Now that you’ve begun to communicate with your body and aura, you can also begin to communicate with your heart. This is part of the Spiritual Password, but before we reveal the secret of this password, we will explore the physical heart. As the physical and energetic parts of the body are pure energy in different forms, they are equal in value and it is just as important to get in contact with both of them.
The heart is the meeting point between Heaven and the Earth – between the spiritual and the physical world. It is the meeting place for the universal love within and around us. It is from this point that we give love to ourselves and others and receive love in return.
The heart is placed in the centre of the body. Since it pumps the blood, it is the source of life reaching all parts of the body, both physically, with the blood, and energetically, with the heart chakra distributing energy through the meridians. When the blood is pumped by the heart and flows at a steady pace, we can experience our heartbeat everywhere in our body as a pulse. Tension and blockages can prevent us from hearing our heartbeat in the same way everywhere in our body, however. This tells us something about our situation right now. But in a second it can be different. We are constantly changing, developing and growing. What we are dissatisfied with today, we can change tomorrow.
It is important, however, that we accept ourselves the way we are. So, consider everything you encounter in the next meditation as loving information for yourself. And remember that all information is of equal value.
Sit on a chair, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Let the edge of your aura click into place at arm’s length from your body.
Feel where you are present in your body right now.
Put one of your palms, or both, on your heart.
Be aware of your heartbeat against your palm.
Start listening to your heartbeat. Do you hear it or do you feel it? Or do you neither hear nor feel it? Do you experience a colour or a tone? Or do you simply know that the communication is there? Remember that everything has the same value and whatever you feel just tells you something about yourself right now.
Breathe out any resistance – any people you meet or feelings that emerge. Breathe in more of yourself and your own energy.
Now move your attention to your throat. Are you aware of your heartbeat there?
Breathe out any resistance – any people you meet or feelings that emerge. Breathe in more of yourself and your own energy.
Move your attention to your head. Are you aware of your heartbeat there? Once more, use your breathing to get in touch with the area.
Now move your awareness to your stomach. Are you aware of your heartbeat there? Use your breathing again.
Go through your whole body in the same way, breathing out tension and resistance in every place. Take your time and pay attention to the information you receive. Breathe in even more of your own energy. Be aware of your heartbeat in your pelvis, shoulders, upper arms, forearms, hands, fingers, seat, thighs, knees, legs, feet, toes and back.
Focus on your heart again. Do you experience it in a different way now or is it the same? Both results have the same value – they are just information.
Thank yourself for the steps you’ve taken, and thank your heart for the information it has given you.
When you have finished, you may open your eyes.
Many of us have, in the course of our life, only felt our heart when we’ve experienced fear. When we’re scared and our heart is beating quickly, we tend to pay attention to it. In the same way, we listen to our body when we experience ill-health or pain. So it’s only when danger threatens that we take the time to listen to our heart and be considerate to ourselves. It’s as if there is some programmed blockage to easy and loving communication with our heart.
Take a minute of your time now to encounter the blockage and breathe it out.
In which places did you feel your heart most clearly? In which places did you feel it least clearly? Maybe there were a few places where you didn’t feel it at all.
All this is information about yourself. So, accept it, and try to accept yourself and simply observe what’s happening now. This is a way of getting to know yourself again. You may have used a major part of your life to criticize yourself. Our inner judge is very often quick to judge ourselves. It is deeply programmed in many of us to be severe on ourselves. Now you have the chance to approach yourself in a new manner: with love.
It is easy to underestimate the experiences we get when connecting to our heartbeat. Some people can feel their heartbeat pulsating in their head as a loud pounding. But what if all you experience is a pale blue light? You might disregard it because it isn’t what you think you’re supposed to experience, but you’re experiencing it all the same. So, explore it. Be curious about it. Is the colour the same throughout your body or does it change? Perhaps your heart talks to you through colours. Why disregard it? Try to be curious, whatever emerges, even if it’s a black wall. A black wall – what’s that doing there?
What if you’re one of those people who doesn’t feel their heartbeat at all? Some people are surprised to find they don’t hear or feel their heartbeat. They’re astonished that they haven’t noticed its absence. They find out that they’ve taken the centre of their own existence, their heart, entirely for granted. This awareness is a fantastic gift and from now on the heart can finally begin to speak its true language, namely the language of love.
You shall be true.
But not to any man who in cold greed clings to your hands.
Not to any ideal flashing in big letters but not touching your heart.
Not to any commandment making you a stranger in your own body.
Not to any dream you haven’t dreamt yourself…
When were you true?
Were you true when you knelt in the shadow of other people’s false gods?
Were you true when your actions stifled the sound of your own heartbeat?
Were you true when you did not deceive the one you did not love?
Were you true when your cowardice put on a disguise and called itself conscience?
No.
But when whatever touched you made a tune.
When your pulse gave rhythm to your movement.
When you were one with what sparkled inside of you.
Then – you were true.
A tone, a sound wave, is a frequency. What a specific tone can achieve can seem like magic. You may have heard that singers can break crystal glass using only their voice. If the singer hits the exact frequency of the atoms of the glass, they will absorb the sound waves and vibrate more quickly. Eventually they will vibrate so quickly that they will break free of the bonds that keep them together. When that happens, the glass will shatter. So, a tone, which is energy, contributes to breaking glass, which is physical, into smithereens, because it is energy too.
Sound works in a similar way on the physical structures of the body and on the energetic blockages and tension held in the body. Therefore we can use tones to dissolve the tension, blockages, resistance, fear and so on that have settled in our body. In the next meditation, we will use our own voice.
It may feel slightly unfamiliar at first to sing a tone out loud when totally alone in a room, and even stranger to do it with other people. A lot of people are afraid of letting their voice be heard by others. Don’t let it discourage you.
ELISABETH:
I am rather unmusical and tone deaf, and the first time I did this exercise I was really afraid of other people hearing my voice. I was dreading it in fact and almost felt sorry for the man sitting next to me. How it sounded to the others occupied my mind most of all. But after a while I got into my body and met my own sound and resonance and let them manifest, and they were beautiful, which was a tremendous relief. I could sit down together with other people with my own sound.
There is strong and deep healing when we allow sound to work in us. Now I know that my sound is beautiful.
Sit on a chair, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Let the edge of your aura click into place at arm’s length from your body.
Feel where in your body you are present right now.
Put one of your palms, or both, on your heart and feel your heartbeat. Experience it in your unique way. Feel it in your stomach, in your legs, in your arms, in your back, in your shoulders, in your chest, in your throat and in your head.
Become aware of any places where you don’t feel your heartbeat and where you feel resistance. Choose one of these places.
You are going to find a tone for this resistance. Just sing whatever tone enters your consciousness. There’s no right or wrong here. Sing the first tone that comes to you. Whether it’s deep and thick or high and clear, welcome it and sing it out. Singing quietly doesn’t help much, so go for it at the top of your voice. You may as well do it more than once.
Now find the note that will dissolve this tension and sing that out. Repeat it a couple of times. Feel how it is vibrating in your body.
Let go of everything that emerges and breathe in more of your own energy, your own essence. Feel what happens.
Find the tone of your frequency in this part of your body. Sing it out. Let the tone vibrate throughout your body. Feel how your body responds.
Repeat these three tones – the tone of the resistance, the tone that dissolves the resistance and the tone of your frequency – in various parts of your body. Take your time.
Pay attention to your heart again. Become aware of the heartbeat in your chest. Has anything changed or not?
Thank yourself for the steps you’ve taken. Thank your heart. Thank your body for being co-operative.
When you have finished, you may open your eyes.
Did the resistance have various tones in the different parts of your body or not? Were the tones of the resistance, the dissolving of the resistance and your own frequency different from each other or not? Did they vary in the different parts of your body? Did you feel how the tension and resistance disappeared? How is your body feeling now? Are you feeling lighter or heavier in your body? Again, all this is useful information for you.
This exercise with tones is excellent if you’re stressed out. You can meet the stress where it is centred in your body, find the tone to dissolve it and find the tone of your own frequency to calm yourself down.
There are unlimited ways of using the tones. Be curious and listen to what your body’s telling you.
Remember to listen to your physical heart from time to time. It might tell you something new every time. Having an honest communication with your body and your physical heart opens you up to the possibility of being present in every moment of your life. This in turn means experiencing your life to the full. The only thing missing now is the Spiritual Password.
When we are born, we already know the Spiritual Password, because it’s natural to have contact with our inner essence. It’s therefore very easy for us to get hold of the Spiritual Password, even today. In fact, we most likely knew it not only as a baby but also as a child. We simply forgot it, not recognizing its importance. It is common, as we grow up, to learn to listen to other people more than to ourselves. Maybe we’ve turned down the volume of our inner voice and directed our antenna towards the world and become uncritical of what channel we put our ‘radio’ on. Or we may have forgotten to increase the volume of our inner voice, or even forgotten that we have one. But if we don’t listen to our own voice, we’re living in accordance with other people’s truths and not our own.
To get back to living according to our inner voice, we need to set a few things straight. The best way to start is to separate other people’s wishes for us from our real wishes. Often others have prevented us from fully being ourselves. As children, we adjust to the world around us, no matter what. But we may have experienced not being seen or not being loved and so now, as adults, we hold ourselves back and don’t take our rightful place in the world. However, the present is different from the past and we now have the chance to occupy as much space as we wish. We can take charge of our life right now. We don’t need to be a victim of our past any longer. The first step is to move out the energies of other people we have unconsciously carried in our heart.
We may think that it’s bad to let go of people of whom we are fond. It can seem like that every now and then. But as long as we hold on to other people’s energies, we’re keeping them in a certain pattern in relation to ourselves. This pattern is repeated every time we meet and it hinders both of us in moving forward, taking our next steps in life.
Carrying people in our heart might start on a very positive note. When we’re in love, we open our heart to another person. This results in a great flow of love from heart to heart. But as soon as we start loving someone, the fear of losing that very special someone sets in, resulting in moving that very person into our heart to be sure that they won’t leave us. So we exit the trust and flow of love and enter the control zone. And we often gather more and more people in our heart in this way.
Another reason for keeping people in our heart starts at a very early age – even before we’re born. As we come into our body for the first time as a foetus, and throughout our early years, we may be surrounded by people who have closed their hearts in fear. When our hearts are open, filled with the divine light, but meet this closeness in our surroundings, it makes us distrust what we believe in our heart of hearts. We move away from our divine connection and into fear and the closing of our heart. The Spiritual Password is lost or forgotten and we not only disconnect from our heart but also lose the communication between the subtle energy field and the body. Then, since we’ve forgotten that the divine spark of God is in our heart, we compensate by putting people there instead. This is a poor substitute for the Divine within, and in our disconnectedness we feel even more alone. However, when our subtle energy field and our body start interacting once more, the divine light will come through again and we won’t need to hold on to anyone because we’ll trust that we’re lovable.
Another reason for holding on to people in our heart could be that we believe that we’re helping people by keeping them there. We may believe that they can’t take care of themselves, that they have too heavy a burden to carry, and we therefore take the responsibility ourselves, knowing we have the capacity to do so – we who can tackle anything! It is possible that we can help someone in this way for a period of time, but then they can’t go their own way. It’s like carrying a child: when they’re ready to walk, if we don’t put them down, they won’t learn to take those first steps. They won’t learn to walk, to run, to see how far their legs will take them. So it’s better to put the child down and be there to help them up again when they fall. It’s the same with anyone in our life. This isn’t being hard-hearted. We can be there for people, a shoulder to cry on, no problem. But then we should put them back on their feet to follow their own path, not ours.
By releasing the people we’re holding in our heart, we’re returning the energies we’re carrying to the rightful owners. There might be a positive change for all of us. For our energy isn’t right for others, and the energies of others aren’t right for us.
How to do it? Try the following meditation.
Sit on a chair, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Let your aura click into place at arm’s length from your body.
Become aware of where you are in your body right now.
Put one of your palms, or both, on your heart.
Be aware of your heartbeat against the palm of your hand.
Inside your heart, there is a room. It may be indoors or outdoors. Enter the room of your heart and see if there is anybody else there.
Know that they are there because you have unconsciously invited them in to learn a certain lesson. You can now choose to let them go by asking them to leave through the door, one by one.
Thank each of them for what they have shown you by being there and then let them walk out the door with ease and with love for them and for yourself.
If there is someone who doesn’t want to leave:
Find a tone for the frequency with which this person is connected to your heart. Find a tone for letting go of this person.
See, or feel, or know that this person is letting go and walking out of the door.
Breathe out resistance, feelings and any other thing that emerges from your unconscious and breathe in more of yourself and your essence.
Find a tone for the frequency in your heart.
Keep breathing out resistance and breathing in your own essence.
Continue to let people leave until you are all alone in the room.
Look around the room. How does it feel to be alone there?
Make the room just the way you would like it to be. Let it have the shape, the windows, the size, the materials, the colours and the décor you wish.
Experience the room once more. Enjoy it!
Leave the room of your heart and be present in your whole body again. Become aware of where you are present in your body this very moment.
Feel the heartbeat in your chest. Thank your heart for what it has shown you. Thank your heart for the steps you’ve taken.
When you have finished, you may open your eyes.
Were you surprised to see how many people were in your heart? Was there almost no room for you? Or did you come into a big empty room? Some people feel great relief at owning the room of their heart again, while others feel empty when they find themselves alone there. This may be the result of valuing themselves for being there for others, or maybe hiding a feeling of loneliness through having many people in their heart.
The most unexpected people might be stuck in the room of your heart. If there is somebody who won’t leave, do the exercise over again, perhaps over the course of a few days, until everybody has left. If you do it that way, your unconscious will keep on working on it for a while. Meantime, you may safely go on to the next exercises, whether you have made everybody leave or not. Be patient with yourself. When you do let them go, your relations to others might change.
Lene’s daughter was afraid of being away from her. She’d never managed to spend the night at a friend’s house and Lene always had to go and pick her up in the evenings because she only felt safe at home. Now she was eight years old, it was beginning to become a problem.
Lene did the meditation and moved her daughter away from her heart. Soon afterwards, her daughter spent the night at a friend’s place. This was the first time she had dared to be away from home for a night. And that wasn’t all – now she was confident away from her mother as well.
Nobody understood what had happened – apart from Lene.
Working with yourself in this way can have a great effect on those around you. This shows that what we do, what we think and the level at which we vibrate, consciously and unconsciously, have an effect on ourselves and others. When we vibrate at a certain frequency, we attract situations and people that match that frequency, but when that frequency changes in ourselves, we attract changes too. Märtha had this experience when she painted her house.
MÄRTHA:
Our summer place is situated on a hill by the sea and is well known, since it has been in the Norwegian royal family for generations. Through this time, it has been known as the yellow house – because of its yellow colour – and the island on which it is situated is nicknamed the Yellow Island because of it. Some people, both on the mainland and on the island itself, have even been inspired to paint their houses yellow too. When I looked over to the mainland, the yellow houses matching ours would stand out to me.
One year my husband and I had some renovation work done on the building and when the painters asked us what colour we would like the house to be, it suddenly struck us that it was possible to paint it a different colour. We ended up painting it white, changing a long tradition.
The reactions were intense. Some people loved the new colour, especially those who already lived in white houses; they said that the house looked grander and really benefited from the change. Some were indifferent to the colour, while others were furious and even phoned the local council and asked whether we were allowed to paint that particular house white, since it was royal property. Many of these people lived in yellow houses and wanted the tradition to go on. The council had to calm things down by stating publicly that my husband and I were allowed to paint the house whatever colour we liked and that they had never thought of the colour white as offensive, as it was a common colour along the coast of Norway.
Looking over to the mainland, I had the sudden realization that I now noticed the white houses on the shore – not the yellow ones anymore.
When the house was painted yellow, it vibrated on the wavelength of the colour yellow, which has a specific speed, and therefore it resonated with the other yellow houses in the vicinity. Naturally, when its colour changed to white, its colour wavelength and speed changed too. Again, it resonated with the houses that were painted the same colour: this time with the white houses.
When we release people from our heart, we too change vibration, just as if we were painting our house a different colour. We vibrate at a new level, taking new decisions, resonating with new people and situations and dealing with daily life in a new way. The reactions to this are usually as intense as the ones Märtha experienced when she painted her house. Some people will think the new steps we’re taking are wonderful and that it’s time we finally saw our own worth. These people are often those who have themselves taken these steps, or who would dare to do so. Other people will be indifferent and not even seem to notice that we’ve changed. Yet others will react by rejecting us, getting angry with us or trying to hold us back and keep us from changing. These people aren’t mean or vindictive, they’re simply happy with the way things are and seeing us change is unsettling to them. They have no desire to make any changes themselves, because that would challenge their sense of security. Instead of taking the same steps and expanding, they’ve decided to stay put – and it’s important to respect that too.
When we make a change in our life, it’s good to allow both ourselves and the people around us to have a reaction to what is going on. Whatever the reaction, it’s a passing phase. If we make room for the new, while remaining steadfast and true to ourselves, we offer the same chance to others. We can’t change others, but we can change ourselves, and the way we react when encountering others.