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self-coach your
way to success

THIS CHAPTER SUMMARIZES the main ways to use Color Q for self-coaching, to learn new skills, and resolve workplace (and personal) conflicts.

BLUES: Use this chapter to determine content validity and the value of applying strategies listed in other chapters.

GOLDS: Use this material as a study guide to summarize your learning.

GREENS: Use it as a quick refresher before “style shifting” to deal with a difficult colleague.

REDS: If all you read in this book is one chapter, make it this one.

Go to your personality color section below.

Blues

William (a Blue) addresses his budget committee teammates: “Our budgeting process is antiquated. We need to incorporate this state-of-the-art software now,” he says.

“No!” cries Ella (a Gold). “That can’t be done in the time frame we have.”

“Yes!” says John (a Red). “I beta-tested it, it’s great!”

“Maybe,” says Terry (a Green). “What do the department heads think?”

Blues self-coach best by:

image Harnessing your desire for competence and expertise.

image Seeking instructors who are logical, tough, top-of-their-game experts who can present accurate information straightforwardly.

image Being open to debate, competition, and critical feedback.

image Being free to explore in depth, evaluate material, set goals, measure your progress.

Blues may come into conflict with others by:

image Critiquing in ways that sound like excessive criticism (Greens)

image Emphasizing logic over emotions (Greens)

image Constantly trying to innovate and “improve” (Golds)

image Disregarding details and procedures (Golds)

image Focusing on strategy rather than practicalities (Reds)

image Arguing semantics and abstract theories (Reds)

Golds

Camille (a Gold) is in charge of the petty cash window at a large corporation. Robert (a Green) asks: “I need $500 traveling money and also $150 for a client breakfast; and do you think I’ll need to up my corporate credit-card limit?”

“Bring me three separate request slips,” says Camille.

“I’ll need $12,000 for the third quarter’s research materials,” says Quentin (a Blue). “My limit is $500, and it’s only July. Submit individual requests,” she replies.

“I gotta have $1,000 now, Camille. I’m off to the airport,” says Louie (a Red) with a grin. Camille rolls her eyes. “Only with a request slip, you rogue. Here. Make it out.”

Golds self-coach best by:

image Learning and practicing until excellence is achieved.

image Finding competent instructors who provide abundant data, one-on-one feedback, realistic deadlines, and clear expectations.

image Reviewing materials before class, then questioning and critiquing.

image Using checklists for achieving step-by-step improvement.

image Employing real-life demos, case studies, labs, and simulations. Practical experience must precede theory.

Golds may come into conflict with others by:

image Emphasizing procedures over intuitions (Greens and Blues)

image Preferring concrete, step-by-step planning over long-term strategizing (Blues)

image Resisting change and innovation; favoring efficiency and tradition (Blues and Reds)

image Focusing on rules rather than responding to change (Reds)

image Insisting that procedures be followed (Reds)

image Showing irritation with nonsequential discussion (Greens and Blues)

Greens

Stacey (a Green) is team leader for her firm’s office move. “Let’s start by asking what each employee’s needs are,” she says.

“Alternatively, let’s research square foot rental predictions for the next twenty years,” says Olson (a Blue).

“Make a step-by-step To Do list,” says Rita (a Gold).

“Just get the cheapest space and make it work!” says Carl (a Red).

Greens self-coach best by:

image Using your time management talent and setting achievable goals.

image Working with a study group (Extroverts) or working alone with manuals and references (Introverts).

image Using alphabetical lists, metaphors, or analogies.

image Grasping the big picture first, then embellishing with details.

image Seeing how material will improve self or better others.

Greens come into conflict with others by:

image Using stream-of-consciousness rather than sequential communications (Golds)

image Emphasizing intuition over step-by-step procedures (Golds)

image Placing values before logic and detached analysis (Blues)

image Emphasizing human responses over long-term strategy (Blues)

image Showing empathy rather than taking action (Reds)

image Avoiding communicating in concrete terms (Reds)

Reds

“Fire!” yells Alex (a Red), who runs to get the computer room’s extinguisher.

Dolores (a Gold) frantically searches for the emergency procedures manual. Harry (a Blue) immediately envisions the location of each fire exit and strategizes the one least likely to be overcrowded. Lilly (a Green) grabs her cell phone so that she can call her husband and races over to help a wheelchair-bound coworker.

Reds self-coach best by:

image Keenly observing details and being involved, hands-on, in solving immediate problems.

image Linking facts to personal experience, trial-and-error experimentation, and stories about people.

image Seeking experienced sources who can provide immediate feedback.

image Using labs, demos, field trips, and interactive multimedia.

image Being alone with your manual (Introverts); learning through cause-and-effect.

image Being flexible about rules, structures, and deadlines.

image Keeping it fast and fun!

Reds come into conflict with others by:

image Making midcourse corrections rather than sticking to “the plan” (Golds)

image Emphasizing spontaneity over step-by-step procedures (Golds)

image Preferring practical thinking over abstract strategy (Blues and Greens)

image Challenging innovative strategy with real-world scenarios (Blues)

image Taking action rather than showing empathy (Greens)

image Preferring concrete communication to metaphors and analogies (Greens)

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If you are in leadership role, it is imperative to develop conflict-resolving skills. This book has been designed as a self-coaching resource to use at the start of any miscommunication. Give it to all your employees. Even if you’ve inherited an employee conflict of long standing, Color Q’s “style shifting” techniques break down barriers and make people receptive again.

The cost for improving communications in your workplace? Minimal. The cost of not doing it? Billions of dollars annually in lost productivity alone in the United States. Do happier people work harder? We leave you with a quote from a New York Times article that examined that very question: “Workers’ well-being depends, in large part, on managers’ ability and willingness to facilitate workers’ accomplishments—by removing obstacles, providing help, and acknowledging strong effort.”1

You hold in your hands all the tools you need for long-term success.