Now we’re almost at the end of our journey together – almost. We have one more meditation. This is such an amazingly good technique that we have to share it with you. It is a wonderful help if you are the least bit hypersensitive, taking in other people’s emotions and thinking they are your own, getting drained from being with other people and not knowing how to protect yourself. It can help you leave your work where it belongs – at work – instead of bringing it home. And you can keep your energy levels up in spite of giving to others all day.
The meditation is so simple that anybody can do it and so efficient that we believe it should be compulsory for everyone who deals with people. It is as efficient for the healer as it is for the hairdresser, for the waiter as it is for the bus driver, for the shop assistant as it is for the teacher, for the flight attendant as it is for the doctor. Why? Because it helps us take what is ours and what we’ve given away during the treatment, the class or the course of the day – namely, our own energy. It also makes it possible for us to give back what we’ve taken from others, that is to say, their energy.
We are constantly exchanging energy with other people. When we socialize, we give and take. We do it more or less unconsciously. We experience some people as energy givers – they often make us excited, keen and happy. We experience other people as energy takers – they often make us weak and low. Sometimes an energy exchange results in more energy for everyone, for example in a meeting. Then everyone has an energy boost, gets inspired and has ideas that will give birth to more ideas. The opposite can also happen. Then we won’t see a lot of happy faces when the meeting is over. On both occasions, though, we’ve given energy to others or received it from them. We’ll probably keep on thinking about the meeting, whether we’re excited or exhausted. Even when we get home, we might go over and over what we should have said and what we might say the next time we’re in a similar situation. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be spared all this? To leave work at work and focus on what is important to us when we get home?
To do this, we can use this simple meditation that we call ‘Separation’. By ‘separation’, we mean separating and giving back other people’s energies, and also taking back our own energies from others. You may have understood, as we have mentioned it in almost every chapter, that we think it’s important to own your own information. If you gain new knowledge but still are stuck in the way your teacher presents it, then you don’t have access to your own information, but your teacher’s. So you really haven’t got very far. It is the same with this book. If you’ve established communication with your body, your heart, the Earth, the universe and your guardian angel, but interpret everything in the book as we do, well, then you don’t have access to your own information, but ours.
It isn’t easy to let go of other people’s information or energy. In many situations we have been taught to believe that other people know better. Mother and Father know better before we start school. The teachers know better at school. We learn from textbooks. All the theory we learn, we learn from others. And so on.
Sandra held on to other people’s energies. Every time she tried to let them go, they returned just as quickly. One day, she had an image of herself as a rubbish skip, collecting the waste of others. At that moment she realized that since early on in her life, she had been taking on others’ frustrations and pain, and that she had always had the feeling of being able to carry them better than others.
Sandra was a soother, making people around her feel alright. This was how she felt she was important and valuable to others. She was always there, listening to her friends’ problems – which they willingly poured over her. Everybody boasted of how good it was to talk to her. Gradually, though, Sandra had less energy and felt more pain throughout her body. She was actually holding on to other people’s energies, because it was through them that she experienced her own value. Perhaps it wasn’t that strange that she didn’t want to separate from them.
The day Sandra found her own self-worth, however, she managed to let go of everybody else’s energies and still trust that people would like her, just because she was worth liking.
There are many reasons why we carry other people’s energies. Principally, we do it to cover a weakness in ourselves. Sandra believed that nobody could love her the way she was. Therefore, she came up with creative solutions to get other people’s approval. Every time it worked, she got further away from herself, and she carried more and more people in her aura. The ‘Separation’ meditation helped her to shed light upon this fundamental theme. So, if you can’t get the meditation to work at once, try to feel what is blocking it. Only you know the answer, and it is worth a try – being honest with yourself will be rewarding when you go exploring within yourself.
It’s also important to separate yourself from those with whom you have private and personal relations. You might know the feeling of being exhausted after a family gathering, even if it was nice. If so, it’s very likely that you’re carrying some people’s energy back from the party in your aura. It is important to separate from spouses and siblings, children and grandchildren, parents and grandparents, aunts and uncles, male friends and female friends – yes, everyone you’ve been in touch with during the course of the day! You may think that it can’t be right to separate yourself from your children or your spouse, or your best friend, for that matter. But it is as hard for your body to carry the energies of the people you like (or feel that you have to like) as it is to carry the energies of those you don’t like but are still in your aura. The reason is that it is not your energy but somebody else’s. As we mentioned previously, it is only your energy that can nourish your body, just as your blood first and foremost exists for you.
The ‘Separation’ meditation is very simple but very efficient. It helps you to let other people’s stress, rushing and nagging – yes, other people’s energies – remain theirs. It is quick and easy to do, yet powerful. You don’t need to focus on people one by one and you can separate yourself from as many as you like at the same time. It is good to do this exercise before going to sleep in the evening, before going home from work or before leaving a party or a dinner. It is hard for people who meet customers, clients, or patients to separate themselves from each and every person, but when you have practised this meditation, you can do it in a few seconds.
Sit on a chair, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
Let your aura click into place.
Put one of your palms, or both, on your heart.
Ask your heart if there is anything it wants to tell you right now.
Contact the Earth and contact the universe from your heart and let the three energies merge in your heart, filling your body and aura with revitalizing energy, the surplus going down your grounding channel. Begin to communicate with your guardian angel from your heart.
Put a magnet outside your aura which attracts everybody else’s energies, everybody else’s colours that you have borrowed for a while. There might be people there, people you have seen, heard or experienced, or all these things.
If the energies won’t go, imagine a switch on the magnet and turn it up to the max.
See, hear, feel or know that the energies are going from you to the magnet. Let your guardian angel take the magnet and just know that the energy will get back where it belongs in a purified form.
Put a new magnet outside your aura that draws your energy back from everybody else.
Let the colours you have lent for a while return to the magnet. (Again: turn the switch of the magnet to the max if the energies won’t let go.)
Let your guardian angel give your energy back to you, knowing that it is purified.
Get into communication with your heart again, which is in communication with the heart of the Earth and the heart of the universe, and give to yourself.
Thank yourself, your body and your heart for the steps you’ve taken.
Thank your guardian angel, the Earth and the universe.
When you have finished, you may open your eyes.
Now we are at the end of our journey. You’ve encountered yourself in communication with your body (both the physical and the non-physical energy body), your heart, the Earth, the universe and your guardian angel. We hope that you’ve had some amusing, inspiring, even overwhelming encounters with the true you. Now it is up to you to take charge and use what you’ve learned to become a master of your own life. You have the chance to take the driver’s seat on the road of life, free from being governed by other people’s thoughts, patterns and feelings – guided only by your own, in connection with your angels. Let your life approach you from the love within.
We wish you a happy journey.