The 7 Best Things Smart Teens Do by Friel, John -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

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Praise Praise Praise Title Page Copyright Page Table of Contents Dedication Other Books by the Authors PREFACE Acknowledgements WHY YOU SHOULD READ THIS BOOK Part I - The Agony and the Ecstasy, the Power and the Glory

Out of Tension and Conflict, Respect The End Results of Growing Up—Or Not Into the Power Zone

2 - Thumb Your Nose at Gravity

American History X-Treme Teach Your Children Well Rebellion or Transformation? Thumb Your Nose at Gravity

3 - The Cockapoo and the Labrador

Part II - The Seven Best Things

The Freedom Writers of Wilson High in Long Beach Shame, Shame And More Shame It’s Alive! Competence and Real Intimacy: The Cures for the Self-Esteem Dilemma Some of the “Competency Traps” That May Plague Teenagers So Now You Have It

5 - Master Your Feelings: Don’t Let the Tail Wag the Dog

How It Works: Making Conscious the Unconscious Rules of Living Nothing More Than Feelings, and Nothing Less, Either The Primary Colors of the Emotional World, All of Which Are “Good” Safety/Warmth/Dependency Feel, Think, Act

6 - Break the Silence: It Takes So Much Energy to Silently Scream

Your Parents Don’t Know You One Teen’s “Worst” List I Have a Secret Who Do You Trust? Friends

7 - Get Healthy Power: Learn to Respectfully Make Things Happen

Define Behavior Clearly Get a Baseline Measure Establish Effective Consequences Apply the Consequence and Measure What Happens Using What You Learn to Improve Your Own Life Power at Home, School or Work Power in Romantic Relationships The Power to Make Friends and Fit In

8 - Face the Serious Stuff: Some Things Are Too Big to Keep Buried

Listening Rather Than Lecturing Where the “Serious Stuff” Comes From People Do Get Help: Depression

9 - Find an Identity: From Accepting Without Question to Discovering Your Own Path

I Am a Teenager, and This Is Who I Am Why the Search Must Begin

10 - Start Learning to Stake Out the Extremes: It’s the Universal Skill

The Universal Skill In Closing

11 - The Labrador and the Cockapoo

Part III - Some Tips

12 - Becoming Competent

13 - Mastering Feelings

How Does Your Relationship Feel?

14 - Breaking the Silence

Whom Do You Trust?

15 - Getting Healthy Power

Put Up Yer Dukes? Fergeddaboudit!

16 - Facing the Serious Stuff

Addictions Eating Disorders Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Cutting Suicide Homicide Suffering Abuse Abusing Others In Conclusion

17 - Finding an Identity

Filling in the Stages Keeping at It

18 - Staking Out the Extremes

Faulty Filters

Part IV - Bringing It All Back Home

19 - And in the End . . .

APPENDIX: WHY SEVEN? ENDNOTES BIBLIOGRAPHY ABOUT THE AUTHORS