How to Like Yourself by Bradshaw, Cheryl M. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Contents Welcome!

How to Like Yourself

Pet Peeves and Things That Make This Book Different

part 1: the past

1: The Most Important Relationship You Will Ever Have

Your 24/7 Friend Why Is Liking Yourself So Hard? The “Everyone Is Better than Me” Syndrome So What Now? Here’s Why It’s Worth It Let the Changes Begin!

2: The Mystery of Forgiveness

The Muddled Definition Forgiveness and You

3: Personal Yield Theory: You’re You for Good Reasons

Mark This Chapter, Return Often

4: Forgiveness: Once You Know Better, You Can Do Better

The “Hindsight Is a 20–20” Trap Putting It All Together

5: Accepting Yourself

Here’s Where It Starts to Get Good But Always Remember to Reflect

part 2: the present

6: From Past to Present

Who Are You Today? First You Have to Know Yourself Putting It Together The Liking Yourself List

7: Confident Versus Conceited: The Lies We Believe

Getting It All Straight The Fine Line Between Conceit and Confidence If It Feels Weird, It Must Be Wrong—Right? Old Habits Die Hard Making the Best List Ever And How Did It Feel?

8: Confidence Forever

Making It Last Do unto Others, but Also to Yourself

9: Your Inner Critic Know-It-All (ICK!)

Roadblocks to Liking Yourself Watch Out, the ICK’s Tricky

10: The Epic Battle of the ICK

Five Steps to Victory Step 1: Change “I” to “You” Step 2: Visualize the Gremlin

11: Thought Traps

Step 3: Catch the Thought Traps All-or-Nothing Thinking: I’m Perfect or I’m a Failure Overgeneralization: If One Thing Sucks, Everything Sucks Forever Disqualifying the Positive: That Didn’t Count Anyway Jumping to Conclusions: Of Course I’m Right

Fortune-Teller Error Mind Reading

Catastrophizing: It’s the End of the World! Emotional Reasoning: I’m Sad, So Life Sucks “Should” Statements: The Hardest One to Catch

12: The Tiny Grain of Truth

Why Thought Traps Are So Tricky Follow the Fear: Change “What If” to “I Can” You’re on Your Way to Win This Battle

13: Your True Inner Voice

Step 4: Tap into Your True Inner Voice Scenario 1: The Big Game Scenario 2: Rewind, Try Again Coach Yourself to “Good Stress” Step 5: Find More Realistic Replacement Thoughts

14: The Epic Battle of the ICK: Starring You

Conversations with Yourself Cheat Sheet of Steps Roll the Cameras And the Crowd Goes Wild!

15: Labels Are for Soup Cans

Body and Brain and Emotions, Oh My! Colliding with the Modern World Just Say No to Negative Labels The Cycle Ends Here One Last Secret: Labels That Work

16: Daily Facets of You: You’re a Prism

Getting to Know All Your Facets Past, Present, and Future Versions of You All the Versions of You on One Team The Self-Time Continuum

17: The 80–20 Rule

You Can Do This Present You Is Off to the Races!

part 3: the future

18: Who Do You Want to Be?

Taking Your Next Steps Deciding for Yourself Who You Want to Be It’s All About You Finding Yourself Versus Creating Yourself An Experiment in Finding Yourself When You Find Your True Self

19: Steps to Your True Self

The Journey Begins Create Yourself: Your Personal Résumé Create Your Own Story The Robot Technique Reflection Basics

20: Vulnerability 101

The Ultimate Truth Winning the Vulnerability War

21: Romantic Relationships

Liking Yourself in a Relationship How to Get a Relationship Being Your True Self with Confidence

22: How to Be Okay with Rejection

Why It’s Important The Bell Curve of “Normal”

C: B: A: B: C

Understanding Attraction Differences Are Not Personal

23: How to Be Yourself in a Relationship

Overall Message

Wrapping Up References

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