by wetting it or using a larger towel.
This exercise is used to enhance strength, isolation, and balance. It combines the 3-point kegel and the 3-point reverse kegel. It can also be done in reverse, meaning you start with a reverse kegel and transfer to a regular kegel. (Read the reverse kegel section of this guide first before doing this one)
Level : Advanced.
1. Do a slow strong crescendo kegel lasting 5 seconds.
2. Hold it for 5 seconds.
3. Release slowly lasting 5 seconds.
4. Immediately without rest do a reverse kegel pushing out slowly with medium strength lasting for 5 seconds.
5. Hold it for 5 seconds.
6. Release slowly, lasting 5 seconds.
7. Start with 5 reps, increase to 10 reps when you feel comfortable.
This is a strength exercise . First you do a kegel hold and then you increase the intensity by adding a back kegel hold.
Level : Beginner (flaccid, medium strength), Intermediate (all states, medium strength), Advanced (all states, strong).
1. Do a slow crescendo kegel lasting 3 seconds.
2. Hold it for 3 seconds.
3. Do a 3 second back crescendo kegel while still maintaining the kegel hold.
4. Hold both for 3 seconds.
5. For beginners start with 5 reps and 3 second movements. Then increase to 10 reps. Lastly increase to 5 second movements.
6. You can also do this exercise with the reverse kegels.
This is an isolation exercise and is a combination of the kegel, the back crescendo kegel, the reverse kegel, and the reverse back kegel. There are 2 recommended combinations . (Read the reverse kegel section of this guide first before doing this one)
Level : Beginner (flaccid), Intermediate (erect), Advanced.
Combination 1:
1. Do a kegel.
2. No pause and do a reverse kegel.
3. No pause and do a back kegel
4. No pause and do a reverse back kegel.
Combination 2:
1. Do a reverse back kegel.
2. No pause and do a back kegel.
3. No pause and do a reverse kegel.
4. No pause and do a kegel.
5. Start with 20 reps total. You can do both combinations in a single set. Max. 40 reps.
This is possibly the hardest exercise to do perfectly. It takes the super combo kegel to the next level. Used to strengthen, enhance isolation, balance. (Read the reverse kegel section of this guide first before doing this one)
Level : Advanced.
1. Do a kegel hold.
2. No pause and do a reverse kegel hold.
3. No pause and do a back kegel hold
4. No pause and do a reverse back kegel hold.
5. Start with 5 reps and 5 second movements. Then increase reps to 10. Lastly increase time to 10 second movements.
Reverse kegels are exercises that relax the pelvic floor and make them flexible. It is a stretching exercise so we can expect that it is much weaker than the regular kegels which is a strengthening exercise. This discrepancy is important in maintaining balance in terms of muscle strength and ability to relax them which in turn is beneficial in achieving male multiple orgasm. Reverse kegels are necessary in order to maintain a balanced pelvic floor.
Basically, there are two kinds of reverse kegels, the front and the back reverse kegels. The difference between the two lies on the target muscles to relax and that’s what we are going to discuss next.
D uring a front reverse kegel your are stretching and relaxing the BC and IC muscles. In effect, the blood is free to move in and out of the penis.
It is important to have a balance between the regular kegel and the reverse kegel. We have learned that the kegel exercise strengthens the pelvic floor therefore, compresses the return of the blood via the veins and allows a large amount of blood to be suspended within the penis making it stiffer and heightens orgasm. If your pelvic floor is unbalanced, as result of having done too many or only kegel exercises, there is a tendency that your muscles will tense and have a hard time relaxing and you’ll reach the PONR way faster than the ideal rate. But if you have a balanced kegel-reverse kegel, you will most likely reach PONR at a normal pace. In order to achieve multiple orgasms, you need to stop at PONR and avoid going beyond that to prevent premature ejaculation. To counter the effect of over-kegeling, you need to do a front reverse kegel to relax these muscles and allow blood to flow freely, slightly decreasing the tension thus reverting back from the PONR.
This is for if the back of the pelvic floor is tense
. Though this isn’t common and the focus is on the front reverse kegel, you shouldn’t disregard the back reverse kegel as it is still vital in achieving perfect balance for dry orgasms or MMO.
1. Position your body at its most comfortable. Sitting is often considered the most comfortable position for reverse kegels.
2. As always, start by identifying the muscles. In a front reverse kegel, you can identify the front reverse kegel movement by trying to urinate. In a back reverse kegel, on the other hand, you can identify it by trying to fart or defecate. If you feel like you’re about to urinate, defecate while doing the actual exercises, you are pushing too hard unless you really have to go bad, in that case go.
3. Don’t hold your breath. Remember that holding your breathe during kegel or reverse kegel exercises will just increase your body’s tension and possibly push blood towards your head and give you a headache. You can actually try this breathing technique: When doing this, there is a very slight expansion of the chest and significant expansion of the abdomen. Do a reverse kegel every time you breathe in and release when you breathe out.
This exercise is to stretch and relax the front of your pelvic floor. It’s used to counter involuntary kegels, balance the pelvic floor and move away from the PONR.
Level : Beginner
1. Push out the muscle at your perineum like a balloon. You should feel it swell up a bit as you push.
2. Hold this for 2 seconds.
3. Relax for 2 seconds.
4. Do this for maximum 50 reps at medium strength.
This exercise is to stretch and relax the back of your pelvic floor. It’s basically to counter the back kegel exercise. It’s not as important as the front reverse kegel since it’s usually the front of your pelvic floor that’s tense and not the back, but if you do a lot of back kegels it’s a good idea to include this in your routine.
Level : Beginner
1. Push out the muscle at your anus (and somewhat also your lower abdomen) like a balloon. You should feel it swell up a bit as you push.
2. Hold this for 2 seconds.
3. Relax for 2 seconds.
4. Do this for maximum 50 reps at medium strength.
The level up from the front reverse kegel. This exerc ise is used for same things as the front reverse kegel but at a higher level.
Level : Intermediate.
1. Push out the muscle at your perineum like a balloon.
2. Hold this for 5 seconds.
3. Relax.
4. Do this for maximum 10 reps at medium pace and strength. Increase the hold time as you get stronger to maximum 30 seconds.
This exercise is a meditative one and a great warm up before doing an intense routine. Or it can be used to relax your mind as well as your pelvic floor on a stressful day.
Level : Beginner.
1. Start breathing slowly, first by inflating your lower belly and then the rest of the lungs, hold for 1 or 2 seconds and then slowly exhale.
2. Keep breathing like this. While you inhale, do a weak to medium reverse kegel hold.
3. As you exhale slowly let go off your hold.
4. Continue like this for 5 minutes. You can increase the time to the recommended maximum time of 15 minutes. You can also do a variation of the front and back reverse kegels for a more complete relaxation of the pelvic floor.
This exercise increases control and stretches your pelvic floor in order to relax it.
Level : Intermediate.
1. Push out, going from a relaxed state to fully pushed out with medium strength. Make this last for 3 seconds.
2. Now hold this for 3 seconds.
3. Slowly release, going from fulled pushed out to a relaxed state. Make this last for 3 seconds.
4. Start with 5 reps. First increase the reps to 15. When you’re comfortable with that increase the 3 seconds to 5 seconds.
It’s a good idea to have a kegel routine if you’re trying to become a multi-orgasmic man. It makes sure you target all your musc les the right way, it keeps you from forgetting to do your kegel exercises in comparison when you just do kegels sporadically and it keeps you from overdoing it or underdoing it.
Before creating a routine, you must first identify what areas or muscles of your pelvic floor are too strained. These are areas of concentration and needs to be considered when creating a routine that will best work for you. For instance, if your bulbocavernosus muscles are too tensed then focus more on doing front reverse kegels. On the other hand, if you have tensed pubococcygeus and iliococcygeus muscles then you should do more of back reverse kegels.
Determine the ratio between kegels and reverse kegels that will suit you. You can try the 70 kegels:30 reverse kegels or 60 kegels:40 reverse kegels but you can definitely make changes or adjust these ratios from time to time. For instance, if you feel that your kegel is too strong that your reverse kegel becomes useless then you modify by doing more reverse kegels on your routine. Just increase your reverse kegel routine but don’t do an all-reverse-kegel routine because it can cause your muscles to weaken, making it difficult for you to maintain an erection. Same goes for an all-kegel routine, for it might cause premature ejaculation.
Edging is defined briefly as orgasm control. It definitely involves masturbating the penis. Particularly the penile shaft is stimulated to heighten sexual tension and finally stopping just before the point of no return by kegeling in order to prevent oneself from ejaculating. Edging helps build sexual stamina and control in men and is therefore vital in achieving multiple orgasms in men along with kegel exercises.
I assume, by this time, you have already mastered keg eling and have familiarized yourself with your arousal levels. Edging is just like playing with your arousal levels and thresholds.
1. So first, stimulate yourself to an erection.
2. Continue to stroke your penis.
3. Be sure to keep breathing normally and pay attention to your breathing so you don’t start breathing short and rapid breaths. If you keep breathing slowly it will trick your brain to think you aren’t turned on and you’ll have greater control of your arousal level.
N ote, you should stroke it at the shaft, and avoid the frenulum and other sensitive parts of the penis if you don’t want to ejaculate too soon or to avoid uncontrolled ejaculation especially for first-timers and premature ejaculators. Also remember to take it slowly, try to feel and enjoy every sensation that you feel. It is better especially for first-timers to begin with slow strokes then later on, when you seemed to have mastered edging with these slow strokes, you can increase the speed and intensity of your strokes.
4 . When you feel that you are just before the point of no return, stop stimulation and do a single hard kegel hold and allow that certain level of arousal you are feeling to subside a bit. Just before the PONR, you will start to feel the muscles in your perineum and pelvic floor area tensing up and getting ready for an orgasm so stroking at this moment is not a good idea and will just trigger the orgasm to occur, and if you don’t kegel at exactly the right time during that orgasm, an ejaculation will as well. The hard kegel helps to ward off the orgasm as if you’re slapping those tensing muscles in the face like “Stop it!” It’s also the tool we use to achieve a dry orgasm.
5. Once your arousal level goes down, you can resume stimulation until you again reach PONR , and so on until it is the right time for you to ejaculate. Remember that the arousal threshold varies among individuals so some may reach PONR rapidly while in some, reaching PONR might take longer time. Don’t be dismayed because that’s the reason why we are doing this, to improve sexual stamina. Edging may rewrite your brain so you can receive more pleasure for a longer time before you reach the PONR and in other words push up your thresholds.
Just like edging, ballooning is also an exercise that will improve sexual stamina and erection quality. In ballooning, you also stimulate your penis and stop at PONR to keep yourself from ejaculating but what makes it distinct from edging is that instead of stroking the penis up and down, you just rub its sensitive parts. Also unlike with edging you can’t ejaculate at the end of the session, which will give you a fuller flaccid penis for a longer period. It is regarded to be more advanced than edging in terms of the technique and its effects but also more difficult to master.
Other than MMO, ballooning is also therapeutic in males suffering from premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. It helps you control your ejaculation and also makes your penis erect for longer period of time as compared to edging. It also enhances your penis in terms of the size and function. Just like our body in general, the penis also becomes healthier when it is subjected to certain exercises. Certain exercises help expand some penile tissues therefore increasing its capacity to accommodate blood which makes the penis harder and thicker .
1. Rub the spot on your penis that gives you most pleasure.
Note: below you can see a section that tells you what parts of the penis are most sensitive. Beginners may want to avoid rubbing the frenulum as it’s the most sensitive part and it may push you over the PONR. If you can take it then you rubbing this part may give you a better workout because of the intensity.
2. Continue to rub this spot in a circular motion.
3. While keeping this up also do kegels or reverse kegels in order to push more blood in your penis. This will give you an even better workout.
4. Keep this up for at least 20 minutes. Ballooning can be done for hours by some people because there is not heavy stroking involved.
Shaft : The area between your glans or head of the penis and the base of the penis. Moderately sensitive
Foreskin : Fold of skin covering the tip of the penis, adjacent to the sulcus. Slightly sensitive
Sulcus : The area between the junction of the penile head and shaft. Moderately sensitive
Middle of glans : Glans penis minus the urethral opening. Slightly sensitive
Meatus of glans : Urethral opening at the tip of the glans. Slightly sensitive
Frenulum : Found beneath the penis glans; skin that connect the shaft to the head or glans. Highly sensitive
Dry orgasm (DO), as being spelled out by the name itself, no semen is coming out of the penis or in other words, there is no ejaculation taking place.
For us to have a more sensible meaning of dry orgasm, let’s consider these two scenarios, from a medical point-of-view and fr om the context of male multiple orgasm.
From a medical point-of-view, dry orgasm happens when a young man had multiple ejaculations in a short span of time giving no chance for the sexual organs (i.e. testis) to produce enough amount of ejaculate therefore will end up having just an orgasm without any ejaculate emerging from the penis.
In the context of male multiple orgasm, dry orgasms occur when you try to stop the expulsion of the semen through kegel or reverse kegel techniques throughout a series of orgasms, not losing erection or arousal in between these orgasms..
There are 5 types of orgasms, generally classified into the good and the bad orgasms. Let’s focus more on the good since it is our main goal. Anyway, those that belonged under the bad orgasms were listed for the purpose of awareness so you can avoid these from occurring.
These are the type of dry orgasms that need to be avoided if you are after a good multiple orgasm.
What happens in a dribble ejaculation?
The semen seeps out from the penis drop by drop or in a slower rate. Eventually, all of the semen will be expelled thus making this type the least harmful among the bad dry orgasms.
When does this happen?
This has something to do with the strength of the kegel. It can either be due to a weak kegel or when the reverse kegel is stronger and it seems to overpower the kegel.
What happens in a retrograde ejaculation?
Normally, the semen from the ejaculatory duct and prostate will be routed through the urethra and finally exits from the penis. But if, due do a medical condition, blockage or wrong MMO technique the ejaculate can’t leave the urethra, the semen will take the easiest path which will be to flow towards the bladder rather than the urethra. This is the reason for the minute amount of semen that comes out of the penis or even the absence of it in a retrograde ejaculation. Like with normal ejaculation you will lose your arousal and your erection.
When does this happen?
Wrong execution of MMO technique or some kind of medical condition can cause this.
During MMO practices this is mostly because you applied a kegel hold too late when you w ere trying to have a dry orgasm.
How can you tell whether or not you did it?
Beginners of MMO oft en think they have achieved a dry orgasm while actually they did a retrograde ejaculation. Well, we can’t really tell if we only view it externally, since in both cases we can only note that there’s no ejaculation. The only way to tell if you truly had a dry orgasm or or just a retrograde ejaculation is by peeing in a bottle. If your pee is cloudy it means you had a retrograde ejaculation, if clear, you have done a dry orgasm.
Is it harmful?
It can be harmful and could lead to problems so it’s advised to try and prevent it from happening by correctly following the right technique and if you lost control or did something wrong just have a normal ejaculation to be safe.
What happens in a partial ejaculation?
Some of the semen is ejaculated while some will either go into the bladder or there are instances where it will just be reabsorbed. So in other words, you will have sort of a partial ejaculation and partial retrograde ejaculation. At some point, you may also lose your erection and arousal.
When does this happen?
With wrong techinque or if the strength of your kegel is too weak.
What happens in a clean dry orgasm?
Though, we have slightly discussed this some pages ago let us just add more details on it. You will be able to maintain your arousal though your erection will slightly drop which is an effect of the kegel hold.
When does this happen?
This happens obviously when all the three aspects (strength, technique and timing) are well executed.
What happens in a perfect dry orgasm?
This is the highest form of a good dry orgasm. You are considered to be an expert at dry orgasms for you to be able to achieve this. In this type, all three aspects are perfectly executed therefore successfully stopping ejaculation while having intense orgasmic contractions. Unlike in the clean dry orgasm where you experience a drop with your erection, in this type, both your erection and arousal are maintained.
When does this happen?
If in a clean dry orgasm, you only need a satisfactory technique, timing and strength, well, in a perfect dry orgasm, you need to level it up into excellent.
In order to have a good DO, much attention should be given to these three aspects: strength, technique and timing. These three will be the determining factors for the success of a DO and are related with kegels or kegel exercises. We should know what particular muscles to contract and how to properly contract these muscles (technique). Strengthen these muscles, making them strong enough to be able to withstand the intensity of the orgasm while stopping an ejaculation. Also being able to learn the correct timing for a kegel is crucial for a perfect DO. Timing can make the difference between a perfect DO and a retrograde ejaculation.
Now we’ve already covered conditioning your pelvic muscles for strength and balance, so it’s time to teach you the right technique to do a kegel hold for a dry orgasm.
Using the right techinque is the most important aspect that leaves no margin for error. While if you have a balanced and strong pelvic floor, you’ll have a slightly larger margin for error with the timing part and vice versa if you have perfect timing you’ll have a larger margin for error with strength/balance. Although it’s obviously best to have a perfect score in all three aspects.
So what is the right technique and how do you learn it? The best way to get a good feel of the technique is to do Towel Lifts. However before you start doing Towel Lifts you need to have gotten comfortable with the beginner and intermediate kegel exercises first, since it’s an advanced kegel exercise.
Once you get the hang of those Towel Lifts, remember how they feel and try to get that same feeling when applying that kegel hold as you’re trying to DO.
Timing the kegel hold in order to achieve a DO is easiest the hardest part. Out of all questions I’ve heard about DO, timing is the most questioned aspect and it’s not easy to answer either. Most answers are vague like “Do the kegel hold just before the PONR”, others just give pointers to recognize when you haven’t done it right like “When you kegel and feel more than three spasms you have failed and you need to release to avoid retrograde ejaculation”. While these answers might not be wrong, it doesn’t really explain the specific timing, which is why so many are confused.
It also takes the longest to perfect, since every time you fail you end up ejaculating and have to wait until you’ve recovered from your refractory period at least before you can try again.
Which is why you have to pay very close attention and be very focused when you’re practicing and remember it’s better to kegel too early than too late. Too late means you’re going to ejaculate and have to wait until next time, while too early means you can simply try again.
Below follows practicing instructions, but before you practicing your timing, it’s very important that you are fully conditioned in strength and technique. If you aren’t, don’t try to perform a dry orgasm because you might end up doing bad DO’s in worst case a retrograde ejaculation and it will be frustrating and demotivation that you can’t get it right.
1. Start by edging slowly until you are fully aroused and have a very hard erection. The harder and more aroused you are, the better.
2. Edge till just before your PONR, then do a reverse kegel hold of medium to high strength while continuing stimulation.
3. Now go really slow so you can focus better on the sensations. As you get closer you will experience the first involuntary spasm override your reverse kegel. This involuntary spasm is the first spasm of your orgasm. When you feel this you immediately release the reverse kegel and switch to a kegel hold as fast as you can. If this is too difficult for you I suggest you practice the Reverse Sine Wave Hold some more while being erect, until you can do it more easily and faster. The kegel hold should be synchronous with the first orgasmic spasm and remember the Towel Lift feeling when doing the kegel hold.
4. Keep holding that kegel. The second spasm will be a strong one, but you if you are conditioned enough you should be able to handle it. Then comes third one which should be faint. After that there should be no more spasm. If you feel the second is too strong and the third one is too or if you think you are holding it tightly but experience more than three spasms anyway, let go of you kegel hold and ejaculate normally to avoid a retrograde ejaculation.
5. To be sure you did a clean DO, pee in a bottle and look for cloudiness in your pee, usually at the bottom. If it’s all clear, congratulation on a clean DO. Next time you can try to do more DO’s in one session.
After your first successful DO you might experience lost of arousal and that your penis will go flaccid like you had a normal ejaculation. This might be because your brain is used to linking the event of an orgasm to having an ejaculation. After a few sessions of dry orgasming this usually disappears. If it doesn’t though, try a longer build up, edge longer so your level of arousal will be higher and thus it will be harder to satisfy you with a single orgasm. Or try getting your erection back as fast as possible and continue to have a second session right after. This might break the link.
Just because you can DO now doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ejaculate anymore. To remain healthy, the maximum recommended time between ejaculations is 4 days. Especially now you’re having DO’s, it’s like you’re cocking the gun but aren’t shooting it. I’m not a medical expert but my advice is to just abide by this recommendation.
Just like with normal exercise, you’ve got to keep at it to stay in shape. If you stop kegeling your strength will decrease and eventually it will become too weak, even with perfect timing and technique.
If you are at the point where you can DO and maintain an erection you can keep going and have orgasm after orgasm and stop whenever you feel like. No longer do ejaculations control the length of your sessions, you control the ejaculations.
Sex with a partner is always different than sex with yourself. Because for one it feels different and also you aren’t alone so it may be harder to stay focused. Therefore it may take some practice before you can truly call yourself a multi-orgasmic man. When do you practice MMO with a partner, be sure to tell them about it. If you don’t, it may cause confusion with your partner as to why you didn’t ejaculate even though it looked like you had an orgasm. Also when you are at the point where you have mastered multiple orgasms with a partner, mention it to any new sex partners for the same reasons as most people aren’t familiar with the concept of MMO and that it’s even possible for a man to orgasm without ejaculation.
Eventually you will be able to have dry orgasms without hardly trying. It will become easier and easier. It might even become an automatism. This is when you will be a true master of MMO.
How would I prevent myself from reaching the point of no return too soon after doing the kegel hold to prevent ejaculation?
It has something to do with the right timing. After the kegel hold, you should give enough time to decrease the sensation before continuing. It is important to somehow relieve yourself a little bit from the tension and intense sensations so that you will not end up feeling the sensation so soon. Also, try to avoid rubbing at the most sensitive areas of the penis since it can increase the sensation rapidly and that is what we are avoiding to happen.
Which do you think would be a better technique to use to prevent ejaculation: kegel or reverse kegel?
Actually, both kegel and reverse kegel is used to prevent ejaculation. Kegel is basically contraction of the pelvic floor and perineal muscles, in which, I am pertaining to mainly the PC muscles which is situated near the urinary sphincter and thus having a strong PC muscle can help you contract this sphincter and prevent leakage of urine or semen. It also makes sense that you always couple kegel with a reverse kegel.
To discuss it further, contraction of the PC muscle around the sphincter prevents the expulsion of the semen from the prostate during ejaculation so that means while the PC muscle contracts, the BC muscle along with the IC muscle (both of which are responsible for sustained erection) should be relaxed. Imagine if let us say, the BC and IC muscles contract along with your PC muscles, wouldn’t it build up pressure and increase the intensity of the orgasm leading to uncontrolled ejaculation? So, in order to end up with a dry orgasm, there should be antagonistic effects between the muscles such that kegel (contraction of PC muscle) must be coupled with a reverse kegel (relaxation of the BC and IC muscles). In addition, reverse kegel is necessary in order to relax the BC and IC muscles since these muscles when contracted, causes compression of the vessels in the penis and can further heighten the sensation. When left uncontrolled can lead to an ejaculation so for you to achieve multiple orgasms, after edging, your goal is to decrease the tension a little bit. This can be done by decompressing the vessels in the penis, allowing blood to flow in and out of the shaft which can be achieved by relaxing the BC and IC muscles.
Why is it that when I hold a hard reverse kegel at the point of no return I cannot achieve dry orgasm? It rather allows the ejaculate to flow out from my penis.
Actually when doing a reverse kegel at the point of no return, you should expect this effect. Reverse kegel means relaxing the muscles while kegels means contracting the muscles. Let us say, you are doing a kegel so that means, you are contracting the PC muscles thus preventing the ejaculate from coming out. On the other hand, when you do reverse kegels, you relax the muscles therefore allowing the ejaculate to flow. So, when you edge, you are expected to do a kegel when you want to hold your ejaculation. However, you also do a reverse kegel but its purpose is not to hold the ejaculate but rather allow the muscles to relax in order to release the tension after a successful kegel hold or before a kegel hold to postpone reaching the PONR.
How will I know when I am nearing the point of no return and when it is time to do a kegel hold?
The point of no return is the moment when you feel that you are about to ejaculate. You will feel that there is too much tension building up in your body that you will feel the urge to ejaculate and your pc muscles will tense up that is the moment where you do a kegel hold to prevent yourself from ejaculating.
S hould I use a lubricant when rubbing my penis or just leave it dry?
Personally, I would suggest you to rub it with lubrication. It will enable you to stimulate your penis with ease. Actually, it would really depend on your preference as long as it can stimulate erection of your penis. Some might prefer it without lubrication while some might like doing it with a lubricant.