Notes

1. D. M. Buss, Dangerous Passion (New York: Free Press, 2000).

2. R. L. Leahy, Emotional Schema Therapy (New York: Guilford Press, 2015).

3. C. Darwin, The Descent of Man and Selection in Relation to Sex (London: John Murray, 1871).

4. R. L. Trivers, “Parental Investment and Sexual Selection,” in Sexual Selection and the Descent of Man, 1871–1971 (Chicago: Aldine, 1972), 136–79.

5. D. C. Geary, M. Rumsey, C. Bow-Thomas, and M. K. Hoard, “Sexual Jealousy as a Facultative Trait: Evidence from the Pattern of Sex Differences in Adults from China and the United States,” Ethology and Sociobiology 16, no. 5 (1995): 355–83.

6. Ibid.; B. P. Buunk, A. Angleitner, V. Oubaid, and D. M. Buss, “Sex Differences in Jealousy in Evolutionary and Cultural Perspective: Tests from the Netherlands, Germany, and the United States,” Psychological Science 7, no. 6 (1996): 359–63.

7. S. Hart and H. Carrington, “Jealousy in 6-Month-Old Infants,” Infancy 3, no. 3 (2002): 395–402; S. Hart, T. Field, C. Del Valle, and M. Letourneau, “Infants Protest Their Mothers’ Attending to an Infant-Size Doll,” Social Development 7, no. 1 (1998): 54–61.

8. P. H. Morris, C. D. Doe, and E. Godsell, “Secondary Emotions in Non-Primate Species? Behavioral Reports and Subjective Claims by Animal Owners,” Cognition and Emotion 22, no. 1 (2008): 3–20.

9. Exodus 20:5 (King James).

10. C. Andreas and J. J. Parry, The Art of Courtly Love (New York: Columbia University Press, 1990), 1186.

11. W. Shakespeare, Othello, 5.2.

12. P. N. Stearns, American Cool: Constructing a Twentieth-Century Emotional Style (New York: NYU Press, 1994).

13. B. R. Karney, C. Wilson, and M. S. Thomas, Family Formation in Florida: 2003 Baseline Survey of Attitudes, Beliefs, and Demographics Relating to Marriage and Family Formation (Gainesville, FL: University of Florida, 2003).

14. See http://www.childlessstepmums.co.uk.

15. Q. Fottrell, “Typical U.S. Worker Has Been 4.2 Years in Their Current Job,” Market Watch, January 12, 2014. http://www.marketwatch.com/story/americans-less-likely-to-change-jobs-now-than-in-1980s-2014–01–10.

16. J. Bowlby, Attachment and Loss, vol. 1 Attachment (London: Hogarth, 1968).

17. M. Mikulincer and P. R. Shaver, “Attachment Theory and Intergroup Bias: Evidence That Priming the Secure Base Schema Attenuates Negative Reactions to Out-Groups,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 81, no. 1 (2001): 97–115.

18. N. L. Collins, “Working Models of Attachment: Implications for Explanation, Emotion, and Behavior,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 71, no. 4 (1996): 810.

19. B. P. Buunk, “Personality, Birth Order, and Attachment Styles as Related to Various Types of Jealousy,” Personality and Individual Differences 23, no. 6 (1997): 997–1006; A. Holtzworth-Munroe, G. L. Stuart, and G. Hutchinson, “Violent Versus Nonviolent Husbands: Differences in Attachment Patterns, Dependency, and Jealousy,” Journal of Family Psychology 11, no. 3 (1997): 314.

20. B. P. Buunk, “Personality, Birth Order, and Attachment Styles.”

21. G. L. White, “Inducing Jealousy: A Power Perspective,” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 6 (1980): 222–7; G. L. White, “A Model of Romantic Jealousy,” Motivation and Emotion 5 (1981): 295–310; G. L. White and P. E. Mullen, Jealousy: Theory, Research, and Clinical Strategies (New York: Guilford Press, 1989).

22. L. Khanchandani and T. W. Durham, “Jealousy During Dating Among Female College Students,” College Student Journal 43, no. 4 (2009): 1272.

23. M. J. Dugas, K. Buhr, and R. Ladouceur, “The Role of Intolerance of Uncertainty in the Etiology and Maintenance of Generalized Anxiety Disorder,” in Generalized Anxiety Disorder: Advances in Research and Practice (New York: Guilford Press, 2004): 143–63.

24. J. L. Bevan and K. D. Tidgewell, “Relational Uncertainty as a Consequence of Partner Jealousy Expressions,” Communication Studies 60, no. 3 (2009): 305–23.

25. Leahy, Emotional Schema Therapy.

26. R. L. Leahy, Cognitive Therapy Techniques, Second Edition (New York: Guilford Press, 2017).

27. R. L. Leahy, The Worry Cure (New York: Harmony Books, 2005).

28. A. Wells, Metacognitive Therapy for Anxiety and Depression (New York: Guilford Press, 2009).

29. R. L. Leahy and D. Tirch, “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Jealousy,” International Journal of Cognitive Therapy 1 (2008): 18–32.

30. M. J. Dugas, et al., “Role of Intolerance of Uncertainty.”

31. A. Wells, “A Cognitive Model of GAD: Metacognitions and Pathological Worry,” in Generalized Anxiety Disorder (New York: Guilford Press, 2004), 164–86.

32. R. L. Leahy, Beat the Blues Before They Beat You (New York: Hay House, 2010).

33. Leahy, Emotional Schema Therapy.

34. Ibid.

35. S. C. Hayes, K. D. Strosahl, and K. G. Wilson, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (New York: Guilford Press, 2011); E. Roemer and S. M. Orsillo, Mindfulness and Acceptance-Based Behavior Therapies in Practice (New York: Guilford Press, 2009); Leahy, Emotional Schema Therapy.

36. W. Whitman, “Song of Myself,” Leaves of Grass (1892).

37. Leahy, Emotional Schema Therapy.

38. J. D. Teasdale and Z. V. Segal, The Mindful Way Through Depression (New York: Guilford Press, 2007).

39. P. Gilbert, The Compassionate Mind (London: Constable, 2009); D. Tirch, The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2012).

40. Leahy, The Worry Cure; Wells, “A Cognitive Model of GAD.”

41. Wells, Metacognitive Therapy for Anxiety and Depression.

42. Ibid.

43. Ibid.

44. Leahy, The Worry Cure; Cognitive Therapy Techniques.

45. Ibid.

46. R. J. Rydell, A. R. McConnell, and R. G. Bringle, “Jealousy and Commitment: Perceived Threat and the Effect of Relationship Alternatives,” Personal Relationships 11 (2004): 451–68.

47. Gilbert, The Compassionate Mind.

48. TV Tropes, accessed July 17, 2017, http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Creator/RonWhite.

Robert L. Leahy, PhD, is author or editor of twenty-six books, including The Worry Cure. He has led or been heavily involved with many national and regional cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) organizations. He writes a regular blog for Psychology Today, and has written for The Huffington Post. Leahy is an international speaker at conferences worldwide, and has been featured in print, radio, and television media such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Times of London, The Washington Post, 20/20, The Early Show, and more.

Foreword writer Paul Gilbert, PhD, is world renowned for his work on depression, shame, and self-criticism, and is developer of compassion-focused therapy (CFT). He is head of the mental health research unit at the University of Derby, and has authored or coauthored numerous scholarly articles and books, including The Compassionate Mind, Mindful Compassion, and Overcoming Depression.