Part II

Expressing a Positive Attitude

Being Assertive: Creating Your Confrontational “I” Statements

Parts

When Used

1. Describe the specific behavior of the other person that you want to see changed.

Every time, at the beginning of the “I” statement.

2. Describe why this person’s behavior is harming or hurting you in some way (or how it may hurt or harm you in the future).

Use either this one or Part 3 every time; you may also use both.

3. Describe your negative feelings.

Use either this one or Part 2 every time; you may also use both.

4. Describe exactly what you want the person to do instead.

Every time, at the end of the “I” statement, after Part 2 and/or Part 3.

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In this part …

  • Changing your inner script can be a challenge. Get tips for creating and using affirmations and visualizations to generate new beliefs.
  • People with strong self-esteem hold themselves in high regard and care for themselves. Find ways to nurture yourself and discover the four-part process of assertively speaking up to express your opinions as well as your needs and wants to others.
  • Most people want to change something about their bodies. Become more aware of your body image and find out how to improve the way you relate to your body.