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Index
Cover
Titel Page
Copyright
Acknowledgements
Table of Contents
Foreword
Introduction
The Problem
Chapter 1
Meltdowns: When rewards and punishments are not enough
What is a meltdown?
The usual parenting advice: start with rules and consequences
The limits of discipline: when rewards and punishments no longer work
But aren't meltdowns just manipulative behavior?
Can we really expect no more meltdowns?
An overview of the four-step model for reducing meltdowns
Chapter 2
What are meltdowns made of?
Fight, flight or freeze response
Temperament
Difficulties with abstract thinking and perspective taking
Inflexibility
An explosive combination
The Solution
Chapter 3
Accepting and appreciating our children
Controlling our own frustration
Building competence
Avoiding learned helplessness
The 80/20 rule
Anticipating frustration as part of learning
When to avoid power struggles
Chapter 4
De-escalating a meltdown
How to de-escalate a meltdown
Distractions
When too much distraction can make things worse
Helping children find their own distractions and calming strategies
Steps for creating self-calming strategies
Chapter 5
Understanding why repeat problems occur
Understanding the triggers
The ABCs of behavior: Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence
Getting the ABCs: Interviews and observations
Seeing the pattern
Chapter 6
Creating a prevention plan
The components of a good prevention plan
A prevention plan for Kevin
The four types of meltdown situations
Plans for the Four Types of Meltdown Situations
Chapter 7
Demands
Do your schoolwork
Try it, it's delicious
Hurry up, the bus is coming
Clean up
Let's go to the party
Chapter 8
Waiting
Just wait
You can't always get what you want
Okay, time to stop playing
Chapter 9
Threats to self-image
Winning isn't everything
It's okay to make mistakes
But names will never hurt you
Chapter 10
Unmet wishes for attention
I can't play with you now
Don't be jealous
Time to go to bed
Chapter 11
Closing thoughts: Finding your own way
Prevention plan form
References
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