Log In
Or create an account -> 
Imperial Library
  • Home
  • About
  • News
  • Upload
  • Forum
  • Help
  • Login/SignUp

Index
Cover Of Related Interest Title Page Copyright Contents Acknowledgments PART ONE: OUR LIFELONG SEARCH FOR TRUTH
Chapter One Caught Unaware
Facing loss once more The “A” word The dreaded event The search intensifies The first contact The reunion that was sure to be glorious Goodbye fantasy Kept at arm’s length What was I doing wrong? Glad to be caught
Chapter Two Preparing to Grow
The “V” word How the victim mentality begins A portrait of a victim Liberation Our new goal is an unshakable identity
PART TWO: TWENTY TRUTHS AND TWENTY CHOICES THAT CAN TRANSFORM
Chapter Three Thoughts about Our Birth Parents Are Innate
Our first conversations with her Our first thoughts about her Her lifelong impact What about our birth fathers? Our dual identity How to begin
Chapter Four Painful Thoughts about Our Adoptions Are Normal
Where do painful feelings originate? How to recognize painful adoption-related feelings Words and statements that often produce painful feelings How to begin
Chapter Five Learning about Adoption Dynamics Will Help Us Relax
The benefits of self-education How to begin
Chapter Six It May Often Seem like No One “Gets It”
Walk away It’s private Share Educate How to begin
Chapter Seven Share Deep Feelings Only With “Safe” People
Why trust can be difficult for us Trust can be learned Risk but beware Three characteristics of safe people How to begin
Chapter Eight We Can Control Our Anger…Really!
Four reasons to welcome anger Triggers for primary emotions What will tame our anger? How to begin
Chapter Nine We Can Get Unstuck from Our Painful Past
Ways we get stuck Another way to think about pain How to begin
Chapter Ten Many of Us Experience Echoes of Loss
The echoes we hear Why some adoptees claim no painful repercussions How to begin
Chapter Eleven An Hour with a Fellow Adoptee Is Better than Weeks of Therapy
Why we love to be together Why we need one another How to begin
Chapter Twelve False Guilt Shouldn’t Stop Us from Considering a Reunion
The messages of false guilt Ways we can be liberated from false guilt How to begin
Chapter Thirteen Search and Reunion May Become a Top Priority
The honeymoon stage of reunion Five social media landmines Questions to ask yourself Reunion in retrospect How to prepare for reunion How to begin
Chapter Fourteen We Don’t Need to Fear Seeming Ungrateful or Disloyal
What we may believe about loyalty How to resolve loyalty issues How to begin
Chapter Fifteen We Must Give Up Being Pleasers
Our quest for truth The risks of searching The rewards of searching How to begin
Chapter Sixteen Taking Concrete Steps toward Obtaining Our Pre-Adoption History Requires Courage…We Can Do It!
Concrete steps for searching How to begin
Chapter Seventeen When We Feel Overwhelmed We Must Be Gentle with Ourselves
Why are we overwhelmed at times? How we nurture ourselves How to begin
Chapter Eighteen Rejection Might Be Part of Your Adoptee “Rite of Passage”
We isolate ourselves The message behind their words Our rite of passage into a balanced, healthy life Lies and truth about rejection We need to get over ourselves How to begin
Chapter Nineteen The Word “Rejection” May Not Be in the Vocabularies of Other Birth Relatives!
Claiming my birthright Discovering my roots A story that keeps unfolding How to begin
Chapter Twenty Letting Go of Our Birth Mother’s Original Decision Will Set Us Free
Cutting ourselves loose Forgiveness Depending on your faith How to begin
Chapter Twenty-one We Can Discover Our Life Purpose
Past hurts may lead to your life purpose You were born for greatness A life-defining principle for decision making Growth may come gradually Discover your strengths through coaching How to begin
Chapter Twenty-two We Can Help Others Find Their Way
Great things about wounded healers How to begin
Appendix Resources for Adoptees
Books Websites Therapeutic resources
Notes About the Author
  • ← Prev
  • Back
  • Next →
  • ← Prev
  • Back
  • Next →

Chief Librarian: Las Zenow <zenow@riseup.net>
Fork the source code from gitlab.

This is a mirror of the Tor onion service:
http://kx5thpx2olielkihfyo4jgjqfb7zx7wxr3sd4xzt26ochei4m6f7tayd.onion