No Shame, Real Talk with Your Kids about Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships by Lis, Lea -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

An Introduction to Shameless Psychiatry

The what, why, & how of positive parenting Who is the Shameless Psychiatrist? Mind hacking To be right, or to be effective… Parenting styles & strategies

Teaching about Bodies through the Stages

Teaching Boundaries, Consent, & Privacy

Happy Humans! Helping Kids Form Healthy Relationships for Life

The Power 9 The need for a primary caregiver When you “stay together for the child” How to incorporate the opposite-sex role model The case for a “father” role model in a girl’s healthy development Don’t leave out the pleasure talk!!! Don’t leave out the consent talk! Not just the opposite-sex role model is important Relationship 101: how to handle conflict How to help your angry and irritable teen Be your own bestie! Having a great relationship with yourself So, what can parents do to contribute to positive self-esteem? Create rituals Creating a gentle man Great relationships with the other humans of the world Friendship and love from ages 7 to 12 Friendship and love in the teen years

Sexual Initiation

Sort out sex and romance by teaching rational love Flirting training Get rejected The evolution and neurobiology of sex—and how it pertains to your kids… Explain emotional and physiological effects of sex Under pressure Hookups! Etiquette! Anal! Address the awkward

Annihilating the Risks

Do you know how to use the tech your child uses? Take inventory (on social media) Keep an eye out for cyberbullying Dispel distorted myths (caused by pornography) Lead with the legalities (on sexting) Instill “No friend left behind” (with drugs and partying)

Teaching Radical Inclusion for Gender, Sexual, & Family Identities and Expressions

Gender and sexual identity and expression Great relationships start with great role models What to do if you suspect your child is outside the box When your family is outside the box

A Parent’s Ongoing Sexual Story

How your sexual story affects your child Parent disclosures to children Avoid oversharing Nontraditional families and parent disclosure: one family’s story Blender, banner, & chameleon: family disclosures to the world To disclose or not to disclose

Parental Conflict

Divorce Moving between households Dealing with an ex’s new partner and parental arrangements Dating & introducing new partners Stepparenting tips

Boost & Embolden Self-Esteem in Your Child

Feed them well Help them rest well Get them moving Practice radical self-acceptance Practice meditating early on Breathe. Relax. Give yourself and your kids a TIPP RAIN to control emotions Emotion wrangling tricks Owning your sexual story is the key to positive parenting

OMG Guide: Fast Reference Q&A for Talking to Your Kids about Sex Conclusion Acknowledgments Notes