S.E.X., second edition · The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Corinna, Heather -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Title Page Copyright Dedication Contents Thank You Foreword Who’s This Book for, Anyway? 1. I Pledge Allegiance to Myself and the United State of My Sexuality: An Introduction for Readers 2. Your Sexuality and Your Body: An Owner’s Manual

What Is “Sexuality”? What Can Be Part of Sexuality? Circles of Sexuality Let’s Talk About Sex Mega-Metamorphosis: Puberty Braaaaaaaaiiiiinnns Tingly Bits Reproductive and Sexual Anatomy: What’s Up Down There? Every Body’s Got One You’ve Got Some Nerve! The Vulva, Vagina, and Uterus: From the Outside In Clit Lit Life on the Inside The Menstrual Cycle. Period. Where Can Aunt Flo Go? Menses Management When the Rag’s a Drag Breast Basics The Penis and Testes: From the Outside In The Foreskin (or Not) Life on the Inside Vasocongestion (aka Blue Balls) Too Loose/Too Tight! Too Long/Too Short! Too Large/Too Small! Or, What Goldilocks and the Three Bears Have to Do with Your Genitals What’s “Normal” Down There?

3. The Problem with Perfect: Body Image: Or, Why Appearance Isn’t All It Appears

Body Image Ten Bodacious Ways to Boost Body Image Disordered Eating and Eating Disorders Don’t Make a Mate a Mirror Who’s at Risk of Disordered Eating, Body Image, or Self-Image Problems? The Ideal Spiel Whole Body/Whole Sexy Viva la Revolución!

4. Sex Starts with You: Arousal, Orgasm, Masturbation, and Fantasy

Arousal and Orgasm: Human Sexual Response Coming and Going The Basics of Sexual Response Sexual Desire Arousal Plateau Orgasm Resolution Ejaculation How Do You Tell If You’ve Had an Orgasm? What If You Just Can’t Have One, Ever? Buzzkills Masturbation: A Sexual Solo False and True How Do You Masturbate? Keeping It Safe But Only Losers Masturbate! How Much Is Too Much? Fantasy Fodder: Sexual Fantasy Which Fantasies Are Okay, and Which Aren’t? And Your First Sex Partner Is . . .?

5. So Much More Than Either/Or: Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation

Genderpalooza! A Sex and Gender Primer Beyond the Binary Trans-lation Transition Gender Confirmation Surgery Transphobia, Discrimination, and Bias Gendermending How to Be Transfriendly and Subvert Crummy Gender and Orientation Stereotypes in Five Easy Steps! The Rainbow Connection: The Spectrum of Sexual Orientation What Do All These Words Mean? Feeling, Not Just Doing How Do I Know if I’m? To Be or Not to Be: Is Sexual Orientation a Choice? What Does It Mean to Be Queer, Bisexual, or Pansexual? “Bad” Words Coming Out A Basic How-To

6. You, Me, and Everyone Else: Big Outside Influences on Your Sexuality

Your Family What Makes a Family? Your Friends and Peers How to Ask Family or Friends to Turn Down the Volume Media What’s “Media”? Not Just What, but How Sexual Entertainment Media Pornography: Not Realistic Since Ever All/Most/Some Sexual Media or Entertainment The Worst of Us, Sexified How Should We Feel About Sexual Entertainment? “They Saw It in Porn, So Now They Want and Expect It from Me” Making Sense of External Messages and Hearing Your Own Voice

7. On Board the Relationship

Relationship Should Be a Verb Rejection: The Scariest Thing on Earth (or So You’d Think) Dating: Different, Not a Dinosaur Relationship Models: What Works for You? Closed or Open? Dating and Relationships 3.0 How Do You Find a Fantastic Relationship, Anyway? On the Other Hand In-Person Big Plans: Made Best in Person Basic Online Safety Safety Dance! When Run, Don’t Walk Is the Catchphrase Without a Map: Relationships Outside the Box Those Three Little Words The Test of Time: Long-Term Relationships What’s Typical in Long-Term Relationships? Looking Toward the Future In Conflict Conflict Resolution: A Crash Course Dysfunction Junction: The Crummy Stuff The Great Escape Adventures in Splitsville: Breakups and How to Deal When Is It Time? How Do You Do It? Healthy/Unhealthy The Mourning After “Just” Friends?

8. To Be, or Not to Be . . . Sexually Active

“It” The Sexual Readiness Checklist Great Sexpectations Get Real: Unrealistic Expectations and Scenarios No Harm, No Foul: Limits and Boundaries Consenting A (Not So) Basic Consent How-To Explicit Consent: Using Words Nonexplicit Consent Accepting and Respecting Nonconsent Considering Your Ethics, Beliefs, Culture, and Values What’s the Right Age for Sex? To Plan or Not to Plan, That’s the Question Lights, Camera, Action! Worst-Case Scenarios But Wait— Being a Prude (and Other Really Crappy Names for Choosing Not to Be Sexually Active) Intimacy: Bonding Basics Are You Mental? Yes! Virginity: Past and Present So, Who’s a Virgin and Who Isn’t? Be a Blabbermouth! Communicating with Partners About Sex How to Talk About Sex Speaking Your Own Language Body of Evidence: Legal Issues and Your Sex Life How to Work the System So It Doesn’t Work You

9. Popular Mechanics: The Ins and Outs of Sex with Partners

Kissing Petting/Massage Mutual Masturbation Frottage or “Dry Sex” Manual Sex Oral Sex: Cunnilingus Oral Sex: Fellatio Oral Sex: Analingus Vaginal Intercourse Hip to the Hype: Common Intercourse Problems and Expectations Anal Sex/Intercourse Sexting, Cybersex, or Phone Sex Sensation Play “Kinky” Sex Role-Play Bondage/Restraint Body Fluid or Blood Play Sex Toys Yes, No, Maybe So: A What-You-Want-and-How-You-Want-It Sex Checklist The Ol’ Give-and-Take: Sexual Symmetry, Reciprocity, and Equality Reciprocity, Reloaded Sex and Obligation Faking It Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm or Feeling Aroused with a Partner? Who’s in Charge? Sexual Differences vs. Sexual Incompatibility Aftercare “Queer” Sex and “Straight” Sex: What’s the Diff? Sex and Disability The Popular Mechanics Roundup: The Five Most Important Things to Remember During Partnered Sex

10. Safe and Sound: Safer Sex for Your Body, Heart, and Mind

Taking Care Down There: Sexual Health Care Your Business, Their Business: Healthcare Confidentiality and Privacy Before Your First Sexual Health Appointment Who Provides Sexual or Reproductive Health Care? Sexual Health Care for Beginners Sexual Healthcare Discrimination: Roadblocks to Good Health DIY Sexual Health Care Check Yourself Out! Urinary Tract, Bacterial, and Yeast Infections Safer Sex 101 Quick STI Risk Assessment Practicing Safer Sex: A Lesson in Three Parts Why Practice Safer Sex? Safer Sex, Part One: Barriers and Other Gear Condoms Dental Dams Safer Sex, Part Two: Testing and Annual Sexual Health Exams Safer Sex, Part Three: Lifestyle Issues Easy Ways to Incorporate Safer Sex into Your Sex Life “Don’t You Trust Me?” What If Your Partner Won’t Practice Safer Sex? What If You Do Get an STI? How to Make Disclosing an STI Easier

11. Harm’s Way: Abuse and Assault (and What You Can Do About Them)

The Ugly Truth: Statistics More Vulnerable = More Vulnerable to Abuse Types of Abuse Abuse Does All This “But I Love Them” The Cycle of Abuse Taking the Blinders Off: Identifying and Coping with Interpersonal Violence and Abuse Listen, Tell, Leave Breaking the Cycle Protecting Yourself from Abusive Partners and Relationships Can’t Happen to You? Protecting Each Other from Abuse If You or Someone You Know Has Been Sexually Abused or Assaulted Bystander Intervention Basics Healing and Dealing Healing 101

12. To Be or Not to Be . . . Pregnant: Contraception

No Birds, No Bees, No Bull: How Conception Really Happens The Birth Control Breakdown Abstinence Barrier Methods Condoms Diaphragms and Cervical Caps Contraceptive Sponge Hormonal Methods Combined Oral Contraceptives, aka the Pill or BCP The Vaginal Ring The Patch The Injection (Depo-Provera) The Implant IUDs Emergency Contraception (EC) Birth Control Methods Not Generally Recommended for Young People Withdrawal (aka “Pulling Out”) Fertility Charting/Natural Family Planning (FAM) Permanent Birth Control (Sterilization) What Isn’t a Method of Birth Control? It Doesn’t Take a Village . . . but It’s Awfully Nice to Have One: Birth Control Discussion with Partners and Parents Discussion with Partners Reproductive Choice, Sans Uterus Discussions with Parents

13. Oh, Baby (or Not)! Reproduction and Reproductive Options

How Can You Tell If You’re Pregnant? How Long Have You Got to Decide? Pregnancy and Delivery Basics Labor Day Miscarriage: What It Is and Why It Happens Reproductive Options: Parenting, Adoption, and Abortion Parenthood Young Adult Parenting: Perils, Pitfalls, and Perks If You’re Considering Parenting The Adoption Option Abortion: Terminating a Pregnancy Medical Abortion Surgical Abortion What to Expect During an Abortion Unloading a Loaded Issue To Tell or Not to Tell How to Tell Partners and Parents About an Unexpected Pregnancy Telling Partners Telling Parents For the “Dads” Big Impacts, Big Choices

14. How to Change the World (Without Even Getting Out of Bed!) Appendix A: Common Sexually Transmitted Infections: STIs from A to Z Appendix B: Bibliography and Recommended Resources The People in Your Neighborhood: Your DIY Local Resource Page Index

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