A
AARP, 165
Abdo, Carmita, 190
abstinence, 191
abstinence-only programs, 191
abstinence pledges, 58
Accelerating Acceptance (report), xii
ACLU (American Civil Liberties Union), 220–221
ACT UP, 97
adolescence, emotional development during, 132
adolescents
disparate experiences of, 148
maturity levels of, 141–144
suicide among, 67
adrenal glands, 201
adultery, 165
adulthood, celebration of transition to, 141
Affordable Care Act (Obamacare), xiii, 246–247
African Americans, 76–78, 93–94, 154–155, 167, 227–228
age, 226
“Ageing Gay Men” (Jones and Pugh), 179
ageism, 226–228
aging
and access to social services, 249
author’s experiences with, 190, 205–206, 225–226
and caregiving, 248–249
Erik Erikson’s view of, 232, 234
freedom allowed by, 260
and opportunity, 242–243
and physical attractiveness, 178–181, 209
and sexual functioning, 192–194, 196
and shrinking time, 187–188
“Aging, Gay, and Facing Prejudice in Twilight” (Jane Gross), 1
Ahmadinejad, Mahmoud, 122
AIDS, 1–2, 6, 86, 97, 98, 167, 258
AIDS Memorial Quilt, 98–99
Alabama, 76
alimony, 176
American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), 220–221
American Communist Party, 141
American Indians, 120
American Psychiatric Association (APA), 32–33, 115, 139, 219
Amis, Martin, 235
amyl nitrite, 166–167
analytical thinking, 60
androgen, 201
anger, 198
Annals of Internal Medicine, 17
anticipation of rewards, 90
antidiscrimination laws, xii, 80–81
anti-LGBTQ legislation, 158–159
antisodomy laws, 122
anxiety, 25
APA. See American Psychiatric Association approval from others, 88, 101–102, 236
Archives of Internal Medicine, 252
Archives of Sexual Behavior (Michael Seto), 210–211
Ariely, Dan, 190, 191, 206, 207
artificial insemination, 45
Asian immigrants, 124–125
Aslan, Reza, 57
assortative mating, 204
attractiveness, physical, 178–179, 181
atypical sexual interests, 139
automatic thinking, 53, 103–104
B
baby boomers, 29, 182, 229, 233, 248
Badgett, M. V. Lee, 165
Bailey, Michael, 42
Baldwin, “Woody,” 250
Baltimore, Maryland, 142
Baptist Church, 77
bar mitzvah (bat mitzvah), 141
Beck, Glenn, 95
Beeler, Jeff, 175
Benedict XVI, Pope, 38–39
bereavement, 64
Bertone, Tarcisio, 138
The Best Little Boy in the World (Andrew Tobias), 100
Beyond the Down Low (Keith Boykin), 154
Bieber, Irving, 115–116
binary reasoning (binary logic), 26, 34
biological age, 181
biphobia, xi
birth control, 191
bisexual (term), 155
bisexuality, x–xi, 73, 155–157, 249
Bisexual Option (Fritz Klein), 156
blended families, 182
Blink (Malcolm Gladwell), 204
Blue Boy (Rakesh Satyal), 63, 132
BMJ, 62
body image, 179–180
Boise, Idaho, 107–108
born-again Christians, 86–88
Botox, 235
Bowers, Kathryn, 42
Boykin, Keith, 154
Boy Scouts, 130
brain, 16–17, 88, 90, 91, 92, 93, 97, 117, 131–134, 136, 141, 143, 144, 148, 194–195, 243, 257
Brass Garden disco (Des Moines, Iowa), 85, 87
Brewer, Marilyn, 96
Bridge of Sighs (Richard Russo), 61, 80
Bringing Up Baby (movie), 15
The British Journal of Psychology, 44
British Petroleum (BP), 121
Brown, Jerry, 33
Browne, Lord, 120–121
The Bucket List (movie), 200
Bucket lists, 234
Buddha, 40
Buddhism, 224
Buxton, Amity Pierce, 177–178
C
caffeine, 88
cancer treatments, 201
Cantor, James, 138
caregiving, 248–249
Carey, Benedict, 203
Castaneda, Carlos, 258
categorization, 93
“CBS Reports: The Homosexuals,” 111–112, 127
CDC. See Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
celibacy, 60
The Celluloid Closet (Vito Russo), 112
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 6, 13, 18, 67, 166, 167
Chariot Allegory (Plato), 38
cheating, 240–241
Chellew-Hodge, Candace, 59
Chevalier, Jeff, 121
Chicago, Illinois, 175
childhood, celebration of transition from, 141
children
and coming out in midlife, 58–59, 175–178
inhibited vs. uninhibited, 134–135
protection of, 148–149
child support, 176
Christakis, Nicholas, 62
Christian conservatives and fundamentalists, 51–52, 55, 58, 86–88, 122, 140, 159, 222
chronophilia, 210–211
Cialis, 199
cirrhosis, 168
civil rights movement, 227–228
Civil Service Commission, 109
class differences, 155
classical conditioning, 117
class privilege, 120–121
Clementi, Tyler, 258
Clohessy, David G., 147
CNN, 39
CNN World, 138
cocaine, 88
Coffin, William Sloane, 165
cognitive dissonance, 24–25, 35
cognitive therapy, 103
Cold War, 109
colonialism, 122
Columbia University, 122
comfort foods, 88
coming out
as act of social justice, 25
author’s experience of, 5–8, 75–76
decision about, 184–185
as intimate disclosure, 66
in midlife, 58–59, 173, 175–178, 187–188
models of, 69–70
primary task of, 81–82
stages of, 69–71
timing of, 71–73
trajectory model of, 71–76
Communists, 109
companions, 252–253
compulsive sexual behavior, 162
concentration camps, 94
conditioning, classical and operant, 117
confirmation classes, 53
confusion, 7
conscience, 47
consensual sex, decriminalizing of, 124
consent, 164
conservatives, 42–43, 45, 140, 159, 246–247
Consumer Reports, 91
contact hypothesis, 97–98
contraceptive pill, 192
conversion therapy, 20–21, 32–33, 43
coparenting, 176
corporations, 158–159
cosmetic surgery, 179
countertransference, 4
Craig, Larry, 15–17, 95, 96, 108, 113
Craig, Suzanne, 15
Craigslist, 136
crisis competence, 252
“Crush the Monster” (newspaper editorial), 107
Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly, 259
cultural beliefs
about men, 240
about women, 154
cultural context and differences, 119–122
D
daddies, 210
dad I’d like to fuck (DILF), 211
Daily Kos, 108–109
The Daily Show, 58
Dallas, Texas, police officer shootings, 222
Darwin, Charles, 39–41
death penalty, 122
decision making, 76, 91–92, 184–185
defense mechanisms, 30–31
Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), 16, 217
denial, 30–31
DeParle, Jason, 97
Department of Health and Human Services, 249–250
depression, 62–65
author’s, 7
brain chemistry and, 88
and compulsive sexual behavior, 162
and erectile dysfunction, 197
in LGBTQ community, 67–69
and loss of control, 188
and negative thinking, 99
and self-esteem, 191
and testosterone levels, 201
The Descent of Man (Charles Darwin), 39
Des Moines, Iowa, 51–52, 81, 85, 87, 133–134
despair, 183
detumescence, 196
Dhammapada (Buddha), 40
Diabetes, 201
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 115, 139
Dias, Maria, 46
DILF (dad I’d like to fuck), 211
discrimination, xii, 1, 25, 80–81, 96
dissociation, 4–5
distorted logic, 65
divorce, 176
divorce rates, 164–165
DL (down low), 154–155
Dobson, James, 222
Dole, Bob, 197
domestic abuse, 218
domestic violence, 218
Donadio, Rachel, 39
dopamine, 88, 90, 91, 92, 169, 190, 194–195
Dougary, Ginny, 121
down low (DL), 154–155
Drescher, Jack, 163
Druckerman, Pamela, 165
drug use and abuse, 14, 68, 88–90, 163, 166–168, 236
E
Eaton, Ken, 6
ecstasy, 166
education, 129–130
ego, 117
Egypt, 184
Einstein, Albert, 47
Eisenhower, Dwight D., 110
ejaculation, 129, 130, 161, 193
elderly gay men
depression in, 68–69
issues faced by, 247–252
elephants, 232
Elliott, Kennedy, 220–221
Emory University, 126
emotion
and brain function, 131–134
as component of moral psychology, 46
and decision making, 92
two-factor theory of, 133
emotional intimacy, 194
emotional leveling, 190
emotional maturity, 142–143
empathy, 92–93
employment, discrimination in, 80–81
Engel, George, 118
erectile dysfunction (ED), 190–191, 193, 197–199
erectile functioning, 193, 199
Erikson, Erik, 107, 183, 232, 234
eugenics, 27–28
Europe, 180–181
Evangelical Christians, 58, 222
excitement phase, 194–196
experiential age, 181
F
fairy (term), 27
falling in love, 164
false memories, 5
family(-ies)
blended, 182
coming out to, 66–67
decision to leave, 2
and social support systems, 253
Family Research Council (FRC), 140
fantasizing, 161
fathers, 6, 47, 48, 115–116, 175–178. see also gay fathers support group
Faulkner, William, 224
FDA. See Food and Drug Administration
Federal Bureau of Investigation, 219
federal laws, 80–81
feeling thought, 3
Feldman, Henry, 193
felony sexual assault, 141
feminist movement, 228
fidelity, 164
Fitch, Asa, 55
Focus on the Family, 222
Food and Drug Administration (FDA), 167, 169, 199
Fortune 500 companies, 81
Fowler, James, 62
Francis, Pope, 147
Frank, Barney, 95–96
Franklin, Benjamin, 91
FRC (Family Research Council), 140
Freud, Sigmund, 7, 47, 117, 148, 191, 233, 257
frontal lobes, 92
Fundamentalist Christians, 51–52, 55
fundamentalist religions, 54
the future, 224–225
G
Galton, Francis, 41
gambling, 88
García Márquez, Gabriel, 15
Gay and Lesbian Coalition of Kenya, 123
gay bars, 219
gay bashing, 86
gay fathers support group, 85, 86, 104–105, 136
gay identity, developing a, 81–83
Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD), xi
Gay New York (George Chauncey), 27, 28
gay relationships, public acceptance of, 59–60
gay sexual roles, 153–154
gay spaces, 157–159
gender identity, 219
Generation X (Gen Xers), 229
Genesis, book of, 46
genital sex, 194
genocide, 96–97
geographical age, 181
geography, 73
Gilead Sciences, 168
GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation), xi
Gladwell, Malcolm, 204
God, 40, 43, 46, 52, 55, 62, 77, 174, 183, 258
Golden Men (Harold Kooden), 82, 181
gonorrhea, 168
Goodman, Matt, xii
Google, 211
Gottman, John, 92
Grant, Cary, 15
Gratitude (Oliver Sacks), 215
Great Britain. See United Kingdom
Green, James Michael “Billy,” 86, 89, 92, 97, 99
Gross, Jane, 1
guilt, 177
gynecomastia (“man boobs”), 26, 35
Gypsies, 97
H
Haidt, Jonathan, 46
Haldeman, Douglas C., 57
Hamlet (William Shakespeare), 105
Hamlin, Harry, 112
happiness, 62, 63, 103, 258, 259
Hart, Trevor, 154
hate crime (term), 97
hate crimes, 218–219
Hauerwas, Stanley, 102
healthcare, xiii
Hepatitis B (HBV), 168
hippocampus, 131
HIV, xiii, 1–2, 18, 59, 122, 126, 154, 159, 166–169, 167, 225
HIV tests, 168–169
HMOs, 59
Home Access HIV-1 Test System, 169
homonegativism, 184
“Homosexual Identity Formation: a Theoretical Model” (Vivienne Cass), 69
homosexuality
Catholic Church’s view of, 39, 138–139
genetic basis for, 41, 45, 118
as lifestyle “choice,” 45–46, 54
opponents of, 20–21
as pathologic deviancy, 115
as “psychopathic deviancy,” 4
stigma of, 227
homosexuals, Nazi persecution of, 97
Hoover, J. Edgar, 110
Houston Prime Timers, 223
Howard, John, 22–23
HRC (Human Rights Campaign), 95
Hu, Stella, 41
Hugo, Victor, 188
Human Rights Campaign (HRC), 95
Human Rights Campaign Foundation, 81
Huxley, Aldous, 200
hypersexuality disorder, 161–162
I
ice cream, making, 231
id, 117
Idaho, 107–108
Idaho Evening Statesman, 107, 108
ideal self, 99–102
Identity and the Life Cycle (Erik Erikson), 107
ignorance, willful, 45
IGRs (intergenerational relationships), 207–212
I’m-gonna-getcha game, 88–89
immigrants, LGBTQ, xiii, 124–126
impotence (term), 197
independence, 240
India, 123–124
Indiana, 81
inertia, 71
In Focus: Reporting on the Bisexual Community (report), xi
in-groups, 94–99
inheritance of characteristics, 41
inhibited children, 134–135
inner cities, 142
intergenerational conflicts, 230
intergenerational relationships (IGRs), 207–212
internalized homophobia, 25
Internet, 159–160
intervening variables, 53
intimacy, emotional, 194
introspection, 60
intuition, 91
Iowa, ix, x, 78, 99, 179, 215–216, 246
Iran, 122
Islam, 55
“It’s Raining Men” (song), 29
J
Japan, 124
Jesus, 57
Johnson, Colin, 27
Johnson, Kirk, 255
Jones, Julie, 179
Journal of Sex Research, 153
Journal of Sexual Medicine, 190
Just Queer Folks (Colin Johnson), 27
K
Kahneman, Daniel, 91
Ken (acquaintance of author), 85–87, 89, 99
Kennedy, Anthony M., ix, 215, 217
Kenya, 123
Kertbeny, Karl-Maria, 94
ketamine, 166
Kimmel, Douglas, 252
King, J. L., 154–155
Kinsey, Alfred C., 31–33, 43, 155, 191, 213
Klein, Fritz, 156
Koller, Silvia, 46
Kuria, David, 123
L
Larkin, Philip, 182
“Lavender Scare,” 108–109
Lawrence v. Texas, 52
laws and legislation
antidiscrimination laws, xii, 80–81
anti-LGBTQ legislation, 158–159, 220–221
antisodomy laws, 122
legacy, 171
legal protections, 80–81
Leigh, Karen, 55
Levitra, 199
LGBTQ Rights, 215–219
libido, 197–198
life expectancy, 172
Limbaugh, Rush, 95
Liptakjune, Adam, 215
loneliness, 63, 64, 67, 135, 162
Longfellow, Henry Wadsworth, 242
long-term relationships, 189–190
Los Angeles Police Department, 111
loss, feelings of, 64
loss avoidance, 91–92
Love in the Time of Cholera (Gabriel García Márquez), 15
lust, 54
Lust in Translation (Pamela Druckerman), 165
Luther’s Catechism, 53
M
MagneticFire (blog), 9, 21, 24, 123, 142, 208
Making Love (movie), 112–113
Malakos, 161
male menopause, 201–202
male sexual response, 194–196
March on Washington for Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation, 98
marginalization, 232
marijuana, 88–90
Marlboro man, 26
marriage, 2, 6, 123, 163–166, 175–176, 215, 219, 237, 256. See also same-sex marriage
marriage licenses, 220
masculinity, 19–20, 23, 26, 27
Mason, Everdeen, 220
masturbation, 28, 77, 94, 130–131, 135, 160–162
materialism, 235–236
mating rituals, 205
Mattachine Society, 110–111, 141
McCarthy, Joseph, 109
McCarthyism, 109
McGee, Jason (pseudonym), 76–78
McKinlay, John, 193
Mead, Rebecca, 179
meaningfulness, 239
media, 54
Medicine Crow, Joe, 120
Meeting Jesus Again for the First Time (Marcus J. Borg), 53
Mehlman, Ken, 221
memory(-ies)
false, 5
as narratives, 14
storing of, 131
and testosterone levels, 202
Men Like That: A Southern Queer History (John Howard), 22–23
menopause, 201–202
mentors, 183–184
men who have sex with men (MSM), 1–2
coming-out process for, 8–9
diversity of, 18–19
misperception about, 17–18
online survey of, 9–13
prevalence of, 17–18
straight-identified, 21–22
“The Messy Realities of Bisexuality” (Loren Olson), x–xi
methamphetamine, 88
MetLife, 248
metrosexual (term), 180
Miami New Times, 140
microcommunities, 157
Midwest, 17–18
millennials, 229–230
mindfulness, 224, 226, 233, 239–240
monogamy, 163–164, 237, 240–241
moral dumbfounding, 46
moral integrity, 105
moral psychology, 46
Morbidity and Morality Weekly Report, 13
Morgentaler, Abraham, 201
“Morituri Salutamus” (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow), 242
mortality, 171, 182–184, 187, 256
movies, 112–113
MSM. See men who have sex with men
Muhammad (prophet), 57
multifactorial inheritance, 41
Museveni, Yoweri, 123
Myers, Steven Lee, 116
N
narcissism, 22
NARTH (National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality), 116, 140
National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), 116, 140
National Evangelical Association, 58
National Park Service, 98
Natterson-Horowitz, Barbara, 42
Nature Genetics, 41
Nebraska, 3, 23–24, 74, 89, 93, 108–109, 110, 129, 149, 183, 227, 247
negativity bias, 92
“The Neurobiology of Trust” (Paul J. Zak), 212
neurochemistry, 88–91
neuroimaging, 191
neurovegetative symptoms, 64
New Orleans, Louisiana, 218–219
New York City, 17, 28–29, 121, 151–152, 217, 255
New York Post, 108–109
New York Times, 1, 39, 73, 97, 116, 164, 203, 215, 216, 240, 255
nicotine, 88
Nixon, Richard, 110
No god but God (Reza Aslan), 57
non-LGBTQ Americans, and gay rights, xii
nonmonogamous sex, 163, 240–241
North Carolina, 221
The Nutcracker, 74
O
Obama, Barack, 123, 216, 218, 221, 249–250
Obamacare, xv, 246–247
Obergefell v. Hodges, ix, 217, 219
older LGBTQ community, suicide in, 67
Oliver-Miller, Shirley, 120
“One-Drop Rule,” 93–94
On the Down Low (J. L. King), 154–155
Ontkean, Michael, 112
open relationships, 164
operant conditioning, 117
oppression, 157
The Oprah Winfrey Show, 155
OraQuick In-Home HIV Test, 169
original sin, 54
Orlando, Florida, mass shooting, xii, 217–219, 222, 223
Orwell, George, 235
The Other Side of the Closet (Amity Pierce Buxton), 177–178
“Out and Aging” (MetLife study), 248, 249, 251
out-groups, 94–99
Out Late (Tim Turner), 129
Out Rage (documentary movie), 95
overprotective mother, 115–116
Oxytocin, 212
P
Pakistan, 162
Palin, Sarah, 246
Papua New Guinea, 120
paranoia, 90
paraphilias, 139
the past, 224
Pavlov, Ivan, 117
pedophilia, 136, 138–140, 147, 212
pedophilic disorder, 139
Perel, Esther, 238
perfectionism, 99
performance anxiety, 198–199
personality, 42
pervert inquiry, 110
Pew Research Center, ix–x, 45–46, 159, 163
Philipps, Dave, 216
physical abuse, 63
physical age, 209
physical attractiveness, 178–179, 181
physiological arousal, 133
Pillard, Richard, 42
pinko fag (term), 110
plateau phase, 195–196
playtime, 229
Plutarch, 119
Plymouth Church (Des Moines, Iowa), 51–52
politicians, 227
polyamory, 241–242
“poppers,” 166–167
preejaculate (precum), 195
preexposure prophylaxis (PrEP), xiii, 167–168
premarital intercourse, 155
Prescriptions for the Mind (Joel Paris), 14, 148
priapism, 199
Prime Timers Worldwide, 73, 250
privacy, right to, 95
procreation, 28
Proposition 8 (California), 217
Prospect Theory, 91–92
prostate-specific antigen (PSA), 202
prostitutes and prostitution, 27, 140, 155
Prussia, 94
PSA (prostate-specific antigen), 202
psychiatry, 93
psychodynamic psychotherapy, 103
psychodynamic theory, 47
psychological age, 209
Psychological Science, 156
Psychology Today, x–xi
Pugh, Steve, 179
Pulse bar (Orlando, Florida), 217–218
Q
queer (term), 93
queer theory, 28
quinceañera, 141
R
rationality (rational thought), 3, 38, 90
rationalization, 30–31
Raygun, 215–216
Reagan, Ronald, 159
reason, 40
reasoning, 91
Reeves, Carlton, 220
refractory period, 196
regrets, 184–185
Rekers, George, 140
relationships
intergenerational, 207–212
long-term, 189–190
needs satisfaction in, 239
open, 164
U-shaped, 237–238
religious conservatives, 42–43, 45, 58, 140
religious faith, 56
religious freedom, 220
religious institutions, 57
religious traditions, 56–57
repression, 30–31
Republican Party, x, 109, 110, 221, 246
resolution phase, 196
retaliatory violence, 222
“Rethinking Infidelity” (Esther Perel), 238
Revolutionary War, 216
rich privilege, 120–121
right to privacy, 95
risk-taking behaviors, 88, 191
risky sexual behavior, 168
Roman Catholic Church, 38–39, 61, 136–138, 146–147, 149
Roman Catholic clergy, 136–137, 146–147, 149
Romans, ancient, 119
Romantic love, 175
Roter, Debra L., 252
Rove, Karl, 221
Rubin’s vase, 3
Rumi, 37
RuPaul, 179
RuPaul’s Drag Race, 179
Russo, Vito, 112
S
Sacks, Oliver, 215
Sambians, 120
same-sex activity, criminalization of, 126
same-sex marriage (same-sex unions)
Larry Craig and, 16
guarantee of right to, 215–217
Japan, 124
support for, ix–x
Sand, George, 245
San Francisco Bay Area, 164
Santa Claus, belief in, 4
Science, 45
Science (journal), 118
scrotum, 195
Secret Historian (Justin Spring), 21, 31–32, 43, 81, 151, 155
self, 39–40
ideal, 99–102
self-blame, 99
self-esteem, 47, 68, 99–103, 186, 191, 198
self-talk, 53
semen, 196
seminal fluid, 195
September 11, 2001, terrorist attacks, 217
Services and Advocacy for LGBTQ Elders, 255
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (John Gottman), 92
“Sex, Romance, and Relationships: AARP Survey of Midlife and Older Adults,” 161
sex addiction, 161–163
sexism, 19
sexual abuse, 4–5, 136–138, 147–149
Sexual Abuse (journal), 138
sexual activity, and dopamine levels, 88
sexual assault, felony, 141
sexual attraction, 20, 42–43, 210–211
sexual behavior
compulsive, 162
and morality, 55–56
risky, 168
sexual attraction vs., 42–43
Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (Alfred C. Kinsey), 31–33, 213
sexual desire, 16–17, 203–204, 211–212
sexual discovery, 129–131
sexual disorders, 139
sexual dysfunction, 190–191
sexual functioning, 192–193
sexual identity
Vivienne Cass on, 69
George Chauncey on, 27
conflict about, 67–68, 82, 113, 119, 125
as employment issue, 81
origins of, 191
and sexual orientation, 212–213
and values, 165
Sexuality Across the Life Course (McKinlay and Feldman), 193
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), 18, 166, 168, 191
sexual maturity, 143–144
Sexual Offenses Bill (United Kingdom), 144
sexual orientation, 20
acting outside of, 212–213
concealment of, 65–67
discrimination based on, 80–81
genetic factors in, 42
Kinsey’s view of, 31
and sexual desire, 211–212
sexual orientation grid, 156
sexual performance (term), 198
sexual performance anxiety, 198–199
sexual play, 77
sexual predators, 143
sexual response, 193–196
sexual roles, 153–154
sexual satisfaction, 190–191, 193
Shakespeare, William, 105
Shannon, Graeme, 232
Skinner, B. F., 117
Skype, 160
SNAP (Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests), 147
Socarides, Charles, 115–117
Socarides, Richard, 116
social conservatives, 246–247
social media, 9
social networking sites, 159
social role, being gay as, 165–166
social-service agencies, discrimination by, 1
sociocultural factors, in coming out, 71
Southern United States, 17–18, 76, 93–94, 121
specific serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), 88
The Spirit and the Flesh (Walter Williams), 120
Spring, Justin, 21, 31–32, 43, 81, 151, 155, 256–257
SSRIs (specific serotonin reuptake inhibitors), 88
state laws, 220–221
STDs. See sexually transmitted diseases
Stephens-Davidowitz, Seth, 73
stereotypes, xi, 18, 22, 48, 86, 94, 113, 151–152, 154, 158, 200, 209, 226–228
Stevenson, Adlai, 110
Stewart, Jon, 58
“Still Out, Still Aging” (MetLife report), 248
Stonewall Inn, 28
Stonewall riots, 10, 28–29, 97, 113, 121, 215, 228, 251, 254, 256
suburban areas, 73
surrogacy, 45
Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests (SNAP), 147
syphilis, 168
T
talk therapy, 163
Tammeus, William D., 171
teen pregnancy, 191
teen suicide, 13
temporal lobes, 92
terrorism, 109
testicles, 201
Testosterone for Life (Abraham Morgentaler), 201
testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), 200–203
“thin slicing,” 204
“This Be the Verse” (Philip Larkin), 182
thought, rational vs. feeling, 3
time, 230
Times, 121
Timmons, Stuart, 141
Titus, Gary, 86, 89, 92, 97, 99
Tobias, Andrew, 100
Tokyo, Japan, 124
Tomasello, Michael, 44
tops, 153–154
traditionalist generation, 229, 233
trajectory model (of coming out), 71–76
transgender people, 247
and bathroom laws, xi–xii
legislation focusing on, 221
in US military, x
The Trouble with Harry Hay (Stuart Timmons), 141
TRT (testosterone replacement therapy), 200–203
Tumblr, 211
Turner, Tim, 129
Tversky, Amos, 91
twelve-step programming, 163
twisted logic, 65
two-factor theory, 133
U
Uganda, 122–123
Uganda AIDS Commission, 122–123
unbucket lists, 234
unconscious thinking, 103, 117, 204
unconscious thought, 91
uninhibited children, 134, 135
Unitarian Universalist churches, 56
United Church of Christ, 56
United Kingdom (Great Britain), 110, 117, 120–122, 144
United States
changing attitudes in, 59–60
HIV in, 166
witch hunts in, 107–110
United States v. Windsor, 217
University extension services, 28
University of Arizona, 7
University of Chicago, 259
University of Nebraska, 114
The Upside of Irrationality (Dan Ariely), 190, 206
UpStairs Lounge (New Orleans, Louisiana), 218–219
urban environments, 115, 142, 157
US Congress, 246
U-shaped relationships, 237–238
US military, x, 89, 95, 114, 176, 216
US Navy, 89–90, 114–115, 216, 228
US Senate, 109–110
US Supreme Court, ix, 33, 52, 215–217,
V
value systems, 40, 53, 66, 173, 243
Varnum v. Brien, x
Vatican, 138
verbal abuse, 63
versatiles, 153
Viagra, 26, 188, 197, 199, 203, 235
Vietnam, 124–125
The Village People, 29
visitation privileges, 250
W
Wakefield, Nebraska, 183
Wallace, Mike, 111–112, 116, 127
Wall Street Journal, 55
Warneken, Felix, 44
Washington, George, 216
Washington Post, 220–221
webcam chats, 160
webcam sex, 216
Westboro Baptist Church (Topeka, Kansas), 52, 54, 183
When Gay People Get Married (M. V. Lee Badgett), 165
Wherry, Kenneth, 108–109
willful ignorance, 45
Williams, Aaron, 220–221
Williams, Robin, 187
Williams, Walter, 120
winning, 235
witch hunts, 107–110
Wolff, Jennifer, 252
women, devaluing of, 154
World War II, 216
X
X chromosome, 41
Y
YMCA, 28
young people, changing attitudes in, 60
youth bias, 251
Z
Zak, Paul J., 212
Zoobiquity (Natterson-Horowitz and Bowers), 42