Love Is Never Enough by Beck, Aaron T. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Title Page Dedication Contents Introduction The Cognitive Revolution in Psychology Dissolution of Marital Ties What Is Needed To Sustain a Relationship Untangling the Knots The Plan of the Book 1 The Power of Negative Thinking

The Cognitive Approach Mind Reading The Invisible Mind How We Misinterpret Misreading the Signals Symbols and Meaning Bias

2 The Light and the Darkness

The Infatuation “Program” The “Turn-Ons” (Activators) Disappointment Broken Promises The Grand Reversal Making Balanced Judgments

3 The Clash of Perspectives

Open and Closed Perspectives Framing Conflicts of Personalities

4 Breaking the Rules

Setting Expectations Making the Rules Applying the Rules Rules That Sabotage Enforcing the Rules Tyranny of the Shoulds Breaking the Rules Punishment Emergence of Rules Dealing with Rules and Attitudes

5 Static in Communication

Indirectness and Ambiguity Defensiveness Missing the Message Monologues, Interruptions, and Silent Listening Deaf Spots and Blind Spots Differences in Pacing Use of Questioning Differences between the Sexes Explanation for Differences in Style Origin of the Sex Differences

6 Breakdown of the Partnership

Threats to the Marital Compact Areas of Conflict

7 Silent Thoughts: The Eye of the Storm

Secret Doubts Origin of Doubts about Self and Spouse The Secret Shoulds

8 Tricks of the Mind

How Symbolic Meanings Twist Our Thinking The Spreading Factor Examples of Typical Cognitive Distortions Mental Distortions in Action

9 In Mortal Combat

Barbed Messages Preemptive Strikes Overkill Behind the Fights: Basic Beliefs Controlling Anger Inhibition, Anger, and Self-Assertion The Anatomy of Anger

10 Can Your Relationship Improve?

Resistances to Making Changes What Should Be Changed? Creating Problems Instead of Solving Them Redefining the Problem How Do People Change? A Program for Change

11 Reinforcing the Foundations

Cooperation Commitment Basic Trust Assuming Good Will The Benefit of the Doubt Loyalty and Fidelity

12 Tuning Up the Relationship

Loving and Being Loved Keeping Track of Positive Behavior Lifting the Blinders

13 Changing Your Own Distortions

General Guidelines The Nine Steps

14 The Art of Conversation

Pinpointing Problems in Communication Rules of Conversational Etiquette

15 The Art of Working Together

Explanation of Differences Use of Questioning Flexibility Compromise Accommodation Setting Priorities

16 Troubleshooting

Clarification of Differences Understanding Your Mate’s Perspective Specific Rules for Troubleshooting Sessions

17 Taming the Furies

Source of the Problem: You or Your Mate? Gains and Losses from Expressing Anger Defusing Hostility in Your Mate

18 Special Problems

Reduction of Sexual Desire Self-Therapy for Sex Problems Infidelity Stress Two-Job Families Problems in Remarriage

Notes Bibliography Searchable Terms Acknowledgments About the Author Other Books by Aaron T. Beck Credits Copyright About the Publisher