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Index
Cover
Half Title
Title
Copyright
Dedication
Contents
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
PREFACE
Purpose of the Book
Outline of Chapters
Key Terms
A Note on Timeliness
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
SECTION 1 Tutorial on Technology and Relationships
Chapter 1 Couples, Families, and Technology
Technology Invasion
Prevalence of Technology in Our Lives
Mobile Connections by Device
The Rise of the Applications: Online Video Games
The Rise of the Applications: Social Networking
Effects of Technology on Our Individual Selves
Effects of Technology on Physical Well-Being
Media Misinformation
Sedentary Lifestyles
Sleep
Effects of Technology on Psychological Well-Being
Life Satisfaction
Technology and Our Work Lives
Projecting What’s Next for Technology in Our Lives
What Does All of This Mean for Relationships?
The Pathology of Pathology
Our View—A Balanced Approach
Conclusion
References
Chapter 2 From Digiteris to Tweeps: Understanding Online Communication Patterns
What Drives Patterns of Technology Use?
Theoretical Models of Motivations Applied to Social Media Use
The Importance of Being in Sync
Relational Factors Influencing Social Media Use
The Desire for Social Capital
’Cuz You’ve Got… Personality (Disorders)?
The Only Thing to Fear is Missing Out
Comparing Face-to-Face and Internet Communication Technologies
Self-Presentation
Me, My Selfie, and I
Self-Presentation in Couples
Self-Presentation in Families
Shared Data
Rituals and Everydayness
Emotional Intimacy
History-Gathering
Consent
Conclusion
References
Chapter 3 Virtual Impacts on Real-Time Individual, Couple, and Family Developments
Technology Immersion Across Developmental Contexts
Individual Lifespan: Erikson Revisited
Children
Adolescence
Young Adulthood
Self-Authorship in a Relationally Authored (and Heterogenic) Environment
Ecological Life Cycle Models
Bronfenbrenner Revisited
Social Comparison With Peers à la Festinger
Taylor Revisited
Technology Use Across Relational Developmental Stages
Technology, Anxiety, and Distress (Oh My!)
You’re Never Fully Dressed Without a Phone
Attachment to Technology: The Missing Link?
Technology: The Monkey on Your Back (And in Your Family?)
Technology, Attachment, and Romantic Relationships
Conclusion
References
Chapter 4 Family “Net”working
Digital Family Communication
Youth and Online Communication
Parenting in a Digital World
Parents and Online Communication
Technology Interference in Parenting
Technology and Adoption
Privacy, Technology, and Family Relationships
From Helicopter-Parents to Drone-Parents: Surveillance, Spying, and Other Monitoring Strategies
Surveillance Habituation
Family Negotiation of the “Net”
Conclusion
References
Chapter 5 The iCouple
Common Couple Issues in a Digital Age
Survey Says
Just the Two of Us
An Affair to Delete
Social Media and Romantic Relationships
Texting and Romantic Relationships
I Spy With My Little “I”: Surveillance in Couples
Developing Trust Online
Conclusion
References
Chapter 6 Relational Malware: Risks of Technology in Relationships
The Trouble With Tech
Risky Business
Privacy
Your Penetralia is Showing
Privacy Considerations: The People
Privacy Considerations: The Space
Crossing Boundaries in Unbounded Space (Spy-Berspace?)
Cyberbullying
Technology-Based Dating Violence
Sexting
“Sometimes It’s Hard to Be a Woman”
Sweet Revenge?
Cyberstalking
Conclusion
References
SECTION 2 Rebooting Your Relationships
Chapter 7 What About the Internet Changes Our Relationships?
A Social Solution to a Social Problem
The Couple and Family Technology Framework
Theoretical Frameworks
The Flexibility of the CFT Framework
“Everybody’s Doing It”: Acceptability
“Who Are You?”: Anonymity Online
Me and My Shadow: Accessibility
The Ultimate Cheap Date: Affordability
A World of Sims: Approximation
Accommodation
“I Didn’t Technically Touch Them So It Doesn’t Count”: Ambiguity
The Couple and Family Technology Framework in Action
Conclusion
References
Chapter 8 Strengthening Roles, Rules, and Boundaries
Introduction
Roles
Rules
Boundaries
Conclusion
References
Chapter 9 Improving Relationship Launches, Runtime, and Crashes
Relational Intelligence in a Digital World
Relationship Formation
“To Swipe or Not to Swipe”
Being Facebook Official
First Comes Love, Then Comes Meeting
Relationship Maintenance
Development Across the Couple Lifespan
Technology’s Contribution to Relationship Satisfaction
Intimacy Development in Relationships With and Without Technology
Building Intimacy Through Self-Disclosure
Relationship Termination
To Block or Not to Block
Conclusion
References
Chapter 10 Debugging Advanced Internet-Based Relational Problems
Decoding Technology and Relationship Error Messages
Out-of-Control Technology-Related Behaviors
Technophobia
Sexual Technologies
Video and Online Gaming
Relational Power-Ups
Relational Challenge Mode
Action Point: A Case of Out-of-Control Online Gaming Behaviors
What the Tech Do We Do?
You Have Nothing to Fear, but Fear Itself
Winning Over Video Gaming Issues
Managing Out-of-Control Technology-Related Behaviors
Conclusion
References
Chapter 11 Measuring Technology’s Impact on Relational Life
Assessment of Internet Impact in Daily Life: The Chicken or the Egg?
My Problem Is You(Tube)
Measuring “Addictive”/Compulsive Internet Use
Measurement Tools
What’s in a Name?
Measuring Online Sexual Behavior
The Rebirth of Slick: The Couple and Family Technology Assessment Revised
Conclusion
References
Chapter 12 Developing Your Personal Technology Integration Plan With the Couple and Family Algorithm
Technology Integration Plan
1. Consider the Audience
2. Maximize the Benefits
3. Consider the Motivations
Integration Ideas for Structure (Roles, Rules, Boundaries)
Boundary Tip 1: Check Your Email—Don’t Let Your Email Check You
Boundary Tip 2: Cover Your Private Parts (or Privacy Management)
Rule Tip 1: Develop a Rule for Your Family on Collective Privacy Management
Initiating Relationships
Rule Tip 1: Recognition of Gatekeeping in Online Dating
Rule Tip 2: Recognition of the “Eight As”
Maintaining Relationships
Intimacy Tip 1: Electronic Fantasy Dates
Intimacy Tip 2: Using Asynchronous Methods to Manage Conflict
Intimacy Tip 3: Using Synchronous Methods to Obtain Support
Intimacy Tip 4: Ensure Online Friends Are Offline Friends as Well
Trust Tip 1: Recovering From Online Infidelity
Trust Tip 2: Managing Surveillance
Ending Relationships
Termination Tip 1: “Give Up The Ghost”
Termination Tip 2: Using the Benefits of the Internet to Structure Interactions
Online Behavior and Children: Some Guidelines
Rule Tip 1: When Should My Child Be Granted a Cellphone?
Case in Point: A Tale of Two Kiddies
Rule Tip 2: Boundaries and Rules for Safeguarding Against Cyberbullying
Conclusion
References
INDEX
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