Contents

Foreword v

Introduction 1

Part I: About the Passion of Jealousy

1 The Evolution of Competitive Emotions 9

2 Is Jealousy a Problem for You? 21

3 Attachment and Commitment 29

Part II: How Jealousy Becomes a Problem

4 Hijacked by the Jealous Mind 49

5 Jealous Strategies That Drive Your Partner Away 75

Part III: Turning Jealousy Around

6 Stepping Back to Observe and Accept 93

7 Living with Your Thoughts 109

8 Talking Back to Your Jealousy 131

9 Putting Jealousy in Context 157

10 Solving It Together 167

11 Getting Past the Past to Overcome Retrospective Jealousy 189

12 “It’s Complicated”—Getting Past Infidelity 205

Concluding Reflections 225

Acknowledgments 229

Notes 231